I just found out I'm asexual but not aromantic and I'm scared.
I'm a trans gal who's kind of been avoiding thinking about who I'm attracted to for almost a year now as I've tried to figure out my gender. But last week, I finally started to face it.
I wasn't sure what my sexuality was. Lesbian didn't exactly seem right, but Bi or Pan didn't ethier. But then I asked myself: These people who I've developed crushes on and these dream scenarios I've thought up, what are they really? None of them involve sexual activity. Physical, yes, for example cuddling, but never sex or anything like it. In fact, the idea repulsed me a little bit.
So after some thoughts and doubts, I recently figured out that I'm asexual. But I know I'm not aromantic, I don't want to be single. I want to have a partner, just not in a sexual sense.
But I'm worried that if I try to lead a romantic life while being asexual at the same time, it'll just end in disappointment. I'll have to find someone else who's asexual while also having the right romantic preference to like me while also just clicking with me in general. Otherwise, someone who might want to have sex won't be able to with me. They might not want to be with me because of it, and that's perfectly understandable.
I'm worried that I'll be pressured into doing it once with someone then I'll end up hating it. That's repulsive to me. But I also am really scared to publicly come out as asexual because it'll just make everything so much harder.
I know that I should be open and transparent with any dates I could get into the future, but I'm scared it'll turn my chances to zero. So part of me wants to hide it, while the other part wants to be honest.
I really hate the idea of being single forever romantically, and I'm scared that I'll end up like that. So, how can I do it? Please, any help us appreciated.
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I'm a trans gal who's kind of been avoiding thinking about who I'm attracted to for almost a year now as I've tried to figure out my gender. But last week, I finally started to face it.
I wasn't sure what my sexuality was. Lesbian didn't exactly seem right, but Bi or Pan didn't ethier. But then I asked myself: These people who I've developed crushes on and these dream scenarios I've thought up, what are they really? None of them involve sexual activity. Physical, yes, for example cuddling, but never sex or anything like it. In fact, the idea repulsed me a little bit.
So after some thoughts and doubts, I recently figured out that I'm asexual. But I know I'm not aromantic, I don't want to be single. I want to have a partner, just not in a sexual sense.
But I'm worried that if I try to lead a romantic life while being asexual at the same time, it'll just end in disappointment. I'll have to find someone else who's asexual while also having the right romantic preference to like me while also just clicking with me in general. Otherwise, someone who might want to have sex won't be able to with me. They might not want to be with me because of it, and that's perfectly understandable.
I'm worried that I'll be pressured into doing it once with someone then I'll end up hating it. That's repulsive to me. But I also am really scared to publicly come out as asexual because it'll just make everything so much harder.
I know that I should be open and transparent with any dates I could get into the future, but I'm scared it'll turn my chances to zero. So part of me wants to hide it, while the other part wants to be honest.
I really hate the idea of being single forever romantically, and I'm scared that I'll end up like that. So, how can I do it? Please, any help us appreciated.
https://redd.it/p6kpif
@asexualityonreddit
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I just found out I'm asexual but not aromantic and I'm scared.
I'm a trans gal who's kind of been avoiding thinking about who I'm attracted to for almost a year now as I've tried to figure out my gender. But...
Told a friend I was asexual and it didn’t go well.
He said, “I don’t think you’re asexual, I think you’ve just had bad experiences with men and now you don’t want to have sex anymore because of it. I’m sure you will be able to overcome this”. I’ve never had anyone react positively to me telling them i was ace, literally ever. They either just laugh it off like I didn’t say anything or actively invalidate my existence. Even the closest people to me don’t take it seriously. It was already difficult and took over 5 years for me to fully accept that I’m ace but the fact that not a single person in my life accepts me just makes me never want to say anything about it ever again. Also, I recently told another close friend of mine I was ace and she hasn’t spoken to me since. When i thought I was bi, all of these people said they accepted me unconditionally. I just feel heartbroken and over it all.
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He said, “I don’t think you’re asexual, I think you’ve just had bad experiences with men and now you don’t want to have sex anymore because of it. I’m sure you will be able to overcome this”. I’ve never had anyone react positively to me telling them i was ace, literally ever. They either just laugh it off like I didn’t say anything or actively invalidate my existence. Even the closest people to me don’t take it seriously. It was already difficult and took over 5 years for me to fully accept that I’m ace but the fact that not a single person in my life accepts me just makes me never want to say anything about it ever again. Also, I recently told another close friend of mine I was ace and she hasn’t spoken to me since. When i thought I was bi, all of these people said they accepted me unconditionally. I just feel heartbroken and over it all.
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Told a friend I was asexual and it didn’t go well.
He said, “I don’t think you’re asexual, I think you’ve just had bad experiences with men and now you don’t want to have sex anymore because of it....
Asexuality Questionnaire
Hiya, I hope everyone is doing well today! I am a Social Anthropology Undergraduate Student at the University of Edinburgh doing my dissertation research on asexuality, specifically asexuality and the erotic, however this questionnaire is looking into how asexual people interact with relationships. I hope this is an ok place for me to be posting this. For more information there is also an information sheet attached to the questionnaire. Thank you and keep having a lovely week.
You can find the questionnaire here: Asexuality Questionnaire
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Hiya, I hope everyone is doing well today! I am a Social Anthropology Undergraduate Student at the University of Edinburgh doing my dissertation research on asexuality, specifically asexuality and the erotic, however this questionnaire is looking into how asexual people interact with relationships. I hope this is an ok place for me to be posting this. For more information there is also an information sheet attached to the questionnaire. Thank you and keep having a lovely week.
You can find the questionnaire here: Asexuality Questionnaire
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Asexuality and Relationships Questionnaire
This research project is being conducted following the ethical guidelines and approval of the School of Social and Political Science’s at The University of Edinburgh by a Social Anthropology Honours student for an Undergraduate dissertation. The aim of this…
I know aro memes are allowed here but please be aware of r/aaaaaaaarrrrro
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After being in Denmark for a few days i don't want to overthrow them anymore... i wanna join them. It's so cool!!!
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Seeing an assertion of platonic love being real love on a game in Steam made the ace in me happy x infinity
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Sex, but as a statement
I often joke about being a bad asexual with my friends because you'll meet few people as flirty and open about talking about sex and kink as me. Here's the thing though, sex and anything related to it is like a really funny joke or a mildly interesting topic for me. It's not something I really enjoy engaging in and if you look past the jokes I'm actually pretty indifferent to everything about it and make a very clear line between my jokes and true feelings.
So my question is this; are their any other aces out there that openly talk/ joke about sex even though they have little to interest in engaging with it or how do you feel about the topic being brought up in general?
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I often joke about being a bad asexual with my friends because you'll meet few people as flirty and open about talking about sex and kink as me. Here's the thing though, sex and anything related to it is like a really funny joke or a mildly interesting topic for me. It's not something I really enjoy engaging in and if you look past the jokes I'm actually pretty indifferent to everything about it and make a very clear line between my jokes and true feelings.
So my question is this; are their any other aces out there that openly talk/ joke about sex even though they have little to interest in engaging with it or how do you feel about the topic being brought up in general?
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Sex, but as a statement
I often joke about being a bad asexual with my friends because you'll meet few people as flirty and open about talking about sex and kink as me....