[OC] first post here, but here's an ace pride magical girl!
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No sex no sex no sex no sex NO SEX
I'm done. Foot down, no exceptions, no compromises. Done. I'm ace, not aro. I feel strong attraction to other people. However, I HATE sex. I hate it. Hate every bit of it. Hate being touched like that, hate being looked at like that, hate being thought of like that, and you know what? I'm done. I have spent several relationships making compromises for my partners, fully aware that sex is a biological need for most people and I'm comfortable making compromises for the people I care about, as long as the other person understands that it IS A COMPROMISE, and I compromise out of LOVE, NOT OBLIGATION. You know what the response always is? No matter how exceptionally wonderful that person is in every other aspect, WHAT IS IT ABOUT SEX THAT TURNS ON THIS PRIMAL PART OF THE FUCKING BRAIN?!? Their personal beliefs, their personality, their morality, even their personal accountability, everything EVERYTHING about them goes out the window. I'm done having sex. Forever. I'm done. I hate it. And I hate how being "deprived" of it turns otherwise lovely people into absolute monsters. It's a stupid, useless, shitty part of humanity and I hate it and I'm done.
I'm done hearing "oh come on"
I'm done watching people's eyes roll when I say no
I'm done with people acting like I don't love them just because I don't want their stupid fucking penis shoved inside me
I'm done with being looked at as crazy when I cry afterwards because I DIDN'T WANT TO FUCKING DO THAT IN THE FIRST PLACE
I'm done with being treated like I'M the broken one
I'm done with people assuming that I "just haven't found the right person yet"
I'M DONE
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I'm done. Foot down, no exceptions, no compromises. Done. I'm ace, not aro. I feel strong attraction to other people. However, I HATE sex. I hate it. Hate every bit of it. Hate being touched like that, hate being looked at like that, hate being thought of like that, and you know what? I'm done. I have spent several relationships making compromises for my partners, fully aware that sex is a biological need for most people and I'm comfortable making compromises for the people I care about, as long as the other person understands that it IS A COMPROMISE, and I compromise out of LOVE, NOT OBLIGATION. You know what the response always is? No matter how exceptionally wonderful that person is in every other aspect, WHAT IS IT ABOUT SEX THAT TURNS ON THIS PRIMAL PART OF THE FUCKING BRAIN?!? Their personal beliefs, their personality, their morality, even their personal accountability, everything EVERYTHING about them goes out the window. I'm done having sex. Forever. I'm done. I hate it. And I hate how being "deprived" of it turns otherwise lovely people into absolute monsters. It's a stupid, useless, shitty part of humanity and I hate it and I'm done.
I'm done hearing "oh come on"
I'm done watching people's eyes roll when I say no
I'm done with people acting like I don't love them just because I don't want their stupid fucking penis shoved inside me
I'm done with being looked at as crazy when I cry afterwards because I DIDN'T WANT TO FUCKING DO THAT IN THE FIRST PLACE
I'm done with being treated like I'M the broken one
I'm done with people assuming that I "just haven't found the right person yet"
I'M DONE
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No sex no sex no sex no sex NO SEX
I'm done. Foot down, no exceptions, no compromises. Done. I'm ace, not aro. I feel strong attraction to other people. However, I HATE sex. I hate...
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Our standards for representation are way too low
I'm seeing a lot of talk about representation on this sub, and in the comments there's always people recommending shows with characters that they see as ace, and I just wanted to rant about it, cos that's not representation and its making me sad that that's what we have to settle for.
Firstly, of course characters from shows aimed at kids are asexual. They all are. It would be pretty inappropriate if spongebob turned around and admitted to having sexual feelings for squidward. That's not good representation, we shouldn't have to turn to fucking cbeebies to find a character we can somewhat relate to. Of course there's noting wrong with that, but a big part of being ace (for me at least) is how different our experiences are compared to the world around us. We deserve characters that can reflect those experiences, not just so we can relate to them but also to help us educate others and explain our side of things. The only character I've seen do this well is todd from bojack horseman. That's it. One comic relief character that doesn't even come out until halfway through the show. (to be fair tod is a great character that does a lot right, I'm just angry that he's basicly all we have)
On the topic of spongebob, characters being confirmed to be ace outside of the show is not good representation. In my opinion, the creators word means nothing more than any other fans until its said outright in the work. Dumbledoor being "confirmed" to be gay on twitter wasn't good enough, so why should we settle for the same thing? Allistor isn't ace until its said in the show, which could definitely happen considering the show isnt even out yet, but until then there's nothing to praise yet.
The anime recommendations are fine. I've got nothing against them and nothing much to say. Just that the characters that are apparently ace are never properly confirmed as such and they hardly ever depict realistic ace experiences. But I can really falt them for that since anime in general tends to be less on the nose and is instead ment to be looked into and interpreted by the viewer a bit more.
Thats it. rant over, would love to hear your opinions on this:)
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I'm seeing a lot of talk about representation on this sub, and in the comments there's always people recommending shows with characters that they see as ace, and I just wanted to rant about it, cos that's not representation and its making me sad that that's what we have to settle for.
Firstly, of course characters from shows aimed at kids are asexual. They all are. It would be pretty inappropriate if spongebob turned around and admitted to having sexual feelings for squidward. That's not good representation, we shouldn't have to turn to fucking cbeebies to find a character we can somewhat relate to. Of course there's noting wrong with that, but a big part of being ace (for me at least) is how different our experiences are compared to the world around us. We deserve characters that can reflect those experiences, not just so we can relate to them but also to help us educate others and explain our side of things. The only character I've seen do this well is todd from bojack horseman. That's it. One comic relief character that doesn't even come out until halfway through the show. (to be fair tod is a great character that does a lot right, I'm just angry that he's basicly all we have)
On the topic of spongebob, characters being confirmed to be ace outside of the show is not good representation. In my opinion, the creators word means nothing more than any other fans until its said outright in the work. Dumbledoor being "confirmed" to be gay on twitter wasn't good enough, so why should we settle for the same thing? Allistor isn't ace until its said in the show, which could definitely happen considering the show isnt even out yet, but until then there's nothing to praise yet.
The anime recommendations are fine. I've got nothing against them and nothing much to say. Just that the characters that are apparently ace are never properly confirmed as such and they hardly ever depict realistic ace experiences. But I can really falt them for that since anime in general tends to be less on the nose and is instead ment to be looked into and interpreted by the viewer a bit more.
Thats it. rant over, would love to hear your opinions on this:)
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Our standards for representation are way too low
I'm seeing a lot of talk about representation on this sub, and in the comments there's always people recommending shows with characters that they...
Acephobia in the lgbt community
Tw: SA and acephobia
I am so sick of people saying asexuals don’t experience discrimination.
It’s not a hard concept to understand. 99% of the population experience sexual attraction. We are a minority and are treated as such.
The amount of trauma I could have avoided if asexuality was treated as important as the other lgbt identities. The amount of “testing my sexuality” I could have avoided if I just heard “hey, youre not broken. You’re just asexual”. Acephobic people minimize those in the community that have experienced corrective assault.
I should be able to go into lgbt spaces and say “ ya know, being ace is hard” without feeling like theres judgement.
I’m panromantic, but I hate the heteroromantic hate. Even if your straight passing, navigating a world filled with sex as an asexual is rough.
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Tw: SA and acephobia
I am so sick of people saying asexuals don’t experience discrimination.
It’s not a hard concept to understand. 99% of the population experience sexual attraction. We are a minority and are treated as such.
The amount of trauma I could have avoided if asexuality was treated as important as the other lgbt identities. The amount of “testing my sexuality” I could have avoided if I just heard “hey, youre not broken. You’re just asexual”. Acephobic people minimize those in the community that have experienced corrective assault.
I should be able to go into lgbt spaces and say “ ya know, being ace is hard” without feeling like theres judgement.
I’m panromantic, but I hate the heteroromantic hate. Even if your straight passing, navigating a world filled with sex as an asexual is rough.
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Acephobia in the lgbt community
Tw: SA and acephobia I am so sick of people saying asexuals don’t experience discrimination. It’s not a hard concept to understand. 99% of the...
Denmark is just the beginning, a spot to breed our army of super dragons.
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