I've had this for a couple years, and finally had the space to put it up 😁🏳️🌈
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College professor and asexuality
My social work professor, who has been teaching for over a decade, just talked to the class about how sex drive is innate and everyone has one. He also said when people don't want to have sex it's because of either repression, regression, or trauma they've experienced. I thought that was disheartening, considering he has a sex therapy degree, but I guess instead of educating him more on the different flavors of sexuality that it contributes to why he thinks everyone feels sexual attraction. He even told us a story about a woman who didn't have a sex drive but she was "fixed" by him telling her not to have sex, and then eventually her body missed it so much that she had a sex dream and wanted to start having sex again.
This was obviously hard to hear but it got worse when he started talking about how we should respect and address all sexualities, and that labels are constantly changing, and that we have to watch the language we use. He talked about how we have to reassure people that they're normal and that sexuality is a spectrum. Finally, he said we all need to "challenge our limited point of view" and "don't think your knowledge is concrete because things keep changing".
This whole thing especially hurt because he was previously one of my favorite professors. I was wondering if I should mention something to him or email him or something and let him know that the things he said were hurtful. I find it hard to believe, but maybe he doesn't even know of the existence of the asexual identity. I don't think he'd take offense to it, but he's one of the only social work professors at my school, so I don't want to kindle a bad relationship with him. I guess I'm just here posting looking for reassurance that what he said was invalidating and that I'm not just being dramatic by being upset.
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My social work professor, who has been teaching for over a decade, just talked to the class about how sex drive is innate and everyone has one. He also said when people don't want to have sex it's because of either repression, regression, or trauma they've experienced. I thought that was disheartening, considering he has a sex therapy degree, but I guess instead of educating him more on the different flavors of sexuality that it contributes to why he thinks everyone feels sexual attraction. He even told us a story about a woman who didn't have a sex drive but she was "fixed" by him telling her not to have sex, and then eventually her body missed it so much that she had a sex dream and wanted to start having sex again.
This was obviously hard to hear but it got worse when he started talking about how we should respect and address all sexualities, and that labels are constantly changing, and that we have to watch the language we use. He talked about how we have to reassure people that they're normal and that sexuality is a spectrum. Finally, he said we all need to "challenge our limited point of view" and "don't think your knowledge is concrete because things keep changing".
This whole thing especially hurt because he was previously one of my favorite professors. I was wondering if I should mention something to him or email him or something and let him know that the things he said were hurtful. I find it hard to believe, but maybe he doesn't even know of the existence of the asexual identity. I don't think he'd take offense to it, but he's one of the only social work professors at my school, so I don't want to kindle a bad relationship with him. I guess I'm just here posting looking for reassurance that what he said was invalidating and that I'm not just being dramatic by being upset.
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i like the idea of sex but i don’t feel comfortable having sex in real life
i’ve been very confused lately i’ve always liked the idea of sex but not having it
i’ve talked to people in the past and it always gets to the point we’re we almost have sex but i could never go through with it.
but i always talk about it with people i’m talking to we talk about what we want to do to each other but when it’s actually time to have sex i freak and always cancel the meet up. but i thought being
asexual meant i don’t like sex at all but i think about it a lot just don’t think i’ll ever actually have sex with someone. so that’s why i thought i was asexual and aromatic but recently i’ve been
second guessing myself but i’ve already told some people that i’m aroace could i still be
aroace and just not like the idea of actually having sex
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i’ve been very confused lately i’ve always liked the idea of sex but not having it
i’ve talked to people in the past and it always gets to the point we’re we almost have sex but i could never go through with it.
but i always talk about it with people i’m talking to we talk about what we want to do to each other but when it’s actually time to have sex i freak and always cancel the meet up. but i thought being
asexual meant i don’t like sex at all but i think about it a lot just don’t think i’ll ever actually have sex with someone. so that’s why i thought i was asexual and aromatic but recently i’ve been
second guessing myself but i’ve already told some people that i’m aroace could i still be
aroace and just not like the idea of actually having sex
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I'm looking for songs that are not about love
Almost every single song is about love, I can't relate to any of them. Suggest me your favorite songs that have meaningful and powerful lyrics but are not about love or romance.
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Almost every single song is about love, I can't relate to any of them. Suggest me your favorite songs that have meaningful and powerful lyrics but are not about love or romance.
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cuddling
why can't cuddling just mean cuddling? my friend was having a hard time so i said if i lived where they were i'd cuddle them for support if they wanted. then immediately, they brought up if i wanna have sex w them & that they'll have to get permission from their kitchen polyam partner. they repeatedly texted me asking to talk about it, which made me super uncomfortable. i never even brought up sex. really wasn't expecting this from them, they're ace too.
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why can't cuddling just mean cuddling? my friend was having a hard time so i said if i lived where they were i'd cuddle them for support if they wanted. then immediately, they brought up if i wanna have sex w them & that they'll have to get permission from their kitchen polyam partner. they repeatedly texted me asking to talk about it, which made me super uncomfortable. i never even brought up sex. really wasn't expecting this from them, they're ace too.
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IDK, maybe it's just my extreme obliviousness, but it feels like they always come out of nowhere
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So many people struggle with the concept of split attraction, so I prepared a useful chart.
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