Did anyone else watch Too Hot to Handle and think, what an easy way to make money
If you haven’t seen it: a bunch of singles get together on an island but can’t get sexual with each other or else they lose money. They start with a large fund and it decreases as the contestants continue to break the rules.
I remember watching it and thinking how bizarre it was that these people couldn’t keep their hands off each other. Especially when it’s basically hooking up with strangers on TV. It really became comical for me when I realized how much money they were losing each time they broke the rules.
I guess I never realized how horn dog people got for one another, even when there’s a ton of money on the line. Wish we could gather up some aces and beat the game. Who’s in for the next season of Too Hot to Handle?
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If you haven’t seen it: a bunch of singles get together on an island but can’t get sexual with each other or else they lose money. They start with a large fund and it decreases as the contestants continue to break the rules.
I remember watching it and thinking how bizarre it was that these people couldn’t keep their hands off each other. Especially when it’s basically hooking up with strangers on TV. It really became comical for me when I realized how much money they were losing each time they broke the rules.
I guess I never realized how horn dog people got for one another, even when there’s a ton of money on the line. Wish we could gather up some aces and beat the game. Who’s in for the next season of Too Hot to Handle?
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If you haven’t seen it: a bunch of singles get together on an island but can’t get sexual with each other or else they lose money. They start with...
Can we stop excluding and belittling certain experiences from asexuality!
I’ve noticed a lot of people on here stating that aces don’t experience/“are immune to” STIs, unwanted pregnancies/pregnancy scares, don’t have to take birth control, don’t have abortions, less likely to have kids, etc and we’re all somehow “lucky” we don’t have to deal with this. I’ve also seen people express their lack of empathy/sympathy towards these experiences because they are “allo” issues, because they all stem from sex. Reproductive health and experiences are not exclusive to allos. Aros and aces experience all of these things, whether through consensual or nonconsensual means. I really don’t care if these comments were made in jest or a lack of sex education. You’re actively belittling people’s lived experiences. Aces get pregnant, unwanted or wanted, they give birth and or terminate pregnancies. Aces get STIs, Aces take birth control whether for contraceptive needs or for other reproductive health needs. I’m not here to argue your view on reproductive justice/rights, I’m just asking for empathy/sympathy and if you don’t understand a situation just ask or don’t say anything at all.
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I’ve noticed a lot of people on here stating that aces don’t experience/“are immune to” STIs, unwanted pregnancies/pregnancy scares, don’t have to take birth control, don’t have abortions, less likely to have kids, etc and we’re all somehow “lucky” we don’t have to deal with this. I’ve also seen people express their lack of empathy/sympathy towards these experiences because they are “allo” issues, because they all stem from sex. Reproductive health and experiences are not exclusive to allos. Aros and aces experience all of these things, whether through consensual or nonconsensual means. I really don’t care if these comments were made in jest or a lack of sex education. You’re actively belittling people’s lived experiences. Aces get pregnant, unwanted or wanted, they give birth and or terminate pregnancies. Aces get STIs, Aces take birth control whether for contraceptive needs or for other reproductive health needs. I’m not here to argue your view on reproductive justice/rights, I’m just asking for empathy/sympathy and if you don’t understand a situation just ask or don’t say anything at all.
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Can we stop excluding and belittling certain experiences from...
I’ve noticed a lot of people on here stating that aces don’t experience/“are immune to” STIs, unwanted pregnancies/pregnancy scares, don’t have to...
I ordered avocado toast with egg at a food stand today & the lady asked if I wanted plain or garlic bread and I panicked and said garlic— then I came out to my family in the car while eating and talking about the damn g bread good 21bday y’all
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Nb/trans biromantic asexuals we are being repreeeseenteeedddd in my psych quiz 😩👌👌👌🙏🔥🔥🔥💯💯💯
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I came out to my boyfriend as Panro-ace today...
And after explaining what all of terms ment (from ace, demi, aro, pan, Omni, bi, ect.) He said 'Hey I'm aro! Wait no, I'm ace. And also I don't get romantically attracted to people very long or often unless I'm super close to them, like you. Or it's Ryan Reynolds.' we had a longer chat, and we decided the labels of demiro ace fit him best :) I'm glad to have helped him understand himself more and I'm also happy my partner in crime is not only accepting of my sexuality, but is also an ace <3.
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And after explaining what all of terms ment (from ace, demi, aro, pan, Omni, bi, ect.) He said 'Hey I'm aro! Wait no, I'm ace. And also I don't get romantically attracted to people very long or often unless I'm super close to them, like you. Or it's Ryan Reynolds.' we had a longer chat, and we decided the labels of demiro ace fit him best :) I'm glad to have helped him understand himself more and I'm also happy my partner in crime is not only accepting of my sexuality, but is also an ace <3.
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I came out to my boyfriend as Panro-ace today...
And after explaining what all of terms ment (from ace, demi, aro, pan, Omni, bi, ect.) He said 'Hey I'm aro! Wait no, I'm ace. And also I don't...
Just found out there are people who actively hate the split attraction model and made the mistake of looking into why
Gotta put a disclaimer that people can use or not use the SAM as they please, it's just a tool to talk about identity. Not everyone needs it.
So the first thing they say is that it "sexualizes people's identity". They think it implies that identifying as say bisexual would mean that their only attraction that matters is their sexual attraction. And some go as far as to say that it's as bad as straight people sexualizing queer identities. It's just such a fucking reach and no one is talking about other people when using the split attraction model.
The second thing I saw was people saying that it like adds to comphet. First thing I have to say there is that I'm bi/pan ace and the split attraction model is the thing that actually made me completely get over my comphet. Like, I never would have gotten past "but I'm not attracted to them if I don't want to have sex with them" if the SAM didn't exist. They talk about this in terms of people who have different romantic and sexual orientations that aren't ace/aro mostly though. Like the bi lesbian "discourse" and shit. And personally, I think that sexuality is messy and these people fully exist, but like even if it was just a way to avoid fully recognizing your own queerness, would people actually accept themselves without it? I think if they were looking for a way to avoid it they would be more likely to continue to identify as straight and I don't get how it's worse to have a "stepping stone." If someone is confused about their sexuality upon hearing about the split attraction model, that's called questioning and it's ok actually. There are some people who are questioning and use the wrong labels because the split attraction model exists and that sucks, but I've used the wrong labels because the word "homosexual" exists and I don't shit on people for identifying as gay.
Then there are people who say its very existence is forcing people to overanalyze their sexualities. Every resource that I found when looking into it for myself said something along the lines of "not everyone experiences attraction like this, you should only use it if it helps you make sense of things" idk if not making that clear was ever a problem, but that just means people should make it clear, not that no one should talk about it.
The last thing was just like "no one cares if you have sex/want a relationship/how you feel attraction" and honestly I'm so fucking tired. I do not live in the same world as these people.
The only actually worthwhile thing was seeing more about how non-SAM aces and aros experience things. Goddamn everything else was a waste of my time though.
Edit: I forgot "cishet people won't get it and it'll make them judge all of us" Not even going to get into that one.
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Gotta put a disclaimer that people can use or not use the SAM as they please, it's just a tool to talk about identity. Not everyone needs it.
So the first thing they say is that it "sexualizes people's identity". They think it implies that identifying as say bisexual would mean that their only attraction that matters is their sexual attraction. And some go as far as to say that it's as bad as straight people sexualizing queer identities. It's just such a fucking reach and no one is talking about other people when using the split attraction model.
The second thing I saw was people saying that it like adds to comphet. First thing I have to say there is that I'm bi/pan ace and the split attraction model is the thing that actually made me completely get over my comphet. Like, I never would have gotten past "but I'm not attracted to them if I don't want to have sex with them" if the SAM didn't exist. They talk about this in terms of people who have different romantic and sexual orientations that aren't ace/aro mostly though. Like the bi lesbian "discourse" and shit. And personally, I think that sexuality is messy and these people fully exist, but like even if it was just a way to avoid fully recognizing your own queerness, would people actually accept themselves without it? I think if they were looking for a way to avoid it they would be more likely to continue to identify as straight and I don't get how it's worse to have a "stepping stone." If someone is confused about their sexuality upon hearing about the split attraction model, that's called questioning and it's ok actually. There are some people who are questioning and use the wrong labels because the split attraction model exists and that sucks, but I've used the wrong labels because the word "homosexual" exists and I don't shit on people for identifying as gay.
Then there are people who say its very existence is forcing people to overanalyze their sexualities. Every resource that I found when looking into it for myself said something along the lines of "not everyone experiences attraction like this, you should only use it if it helps you make sense of things" idk if not making that clear was ever a problem, but that just means people should make it clear, not that no one should talk about it.
The last thing was just like "no one cares if you have sex/want a relationship/how you feel attraction" and honestly I'm so fucking tired. I do not live in the same world as these people.
The only actually worthwhile thing was seeing more about how non-SAM aces and aros experience things. Goddamn everything else was a waste of my time though.
Edit: I forgot "cishet people won't get it and it'll make them judge all of us" Not even going to get into that one.
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Just found out there are people who actively hate the split...
Gotta put a disclaimer that people can use or not use the SAM as they please, it's just a tool to talk about identity. Not everyone needs it. So...
Officially "came out" as Asexual to EVERYONE. And it went better than expected.
TL;DR:- Told everyone I was Ace. Went well.
So, I've never really been a closeted Asexual. It's not been something I'd try and hide. My close friends knew about it, and even my mother did.
But yesterday I decided to come out to pretty much my entire family and everyone I knew. I went on every boomer's favourite website, Facebook, and made a post on my wall officially stating I was Asexual, and what that really meant.
Within a few minutes my entire family had seen it. And, a day later, a ton of my friends list had. And....Damn was it overwhelmingly positive.
I didn't expect negative feedback. But I did expect a "ignore and move on" kind of response. But nah. I got supporting messages from family, friends, and even people I hadn't spoken to since Primary School.
It was kinda neat.
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TL;DR:- Told everyone I was Ace. Went well.
So, I've never really been a closeted Asexual. It's not been something I'd try and hide. My close friends knew about it, and even my mother did.
But yesterday I decided to come out to pretty much my entire family and everyone I knew. I went on every boomer's favourite website, Facebook, and made a post on my wall officially stating I was Asexual, and what that really meant.
Within a few minutes my entire family had seen it. And, a day later, a ton of my friends list had. And....Damn was it overwhelmingly positive.
I didn't expect negative feedback. But I did expect a "ignore and move on" kind of response. But nah. I got supporting messages from family, friends, and even people I hadn't spoken to since Primary School.
It was kinda neat.
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r/asexuality - Officially "came out" as Asexual to EVERYONE. And it went better than expected.
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I’ve designed a logo for the Dragon Invasion Alliance. Inspired by a post from u/3kyr a couple of days ago.
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I told my wife I’m sorta asexual…
I had a whole ass breakdown about it, finally told her, and she just goes “oh that makes sense, yeah me too”.
We have both been trying to force sex when we weren’t feeling it FOREVER, and now I just feel silly.
Anyways, I hope you are all having a great day :)
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I had a whole ass breakdown about it, finally told her, and she just goes “oh that makes sense, yeah me too”.
We have both been trying to force sex when we weren’t feeling it FOREVER, and now I just feel silly.
Anyways, I hope you are all having a great day :)
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I told my wife I’m sorta asexual…
I had a whole ass breakdown about it, finally told her, and she just goes “oh that makes sense, yeah me too”. We have both been trying to...
my boyfriend made this meme since he started T (we're both trans he/they) but I thought ya'll would appreciate it
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