Much older women aggressively hit on me often at special events and I'm tired of no one ever taking me seriously when I complain.
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Whenever I'm at a special event where I have to dress up, there's always one or two older women who'll spend as much time commenting on my body, getting close to me, asking me to dance, touch me, etc as possible. The last thing I was at a lady kept asking me about my "type", if I was a virgin, what my favorite sexual acts were, etc. I had known her for all of 5 minutes. Other events I've worked at in the past had women following me from room to room "interviewing" me about random things while commenting on my legs and chest. I'm not even fit, but I'm naturally very stocky.
Complaining is pointless because whenever I do, I'm told to suck it up, man up, or whatever. That as a man I'm supposed to love this kind of attention, that it's every guy's dream to have a MILF interested in them, that I shouldn't feel threatened because of my gender and appearance and that it could've been worse. Or, that it's a cute thing older people do so just go along with it. Friends I vent to as this is happening in real time push me and the other person together, tell me to go find them, or seek them out and literally pull us together.
I feel crazy when I say this but it makes me afraid to be at certain events, or hang out with certain family members because of how consistently this happens and how it long it effects me.
I'm just so damn sick of being sexualized and objectified. I hate it so much and wish it could all go away, that I could go to these events and not want to throw up from the anxiety of waiting for it to happen eventually. It makes me sick to my stomach being objectified this way, it bugs me for days and days and days, and I feel lost with nowhere to go and no one to talk to about it. I deal with this regularly in my chosen career and this is among the reasons why I'm changing careers without knowing exactly what I want to do.
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New-ish account for this for personal reasons. For reference, I'm a cis guy in my early 30s.
Whenever I'm at a special event where I have to dress up, there's always one or two older women who'll spend as much time commenting on my body, getting close to me, asking me to dance, touch me, etc as possible. The last thing I was at a lady kept asking me about my "type", if I was a virgin, what my favorite sexual acts were, etc. I had known her for all of 5 minutes. Other events I've worked at in the past had women following me from room to room "interviewing" me about random things while commenting on my legs and chest. I'm not even fit, but I'm naturally very stocky.
Complaining is pointless because whenever I do, I'm told to suck it up, man up, or whatever. That as a man I'm supposed to love this kind of attention, that it's every guy's dream to have a MILF interested in them, that I shouldn't feel threatened because of my gender and appearance and that it could've been worse. Or, that it's a cute thing older people do so just go along with it. Friends I vent to as this is happening in real time push me and the other person together, tell me to go find them, or seek them out and literally pull us together.
I feel crazy when I say this but it makes me afraid to be at certain events, or hang out with certain family members because of how consistently this happens and how it long it effects me.
I'm just so damn sick of being sexualized and objectified. I hate it so much and wish it could all go away, that I could go to these events and not want to throw up from the anxiety of waiting for it to happen eventually. It makes me sick to my stomach being objectified this way, it bugs me for days and days and days, and I feel lost with nowhere to go and no one to talk to about it. I deal with this regularly in my chosen career and this is among the reasons why I'm changing careers without knowing exactly what I want to do.
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Much older women aggressively hit on me often at special events...
New-ish account for this for personal reasons. For reference, I'm a cis guy in my early 30s. Whenever I'm at a special event where I have to...
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I came out to my mom
So earlier this morning my mom came into my room asking what the black ring I wear was about. Apparently she had seen a person at church wearing a black ring on their middle finger. I panicked and just said "it's a thing, it's a little hard to explain, but we had grazed the topic before... " she looked at me for a couple seconds, said ok and left my room.
A couple hours later I was driving with her and brought the conversation back up. I said "you know how there's straight and gay and all the other colors of the rainbow people are? Well there's also asexuality. Asexuality meaning that I don't have sexual attraction. I might do the sex one day to see what it's about but other than that, it isn't something I'm attracted to."
Of course we've had the conversation before that I'm not interested in sex and she's not likely to have grandkids, but I guess she didn't take it seriously till now as she did ask about that. She said she knew something was up since high school because I never dated and never seemed interested in doing the sex, unlike my brother who is sex obsessed. Apparently at one point she thought I might be gay, but I didn't show interest in guys either.
Of course the traditional topic of "maybe you haven't met the right person yet" came up but I just deflected it. No other aphobic talk came up, she was pretty understanding. We actually started talking about people we know who have low sex interest/could be ace. It actually turned into a fun conversation.
I did ask her to keep it quiet from the rest of the family because I don't plan on coming out to them. She can talk to her best friend about it cause they talk about everything. She is like my moms emotional support person.
So yeah, that's my coming out to my mom story. Hope yall enjoy it. Hope yall have as good an experience if you ever come out to family.
TL;DR - I came out to my mom and she was perfectly understanding.
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So earlier this morning my mom came into my room asking what the black ring I wear was about. Apparently she had seen a person at church wearing a black ring on their middle finger. I panicked and just said "it's a thing, it's a little hard to explain, but we had grazed the topic before... " she looked at me for a couple seconds, said ok and left my room.
A couple hours later I was driving with her and brought the conversation back up. I said "you know how there's straight and gay and all the other colors of the rainbow people are? Well there's also asexuality. Asexuality meaning that I don't have sexual attraction. I might do the sex one day to see what it's about but other than that, it isn't something I'm attracted to."
Of course we've had the conversation before that I'm not interested in sex and she's not likely to have grandkids, but I guess she didn't take it seriously till now as she did ask about that. She said she knew something was up since high school because I never dated and never seemed interested in doing the sex, unlike my brother who is sex obsessed. Apparently at one point she thought I might be gay, but I didn't show interest in guys either.
Of course the traditional topic of "maybe you haven't met the right person yet" came up but I just deflected it. No other aphobic talk came up, she was pretty understanding. We actually started talking about people we know who have low sex interest/could be ace. It actually turned into a fun conversation.
I did ask her to keep it quiet from the rest of the family because I don't plan on coming out to them. She can talk to her best friend about it cause they talk about everything. She is like my moms emotional support person.
So yeah, that's my coming out to my mom story. Hope yall enjoy it. Hope yall have as good an experience if you ever come out to family.
TL;DR - I came out to my mom and she was perfectly understanding.
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I came out to my mom
So earlier this morning my mom came into my room asking what the black ring I wear was about. Apparently she had seen a person at church wearing a...