If you come from a dysfunctional family, stop taking relationship advice from someone who comes from a functional family. You both have completely different perceptions of love and relationships.

A person from a functional family has a healthy attachment style. Their brain has developed since childhood to have a good understanding of attachment.

If you are from a dysfunctional family, your brain has been deprived of that healthy development. So you cannot compare yourself to your friends who are in relationships or navigating them with ease.

The relationship advice and healing approach for someone from a functional family versus a dysfunctional family is completely different.

Stop comparing yourself to the rest of the world if you come from a dysfunctional family, because the very foundation of attachment can be distorted at a neurological level.

https://music.youtube.com/watch?v=43wT0xhvfsA&t=187

People often underestimate how much exhausted minds need rhythm before hope becomes believable again.

I reached for witness, got advice.
I reached for understanding, got solutions.
I reached while drowning, got swimming lessons.
Nobody noticed I was asking to be held.

वादा हो, शीशा हो, धागा हो, सांसें हों
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