Ace wallpaper requests I got from my tumblr! Hope y'all enjoy

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A-Café (Update #6) - Prototype Design is Underway

Welcome all to another Update!

\[For Context: A-Spec people are incredibly diverse, with varying relationship preferences and types of Aromanticism/Asexuality. We’re aiming to create an app that will help connect Asexual and/or Aromantic people across the world and give them the power to search for the specific relationships they want\].

The updates go as follows:

The UI/UX design process is well under way! We’re starting to get a better understanding of how A-Café should look and flow, and we’d love to see how you all feel about our progress! Here’s some screenshots of WIP pages, starting with the onboarding process:

We wanted to keep the default design simple but modern, especially for onboarding. (Onboarding is a process the User goes through when they are first introduced to the app).

3 pages from the A-Café prototype lay on top of a black background. They all include prompts for the User to answer, such as: \\"My Birthday is...\\" and \\"My Pronouns are...\\"

Continuing with the theme of simple but modern, we tried to emulate Instagram’s white background and thin icons, so that any photo added looks good against the color palette. 

3 more pages from the A-Café prototype lay against a black background. These specific ones include the Homebrew \(or Home Page\), a page for Group search results, and a page offering information on an example group called \\"Darwin Gray-Artists.\\"

So, what do you think? I unfortunately don’t have enough pages colorized yet to offer an interactable prototype, but when I do I’ll post it (either in or outside of an upcoming update).

Besides that, that’s it for now! Thank you as always for reading, and if you’d like to get a closer look at the development process, feel free to join our discord!

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Lesbian + Ace = Lace <3
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Team chat shenanigans at work and... I came out.

So we work at our own computers in cubicles by ourselves all day. They only real social interaction we get is through the team chat on IM. To get to know each other/for convo, we've been doing personality quizzes and such. Our team lead sent kinda a joke quiz from Buzzfeed, "how gay are you?"

I was curious and wanted to see if it would represent aces so I took it and laughed to myself the whole time. It did not represent anything but the label 'gay' lol so people were chatting about their results and I debated mentioning my aceness and somebody else said it first!! I was so excited to see that, I then said something like "yeah, over here laughing in ace taking that quiz"

So the only other time I've said it outside of anonymous reddit was to one sister and now I guess I'm out at work! Which let's be honest is nearly anonymous here as well but hey, I'm getting used to saying it. Maybe I can tell more people in my life though.

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A world without sex

Kinda wish I lived in a world without it sometimes, so at least I feel normal for not wanting it.

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Relatable
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Do you need to have sex first to know if you're asexual?

I myself am still a virgin but feel very strongly that I may be asexual/demisexual/aegosexual but feel like i cant call myself that because I've never even had sex. But at the same time I kinda dont want to be put in that situation to find out, but I do at the same time?

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edit: To clarify, I mean I dont want to be put in a situation where I meet someone I like and theres an expectation of having sex that I now have to meet. But I kinda want to force myself to do it to sort of know for sure what I even feel about it.

Just want to say thank you all for helping me clarify my thoughts and feelings. I'm happy that reddit exists so I can learn more about not only myself but about others as well. Now that I read the question I see that it's kinda silly but I'm glad I posted it regardless.

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I'm tired of people pretending to be allies (vent.)

I was over on r/ace (not going to do the entire aaaa) and someone asked what allos are. I explained it to them, and they immediately asked 'why not say normal?' We had an entire argument where the person just kept trying to justify why calling allos 'normal' was okay because asexuals weren't normal and I kept telling them that, no, it wasn't okay, because asexuals are normal. I called them out on pretending to be an ally, and they immediately jumped to saying they WERE an ally. They told me making up words (allosexual and alloromantic) just makes it harder for the community to be accessible to outsiders and people won't take asexuals seriously. (Because that's why queer people formed their own communities, right? So it's friendly and accessible to cishetallo people? /s)

I wasn't the only person who thought they were being an ass; they were being downvoted.

So I blocked them and they said I was throwing a hissy fit. For...blocking someone because I was done arguing with an aphobe.

I'm just tired of fake allies. If your response to an asexual person telling you that 'hey, asexuals are normal' is to throw a tantrum and say other people won't take you seriously, you aren't an ally. You're a aphobe pretending to be an ally.

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Just checking
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Hell yeah
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Person at Pizza Hut gave me a free slab of garlic bread 👌🏻
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this is us
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relatable
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Why does everyone hate ace people so much??

Recently I have been on tiktok and seen multiple videos of people talking about asexually and how it’s “not real” or how ace people are just straight and things of that nature. I am new to the ace community so I don’t know a whole lot but why do people hate asexuals so much? It’s annoying and lowkey makes me upset when I see this stuff but I just don’t know why people are like this.

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Very ironic indeed
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If you ever feel useless, just remember that my gender fluid ace ass just got this in my Spotify recommended:
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Told my therapist I'm Ace today

I knew she was pretty open minded, as on our first meeting she asked for my pronouns. When I told her that I realised recently that I'm Ace, she seemed pretty supportive, although it didn't quite seem that she completely understood what it meant. She has told me that she'll research into it more for our future meetings so she can better understand me and is happy that I've found a label for myself that helps bring me more clarity in myself. She also kept apologising in case she said anything that wasnt quite right. She's the only person I've told other than my boyfriend so I'm quite happy. It's nice to know that medical professionals are a little more open minded these days so I wanted to share this.

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i haven’t played enough to know whether or not this is what it looks like, but i still prefer to think that this is what she wants
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