Anyone else feeling profoundly lonely because of their asexuality?
I’ve been having trouble articulating what I’ve been feeling lately so I’d like to just kind of chat with people on this sub and figure this shit out.
I’m lonely. I have no interest in dating or romance. But I want companionship. I have friends, but no one that I’m super close with, maybe that’s the issue? I don’t have a “best friend.” To be honest, I’m not even sure how to have a best friend. I’ve never had someone that I “clicked with.” I just have people that I hang out with as a group but no one that I know how to talk to one-on-one. And then the problem is that as I get older, my friends are going and finding spouses to be their best friends to go and experience life with.
My coworker will talk about how she and her husband renovated their house together and how they got a cat together and how they traveled to Europe together. And I guess I’m sad because I want to have those kinds of experiences where you share your life with someone. But I want it to be platonic, and most people would think that’s a crazy thing to ask for. I guess I just want a guaranteed best friend? Someone who is a go-to when I want to try something new or travel somewhere. And I don’t know how to find that without a romantic relationship being in the picture.
And I guess maybe I feel like there isn’t as much of a visible community behind asexuality that other LGBT umbrellas have, which also makes it difficult to find friends or people to talk to about it. In my city there’s a bar where they have lesbian pool night. And I want to go and I would love to make friends with non-straight people for once. But I’m not a lesbian. So I feel like I’d be intruding in their space. But I’m
just so tired of only being friends with straight people and having to always hide this aspect of myself.
I dunno man. Anyone else want to chat about loneliness with me?
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I’ve been having trouble articulating what I’ve been feeling lately so I’d like to just kind of chat with people on this sub and figure this shit out.
I’m lonely. I have no interest in dating or romance. But I want companionship. I have friends, but no one that I’m super close with, maybe that’s the issue? I don’t have a “best friend.” To be honest, I’m not even sure how to have a best friend. I’ve never had someone that I “clicked with.” I just have people that I hang out with as a group but no one that I know how to talk to one-on-one. And then the problem is that as I get older, my friends are going and finding spouses to be their best friends to go and experience life with.
My coworker will talk about how she and her husband renovated their house together and how they got a cat together and how they traveled to Europe together. And I guess I’m sad because I want to have those kinds of experiences where you share your life with someone. But I want it to be platonic, and most people would think that’s a crazy thing to ask for. I guess I just want a guaranteed best friend? Someone who is a go-to when I want to try something new or travel somewhere. And I don’t know how to find that without a romantic relationship being in the picture.
And I guess maybe I feel like there isn’t as much of a visible community behind asexuality that other LGBT umbrellas have, which also makes it difficult to find friends or people to talk to about it. In my city there’s a bar where they have lesbian pool night. And I want to go and I would love to make friends with non-straight people for once. But I’m not a lesbian. So I feel like I’d be intruding in their space. But I’m
just so tired of only being friends with straight people and having to always hide this aspect of myself.
I dunno man. Anyone else want to chat about loneliness with me?
https://redd.it/cau38h
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r/asexuality - Anyone else feeling profoundly lonely because of their asexuality?
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An important step in relationships: being together in bed for a sleepover
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SO is asexual, I think... asking for advice.
TLDR: SO is asexual, I think. Looking for ways to talk about it. And possible ways to move forward.
I love her, actually thinking about proposing. I have a ring. Best SO I have ever had, and a flat out amazing human. Family and friends love her too.
But the whole sex thing is tripping me out.
We do have sex, but it is only when i initiate it. She is always a willing and capable participant, but never an enthusiastic one.
We had a bit of a Conversation about it, She says ‘I enjoy it [sex] when it happens.’ And, ‘I never want it, but I do like it.’
That may be true, but it doesn’t feel good for me. She has never once initiated a sexual act, and has never masturbated in her life, by her own admission.
Personally, I can’t get into ‘it’ if my partner isn’t into it. I’d like to think we can find a way to make it work. (Maybe I’m ignorant here?)
I’m hoping this community can help me make sense of this situation and help us find a way to move forward.
Thx in advance. sry mobile...
-also don’t know the rules for this sub so hope this post is okay. Much love :)
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TLDR: SO is asexual, I think. Looking for ways to talk about it. And possible ways to move forward.
I love her, actually thinking about proposing. I have a ring. Best SO I have ever had, and a flat out amazing human. Family and friends love her too.
But the whole sex thing is tripping me out.
We do have sex, but it is only when i initiate it. She is always a willing and capable participant, but never an enthusiastic one.
We had a bit of a Conversation about it, She says ‘I enjoy it [sex] when it happens.’ And, ‘I never want it, but I do like it.’
That may be true, but it doesn’t feel good for me. She has never once initiated a sexual act, and has never masturbated in her life, by her own admission.
Personally, I can’t get into ‘it’ if my partner isn’t into it. I’d like to think we can find a way to make it work. (Maybe I’m ignorant here?)
I’m hoping this community can help me make sense of this situation and help us find a way to move forward.
Thx in advance. sry mobile...
-also don’t know the rules for this sub so hope this post is okay. Much love :)
https://redd.it/cax8si
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r/Asexual - SO is asexual, I think... asking for advice.
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Asexuals of reddit, what is your romantic orientation? [Poll]
I was browsing AVEN earlier and came across [this](https://www.asexuality.org/en/topic/119006-curious-about-why-most-asexuals-are-biromantic-or-panromantic/) post. OP in that thread was asking about asexuality and why, in their experience, most aces seem to tend towards bi/panromantic orientations rather than hetero/homo/aromantic ones. It’s a bit of an older post so current knowledge may differ, but as many people pointed out, actual data on this topic seems limited. I've personally never seen any studies regarding this, so I thought maybe it would be interesting to create a poll and see what kind of responses we can collect. It's not scientific or anything obviously, but I just thought it might be fun!
If you'd like to participate, see the link below. Please respond **only if you identify as asexual or under the asexual umbrella** (graysexual, demisexual, etc.), as this will allow the results to more accurately reflect the topic in question. Thank you!
Link to poll: [https://strawpoll.com/cp7b4f6h](https://strawpoll.com/cp7b4f6h)
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I was browsing AVEN earlier and came across [this](https://www.asexuality.org/en/topic/119006-curious-about-why-most-asexuals-are-biromantic-or-panromantic/) post. OP in that thread was asking about asexuality and why, in their experience, most aces seem to tend towards bi/panromantic orientations rather than hetero/homo/aromantic ones. It’s a bit of an older post so current knowledge may differ, but as many people pointed out, actual data on this topic seems limited. I've personally never seen any studies regarding this, so I thought maybe it would be interesting to create a poll and see what kind of responses we can collect. It's not scientific or anything obviously, but I just thought it might be fun!
If you'd like to participate, see the link below. Please respond **only if you identify as asexual or under the asexual umbrella** (graysexual, demisexual, etc.), as this will allow the results to more accurately reflect the topic in question. Thank you!
Link to poll: [https://strawpoll.com/cp7b4f6h](https://strawpoll.com/cp7b4f6h)
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Curious about why most asexuals are biromantic or panromantic
Ive always been curious about why most asexuals are biromantic or panromantic (not only being romantically attracted to one gender), not aromantic, homoromantic, or heteromantic? I know that probably no one really know the reason, just like still no one really…