35 is a terrible time to realize I’m Ace.

I’ve always been adverse to touch, but the past 4 years it’s gotten progressively worse.

I don’t crave intimacy AT ALL. I don’t miss it a bit.
I love my bubble! My skin absolutely prickles if I’m touched.

The problem is - I’m married.
I spent so much of my life trying to follow norms, so I met a guy and made a family … but now that I’m comfortable enough to not mask, he’s touch starved and I’m starting to see him as needy.

Today he literally lunged at me trying to get a kiss and I reeled back.
It wasn’t a great moment and it left us both exposed.

I’m sure everyone can see where this is going. I’m terrified and sad, but I’m not willing and he’s trying to wear me down.
He’s a fantastic human and I want to stress it really is ME and not him. I might come off cold here but I truly am a good partner - I just can’t fathom doing this dance anymore.

He deserves way better, and I guess I deserve my bubble :/

(I want to stress that I think we have a great partnership, and but for the physical aspect we have a pretty perfect marriage - but like most folks that part is important to him. He deserves the relationship he wants to have, not what I’m comfortable with. I’m just sad to be this way and that it’s affecting my life so much.)

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I made this what y’all think?
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Found these rings at Walmart. 💜🤍🖤💚 They came in a 5 silicone ring pack and immediately grabbed some. I've always wanted some rings.
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This place feels like home

I’ve been aromantic and asexual for 6 years since I was 15, however living in a hyper sexual world I sometimes feel like an alien as offensive as that sounds . Sometimes I wish I wasn’t AroAce however whenever I feel alone I just come here and everything feels better. This subreddit is my favourite place in the world and it’s thanks to each and everyone of you. If anyone needs a friend please feel free to message me .

I hope everyone reading this is having an amazing day please remember the world is a better place for you being in it 😀

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Well if this ain't the truth..
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I don't want people touching my junk, that doesn't mean I can't like "sexy" things

I swear, I'm getting so frustrated at my friend. She's been poking at the fact that I come across sexual even though I'm not, which she finds funny/strange because she's the actual wild one.

Like I am really aroace. But I like dressing hot. I've worked at a strip club and liked it. I have an ass tattoo and like twerking. I like feeling beautiful and being seen as it. IT DOESNT MEAN I WANT PEOPLE TOUCHING MY JUNK!!!

but if I bring up anything in the realm of sexuality she starts up with the "mmmm...are we sure?" And I'm just like ffs, I'm ace not a child. It's just so frustrating, she's supportive but makes me feel invalidated the moment I express myself.

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I just saw someone in my class with a black ring but i'm scared to ask
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Bad experience with my own therapist

i have already told her i'm asexual. and for some reason she treats it like its a phase.

i explain over and over again i am this way, no it isn't going to change and no i don't have any sex trauma, I JUST AM ASEXUAL! it makes me so frustrated.

anyone else deals with that kind of things?

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something about this ring just makes me happy
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idk, I think this is funny
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Got my first ace ring on the weekend. Someone said ‘nice ring’ to me today. It made my day to see another ace :)
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I get ace week guys! This instagram page called Ace Chats does interviews like this or another kind I forgot. You can be anonymous if you like. You can send a picture of your face or something else as your picture if you like

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Only one
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Is anyone else here repulsed by nudity

I’m romantically and sexually repulsed but more recently. I’ve started to become repulsed by nudity of all kind . I mainly watch children’s tv shows and movies to avoid sex and nudity as embarrassing and immature as that may sound.

Does anywhere ever feel this way ?

Whoever reads this I hope your day is going well please remember your valid, loved and important

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Made for us?!?!
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Yeehaw driving hat
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Saw this trend on r/teenagers. Omni gray-ace, try me. (or I would happily flirt with you just give me the go ahead)
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Honestly I don't know
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Need emotional support

Story time. Me and some of my coworkers went to get a beer and the conversation quickly (and after a few drinks from them) start to revolve around their sex life. They saw I did not pay attention or did not participate in the exchange, so they tried to include me. And I ended up telling them that sex did not interest me in the slightest and that I was ace. And…I did not get the reaction I was hoping for… the oldest of the bunch plain called me weird and the other acted as if I told them a joke. It’s really hurts to feel like your sexuality (or lack thereof) is just a joke or weird. And I can’t really get it out of my head. I know they did not mean anything bad by it…but still. Anyways, thanks for reading.

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Does anyone like the dragon I drew :3
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