11 Sabt /12 Dhul Hijjah /1446 Hijriyyah
7 Saturday /6 June /2025 Gregorian

Deliberate Oversight (Taghaaful)

Not everything seen should be spoken of, nor everything spoken of should be reprimanded. Life flows more purely when we overlook (minor faults), and fills with affection when we turn a blind eye. So whoever Allaah has blessed with sound intellect and a merciful heart knows that deliberate oversight is not weakness, but elevation; not heedlessness, but wisdom, adorned by the manners of noble souls.

And deliberate oversight is: pretending or feigning to be unaware of your personal rights (deserved), without neglecting the rights of Allaah.

It is a characteristic of noble people, and the Noble Qur'aan has alluded to it in His saying, the Most High:

عَرَّفَ بَعْضَهُ وَأَعْرَضَ عَنْ بَعْضٍ

He made known part of it and ignored part. [At-Tahrim: 3]

Meaning: He showed some reproach but overlooked others.

This is the habit of the noble in dealing with those they love.

And from Aaishah – رضي الله عنها – in the famous Hadith of Ummu Zar', one of them said in describing her husband:

"إِنْ دَخَلَ فَهْدٌ، وَإِنْ خَرَجَ أَسَدٌ، وَلَا يَسْأَلُ عَمَّا عَهِدَ."

"When he enters, he is a cheetah; when he leaves, he is a lion. And he does not ask about what he left behind."

Bukhari (5189) and Muslim (2448) transmitted it.

The cheetah is used as an example for its tranquility and deliberate oversight.

Ibnu Hajar – رحمه الله – said:

"She described him with 'ghaflah' (heedlessness/oversight) upon entering the house, in a manner of praising him."
Fat-hu Al-Bari (9/261).

And deliberate oversight is a compulsory character, especially with one's wife. The Prophet (صَلَّى اللَّهُ عَلَيْهِ وَسَلَّمَ) said:

عَرَّفَ بَعْضَهُ وَأَعْرَضَ عَنْ بَعْضٍ

"No believing man should hate a believing woman. If he dislikes some of her characteristics, he will be pleased with others."
Muslim (1469) transmitted it.

So whoever seeks perfection has sought what cannot be attained, and whoever overlooks deficiencies will live pleased.

Ibnu Za-idah said:
"Well-being is ten parts, nine of which are in deliberate oversight."
Imam Ahmad was told this, and he said:
"All Well-being is in deliberate oversight!"
Adab Ad-Dunya wa Ad-Din, by Al-Mawardi: 180.

And Ibnu Al-Wardi – رحمه الله – said:
"And overlook matters, for indeed... none achieves praise except one who overlooks."
Al-Kashkool, by Baha' Al-Amili: 1/236.

Thus, do not exhaust yourself – O intelligent one – by scrutinizing faults, nor preoccupy your heart with pursuing mistakes.
For hearts are not won over by anything like deliberate oversight, nor is companionship sustained by anything like gentleness.

Written by
Shaykh Fayṣal Al-Hashidi

Translated by
Abu Juwayriyah Nūruddīn ibn Sulaymān ibn Hārūn Al-Idi An-Nījīrīy
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12 Ahad /12 Dhul Hijjah /1446 Hijriyyah
8 Sunday /6 June /2025 Gregorian

Blessings are Perfected

Imaam Ibnu Rajab رحمه الله said:

In the days of Tashreeq, it gathers for the believers, the delight of their bodies with eating and drinking, and the delight of their hearts with dhikru (remembrance) and shukru (gratitude). By this, blessings are perfected.

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Lata-if Al-Ma'arif (291) |
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Among the reasons people cause harm to a servant

Shaykh Al-Islaam Ibnu Taymiyyah رحمه الله said:

And if you see a servant [person] blaming others when they harm him, and not returning to himself with self-reproach and seeking forgiveness, then know that his calamity is a true calamity. But if he repents and seeks forgiveness and says: 'This is due to my sins,' then it becomes a blessing for him.
Ali Ibnu Abi Talib - رضي الله عنه - said a statement from the gems of speech: 'No servant should hope except from his Lord, and no servant should fear except his sin.' And it is narrated from him and others: 'No affliction descends except due to a sin, and none is lifted except through repentance.'

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Jami' Al-Masa-il (1/116-169) |
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13 Ithnayn /12 Dhul Hijjah /1446 Hijriyyah
9 Monday /6 June /2025 Gregorian

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14 Thulaathaa /12 Dhul Hijjah /1446 Hijriyyah
10 Tuesday /6 June /2025 Gregorian

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Where mockery comes from

Imam As-Sa'di رحمه الله said:

Indeed, mockery only emanates from a heart filled with bad character, adorned with every blameworthy trait. That is why the Prophet (صَلَّى اللَّهُ عَلَيْهِ وَسَلَّمَ) said: 'It is enough evil for a person to despise his Muslim brother.
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15 Dhul-Hijjah /12 Dhul Hijjah /1446 Hijriyyah
11 Wednesday /6 June /2025 Gregorian

Shaytaan will flee from his shadow

Wahb Ibnu Munabbih said:

Whoever places his desires under his foot, Shaytaan will flee from his shadow.
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16 Khamees /12 Dhul Hijjah /1446 Hijriyyah
12 Thursday /6 June /2025 Gregorian

Life necessitates trials

Shaykh Uthaymīn رحمه الله said

A person, as long as his soul has not exited his body is still susceptible to trials.
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Liqaa Al-Baab Al-Faftuh 20/68 |
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17 Jumu'ah /12 Dhul Hijjah /1446 Hijriyyah
13 Friday /6 June /2025 Gregorian

the path of salvation

Imaam Ibnu Al-Wazir رحمه الله said:

What's intended is to know the path of salvation by a clear matter and it's not hidden from anyone who possesses even the lowest level of intellect and discernment from the Muslims, (which is) that the salvation of the people of Islaam is in following the Messenger صلى الله عليه وسلم and sticking to what he brought, without altering it by adding to it, nor subtracting from it, nor innovating something that was not there.
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Iythaar Al-Haq ala Al-Khalq 102 wa Al-Qutuuf Ad-Daaniyah fi Ar-Rad 'ala Al-Ibanah 573
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From the Ettiquettes of the day of Jumu'ah

Going Early To The Masjid

Abu Hurayrah رضي الله عنه narrated that the Messenger of Allāh صلى الله عليه وسلم said:‏

"‏ مَنِ اغْتَسَلَ يَوْمَ الْجُمُعَةِ غُسْلَ الْجَنَابَةِ ثُمَّ رَاحَ فَكَأَنَّمَا قَرَّبَ بَدَنَةً، وَمَنْ رَاحَ فِي السَّاعَةِ الثَّانِيَةِ فَكَأَنَّمَا قَرَّبَ بَقَرَةً، وَمَنْ رَاحَ فِي السَّاعَةِ الثَّالِثَةِ فَكَأَنَّمَا قَرَّبَ كَبْشًا أَقْرَنَ، وَمَنْ رَاحَ فِي السَّاعَةِ الرَّابِعَةِ فَكَأَنَّمَا قَرَّبَ دَجَاجَةً، وَمَنْ رَاحَ فِي السَّاعَةِ الْخَامِسَةِ فَكَأَنَّمَا قَرَّبَ بَيْضَةً، فَإِذَا خَرَجَ الإِمَامُ حَضَرَتِ الْمَلاَئِكَةُ يَسْتَمِعُونَ الذِّكْرَ ‏"‌‏.‏

"Any person who takes a bath on Friday, the bath of Janaabah and then goes for the prayer (in the first hour i.e. early), it is as if he had sacrificed a camel (in Allaah's cause); and whoever goes in the second hour it is as if he had sacrificed a cow; and whoever goes in the third hour, then it is as if he had sacrificed a horned ram; and if one goes in the fourth hour, then it is as if he had sacrificed a hen; and whoever goes in the fifth hour then it is as if he had offered an egg. When the Imam comes out (to start delivering the Khutbah), the angels present themselves to listen to the dhikr/ Khutbah."
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Bukhari 881

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