Suspicion is a Snare… So Beware of Approaching!

Beware—may Allaah protect you—from casting your eyes upon writings teeming with doubts, or lending your ears to poisoned pens, without the intention of refuting or warning against them. For the heart is weak, suspicion is a snare, and when trials come, none recognize them except those firmly grounded in knowledge.

How many a reader entered the arena of doubt merely as a spectator, only to leave with certainty torn apart; and how many gazed upon falsehood without the weapon of knowledge, only to be cast down into the depths of misguidance.

So place your heart within a fortified stronghold, and close off the gates of hearing and sight to anything that might disturb the purity of your Eemaann(faith). Know that nothing equals safety, and that whoever lingers around the forbidden pasture is soon to fall into it.

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Fresh Picked Fruits from the Narrations of the Salaf

A Foreword by the Esteemed Shaykh Saleem Ibnu Eid Al-Hilali - May Allaah preserve him

بســـم اللــه الرحــمــن الـرحـــيــم

All praise is due to Allaah, as He truly deserves to be praised. And may peace and blessings be upon His Prophet and servant, and upon his family and companions. To proceed:

Indeed, this treatise that is before you contains Salafi gems, meticulously arranged by a knowledgeable hand, bringing forth for us these brilliant jewels.

The benefits are so interconnected that one hardly finishes from one benefit except longing eagerly on to its sister (next benefit), until one reaches the end of this blessed treatise.

I read the entirety of it during our journey from Sana'a to Dar Al-Hadith in Dammaj Al-Khair (The Blessed Dammaj); to visit our Salafi brothers there, to support them, and to strengthen them upon the Sunnah.

And I found this treatise to be even better than I have described, as expression at times falls short of fully conveying the intent— This is especially true since our brother, Shaykh Muhammad Ibnu Mani' - may Allaah preserve him - is among those in whom we witnessed abundant goodness during the time we spent together in blessed Yemen, both on our first and second journeys.

Therefore, I ask Allah, the Most High, the Exalted, by His Most Beautiful Names and Lofty Attributes, to make this treatise a beacon of truth for all Salafis. And may He reward our brother, Shaykh Muhammad Ibnu Mani', with abundant goodness, grant him health and well-being, bless his efforts, and rectify his offspring.

Indeed, He is the Guardian of that and the One capable of it. And our final prayer is that all praise is due to Allah, Lord of the Worlds.

Written by
Abu Usamah Saleem Shaykh Saleem Ibnu Eid Al-Hilali
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Fresh Picked Fruits from the Narrations of the Salaf

A Foreword by the Esteemed Shaykh Saleem Ibnu Eid Al-Hilali - May Allaah preserve him

بســـم اللــه الرحــمــن الـرحـــيــم

All praise is due to Allaah, as He truly deserves to be praised. And may peace and blessings be upon His Prophet and servant, and upon his family and companions. To proceed:

Indeed, this treatise that is before you contains Salafi gems, meticulously arranged by a knowledgeable hand, bringing forth for us these brilliant jewels.

The benefits are so interconnected that one hardly finishes from one benefit except longing eagerly on to its sister (next benefit), until one reaches the end of this blessed treatise.

I read the entirety of it during our journey from Sana'a to Dar Al-Hadith in Dammaj Al-Khair (The Blessed Dammaj); to visit our Salafi brothers there, to support them, and to strengthen them upon the Sunnah.

And I found this treatise to be even better than I have described, as expression at times falls short of fully conveying the intent— This is especially true since our brother, Shaykh Muhammad Ibnu Mani' - may Allaah preserve him - is among those in whom we witnessed abundant goodness during the time we spent together in blessed Yemen, both on our first and second journeys.

Therefore, I ask Allah, the Most High, the Exalted, by His Most Beautiful Names and Lofty Attributes, to make this treatise a beacon of truth for all Salafis. And may He reward our brother, Shaykh Muhammad Ibnu Mani', with abundant goodness, grant him health and well-being, bless his efforts, and rectify his offspring.

Indeed, He is the Guardian of that and the One capable of it. And our final prayer is that all praise is due to Allah, Lord of the Worlds.

Written by
Abu Usamah Saleem Shaykh Saleem Ibnu Eid Al-Hilali
Dar Al-Hadith in Dammaj - Sa'dah - Yemen
Saturday: The second of Dhul-Qa'dah, 1431 AH.

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O Husband, O Father, Beware Of Being A Mutaffif (one who cheats by taking full rights but giving less in return).

The esteemed Shaykh Al-Allāmah, , Muḥammad Ibnu Ṣāliḥ Al-ʿUthaymīn - may Allah have mercy on him - said:

For example, the husband wants his wife to give him his right in full and is not lenient in anything regarding his right, but when it comes to fulfilling her rights, he is careless and does not give her what is due to her.

How many women complain about this type of husband - and we seek refuge with Allaah - where many women have husbands who want them to fulfill their rights completely, yet they themselves do not give them their full rights.

They may even deprive them of most of their rights, whether it be financial support, good companionship, or other matters.

What is strange, my brothers, is that this is often found among people whose outward appearance shows adherence to the religion.

Some women even say, “I did not choose him; I was told he is good, with a good reputation and adherence to the religion.”

Then, to her surprise, he turns out to be worse towards his wife than the openly sinful people.

I do not know about these people who outwardly appear committed to the religion – do they think that being religious means only worshipping Allaah while neglecting the rights of His creation? That it means worshipping Allaah but wasting or depriving people’s rights?

Oppressing people is more serious than a person wronging himself with regard to the rights of Allaah. Because wronging oneself in Allaah’s rights (if it is less than shirk) is under Allaah’s Will - if He wills, He forgives it, and if He wills, He punishes for it.

But the rights of other people are not under the Divine Will; they must be repaid.

That is why the Prophet ﷺ said:

"Do you know who is poor bankrupt person? They (the Companions of the Holy Prophet) said: A poor bankrupt person amongst us is one who has neither dirham with him nor wealth. He (the Prophet ﷺ) replied : The poor bankrupt person of my Ummah would be he who would would come on the Day of Resurrection with salah and fasts and Zakat but (he would find himself bankrupt on that day as he would have exhausted his funds of virtues) since he hurled abuses upon others, brought calumny against others and unlawfully consumed the wealth of others and shed the blood of others and beat others, and his virtues would be credited to the account of those (who suffered at his hand). And if his good deeds fall short to clear their account before justice is fulfilled, then their sins would be entered in (his account) and he would be thrown in the fire.” Abu Hurayrah رضي الله عنه narrated it and Muslim 2581 transmitted it.

عَنْ أَبِي هُرَيْرَةَ رضي الله عنه أَنَّ رَسُولَ اللَّهِ صَلَّى اللَّهُ عَلَيْهِ وَسَلَّمَ قَالَ : " أَتَدْرُونَ مَا الْمُفْلِسُ ؟ " قَالُوا : الْمُفْلِسُ فِينَا مَنْ لَا دِرْهَمَ لَهُ وَلَا مَتَاعَ. فَقَالَ : " إِنَّ الْمُفْلِسَ مِنْ أُمَّتِي يَأْتِي يَوْمَ الْقِيَامَةِ بِصَلَاةٍ وَصِيَامٍ وَزَكَاةٍ، وَيَأْتِي قَدْ شَتَمَ هَذَا، وَقَذَفَ هَذَا، وَأَكَلَ مَالَ هَذَا، وَسَفَكَ دَمَ هَذَا، وَضَرَبَ هَذَا ؛ فَيُعْطَى هَذَا مِنْ حَسَنَاتِهِ، وَهَذَا مِنْ حَسَنَاتِهِ، فَإِنْ فَنِيَتْ حَسَنَاتُهُ قَبْلَ أَنْ يُقْضَى مَا عَلَيْهِ ؛ أُخِذَ مِنْ خَطَايَاهُمْ فَطُرِحَتْ عَلَيْهِ، ثُمَّ طُرِحَ فِي النَّارِ ". رواه مسلم ٢٥٨١.

My advice to those who neglect their wives’ rights - whether they appear sticking to the Deen or not - is to have taqwaa of Allaah the Mighty and Majestic.

For the Prophet ﷺ gave this advice in the greatest gathering witnessed by the Islamic world during his lifetime – on the Day of ʿArafah during the Farewell Pilgrimage. He said:

"Have Taqwaa of Allaah regarding women, for you have taken them as a trust from Allaah, and have made their private parts lawful to you by the word of Allaah.”

" فَاتَّقُوا اللَّهَ فِي النِّسَاءِ، فَإِنَّكُمْ أَخَذْتُمُوهُنَّ بِأَمَانِ اللَّهِ، وَاسْتَحْلَلْتُمْ فُرُوجَهُنَّ بِكَلِمَةِ اللَّهِ " أخرجه مسلم ١٢١٨.

He also said:

“Have Taqwaa regarding women, for they are captives with you.”

"اتَّقُوا اللَّهَ فِي النِّسَاءِ؛ فَإِنَّهُنَّ عَوَانٍ عِنْدَكُمْ". أخرجه أحمد (٢٠٦٩٥)

Meaning, they are like captives in your care – for a captive remains under the control of the one who captured him; he may release him or keep him. Likewise, the woman is under the authority of her husband; if he wills, he keeps her, and if he wills, he divorces her. So he must have Taqwaa of Allaah regarding her.


We also find some people wanting their children to give them their full rights, yet they neglect their children’s rights. They want their children to be dutiful to them – with their wealth, their physical help, and everything that filial piety or righteousness entails – yet they themselves fail in fulfilling their obligations towards their children.

We say: this person is a mutaffif – just like in the first case with the husband and wife. If the husband wants his wife to fulfill his rights completely while he diminishes hers, we call him a mutaffif. Likewise, a father who wants his children to show him perfect obedience while he neglects their rights is a mufaffif.

We say to him: remember the saying of Allah the Most High:


{ وَیۡلࣱ لِّلۡمُطَفِّفِینَ (1) ٱلَّذِینَ إِذَا ٱكۡتَالُوا۟ عَلَى ٱلنَّاسِ یَسۡتَوۡفُونَ (2) وَإِذَا كَالُوهُمۡ أَو وَّزَنُوهُمۡ یُخۡسِرُونَ (3) }
[Surah Al-Muṭaffifīn: 1-3]

“Woe to those who give less [than due], those who, when they take a measure from people, take in full. But if they give them by measure or by weight, they cause loss.”
(Sūrat al-Muṭaffifīn, 83:1-3)

From Tafsīr of Sūrah Al-Muṭaffifīn

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All the hypocrites are Muslims in Appearance

Ibnu Taymiyyah رحمه الله said

A man being outwardly Muslim does not prevent him from being a hypocrite inwardly; for all the hypocrites were Muslims in appearance, and the Qur’aan has clarified their traits and rulings. And if they existed during the time of the Messenger of Allaah ﷺ, at the height of Islaam’s strength, with the signs of Prophethood and the light of Revelation manifest, then their presence - being farther away from that time - is even more intense, especially since the cause of hypocrisy is the same as the cause of disbelief: (which is) opposition to what the Messengers brought.
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A Dip in Paradise

Reflect - may Allaah preserve you - upon the hadeeth of Anas Ibnu Mālik رضي الله عنه, who said: The Messenger of Allaah ﷺ said:

"The most privileged person in the world, from among the people of the Fire, will be brought on the Day of Resurrection, and he will be dipped once into the Fire. Then it will be said to him: ‘O son of Aadam, did you ever see any good? Did you ever experience any blessing?’ He will say: ‘No, I swear by Allaah, my Lord, never.’

And the most miserable person in the world, from among the people of Paradise, will be brought and dipped once into Paradise. Then it will be said to him: ‘O son of Aadam, did you ever see any misery? Did any hardship ever befall you?’ He will say: ‘No, I swear by Allaah, my Lord, I never experienced misery and never saw hardship at all.’" Muslim transmitted it 2807.


عن أَنَسِ بْنِ مَالِكٍ رضي الله عنه، قال: قال رسولُ الله ﷺ: «يُؤْتَى بِأَنْعَمِ أَهْلِ الدُّنْيَا مِنْ أَهْلِ النَّارِ يَوْمَ الْقِيَامَةِ، فَيُصْبَغُ فِي النَّارِ صَبْغَةً، ثُمَّ يُقَالُ: يَا ابْنَ آدَمَ، هَلْ رَأَيْتَ خَيْرًا قَطُّ؟ هَلْ مَرَّ بِكَ نَعِيمٌ قَطُّ؟ فَيَقُولُ: لَا وَاللَّهِ يَا رَبِّ.

وَيُؤْتَى بِأَشَدِّ النَّاسِ بُؤْسًا فِي الدُّنْيَا مِنْ أَهْلِ الْجَنَّةِ، فَيُصْبَغُ صَبْغَةً فِي الْجَنَّةِ، فَيُقَالُ لَهُ: يَا ابْنَ آدَمَ، هَلْ رَأَيْتَ بُؤْسًا قَطُّ؟ هَلْ مَرَّ بِكَ شِدَّةٌ قَطُّ؟ فَيَقُولُ: لَا وَاللَّهِ يَا رَبِّ، مَا مَرَّ بِي بُؤْسٌ قَطُّ، وَلَا رَأَيْتُ شِدَّةً قَطُّ» أخرجه مسلم ٢٨٠٧.

What a majestic scene!

A single dip in Paradise is enough to erase from a servant’s memory every pain he ever endured, and to remove from his heart every sorrow, as though he were born into bliss and never knew hardship nor grief.

And a single moment in the Fire is enough to wipe away all memories of worldly enjoyment from its people, leaving them only with regret and despair.

So, O servant of Allaah, however heavy your worries today, however severe your trials; remember that a little patience upon obedience, patience in restraining from sin, and patience upon affliction is enough - by Allah’s permission - to lead you to a single dip that will make you forget every misery you ever faced in your dunyaa (world).

A Poem:
It is but a few days...
And what is it, except days that will soon pass,
And blessed is the one who reaches the end with perseverance.

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◾️The Truth is That Which The First Generation (of the Early Muslim) Community Was Upon◾️

بســـم اللــه الرحــمــن الـرحـــيــم

📤 Benefit from the Shaykh Abu Ibraaheem Muhammad Ibnu Maani 'Al-Aanisi - may Allaah preserve him: 

The truth is that which the first generation (of the early Muslim) community was upon.

Imām Abū Shāmah (رحمه الله) said:

"Wherever the command to adhere to the Jamā‘ah (the group) has come, the intent is adherence to the truth and following it, even if those who hold fast to it are few, and those who oppose it are many. For the truth is that which the first Jamā‘ah was upon, in the time of the Messenger of Allaah ﷺ and his Companions (رضي الله عنهم).

And no consideration is given to the large number of the people of falsehood after them." Al-Bā‘ith ‘alā Inkār Al-Bida‘ wal-Hawādith.

A man said to Ḥudhayfah (رضي الله عنه): “Advise me.”
He replied:

“Hold fast to what you are upon today, for it is the clear path.” Al-Iḥkām fī Uṣūl Al-Aḥkām by Ibnu Ḥazmi (رحمه الله)

From the Way of the Salafī:

Loving the Companions (رضي الله عنهم), Making du'a tharlt Allaah should be pleased with them, believing that they are the best of creation after the Prophets.

Allaah The Exalted says:

لَقَدْ رَضِيَ اللَّهُ عَنِ الْمُؤْمِنِينَ إِذْ يُبَايِعُونَكَ تَحْتَ الشَّجَرَةِ فَعَلِمَ مَا فِي قُلُوبِهِمْ فَأَنْزَلَ السَّكِينَةَ عَلَيْهِمْ وَأَثَابَهُمْ فَتْحًا قَرِيبًا
(“Indeed, Allaah was pleased with the believers when they gave you the pledge under the tree. He knew what was in their hearts, so He sent down tranquility upon them and rewarded them with a near victory.”) Al-Fatḥ: 18

And He the Glorified said:

وَالَّذِينَ جَاءُوا مِنْ بَعْدِهِمْ يَقُولُونَ رَبَّنَا اغْفِرْ لَنَا وَلِإِخْوَانِنَا الَّذِينَ سَبَقُونَا بِالْإِيمَانِ
(“And those who came after them say: ‘Our Lord, forgive us and our brothers who preceded us in Eemaan (faith)’”) Al-Ḥashr: 10


Imām Aḥmad (رحمه الله) said:
Sufyān narrated to us, from ‘Umar, who said: I heard Jābir (رضي الله عنه) say:

كنا يوم الحديبية ألفًا وأربعمائة فقال لنا رسول الله ﷺ أنتم اليوم خير أهل الأرض.
“We were at al-Ḥudaybiyyah, numbering one thousand four hundred. The Messenger of Allaah ﷺ said to us: ‘You are today the best people on the face of the earth.’”

Ibnu Ḥazm (رحمه الله) said:
“The Companions - all of them are certainly from the people of Paradise.”

Allaah the Exalted says:

لَا يَسْتَوِي مِنْكُمْ مَنْ أَنْفَقَ مِنْ قَبْلِ الْفَتْحِ وَقَاتَلَ ۚ أُولَٰئِكَ أَعْظَمُ دَرَجَةً مِنَ الَّذِينَ أَنْفَقُوا مِنْ بَعْدُ وَقَاتَلُوا ۚ وَكُلًّا وَعَدَ اللَّهُ الْحُسْنَىٰ.
(“Not equal are those among you who spent before the conquest and fought - they are greater in rank than those who spent afterwards and fought. But to each Allah has promised al-Ḥusnā (the best reward).”) Al-Ḥadīd: 10

And He the Exalted said:

إِنَّ الَّذِينَ سَبَقَتْ لَهُمْ مِنَّا الْحُسْنَىٰ أُولَٰئِكَ عَنْهَا مُبْعَدُونَ
(“Indeed, those for whom the best [reward] has preceded from Us, they will be kept far removed from it (the Hellfire).”) Al-Anbiyā’: 101

Thus, it is established that all of them are from the people of Paradise, and none of them will enter the Fire, for they are addressed by these verses. Al-Iṣābah and Fatḥ Al-Mughīth.

And the virtue of companionship (of the Prophet ﷺ) can never be attained by anyone who came after them.

Imām Aḥmad (رحمه الله) narrated:
Abū Mu‘āwiyah narrated to us, from Al-A‘mash, from Abū Ṣāliḥ, from Abū Sa‘īd al-Khudrī (رضي الله عنه), that the Messenger of Allaah ﷺ said:

لا تسبوا أصحابي، فإن أحدكم لو أنفق مثل أُحد ذهبًا ما بلغ مُدَّ أحدهم ولا نصيفه
“Do not abuse my Companions. For by the One in Whose Hand is my soul, if one of you were to spend the like of Mount Uḥud in gold, it would not equal a mudd (small measure) that one of them spent, nor even half of it.”

And Ibnu Abi Aasim رحمه الله said in the Sunnah, that Abu Bakrin Ibnu Abi Shaybah narrated from Waqi' from Sufyaan from Nusayb Ibnu Da'luq, he heard Ibnu Umar رضي الله عنهما say

لا تسبوا أصحاب محمد، فلمقام أحدهم ساعة خير من عمل أحدكم عمره
“Do not abuse the Companions of Muhammad ﷺ. For indeed, the standing of one of them for an hour is better than the lifetime of your deeds.” an authentic chain.

These evidences establish the great virtue of the Companions (رضي الله عنهم), and that love of the Companions is a sign of Eemaan (faith), while hatred of the Companions is a sign of nifāq (hypocrisy).


In the ḥadīth of al-Barā’ (رضي الله عنه):

آية الإيمان حب الأنصار، وآية النفاق بغض الأنصار
“The sign of faith is love of the Anṣār, and the sign of hypocrisy is hatred of the Anṣār.”

‘Abdullāh ibn Aḥmad said:
“I asked my father (Imām Aḥmad): Who are the Rāfiḍah?”

He replied:

الذي يشتم رجلاً من أصحاب رسول الله ﷺ أو يتعرض لهم، ما أراه على الإسلام
“He who reviles a man from the Companions of the Messenger of Allah ﷺ, or speaks against them, and I do not see him to be upon Islām.” Tārīkh Al-Islām of Adh-Dhahabī.

And Imām Aḥmad — he is the one about whom ‘Alī ibn al-Madīnī (رحمه الله) said:

> إن الله عز هذا الدين بأبي بكر يوم الردة، وبأحمد بن حنبل يوم المحنة
“Indeed, Allah honored this religion by Abū Bakrin on the Day of Apostasy, and by Aḥmad Ibnu Ḥanbal on the Day of Trial (of the creation of the Qur'aan).” Tārīkh Al-Islām.



And indeed, Ahlus-Sunnah would migrate away from a land in which the Salaf (رضي الله عنهم) were insulted or cursed.

Al-Mughīrah Ibnu Muqsim said:

خرج حنظلة الكاتب وجرير وعدي بن حاتم من الكوفة، فنزلوا كارتيسيا وقالوا: لا نقيم ببلد يشتم فيه عثمان رضي الله عنه
“Ḥanẓalah Al-Kātib, Jarīr, and ‘Adī ibn Ḥātim left Kūfah — all three were Companions (رضي الله عنهم). They settled in Qarṭīsiyā and said: ‘We will not remain in a land where ‘Uthmān (رضي الله عنه) is reviled.’”nTahdhīb Tahdhīb al-Kamāl of Al-Ḥāfiẓ Adh-Dhahabī

Imām Yaḥyā Ibnu Ma‘īn (رحمه الله) said in Al-Jarḥ wat-Ta‘dīl:

وكل من شتم عثمان أو طلحة أو أحداً من أصحاب رسول الله ﷺ دجال، لا يُكتب عنه، وعليه لعنة الله والملائكة والناس أجمعين.

“Whoever reviles ‘Uthmān, or Ṭalḥah, or any of the Companions of the Messenger of Allah ﷺ, he is a dajjāl (A Big Liar), not to be written from (ie learnt from). Upon him is the curse of Allah, the angels, and all people.” Tārīkh Al-Baghdād


Abū Bakrin Al-Khallāl (رحمه الله) said in as-Sunnah that Abu Bakrin Al-Marodi that:

سمعت أبا عبد الله يقول: لا نقول في أصحاب رسول الله ﷺ إلا الحسنى، رضي الله عنهم أجمعين
“I heard Abū ‘Abdillāh (Imām Aḥmad) say: We do not say regarding the Companions of the Messenger of Allaah ﷺ except good. May Allaah be pleased with them all.”

الحمد لله


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Not All Suspicion is Sinful

Shaykh Uthaymīn رحمه الله said

Not all suspicion is sinful.
Suspicion based on evidence that is almost certain is permissible, whereas suspicion based purely on assumption is not allowed.

For example, if a man were to see another man, whose outward appearance is upright, with a woman, it would not be permissible for him to assume that she is unrelated to him, as this is the kind of suspicion for which a person would be sinful.

However, if there is a legitimate reason for such suspicion, then there is no harm in it, and a person would not be at fault for suspecting it.

Scholars have stated: It is forbidden to entertain ill suspicions about a Muslim whose outward behavior is upright.
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Fataawaa Islaamuliyyah (4/537) | Trans:@AbuJuwayriya
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Saying Sorry

I have never seen in the dictionary of married life a word said by a man to his wife, or by a woman to her husband, more delightful, sweeter, lovelier, or more refreshing than the word (sorry) when any mistake is made by either or both, necessitating an apology.

In fact, it carries a melody, like the strings of an instrument, especially when accompanied by a firm intention to close the past and open a new page.

Shaykh Abu Abdillāh Fayṣal Al-Ḥāshidī - May Allaah preserve him

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Abandoning voluntary acts is a sign of deficiency in a person’s religion and weakness in his Eemaan

Abū Al-ʿAbbās Al-Qurṭubī (Died 656H) رحمه الله said

Whoever abandons the voluntary acts (such as the regular Sunnah salawaat) and does not perform any of them, has indeed deprived himself of a great profit and tremendous reward.

And whoever persists in abandoning some of the Sunnah acts, then that is a deficiency in his religion and a blemish upon his uprightness.

If his abandonment is out of negligence and disregard for them, then this is sinful disobedience for which he deserves blame.
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She Will Find A Good Ransom

Amr Ibnu Qays رحمه الله said :

On the Day of Judgment, a woman will dispute with her husband before Allaah, saying:
"He neither taught me manners (discipline) nor taught me anything; all he used to do was to bring me was bread from the market!
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What You Do Is What They See as Acceptable


Shaykh Ibnu Uthaymīn رحمه الله said:

When children see someone dealing with them in this way: anger, cursing, and insults; they get used to it and see it as something acceptable. That is why cursing a child is like cursing an adult; it may even be worse. This is because raising a child on what is said or done in front of him has a greater impact than trying to correct an adult on that.
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From Your Responsibilities As A Wali/Guardian

In English it's just the word "Marry".

The difference between the two forms of the verb in the Qur’aan:

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﴿فانكحوا﴾ [Surah An-Nisa 3] – with Hamzat al-Wasl (connecting Hamza)

Comes from نَكَح meaning “the man marries the woman.”

The address here is to the men themselves, instructing them to marry.


2.
﴿وأنكحوا﴾ [Surah An-Nur 32] – with Hamzat al-Qat‘ (cutting Hamza)

Comes from أنكح meaning “the man gives in marriage (to his ward).”

The address here is to the guardians/walis, instructing them to arrange the marriage.
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To The Qawwaam Husband:
Lead And Don't Be Led.

بســـم اللــه الرحــمــن الـرحـــيــم

The more you shut your wife out, the colder she becomes. And the colder she becomes, the more you feel like rejecting her. And the cycle just keeps going - until someone breaks it.

And how do you break it?

Not by waiting for her to wake up one morning as some perfect Disney princess. Life is not a cartoon, my brother.

You start with you. Because Allaah made you the qawwām.

ٱلرِّجَالُ قَوَّٰمُونَ عَلَى ٱلنِّسَآءِ (النساء: ٣٤)
“Men are protectors and maintainers of women.”


Qawwām doesn’t mean harshness. It doesn’t mean silence or silent treatment.

Qawwām doesn’t mean matching her coldness with more coldness. Common; you should lead, not be led.

It means the one Allaah put in charge of leading with mercy and justice.

It means you master the art of welcoming communication - so she can speak to you without fear of your temper.

It means you learn the skill of patience when guiding - so you correct with wisdom, not with words that break hearts.


And please, don’t come at me with, “But she doesn’t even deserve it!” That’s not the point.

Do you want reward from Allaah, who is the turner of hearts?

Do you want to be from the best of people in the sight of the Prophet ﷺ?

Do you want peace in your home?

Do you want your children growing up thinking marriage is a sanctuary filled with mercy - or thinking it's a battleground where parents tussle?


Do not just lie or sit down depressed, nor shoo her away , but rather take action - shape the atmosphere of your home with reception and gentleness.

Allaah says about marriage:

وَمِنْ آيَاتِهِ أَنْ خَلَقَ لَكُم مِّنْ أَنفُسِكُمْ أَزْوَاجًا لِّتَسْكُنُوا إِلَيْهَا وَجَعَلَ بَيْنَكُم مَّوَدَّةً وَرَحْمَةً (الروم 21: 30)
“And among His signs is that He created for you from yourselves spouses that you may find tranquility in them, and He placed between you affection and mercy.”

That mawaddah (affection) and rahmah (mercy) won’t grow if all you give is anger, coldness, or rejection.

The Prophet ﷺ said:

خَيْرُكُمْ خَيْرُكُمْ لِأَهْلِهِ، وَأَنَا خَيْرُكُمْ لِأَهْلِي. أخرجه الترمذي
“The best of you are those who are best to their families, and I am the best of you to my family.”

And he ﷺ said:

لَا يَفْرَكْ مُؤْمِنٌ مُؤْمِنَةً، إِنْ كَرِهَ مِنْهَا خُلُقًا رَضِيَ مِنْهَا آخَرَ. أخرجه مسلم.
“A believing man must not hate a believing woman. If he dislikes one of her traits, he will be pleased with another.”

Thus, my brother, lead her to your heart, welcome her with your soft tone. Notice and compliment her efforts even when things aren’t perfect, because it will never be. Speak with gentleness. Be patient when she stumbles. When your wife feels safe to talk, when she knows you’ll guide without humiliating her, you’ll see a transformation - not just in her, but in the entire home.

Your children grow up learning love instead of tension, mercy instead of fear.

And before you even realize it, you’ll see the miracle: you living in a brand-new marriage… with the same woman.

But it starts with you, ya akhī. Be the qawwaam who takes action, who sets the pace and tone, who shapes the energy of his house, with mercy, wisdom, and patience.

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The Rak'ah is not counted unless Al-Fatihah is recited before bowing

Shaykh Al-Albani رحمه الله said:

One catches the rak‘ah (of salah) by catching the rukū‘ (bowing) with the imam according to the majority of the scholars. Al-Bukhari, Ash-Shawkani, and a group of scholars differed, holding the view that the rak‘ah is not counted unless Al-Fatihah is recited before bowing. The majority, however, maintain that the rak‘ah is caught by catching the bowing.
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Between Sternness and Gentleness

Speech, may Allaah protect you, is like clothing - tailored to fit the listener, with the occasion carefully considered.

People differ, and hearts vary:
Some are not suited for anything but sternness to restrain and deter them.
Others, the locks of their hearts open only with gentleness and kindness.

Some lean toward pride and status, so they are approached in a way that wins their hearts.

As the Prophet ﷺ said on the Day of Conquest:

«مَن دخل دارَ أبي سفيان فهو آمن»؛
“Whoever enters the house of Abu Sufyan will be safe.”

This was not to glorify pride but rather wisdom in winning hearts and softening them.

Nevertheless, the essential principle which cannot be dispensed with remains gentleness - it is the beauty of speech and the remedy for souls. Sternness is the exception, used only when necessary.

The Prophet ﷺ said:

«إِنَّ اللَّهَ رَفِيقٌ يُحِبُّ الرِّفْقَ فِي الْأَمْرِ كُلِّهِ».
“Indeed, Allah is Gentle and loves gentleness in all matters.”

O Allaah, grant us wisdom to place sternness where it belongs and gentleness where it belongs, and help us reach the best of speech and the purest of deeds.


Shaykh Abu Abdillāh Fayṣal Al-Ḥāshidī - May Allaah preserve him

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