Is it normal to hate my asexuality, aromanticism?
So I'm starting to accept my asexuality/ aromanticism. I'm still not 100% sure tho, but I waited a long time like "C'mon man, feel some sexual tension or romance or anything like that, you did in the past what the fuck is wrong with you?" and nothing happened. Sometimes I'm okay with it like that's just how it is end of story but other times I fucking hate it. I'm thinking about family and wife and shit, like I want it but nah I don't. I want the happines that it holds, and I don't know where can I find it elsewhere. When I thought about life as a child it was a clear path. Learn, go to university, get a job, have a family, be happy. And now it's just a big empty space. You get a job you are like 25 and now what? I hate that I couldn't choose any of it.
I'm sorry if this is disrespectful, I'm just so confused I didn't know where to post this.
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So I'm starting to accept my asexuality/ aromanticism. I'm still not 100% sure tho, but I waited a long time like "C'mon man, feel some sexual tension or romance or anything like that, you did in the past what the fuck is wrong with you?" and nothing happened. Sometimes I'm okay with it like that's just how it is end of story but other times I fucking hate it. I'm thinking about family and wife and shit, like I want it but nah I don't. I want the happines that it holds, and I don't know where can I find it elsewhere. When I thought about life as a child it was a clear path. Learn, go to university, get a job, have a family, be happy. And now it's just a big empty space. You get a job you are like 25 and now what? I hate that I couldn't choose any of it.
I'm sorry if this is disrespectful, I'm just so confused I didn't know where to post this.
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Is it normal to hate my asexuality, aromanticism?
So I'm starting to accept my asexuality/ aromanticism. I'm still not 100% sure tho, but I waited a long time like "C'mon man, feel some sexual...
Does anyone else get weird vibes from the way asexuality is talked about in LGBT spaces?
Maybe it's just me but while I feel like I've been seeing ace folks get brought up alot more in pride discourse this year which is good but alot of it feels really weird and infantilizing. It feels like I just see alot of allosexual people make jokes about aces not knowing anything about sex, or variations on the joke about ace people eating garlic bread instead of having sex, which is kind of funny I guess when ace people make those jokes but it really feels like people are minimizing aces ability to have complex feelings around sex and sexual situations. I also feel like alot of allosexual people like to call themselves allies and tell other people what asexuality is without actually understanding how it works themselves. I barely ever see anyone bring up that aces can still feel aesthetic attraction and think that someone is really pretty but from what I've seen of how most people talk about it people don't even care enough to learn about that, they just kinda say "Aces don't want sex" and call it a day. Even in some of the ace subs it's not uncommon for someone to post a meme where the entire joke is that someone mis-understood a sexual situation and thought it was about Legos or some shit with the caption "I'm not ace but this made me think of you guys" and it's just so weird to me that people see a meme where the entire joke is that it's weird to not want sex and think "yeah this is the kinda stuff asexuals think is funny". Like I said maybe it's just me, but I guess I just wanted to vent about it
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Maybe it's just me but while I feel like I've been seeing ace folks get brought up alot more in pride discourse this year which is good but alot of it feels really weird and infantilizing. It feels like I just see alot of allosexual people make jokes about aces not knowing anything about sex, or variations on the joke about ace people eating garlic bread instead of having sex, which is kind of funny I guess when ace people make those jokes but it really feels like people are minimizing aces ability to have complex feelings around sex and sexual situations. I also feel like alot of allosexual people like to call themselves allies and tell other people what asexuality is without actually understanding how it works themselves. I barely ever see anyone bring up that aces can still feel aesthetic attraction and think that someone is really pretty but from what I've seen of how most people talk about it people don't even care enough to learn about that, they just kinda say "Aces don't want sex" and call it a day. Even in some of the ace subs it's not uncommon for someone to post a meme where the entire joke is that someone mis-understood a sexual situation and thought it was about Legos or some shit with the caption "I'm not ace but this made me think of you guys" and it's just so weird to me that people see a meme where the entire joke is that it's weird to not want sex and think "yeah this is the kinda stuff asexuals think is funny". Like I said maybe it's just me, but I guess I just wanted to vent about it
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Does anyone else get weird vibes from the way asexuality is talked...
Maybe it's just me but while I feel like I've been seeing ace folks get brought up alot more in pride discourse this year which is good but alot...
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I saw a post on poledancing on this sub and wanted to add myself as asexual poledancer to this discussion.
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I'm not really ace at all, and I don't think I ever was.
I guess it was just a placeholder while I figured things out. I got a little too comfortable with the label, it was a safe in-between.
I knew for sure I wasn't a straight girl and thinking of myself like that made me feel really weird for some reason. I didn't think I was a lesbian either, because I didn't like women that way. So what was I?
It turns out it was the gender part that was wrong, not the attraction. I'm a gay man. It took me a long time to understand and accept that.
I must say goodbye to this community, and thank you for all the support you've offered me throughout the years. I am really glad that you have words to describe yourselves, and I do still strongly believe that asexuality is real and valid, it just wasn't me.
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I guess it was just a placeholder while I figured things out. I got a little too comfortable with the label, it was a safe in-between.
I knew for sure I wasn't a straight girl and thinking of myself like that made me feel really weird for some reason. I didn't think I was a lesbian either, because I didn't like women that way. So what was I?
It turns out it was the gender part that was wrong, not the attraction. I'm a gay man. It took me a long time to understand and accept that.
I must say goodbye to this community, and thank you for all the support you've offered me throughout the years. I am really glad that you have words to describe yourselves, and I do still strongly believe that asexuality is real and valid, it just wasn't me.
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I'm not really ace at all, and I don't think I ever was.
I guess it was just a placeholder while I figured things out. I got a little too comfortable with the label, it was a safe in-between. I knew...
Guys!!! I am changing my phone theme to Eeveelutions and I found this image by lvstarlitsky. I have no idea if this was intentional but I am so excited to use this wallpaper!!
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VENT : NO, I DO NOT WANT TO "TRY" IT!
Hello all! Hope you are all doing well and are safe! I just wanted to vent anonymously about the reaction I receive when I share or open up about my sexual orientation.
I absolutely loathe those people who tell me "but you need to try it out first to find out if you like it or not". Like, what the hell? How do you know if you are straight? Did you try out same-sex and come to the conclusion that you are straight and attracted to the opposite-sex? It's so annoying. Also, as someone who isn't sexually attracted to anyone, I don't want to "try" it because it would be awkward and bad for the other person. Ever thought of that?
And now, to those who say, "You just need to get laid or railed, or you just need to a good fuck," and other such nonsense. Sorry, but you don't sound cool. Rather, these words make my skin crawl in disgust and horror. Please. For god's sake. Or, to those who claim, "you just haven't met the right person yet". Sorry, what? You think the right person will be the one who will convince me that my identity is false? Then, maybe you also haven't met the right opposite-gender yet, as a straight person? Maybe you should put yourself out there and "try". How uncomfortable would you feel if I said this to you, huh? Ever thought about that?
No, it is not a disease that I am not sexually attracted to you all. And, how does it affect you at all that there's one human being who doesn't want to have sex? Are you in danger of being harmed or suffering any damages? How difficult is it for you to accept a "no"? No! I am not confused. I am pretty sure I don't feel anything sexually at all when I see you. It's not an offence. It is my orientation. And, you are free to leave, my friend, if it is a deal-breaker for you. No need to take my orientation as a challenge and think that "I will change this person". It's disgusting and extremely uncomfortable. I feel like throwing up when someone says that. Leave me alone, please. I am who I am. I don't need to be "changed". I am not depressed that I don't feel sexual attraction. I don't feel that there is something wrong with me. But, if you think there's something wrong with me, there's definitely something wrong with you!
How could you all be so freaking threatened by a person who doesn't want sex? Like, we are not even doing anything (literally!).
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Hello all! Hope you are all doing well and are safe! I just wanted to vent anonymously about the reaction I receive when I share or open up about my sexual orientation.
I absolutely loathe those people who tell me "but you need to try it out first to find out if you like it or not". Like, what the hell? How do you know if you are straight? Did you try out same-sex and come to the conclusion that you are straight and attracted to the opposite-sex? It's so annoying. Also, as someone who isn't sexually attracted to anyone, I don't want to "try" it because it would be awkward and bad for the other person. Ever thought of that?
And now, to those who say, "You just need to get laid or railed, or you just need to a good fuck," and other such nonsense. Sorry, but you don't sound cool. Rather, these words make my skin crawl in disgust and horror. Please. For god's sake. Or, to those who claim, "you just haven't met the right person yet". Sorry, what? You think the right person will be the one who will convince me that my identity is false? Then, maybe you also haven't met the right opposite-gender yet, as a straight person? Maybe you should put yourself out there and "try". How uncomfortable would you feel if I said this to you, huh? Ever thought about that?
No, it is not a disease that I am not sexually attracted to you all. And, how does it affect you at all that there's one human being who doesn't want to have sex? Are you in danger of being harmed or suffering any damages? How difficult is it for you to accept a "no"? No! I am not confused. I am pretty sure I don't feel anything sexually at all when I see you. It's not an offence. It is my orientation. And, you are free to leave, my friend, if it is a deal-breaker for you. No need to take my orientation as a challenge and think that "I will change this person". It's disgusting and extremely uncomfortable. I feel like throwing up when someone says that. Leave me alone, please. I am who I am. I don't need to be "changed". I am not depressed that I don't feel sexual attraction. I don't feel that there is something wrong with me. But, if you think there's something wrong with me, there's definitely something wrong with you!
How could you all be so freaking threatened by a person who doesn't want sex? Like, we are not even doing anything (literally!).
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VENT : NO, I DO NOT WANT TO "TRY" IT!
Hello all! Hope you are all doing well and are safe! I just wanted to vent anonymously about the reaction I receive when I share or open up about...