I saw a pic of this cheesecake that looks like the ace flag
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I hope some of you can relate...I had this conversation a few weeks ago
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It’s nerf or nothing!
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An Offering
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A pin I ordered of the ace flag arrived today. Super happy with it!
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Just found out allo people who like a guy feel sexual attraction when said guy takes his shirt off (and apparently people actually like their celebrity crushes?)

And I’m sorry what? This entire time I thought the shirt off thing was an exaggerated trope. Then I found a “behind the scenes of a movie where the narrator talks too much” video and an actor had his shirt off for part of it. One of the top comments was about how hot they found the guy and the replies agreed. I found several talking about how they would do unspeakable things to the actor if they had a chance as well. Now here’s where a second revelation happens: people are attracted to their celebrity crushes? I assumed people were like “yeah that one looks decent, I’ll choose them.” Did anyone else not know these things or is it just me??

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If you are Canadian and asexual I will refer to you as eh-sexual and none of you can stop me!



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My asexual pants
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Tell me you’re asexual without telling me you’re asexual

Eg mine is: when my house is empty instead of inviting my girlfriend over i pretend im in my favourite musical

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I told my allo sister that I wanted to marry platonically, she called it stupid and immature

I said I wanted to get married platonically to my friend in the future and my allo sister said that was stupid. Saying that marriage is for sex and to have a family. Then when I reminded her I am asexual she said I just haven't emotionally matured yet. That even though I'm an adult, I'm acting like a 12 year old. But I will get there when I experience the real world and date people. :/ (even though I've dated before and no gender turned me on)

I ask how about when she is too old to have sex, what's the point of marriage then? She goes to say how she wants marriage to be about spending time with a person she loves the most. I then go, "Well me too! I can marry a friend and we can spend time together-" She rolls her eyes, "Well that's not the same. Marriage has to have sex at some point. Marrying a friend is unnecessary. If you two are friends then you should stay as friends. Getting married is too extreme if nothing will happen between the two of you."

She says she accepts me being asexual yet invalidates me constantly, acting like my sexuality is just a phase. Even though I've been asexual for over 7 years (since I've discovered the word for it)!! I hate fake allies.

What are your thoughts on this or have you experienced something similar?

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Is it just me or have we been taught to not differentiate romantic and sexual attraction from each other?

Pretty much as the title says. I just realized this now, because i thought of all the times i had told someone i was asexual just to be immediately met with confusion and helpful tips on how to fix it or else all my relationships would fail!

Wait what? Do they not realize that you can feel romantically about a certain person without ever wanting to sleep with them?
And then i realized that they actually don't because of how these two things are almost always presented as pretty much one thing everywhere.

So many people have been conditioned to see them as the same thing!

I even remember my own struggle i had because of this.
And trying to understand if i was truly ace just because find people to be aesthetically pleasing.

I even remember being told multiple times by others that i cannot possibly be asexual because i had a crush on someone in 3rd grade despite me being like 10 at the time. (which on its own is extremely weird to think about crushes in a sexual way when it's literally children)

I am so sorry if this is a completely useless post i just wanted to write it somewhere haha

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When I came out, I wished I had a book about asexuality to give my parents, so I made one! It just got published!!

I am so excited to say that my book, a Little Book of Ace just got published and is now on Amazon in both paperback and ebook. Here is the link: https://www.amazon.com/dp/B09B2F9BLB? It's already #1 in young adult sexuality new releases :)

What you can expect to find within:

\- Definitions

\- Illustrated concepts and analogies

\- An alphabetized identity index

\- Common misconceptions

\- Some powerful quotes from aspec individuals

\- Journal-styled reflection spaces and personalized identity expression

\- A resources and representation list

I am ecstatic to have this book out there, and quite honestly can't wait to order it myself and fill it out :') When I came out, there was nothing more I wanted than a book where I could feel fully myself and help explain somewhat complex/new ideas to people in my life. I wrote this for you, and I really hope you enjoy it.

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Friends: "How do you know so much? aren't you a virgin?" Me: "..."
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Did anyone else watch Too Hot to Handle and think, what an easy way to make money

If you haven’t seen it: a bunch of singles get together on an island but can’t get sexual with each other or else they lose money. They start with a large fund and it decreases as the contestants continue to break the rules.

I remember watching it and thinking how bizarre it was that these people couldn’t keep their hands off each other. Especially when it’s basically hooking up with strangers on TV. It really became comical for me when I realized how much money they were losing each time they broke the rules.

I guess I never realized how horn dog people got for one another, even when there’s a ton of money on the line. Wish we could gather up some aces and beat the game. Who’s in for the next season of Too Hot to Handle?

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Can we stop excluding and belittling certain experiences from asexuality!

I’ve noticed a lot of people on here stating that aces don’t experience/“are immune to” STIs, unwanted pregnancies/pregnancy scares, don’t have to take birth control, don’t have abortions, less likely to have kids, etc and we’re all somehow “lucky” we don’t have to deal with this. I’ve also seen people express their lack of empathy/sympathy towards these experiences because they are “allo” issues, because they all stem from sex. Reproductive health and experiences are not exclusive to allos. Aros and aces experience all of these things, whether through consensual or nonconsensual means. I really don’t care if these comments were made in jest or a lack of sex education. You’re actively belittling people’s lived experiences. Aces get pregnant, unwanted or wanted, they give birth and or terminate pregnancies. Aces get STIs, Aces take birth control whether for contraceptive needs or for other reproductive health needs. I’m not here to argue your view on reproductive justice/rights, I’m just asking for empathy/sympathy and if you don’t understand a situation just ask or don’t say anything at all.

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I ordered avocado toast with egg at a food stand today & the lady asked if I wanted plain or garlic bread and I panicked and said garlic— then I came out to my family in the car while eating and talking about the damn g bread good 21bday y’all
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Saw this post today, thought it fit on here
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Nb/trans biromantic asexuals we are being repreeeseenteeedddd in my psych quiz 😩👌👌👌🙏🔥🔥🔥💯💯💯
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So hot
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Who wants some spaghetti?
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I came out to my boyfriend as Panro-ace today...

And after explaining what all of terms ment (from ace, demi, aro, pan, Omni, bi, ect.) He said 'Hey I'm aro! Wait no, I'm ace. And also I don't get romantically attracted to people very long or often unless I'm super close to them, like you. Or it's Ryan Reynolds.' we had a longer chat, and we decided the labels of demiro ace fit him best :) I'm glad to have helped him understand himself more and I'm also happy my partner in crime is not only accepting of my sexuality, but is also an ace <3.

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