Black Queer people exist. Pass this around to educate Dave Chappelle and his followers
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Am I actually asexual or am I lying to myself?

From a young age I have always felt kind of weird and disturbed about sex or any intimate actions, hugging, etc, leading me to never romantically holding hands, kissing, having a s.o. or anything. Now with that being said I don’t know if i’m genuinely asexual or not. Don’t get me wrong, I’m repulsed by sex, but sometimes I start thinking and I cant help but to wonder if I’m really asexual or if I have just been traumatized. tw???? My only sexual experiences have been harassment/assaults, so I don’t know if I really am asexual or if I have just been traumatized and subconsciously written off sex for the rest of my life under the disguise that Im asexual. Am I the only one that thinks this? and how would I go about figuring out if i truly am asexual? Sorry if i’m rambling and if this is all over the place

edit: thank you to every who replied i love u guys, after reading the replies i feel a lot more valid and confident in my sexuality :)

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My (ex) girlfriend is asexual, but we love each other

I don't have a real question. I just needed to talk about this.

I knew how extremely shy she was on sexuality, and thus took it super slow with her. For 4 years, waiting for her to slowly open on this. Then she realized that she is asexual, which means she will likely never change. So we decided to break up, because she understood that it was unfair to ask me to refrain from sexuality for the rest of my life.

Even if we decided to break up, our relationship didn't actually change at all. Neither of the two has any interest in losing the other person. We talk a lot, everyday, like before. There was no sex before, there is no sex now.

I would like to move on, find another girl and be happy. But I can't. I am physically attracted to other girls, but I know I will never find anyone as intelligent, as affine to me and as perfect as her. I have no one whom I can talk about this: she would be the only one, but she can't relate to my sexual desires.

It's emotionally hard. Does anyone relate, or have any advice?

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DO PEOPLE ACTUALLY GET TURNED ON WHEN THEY'RE FLIRTING?????

okay so I'm talking to this guy online and he's trying to flirt with me and it's not even anything dirty, it's seriously just normal flirting, like maybe a couple winky faces here and there. anyway he asks me if I like that he's flirting with me and I'm just like "sure lol" and he says "does it make you feel hot and good?" and my ace ass was like "what??" and he says "I mean are you turned on at all?" and I was just sitting here completely questioning the allos existence 😂 like seriously do the allos get turned on when they are flirting because that is super weird to me haha!

also Idk if this was a good flair to use haha!

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idk if this has been posted yet, my best friend sent it to me
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Cards Against Humanity
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I'm really nervous but I bet it'll be worth it
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Hi, I'm asexual

I've known since I was 13, It's been 3 years since then and I'm still asexual. I'm not too young to know, I'm not broken, I'm ace and that's ok and since I can't say it out loud I'm saying it here

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You cant watch this and tell me Todoroki isn’t asexual 😭😭😭

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Ace dudes, is it normal to get a boner while cuddling but still don‘t want sex?

just curious, I‘m ace but not impotent, I always get a weird boner when I cuddle with a nice girl. It‘s like my genitals want sex, but my brain says NO. What‘s the deal?

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With my purple and white Joy-Cons I have created an ace-themed Switch!
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Guys don’t do it, you’re all valid
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This is so much better
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Realizing I'm Asexual at 35

I'm a 35 year old woman and I just recently realized that I am asexual. I was in a heterosexual marriage for 13 years. He left me a little over a year ago. I miss so much about him and about our relationship/partnership. However, I don't miss sex and I have never enjoyed it. I like romance and some sensual touching but that's it. I'm actually just now realizing that I was in a QPR with my best friend in high school. We are still close, but she is married now and it's just different.

Mostly I feel very comforted by this epiphany. I feel so comforted when I read about other asexuals in a way that I never felt comfortable in the heterosexual community. I feel comforted when I see the asexual pride flag. I am, however, struggling a bit with feeling out of place and old within this community. And there are days when I wonder why bother taking on a label at this point in my life. I would love to find a nonsexual romantic partner but, living in Indiana, it feels like a stretch.

Anyway, just feeling a lot of different feelings. Any other asexuals over thirty feeling old or out of place?

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guys its true I invented asexuality so I can confirm
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Anyone else get upset when a relatable character suddenly becomes overtly sexual?

I’ve been thinking a lot now about my sexuality and I’m more and more accepting that I am asexual or at minimum in the asexual spectrum.

I was thinking about how I will strongly relate to a character and then sometimes out of nowhere the show decides to have some random over the top, ridiculous sex scene (as shows annoyingly do, and mostly it’s completely unnecessary and adds nothing…looking at you, HBO lol) and I feel almost betrayed/disgusted? Of course it’s because I was putting myself into the character.

But I’ve been noticing a pattern of how much I love and relate to characters that don’t engage in overtly sexual behavior. Romantic, I like because I am not aromatic.

Example: The Office
(I know, cliche, but I’ll never stop loving it lol, also I want to use an example that is mainstream enough)

A big part of me loving the Jim and Pam relationship was how non-sexual it was. The idea that it was almost purely romantic made me identify with it so much. It was easy to imagine they were a somewhat asexual couple (obviously they weren’t, but I hope my point still gets across)

I still need time to put a lot more thought into this to be able to better articulate my feelings about this topic, but for now I thought it was an interesting observation that just came to light for me!

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Gave a presentation for my university today on asexuality and aromanticism! Yay!

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