Not an ace but this made me laugh. S i thought i would share it here
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Sex dreams
I sometimes dream I have sex, and wake up extremely uncomfortable. Does anyone else have this experience?
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I sometimes dream I have sex, and wake up extremely uncomfortable. Does anyone else have this experience?
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Sex dreams
I sometimes dream I have sex, and wake up extremely uncomfortable. Does anyone else have this experience?
Okay, so, I need some advice?
Recently, I wrote a rant here about the same person I'm going to write about... Well, let's just say I'm feeling weird and I don't know what to think, so I need some help.
My best friend is probably the most allo person I know. She's pansexual and actively looks for sex all the time. She has multiple partners and is happy that way. Tbh, I feel happy for her that she gets to fulfill her desires.
Recently, I wrote that rant because her prioritizing her relationships was bothering me when she ditched me the moment a guy said he could meet her, and it bothered me because we had already agreed to meet. Well, that's sorta solved, my problem is something else.
So, yesterday we were talking and she said she thinks she might be demi and I was like "wait what?". She said she had a guy over but just wasn't feeling it, and said she realized she needed to have some sort of bond with people before engaging in sexual activities. Well, on the surface, it fits demisexuality, but the thing is, that bond she speaks about is usually formed in the first few hours she meets a person. I explained to her what I think demisexuality is - forming a deep bond to someone before feeling attraction. She says she does feel attraction, but she couldn't really have sex with the guy before they talked or something.
The thing is, I'm conflicted. I think I kinda gatekept her, which is not good, but I felt she was invading my space. I mean, asexuality is my thing (I'm not demi btw), and sometimes I feel people banalize demisexuality, as if it's just a feature of someone's attitude towards sex, and not a whole sexuality. I mean, aren't there people who are allo but are also sex repulsed? That doesn't make them ace. She can feel the sexual attraction by what she says, she just doesn't want to engage in sexual activities with complete strangers. At least that's what I get from it.
I feel conflicted because I don't want to be the gatekeeper or invalidate her, but at the same time I feel mad that she's trying to claim an identity that just doesn't seem to fit her at all. It's because of that understanding of demisexuality that people say "but that's just how it works for everyone, no need for a label and you're just trying to claim oppression points bla bla bla".
Summing up, I don't know what to think or how to feel about that. Does anyone have any insights to give me? And I'm sorry if I offended anyone, please, I just need some help sorting these things out.
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Recently, I wrote a rant here about the same person I'm going to write about... Well, let's just say I'm feeling weird and I don't know what to think, so I need some help.
My best friend is probably the most allo person I know. She's pansexual and actively looks for sex all the time. She has multiple partners and is happy that way. Tbh, I feel happy for her that she gets to fulfill her desires.
Recently, I wrote that rant because her prioritizing her relationships was bothering me when she ditched me the moment a guy said he could meet her, and it bothered me because we had already agreed to meet. Well, that's sorta solved, my problem is something else.
So, yesterday we were talking and she said she thinks she might be demi and I was like "wait what?". She said she had a guy over but just wasn't feeling it, and said she realized she needed to have some sort of bond with people before engaging in sexual activities. Well, on the surface, it fits demisexuality, but the thing is, that bond she speaks about is usually formed in the first few hours she meets a person. I explained to her what I think demisexuality is - forming a deep bond to someone before feeling attraction. She says she does feel attraction, but she couldn't really have sex with the guy before they talked or something.
The thing is, I'm conflicted. I think I kinda gatekept her, which is not good, but I felt she was invading my space. I mean, asexuality is my thing (I'm not demi btw), and sometimes I feel people banalize demisexuality, as if it's just a feature of someone's attitude towards sex, and not a whole sexuality. I mean, aren't there people who are allo but are also sex repulsed? That doesn't make them ace. She can feel the sexual attraction by what she says, she just doesn't want to engage in sexual activities with complete strangers. At least that's what I get from it.
I feel conflicted because I don't want to be the gatekeeper or invalidate her, but at the same time I feel mad that she's trying to claim an identity that just doesn't seem to fit her at all. It's because of that understanding of demisexuality that people say "but that's just how it works for everyone, no need for a label and you're just trying to claim oppression points bla bla bla".
Summing up, I don't know what to think or how to feel about that. Does anyone have any insights to give me? And I'm sorry if I offended anyone, please, I just need some help sorting these things out.
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Why do allos put sex over everything?
Okay, so, I know I sound petty as fuck, but here I go. I have a best friend, who, unlike me, is veeeeery sexual in nature. We are very similar in...
TL:DR me: greyaro, flirting with someone and just being happy about it being reciprocated
(preface: I'm aceflux and greyaro)
I very rarely flirt with people, and I even less often find people attractive sexually or romantically. But the other day I was out with my family eating lunch at a dine in. Our waitress was this woman about my age, we flirted through out lunch. She was pretty, beautiful, and kind in energy.
I never gave her my number or anything cause I'm usually shy (and was with my family, sitting in the back corner of the booth).
But I just really appreciated having someone flirt with me and I've been blushing every time I think of her the past couple days.
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I very rarely flirt with people, and I even less often find people attractive sexually or romantically. But the other day I was out with my family eating lunch at a dine in. Our waitress was this woman about my age, we flirted through out lunch. She was pretty, beautiful, and kind in energy.
I never gave her my number or anything cause I'm usually shy (and was with my family, sitting in the back corner of the booth).
But I just really appreciated having someone flirt with me and I've been blushing every time I think of her the past couple days.
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TL:DR me: greyaro, flirting with someone and just being happy...
(preface: I'm aceflux and greyaro) I very rarely flirt with people, and I even less often find people attractive sexually or romantically. But...
It’s so weird how Allos think any physical compliment is sexual. My dad thought I might’ve been a lesbian because I once said that the actor who played Clara in Doctor Who looked really pretty in a Victorian dress. He believes me that I’m ace now though.
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It’s so weird how Allos think any physical compliment is sexual....
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Asexual/aromanitc rooms made in blender
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This Has Been Me ALLL Week, EVERYTHING PURPLE hahahaha((can I get any black ring or does it have to be sold as an Ace Ring)
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Maybe we should try writing “I’m asexual” then finishing it with predictive text. I think that’s what this person was doing with “lesbian”
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Allos: stop lying to yourself if being asexual is a deal breaker
I've recently gotten back on dating sites. Made sure it clearly states everywhere that I am asexual, and I bring it up with every match that I have a good chat with.
Majority have said, "Oh, that's okay! I don't mind!"
Hmm... Hard to believe so many of you are okay with no sex for life, but ok.
After a date or two, they ask again for clarification. Okay... I re-explain no problem. THEN they decide it's a deal breaker. Like... What??? You know deep down whether limited to no sex is a deal breaker right away. Stop lying to yourself and thinking it may be okay if that's truly something you need to be happy. Giving me this false hope that truly someone is accepting me for me and that I'm not doomed to be alone forever??
Don't get me wrong. I'm NOT mad at the fact that people won't date me and accept no sex. Absolutely not. I'm always polite and understanding of that aspect. But it really is frustrating to be told it's okay when like, weeks later they drop the "oh, I'm just too sexual." Or, "Oh, physical touch is too important to me" okay?? And you just remembered that now?? Pls.
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I've recently gotten back on dating sites. Made sure it clearly states everywhere that I am asexual, and I bring it up with every match that I have a good chat with.
Majority have said, "Oh, that's okay! I don't mind!"
Hmm... Hard to believe so many of you are okay with no sex for life, but ok.
After a date or two, they ask again for clarification. Okay... I re-explain no problem. THEN they decide it's a deal breaker. Like... What??? You know deep down whether limited to no sex is a deal breaker right away. Stop lying to yourself and thinking it may be okay if that's truly something you need to be happy. Giving me this false hope that truly someone is accepting me for me and that I'm not doomed to be alone forever??
Don't get me wrong. I'm NOT mad at the fact that people won't date me and accept no sex. Absolutely not. I'm always polite and understanding of that aspect. But it really is frustrating to be told it's okay when like, weeks later they drop the "oh, I'm just too sexual." Or, "Oh, physical touch is too important to me" okay?? And you just remembered that now?? Pls.
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Allos: stop lying to yourself if being asexual is a deal breaker
I've recently gotten back on dating sites. Made sure it clearly states everywhere that I am asexual, and I bring it up with every match that I...
Alternate option: looking at that kind of art to see blood gore and violence 😎
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