Much is written on Fet about red flags, which got me thinking. How do we identify the good stuff in a potential kinky play/ relationship partner when we see it? What’s a green flag?

Here are 17 of mine, in no particular order, would love to know yours too:

1. They're happy to answer questions and ask questions about you.
2. Will meet you in public.
3. Is easily referenced or vetted.
4. Wants to establish a friendship before kink play.
5. Is up-front about requesting and providing relevant health information.
6. Encourages communication especially around personal safety. Gives positive reinforcement for this.
7. There are no off-limits topics in areas that can impact physical safety or mental health.
8. They respect you as a person above all else. No kink dispenser/ punching bag mentality.
9. Actually knows how to communicate. In words, written messages, agreed non-verbal signals - ways that get the job done. None of this lazy “you should know what I’m thinking” bullshit.
10. Can laugh at themselves. Is able to identify their own flaws/ shortcomings/ learning areas.
11. Demonstrates confidence to speak up when boundaries are being infringed or opinions differ.
12. Consent is a concept integrated into their behaviour. Not something reserved for special occasions.
13. They know why they’re here.
14. A focus on fun for EVERYONE participating.
15. Has a plan for when shit hits the fan. Knows that despite the best planning, this can happen. Doesn’t assume they’re too perfect for this to occur.
16. Loves a post-play debrief.
17. Considers your aftercare needs and theirs as an integral topic.

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Frohes neues! aka, Happy New Year everyone!~

It has come to the attention of the admin that a popular latex suit maker is run by a very active member of the AfD. The AfD is a far right German Political Party. As such this group does not recommend doing business with Fantastic Rubber of Berlin under the ownership of Peter Pick.

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This legally required part of their website lists him as "CEO":
https://www.fantasticrubber.de/de/impressum-agbs

This news post by the local AfD chapter congratulates him on being elected 2nd chairman:
https://panketal-afd.de/2021/09/05/panketaler-afd-waehlt-neuen-vorstand/

PSA to watch out for fetish brands selling Chinese FMJ08 masks labeled as "S10.2".
While their design is a clone of the original S10, they're not made by Avon and are still in active use - and as such command nowhere near the price as listed by these companies.

https://www.rubberium.com/blog/shady-marketing-practices-of-rubber-vendors

General question about the management of these channels - how do you feel about "sale" posts such as this: https://t.me/ShinyDragons/1452
I'm going to post a poll in the next message for an overall response, but please also use the 👍 and 👎 reactions on this message in each channel for a more channel-specific opinion. The poll is going to have a few ideas for how it could work (multiple choice), so please use the reactions for your general feeling about it.