My Friends Sent me this. How do I tell 'em.
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Don't you dare, webtoon! I know what that pose is implying! PLEASEEE

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There's a new Archie comic on webtoon and it looks like they once again made jughead allo:(

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It's always "aces can have sex to please their partner" and never "allos can have a sexless relationship to please their partner"

I'm always seeing people say that aces can have sex to please partners and it's true, but I wanna see where it's finally the allos turn to please us. Because that saying by itself just seems like we actually do need to have sex in the relationship or else no one in it is happy. It makes it seem like it's all about the allosexuals' happiness that matters and that makes me feel like if I don't have sex with my boyfriend, then he might be unhappy and our relationship won't work out. I probably sound selfish but if I find out the person I'm dating wants sex in the relationship, I'll just leave. I don't want to be in a relationship where sex is the only thing that makes it work and I have to give it to him to make him love me.


Edit: I also want to show people that sex doesn't make your relationship healthy, your actions do.

Edit 2: I know sex favoritiable and sex indifferent asexuals don't care, but I'm talking for the sex averse and sex repulsed asexuals when I say I want it to be the allos turn to please us. /nm

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Anyone else still have attraction to others but just never, ever want to have sex?



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thought this might belong here
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Happiness
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I'm down for free pants
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People are just dicks and not the hot ones

People who hate asexual people because its in the bible. There stupid cause the bible promotes it sometimes. Its says not to have sex with the same gender. It never said you want love somebody. So if someone hates you cause you're asexual its because they think normal is the best but normal is stupid. name one celebrity that's normal and does what society tells them?

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Are hetero aces welcome?

I was reading a post from this group just a moment ago and it made me think that hetero aces are not considered a part of the LGBTQ+ community. Is that true? Are they even considered as asexuals? I am sex repulsed so I've gotten used to the idea of living alone for the rest of my life... But I would have liked to have shared my life with a guy. Cuddles and kisses are nice. I dunno. I just need some clarification.

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uhhh
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I'm beginning to realize just how lopsided the ratio of sex-repulsed to sex-favorable/indiffirent is...

Just a little mini-rant from my experience being sex-favorable on asexual subreddits. I get that in any community you're not going to relate to every post you see, every sentiment you hear, but the number of posts I see from sex-repulsed aces basically saying their experience is universally what asexuals experience is kinda disheartening. I feel like it's become harder to prove that my experience really exists, it's certainly lead to me questioning a lot more despite the fact that I know I never experience sexual attraction and probably never will. I'm not at all saying you should make more posts to cater to our experience because that's a stupid idea, I'm more wishing you wouldn't forget that we exist too and that asexuality is a spectrum.

Edit: please ignore the fact that i totally misspelled indifferent in the title

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I imagine life was a lot easier for aces and aros back then.
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I am very naive.

I'll give an example.

In high school I used to hang out with these group of geeks, who were very friendly with me. I was known among them as the artistic one. Now, one of them was developing an RPG game together with his friends and he asked me personally to design him a character.

Me being a people pleaser, I managed to sketch him one overnight and I was pretty proud of it.

He liked it a lot and invited me to his house to work on his project together. And me ,not thinking anything of it , just being happy to be useful and part of an interesting project, agreed to it.

I got to his house, expecting his other friends to come by since it was a group project. But nope, it was just me and him. Alone. No friends, no family, just the two of us. And instead of working on his game, we played league of legends together until his mom came back from work and made us dinner. It felt awkward and I got back home confused, that night.

The next day I got to school, he was no where to be seen. One of his close friends, a girl, approached me and talked to me about it. Apparently, only to my surprise, he was interested in me. He was apparently desperate for a girlfriend at the time and was trying to make some advances towards me.

I explained to her that I wasn't interested in him like that. That Im pretty naive when it comes to flirting and stuff. And what did she have to say to me?

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"Yeah, I know. I've been trying to flirt with you for half a year now."

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...So yeah.

The only way I'll ever know if someone is into me is by either their friends telling me about it, or the person themselves confessing to me. Unless you are being upfront about it, my aroace ass will never know.

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I present to you, pcm (no. 2)
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We can unleash our dragon form and peoples won't suspect a thing
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This gave me ace vibes
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Girlfriend is very likely to be asexual, I am not. It’s fine for now but how do I deal with this in the future when I inevitably become frustrated with our dynamic?

Now I know many will write off this post because we’re both 17 and in a long distance relationship (so sex will not be for a while), but I still want to ask for advice

I have sexual attraction towards my girlfriend. I’m not asexual and all is fine

She is attracted to me in many ways but just not sexually. She said she’s never felt sexual attraction towards anybody ever and for me I’m a “not sure”, but still pretty much no sexual attraction

Due to our current circumstances I’m fine and I’d never think about breaking up with her over this, but I am guessing one day it will be frustrating for me, because I will want sex at some point and not having it will be hard

So any advice? How do we work through this?

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WHY IS IT SO HARD FOR ALLOSEXUALS TO EXPLAIN WHAT SEXUAL ATTRACTION FEELS LIKE?

I've read at least three research papers and six blogs trying to figure this out but every one has a different answer. It's all contradictory and I'm just so confused like does it feel soft and warm or is it chilling and spiky? Is it like velcro? Because its starting to sound like its just velcro-y.

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I've been trying to figure this shit out since 4am this morning. I need answers!

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EDIT: Most helpful sources I found

https://www.yourtango.com/2021343498/what-sexual-attraction-feels-10-signs-look#:\~:text=According%20to%20hypnotherapist%20Keya%20Murthy,often%20feels%20like%20an%20obsession.

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https://www.reddit.com/r/asexuality/comments/ag01h3/allosexuals\_what\_does\_sexual\_attraction\_feel\_like/

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https://asexualitytrust.org.nz/what-is-asexuality/attraction-vs-arousal/

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https://www.asexuality.org/en/topic/81869-what-does-sexual-attraction-feel-like/

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stills from “dear luke love me” 💜
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Do y'all feel grossed out by people talking about their sex lives?

It makes me feel super uncomfortable and disgusted in some way. Same thing with sexual songs and stuff. It's getting really bad lately and idk why because I never really had that much of a problem with it, just recently it's really getting to me somehow.

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