I agree
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Despite being a vegetarian, I relate strongly with Luffy.
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Ew cringe
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Anyone else like hentai? Am I still asexual?



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Can an Ace and an Allo be together? Will it work?

I was thinking that after the last post here that surprisingly a small minority of allos would be with an ace but I'm curious on how would it work. I know Aces are not necessarily sex repulsed but would allos be that open minded? I've heard from sexologists that sex is the basis of any lasting relationship. I do believe in love but apparently is better if an Ace is with another Ace as the allo as much as he/she tries won't ever understand us.

Then there's my personal issue. I'm 25 and has never been in a relationship. I don't know but for me I feel an ace would be more accepting of this fact rather than an allo but I might be wrong. What do you think? Any personal experiences?

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I asked an AI to draw asexuality for me and quite honestly I was a little impressed.
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Repost but still, screams ace. Even if they’re being sarcastic
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Easy pick for me...
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Anyone here rather live with a group of close friends instead of with a partner?

Im just starting to feel like it makes more sense to live with multiple people that make you happy instead of just one.

The friends I lived with in college felt like family to me and I honestly felt like I didn’t need anything more. I feel like society has made this expectation to date, find a partner and start a family. Family and love come in different forms. The only correct one is the one that makes you happy.

I was just curious if anyone else has felt this way too?

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Since Netflix is getting more inclusive of asexuality I hope they give us a character with more than 5 seconds of screen time soon
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Don’t knock it till you try it?

I keep remembering this phrase… my x said it to me when he wanted to take the relationship to a more physical level. Whatever we did it wasn’t sex, but I also remember hating it. I’m just wondering… are there any other virgin, sex-repulsed aces? Or is this actually something to “do” before figuring it out?

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(UPDATE) My boyfriend made me touch him while I was asleep. Is it okay for me to feel hurt?

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I’m going to preface this by saying this may not be the update you all want to hear. Nonetheless, I’m extremely grateful for the overwhelming amount of support I received from this community.

After my first confrontation with my boyfriend, I disassociated and tried my best to let go of the issue. This didn’t work. I couldn’t sleep and I physically felt ill. I wanted to throw up most of the time. I was completely disgusted and thrown off by his non-sexual touch.

Tonight, I pretty much broke down looking at your comments. I knew I needed to bring this up again. What I experienced wasn’t okay and I wasn’t gonna let it go. I showed him the Reddit post I made. He began to shake and I asked him to look me in the eyes and tell me whether he did it on purpose. He still insisted he wasn’t conscious when it happened. He apologized for hurting me. He said even though he didn’t do it on purpose, what he did was fucked up and wrong. He said he understands if I choose to leave him at any point in time and his feelings don’t matter in this situation. I saw him struggle not to cry. He broke down occasionally.

I also confronted him about something he said in the past that is related to what happened. A few years ago, he said that he wanted to have sex with me while I was asleep. I told him this was rape. He said he used to have fucked up ideas about sex and had a porn addiction.

I gave him an ultimatum. He has to seek help for sexsomnia and just therapy in general or I can no longer continue this relationship for my own safety. He agreed. He will be sleeping on the floor for the remainder on this visit. He won’t touch me until I feel comfortable. He says he doesn’t care how long it takes and it doesn’t matter. He says he loves me and he could never imagine doing what he did consciously as I’ve been through so much in my life. He says hurting me is the last thing he would ever want.

I will also be getting therapy for what happened. I believe I need to talk to someone about it other than him. I was diagnosed with depression, anxiety, and PTSD (from other SA and my living situation when I was younger) when I was 12. I’ve been receiving medication ever since. However, I’ve always avoided therapy because I never found the right fit.

I know many of you will not agree with this and will probably want to grab me through the screen, but I do believe him. I saw genuine remorse in his face and words. He has also displayed symptoms of parasomnia, so I do believe it’s possible he could have sexsomnia.

As of right now, we’re still together. I can’t say for sure if this will be the case in the future, because in the end, I’ll need to do what’s best for me.

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I'm not even sure what my sexuality is, and that's fine

I'm a 57-year-old woman who has been happily married for going on 35 years. Neither of us is really interested in having sex with anyone, though we do like to look at attractive people.

For a long time, I thought that this was something that we should be working on fixing. But then I started hearing about asexuality, and things kinda clicked in my head.

I'm sure I'm somewhere on the a-spectra, but not precisely where. It's good to learn that my husband and I don't need fixing in this regard.

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My internalised aphobia

Honestly it's so annoying being an asexual with a libido, cause it feels like I'm making up my lack of sexual attraction for attention, but at the same time, I know that I don't view people in that way, and I would be so uncomfortable if I was ever plopped into a sexual situation.

I also identify as biromantic, so I've had points thinking "if you can date any gender, surely you can fuck em too?" But like.. no?? Like, I still wank and shit like that, even though I kinda hate doing it. I basically just do it to get rid of that feeling as quick as possible. But when I'm talking about being ace with my friends, I never ever bring that up and I just pretend I've never done anything like that because I feel like it'll confuse them.

I read a book recently called "Loveless" by Alice Oseman, I'm sure many of you have heard of it, about an aro/ace character coming to terms with that. And a lot of the book, in terms of sexuality, not romantic orientation, struck a chord with me. And yet I still constantly feel like I'm faking it, joining a community that I don't belong in. Does anyone else feel like this? Please lemme know so I don't feel like I'm going crazy lol, thanks for reading my stupid lil rant :)

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My friend said it is understandable that my ex kept trying to pressure me into having sex with him, even though I told him I was asexual

She also said that if I date people (i’m assuming she meant non asexual people) it is expected for them to behave this way and want to have sex with me as they cannot help being physically attracted to me and we would be in a relationship… so apparently even if I say very clearly from the beginning I am asexual this doesn’t matter… Essentially she told me I cannot date anyone who isn’t asexual and expect them to not try to have sex with me, and I shouldn’t have been upset at my ex for repeatedly trying.

I was wondering how true her statement actually was, whilst I believe I have the right to be upset with people, is it realistic to think it is possible for me to be in a relationship with a non asexual person without them ever wanting sex from me? I know some asexual people have sex regardless but I personally don’t want to at all due to having sexual trauma and I don’t think that will ever change.

I’m tired of people just ignoring me when I say i’m asexual. I honestly feel like some guys even see it as a challenge or something rather than actually recognising what I am saying.

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WAIT

You mean all this time when I was watching porn I was supposed to want to fuck the pornstars. I thought I was just supposed admire their beauty and skill at their craft, fucking crazy.

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Strong Ace Vibes. ?. ?
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My asexual ring. I'm open for any ideas on a colorful white banded aro ring!

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Came out to my flatmates as ace and after explaining what it is I got asked "well don't you feel like you're missing out?" It's been weeks and I just now came up with a good comeback

"You know, snakes have 2 dicks. Don't YOU feel like you're missing out? They can have sex with 2 dicks while you only get one. Worry less about what I'm missing and focus on your own love life"

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