Ace representation in the German Hygiene Museum in Dresden in their sexuality exhibit. Was kinda nice to see this
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Ignoring your asexuality can be harmful to your mental AND physical health.
I commented this on another post, but I thought it was important to share more widely, because I don't think peopleâasexual and notâconsider the dangers asexual people face specifically.
Trust your feelings, stand up for yourself, and never settle on a partner who doesn't get it.
When I was \~15, I came out to my friends as asexual. They told me I was just being immature. Believing them, I tried to "not be asexual." I found a boyfriend who loved sex; when we would meet, he wanted it several times a day. I convinced myself I liked it, because my body did the "right" thingsâlubricated, sometimes O'ed...
But in my head, the asexuality never went away. I didn't realise until a couple years ago that coercion was a thing and that 99% of my sexual encounters were non-consensual. I had to be convinced almost every single time. And boy, did that explain a lot. Though I gave in to sex on the outside, my body did not, and in the background, my mind was secretly tucking away a bunch of trauma.
In fact, my reluctance led to vaginismus (pelvic floor dysfunction) that caused pain upon insertion amongst other symptoms that I deal with daily and have been told I will have to handle for life. This led to even more trauma to the point I now physically shake any time anyoneâincluding doctorsâapproach that part of me. I said to my ex that I thought I was asexual, and he just said "No you're not, you're just scared. You'll love it once you're fixed." That ex turned out to be abusive, anyway đ¤ˇââď¸
Basically, friends and partners ignoring your sexuality can actually be very harmful, so it's important to find someone who respects you.
https://redd.it/q7cid1
@asexualityonreddit
I commented this on another post, but I thought it was important to share more widely, because I don't think peopleâasexual and notâconsider the dangers asexual people face specifically.
Trust your feelings, stand up for yourself, and never settle on a partner who doesn't get it.
When I was \~15, I came out to my friends as asexual. They told me I was just being immature. Believing them, I tried to "not be asexual." I found a boyfriend who loved sex; when we would meet, he wanted it several times a day. I convinced myself I liked it, because my body did the "right" thingsâlubricated, sometimes O'ed...
But in my head, the asexuality never went away. I didn't realise until a couple years ago that coercion was a thing and that 99% of my sexual encounters were non-consensual. I had to be convinced almost every single time. And boy, did that explain a lot. Though I gave in to sex on the outside, my body did not, and in the background, my mind was secretly tucking away a bunch of trauma.
In fact, my reluctance led to vaginismus (pelvic floor dysfunction) that caused pain upon insertion amongst other symptoms that I deal with daily and have been told I will have to handle for life. This led to even more trauma to the point I now physically shake any time anyoneâincluding doctorsâapproach that part of me. I said to my ex that I thought I was asexual, and he just said "No you're not, you're just scared. You'll love it once you're fixed." That ex turned out to be abusive, anyway đ¤ˇââď¸
Basically, friends and partners ignoring your sexuality can actually be very harmful, so it's important to find someone who respects you.
https://redd.it/q7cid1
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Ignoring your asexuality can be harmful to your mental AND...
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Hello everyone! added rings of larger size according to your requests
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A comic I drew years l before knew Ace was a thing. (I was 20) In a self fulfilling prophecy, I now live alone with many birds.
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The relationship advice for repulsed/sex averse aces is a little discouraging.
Every time there's a post on here from a repulsed/sex averse ace on here talking about how they're worried they'll be alone forever or never find anyone to date because they won't have sex, it seems like it's the aces that do have sex seem to give the advice.
For instance, if you see one of these posts and go to the comments the top one is usually from and ace dating an allo saying that it is possible, you just have to find the right person who will accept your asexuality and respect your boundaries. I think this is a great thing to see, but somewhere in the response they'll also say that they do have sex with their partners rarely, occasionally, or often. Then you go to the next comment and it's the same thing.
I do think these responses are positive and can be encouraging or helpful to some, but at the same time, it's not the same thing. For many allos (not all of course), no sex is dealbreaker. Telling someone who has sex strictly off the table, that its possible to have a happy relationship, even though this relationship they're speaking of includes sex is a little discouraging.
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Every time there's a post on here from a repulsed/sex averse ace on here talking about how they're worried they'll be alone forever or never find anyone to date because they won't have sex, it seems like it's the aces that do have sex seem to give the advice.
For instance, if you see one of these posts and go to the comments the top one is usually from and ace dating an allo saying that it is possible, you just have to find the right person who will accept your asexuality and respect your boundaries. I think this is a great thing to see, but somewhere in the response they'll also say that they do have sex with their partners rarely, occasionally, or often. Then you go to the next comment and it's the same thing.
I do think these responses are positive and can be encouraging or helpful to some, but at the same time, it's not the same thing. For many allos (not all of course), no sex is dealbreaker. Telling someone who has sex strictly off the table, that its possible to have a happy relationship, even though this relationship they're speaking of includes sex is a little discouraging.
https://redd.it/q7g9t0
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The relationship advice for repulsed/sex averse aces is a little...
Every time there's a post on here from a repulsed/sex averse ace on here talking about how they're worried they'll be alone forever or never find...
Maybe unpopular opinion: saying "I'm asexual" in response to a doctor asking you if you're sexually active isn't an answer at all
I've seen a couple posts here over the months saying stuff like "omg my doctor kept replacing ace with celibate when I told him I was ace when he asked about my sexual history.."
But asexual does not mean "doesn't have sex" and absolutely NOT all aces are apothisexual (sex-repulsed) either. The doctor is right to respond with "so you're celibate?" to clarify, because telling them you're ace doesn't answer your question.
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I've seen a couple posts here over the months saying stuff like "omg my doctor kept replacing ace with celibate when I told him I was ace when he asked about my sexual history.."
But asexual does not mean "doesn't have sex" and absolutely NOT all aces are apothisexual (sex-repulsed) either. The doctor is right to respond with "so you're celibate?" to clarify, because telling them you're ace doesn't answer your question.
https://redd.it/q7sgy1
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Maybe unpopular opinion: saying "I'm asexual" in response to a...
I've seen a couple posts here over the months saying stuff like "omg my doctor kept replacing ace with celibate when I told him I was ace when he...