friendly reminder that ace & aro are 2 totally different things!!!
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So grateful to whoever made the cereal comparison!
So, I'm a sex positive ace. Which confuses many people. I was visiting with a friend recently and we got onto the topic of sex. She is incredibly sexual and literally couldn't understand why I wouldn't want sex all the time.
So, I explained it with cereal. You are hungry and go looking for cereal and get excited that you have cookie crisp. I am not hungry but I open the pantry and think that fruit loops sound OK.
She was able to understand me! It feels kind of silly to be excited about but it felt so validating to be able to explain myself and be understood. So thank you cereal person!!
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So, I'm a sex positive ace. Which confuses many people. I was visiting with a friend recently and we got onto the topic of sex. She is incredibly sexual and literally couldn't understand why I wouldn't want sex all the time.
So, I explained it with cereal. You are hungry and go looking for cereal and get excited that you have cookie crisp. I am not hungry but I open the pantry and think that fruit loops sound OK.
She was able to understand me! It feels kind of silly to be excited about but it felt so validating to be able to explain myself and be understood. So thank you cereal person!!
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So grateful to whoever made the cereal comparison!
So, I'm a sex positive ace. Which confuses many people. I was visiting with a friend recently and we got onto the topic of sex. She is incredibly...
Being ace but not aro really sucks.
I've always wanted a partner who would love and support me. Someone who's more than just a friend. But being ace just makes that feel so improbable as to be essentially impossible. Knowing that 99% of people I'll ever meet would be completely uninterested in me because of something I can't even change, something that's a core part of what makes me who I am, and that even among that one percent finding someone who is compatible and mutually interested, the odds of me finding someone are negligible at best.
It just really sucks. I wish I was aro so that I would be content with having friends, but I'm not. I'll always have this longing in my heart for something I'll never be able to have.
Thanks for reading.
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I've always wanted a partner who would love and support me. Someone who's more than just a friend. But being ace just makes that feel so improbable as to be essentially impossible. Knowing that 99% of people I'll ever meet would be completely uninterested in me because of something I can't even change, something that's a core part of what makes me who I am, and that even among that one percent finding someone who is compatible and mutually interested, the odds of me finding someone are negligible at best.
It just really sucks. I wish I was aro so that I would be content with having friends, but I'm not. I'll always have this longing in my heart for something I'll never be able to have.
Thanks for reading.
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Being ace but not aro really sucks.
I've always wanted a partner who would love and support me. Someone who's more than just a friend. But being ace just makes that feel so...
nubank is selling a new collection of LGBTQIA themed cardholders, there is also an asexual theme 💕 (the money will be donated to an NGO apparently)
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A guy in my class stopped talking to me.
In my class there's this boy and we would talk a lot(which is weird because we don't have anything in common), it was mostly him starting the conversations cuz of my anxiety. Well when the pride month started I changed my pfp to ace flag, next thing I know he stopped talking to me. Lmao fuck you.
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In my class there's this boy and we would talk a lot(which is weird because we don't have anything in common), it was mostly him starting the conversations cuz of my anxiety. Well when the pride month started I changed my pfp to ace flag, next thing I know he stopped talking to me. Lmao fuck you.
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A guy in my class stopped talking to me.
In my class there's this boy and we would talk a lot(which is weird because we don't have anything in common), it was mostly him starting the...
[OC] based on a real experience some time ago haha (swipe to read)
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Its a bit differently designed, But it still feels nice to have a ring 🖤
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Minimalistic design handmade bracelet
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Daily Memes Until I’m Out- Day 9 (I couldn’t think of any war memes)
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I have made a flag to symbolise the Union of the aces and the pans
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Can someone catch me up to speed?
I left for two weeks and suddenly we’ve conquered Denmark and are now at war with the bisexuals, I’m intrigued to say the least.
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I left for two weeks and suddenly we’ve conquered Denmark and are now at war with the bisexuals, I’m intrigued to say the least.
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Can someone catch me up to speed?
I left for two weeks and suddenly we’ve conquered Denmark and are now at war with the bisexuals, I’m intrigued to say the least.
Being asexual for me means feeling a constant sense of alienation
It was a source of distress when I was younger, but now I’m pretty happy with myself. Still it won’t change the fact that I always feel alienated from the rest of the world. I’m still just as confused as I was as a kid why putting your lips on another persons lips is a good idea.
There’s sexual imagery absolutely everywhere, and it’s a constant reminder that I’m the weird one and the world is not designed with me in mind. Apparently sex sells, which confuses me to no end. My straight friends tell me those horrifying commercials of sweaty women eating cheeseburgers really do work.
I have decided to no longer pay any attention to lyrics in music, as almost all of it is about sex and there’s nothing for me there. Frankly I’m rather grossed out at realizing all those kids singing about cake by the ocean. When I was a kid my parents took us to a journey concert. Now I’m a bit yucked out by so many kids singing “any way you want it, that’s the way you need it.” I think all music lyrics being about sex is just as devoid of creativity as christian rock.
It’s baffling that sex is so essential in a relationship. A lot of aces in relationships with allos talk about doing it for them, scheduling it to keep the relationship healthy. This is so weird to me, I’m glad for those of you that really are able to do it to make your partner happy, but I don’t think I’d be capable of it. I would be very visibly not having a good time, it seems so clinical and unpleasant.
There doesn’t seem to be many other things that would ruin a relationship if one person liked it and the other didn’t, right? Nobody is being like “Our relationship is suffering because we haven’t been playing racquetball together. Do you realize we’ve only crocheted together twice in the past 3 years? I just really don’t feel intimate with my partner if we can’t unicycle together with them.”
This is why I could never date an allo if I were to date someone, I’m incapable of understanding why sex is different from anything else.
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It was a source of distress when I was younger, but now I’m pretty happy with myself. Still it won’t change the fact that I always feel alienated from the rest of the world. I’m still just as confused as I was as a kid why putting your lips on another persons lips is a good idea.
There’s sexual imagery absolutely everywhere, and it’s a constant reminder that I’m the weird one and the world is not designed with me in mind. Apparently sex sells, which confuses me to no end. My straight friends tell me those horrifying commercials of sweaty women eating cheeseburgers really do work.
I have decided to no longer pay any attention to lyrics in music, as almost all of it is about sex and there’s nothing for me there. Frankly I’m rather grossed out at realizing all those kids singing about cake by the ocean. When I was a kid my parents took us to a journey concert. Now I’m a bit yucked out by so many kids singing “any way you want it, that’s the way you need it.” I think all music lyrics being about sex is just as devoid of creativity as christian rock.
It’s baffling that sex is so essential in a relationship. A lot of aces in relationships with allos talk about doing it for them, scheduling it to keep the relationship healthy. This is so weird to me, I’m glad for those of you that really are able to do it to make your partner happy, but I don’t think I’d be capable of it. I would be very visibly not having a good time, it seems so clinical and unpleasant.
There doesn’t seem to be many other things that would ruin a relationship if one person liked it and the other didn’t, right? Nobody is being like “Our relationship is suffering because we haven’t been playing racquetball together. Do you realize we’ve only crocheted together twice in the past 3 years? I just really don’t feel intimate with my partner if we can’t unicycle together with them.”
This is why I could never date an allo if I were to date someone, I’m incapable of understanding why sex is different from anything else.
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Being asexual for me means feeling a constant sense of alienation
It was a source of distress when I was younger, but now I’m pretty happy with myself. Still it won’t change the fact that I always feel alienated...
Attention ace council! A bisexual ambassador and I are attempting to come to a compromise! Do we ally with them? (Didn't know which flair to put)
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Turning 40 soon. This summer, I learned I am ̶ A̶s̶e̶x̶u̶a̶l̶ ̶ invading Denmark?
It's about two months since I learned that I'm Ace.
It's also my cake day, and based on the memes, pretty sure that makes it a good day to post :)
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I'm nearly 40. Ever since I was a teenager, I've been certain I was "missing something." Everything to do with flirting, sex, and sexual attraction seemed like a language I couldn't learn to speak, while every person around me was fluent.
I told myself I was 'just bad at relationships,' or that, "I just hadn't found the right person yet,' (things I now know Aces hear a lot).
I told myself, 'it's just my religious choices,' (only, other people seemed to find sex a real temptation, difficult to resist... so why wasn't it like that for me?)
I never had sexual fantasies or dreams. I had plenty of crushes, but never felt sexual desire toward them. To me, sexual desire has always seemed like just a literary device...
And when I finally did make out with a man I cared deeply about, and still felt nothing - no real pleasure, and certainly no fireworks or sudden awakenings or bursts of understanding - I was more convinced than ever that I was broken.
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I'll skip the rest, except to say: I'm so very glad to finally know I'm not.
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Reading through the FAQ's and info links from r/asexuality has been absolutely enlightening. I've read them all, followed the links, and watched loads of videos. Over and over again I find myself saying, "other people really do feel that way too?!" and "I wish I'd found all this years ago."
Thank you to all of you who represent. Who share your stories, and celebrate, and commiserate. Who fly the flag and wear black rings, and swap cake and garlic bread memes, and plot to invade Denmark. Thank you to all of you who let each other know, "we're valid! We're real! We're whole!"
I'm grateful to all of you. I wish I'd found you sooner.
I'm so very glad to say, "I'm with you."
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It's about two months since I learned that I'm Ace.
It's also my cake day, and based on the memes, pretty sure that makes it a good day to post :)
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I'm nearly 40. Ever since I was a teenager, I've been certain I was "missing something." Everything to do with flirting, sex, and sexual attraction seemed like a language I couldn't learn to speak, while every person around me was fluent.
I told myself I was 'just bad at relationships,' or that, "I just hadn't found the right person yet,' (things I now know Aces hear a lot).
I told myself, 'it's just my religious choices,' (only, other people seemed to find sex a real temptation, difficult to resist... so why wasn't it like that for me?)
I never had sexual fantasies or dreams. I had plenty of crushes, but never felt sexual desire toward them. To me, sexual desire has always seemed like just a literary device...
And when I finally did make out with a man I cared deeply about, and still felt nothing - no real pleasure, and certainly no fireworks or sudden awakenings or bursts of understanding - I was more convinced than ever that I was broken.
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I'll skip the rest, except to say: I'm so very glad to finally know I'm not.
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Reading through the FAQ's and info links from r/asexuality has been absolutely enlightening. I've read them all, followed the links, and watched loads of videos. Over and over again I find myself saying, "other people really do feel that way too?!" and "I wish I'd found all this years ago."
Thank you to all of you who represent. Who share your stories, and celebrate, and commiserate. Who fly the flag and wear black rings, and swap cake and garlic bread memes, and plot to invade Denmark. Thank you to all of you who let each other know, "we're valid! We're real! We're whole!"
I'm grateful to all of you. I wish I'd found you sooner.
I'm so very glad to say, "I'm with you."
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r/asexuality - Turning 40 soon. This summer, I learned I am ̶ A̶s̶e̶x̶u̶a̶l̶ ̶ invading Denmark?
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