My daughter (freshman in high school) told me she was Asexual, what’s next?
Hello! first off, I want to say forgive me if I get any of the terms wrong. I am here to educate myself as a momma!
Second, I want to say that as a momma, reading a lot of your stories….. You are all such beautiful souls. I hope all of your lives are filled with happiness. You deserve it!
My daughter has told me she is asexual, and non romantic? (She doesn’t want to be touched. At all). My questions are…. Well. I’m not exactly sure? Obviously I responded with respect, and a massive hug telling her I love her no matter who she loves, and we had a long talk. Oh. Yeah. And we live in the south. 🙃😑 so that can put a damper on anyone’s party.
So I guess, my question is, what’s next? What do I do to support her? when do I buy the flags and start screaming how proud and how much I love my asexual daughter? I mean, she’s a freshman in high school. Surly kids are knowing who they are at a younger age, isn’t that what our generation was trying to do? Pave the road for future generations to live in peace? (Well. We tried. I’m not a boomer. So….) and to no longer have the need to come out, just “be”.
I hope what I’m saying is making sense. I knew at a very young age, (because of my best friend being gay and their awful experiences growing up in the south…) that no matter who my children love, I would love them even more. But I also am trying not to overcompensate the task at hand too, if that makes sense.
Help.
Love,
A momma.
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Hello! first off, I want to say forgive me if I get any of the terms wrong. I am here to educate myself as a momma!
Second, I want to say that as a momma, reading a lot of your stories….. You are all such beautiful souls. I hope all of your lives are filled with happiness. You deserve it!
My daughter has told me she is asexual, and non romantic? (She doesn’t want to be touched. At all). My questions are…. Well. I’m not exactly sure? Obviously I responded with respect, and a massive hug telling her I love her no matter who she loves, and we had a long talk. Oh. Yeah. And we live in the south. 🙃😑 so that can put a damper on anyone’s party.
So I guess, my question is, what’s next? What do I do to support her? when do I buy the flags and start screaming how proud and how much I love my asexual daughter? I mean, she’s a freshman in high school. Surly kids are knowing who they are at a younger age, isn’t that what our generation was trying to do? Pave the road for future generations to live in peace? (Well. We tried. I’m not a boomer. So….) and to no longer have the need to come out, just “be”.
I hope what I’m saying is making sense. I knew at a very young age, (because of my best friend being gay and their awful experiences growing up in the south…) that no matter who my children love, I would love them even more. But I also am trying not to overcompensate the task at hand too, if that makes sense.
Help.
Love,
A momma.
https://redd.it/q0hluz
@asexualityonreddit
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My daughter (freshman in high school) told me she was Asexual,...
Hello! first off, I want to say forgive me if I get any of the terms wrong. I am here to educate myself as a momma! Second, I want to say that as...
Nothing says "I don't care who you are as a person" like asking if you want FWB/Casual.
I'm not sure what it is with some folks but I tend to attract people who say they want to be my friend, then they ask me if i'm interested in CASUAL/FWB - and then when I tell then that i'm not interested, they choose to stop talking to me.
I don't quite understand this technique but the way it comes off to me is "You don't really matter, I just need a willing orifice to stick my genitalia in to".
This happens to me so often, it's like as soon as they find out that i'm not interested in having sex with them, it's over.
How the heck do you find people who are actually genuinely interested is beyond me... I'm also Autistic so my social skills are already not super great.
Anyways, just wanted to rant a little bit about this.
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I'm not sure what it is with some folks but I tend to attract people who say they want to be my friend, then they ask me if i'm interested in CASUAL/FWB - and then when I tell then that i'm not interested, they choose to stop talking to me.
I don't quite understand this technique but the way it comes off to me is "You don't really matter, I just need a willing orifice to stick my genitalia in to".
This happens to me so often, it's like as soon as they find out that i'm not interested in having sex with them, it's over.
How the heck do you find people who are actually genuinely interested is beyond me... I'm also Autistic so my social skills are already not super great.
Anyways, just wanted to rant a little bit about this.
https://redd.it/q0hsre
@asexualityonreddit
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Nothing says "I don't care who you are as a person" like asking if...
I'm not sure what it is with some folks but I tend to attract people who say they want to be my friend, then they ask me if i'm interested in...
I'm just asexual, not misogynistic
I think my friends find it a bit hard to understand my sexuality. Me and my friends in context here are all girls. Whenever they're talking about how they're taking sexy pics and sexting with guys they met just a few weeks ago. I tend to react a bit repulsively, with a remark similar to " I would never do that". And I think they misunderstand me to being a prude. While having a discussion about music and female rappers, I commented how I don't really like their music, specifically Doja Cat, because majority of it is very sexual and just not relatable to me. Now don't get me wrong Doja is an amazing artist, her beats are sick, but lyrics may I say, Scare Me. I told them how I wish more female rappers could sing about stuff other than sex. But my friends went on a rant about sexual liberation and how women have been confined and now they're finally speaking up so this genre is here to stay. I guess they got the wrong idea. But I still very much believe pop female rappers can explore more different topics in their work and there's so much we've got to talk about through this medium. Am I the asshole here? :(
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I think my friends find it a bit hard to understand my sexuality. Me and my friends in context here are all girls. Whenever they're talking about how they're taking sexy pics and sexting with guys they met just a few weeks ago. I tend to react a bit repulsively, with a remark similar to " I would never do that". And I think they misunderstand me to being a prude. While having a discussion about music and female rappers, I commented how I don't really like their music, specifically Doja Cat, because majority of it is very sexual and just not relatable to me. Now don't get me wrong Doja is an amazing artist, her beats are sick, but lyrics may I say, Scare Me. I told them how I wish more female rappers could sing about stuff other than sex. But my friends went on a rant about sexual liberation and how women have been confined and now they're finally speaking up so this genre is here to stay. I guess they got the wrong idea. But I still very much believe pop female rappers can explore more different topics in their work and there's so much we've got to talk about through this medium. Am I the asshole here? :(
https://redd.it/q0mel4
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I'm just asexual, not misogynistic
I think my friends find it a bit hard to understand my sexuality. Me and my friends in context here are all girls. Whenever they're talking about...
In honor of LGBT History Month, I made an Asexual History Book!
https://redd.it/q0tzad
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https://redd.it/q0tzad
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In honor of LGBT History Month, I made an Asexual History Book!
Posted in r/Asexual by u/authenticflamingo • 58 points and 6 comments