A big part of relationships is learning to have those uncomfortable conversations you always run away from.
How to Build Emotional Resilience
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5. Choose a healthy life style: Pay attention to your diet and how much you exercise; try to limit alcohol, and don’t deprive yourself of sleep.
6. Develop good relationships: Do your friends make you happy? Do you enjoy their company? Are they kind of people with your best interests at heart? Do they treat you with respect and help to boost your self-esteem? If not, then work on finding new relationships!
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Talk to someone: Sharing how we feel helps to reduce the inner tension (but make sure it is someone who cares about your feelings).2.
Work on improving your self-esteem: Self-esteem is the way you see and feel about yourself … and there are lots of lots of things that undermine our self esteem. For example, experiencing a break up, putting on unwanted weight, doing badly on a test or being excluded by our friends. It’s important that we keep on working on our self-esteem by treating ourselves well and noticing when we succeed (instead of noticing the negatives).3.
Manage your stress levels: If we’re always feelings stressed then it’s hard to cope with life. We tend to over react and have a negative mind set … which drains us of our energy and saps our will to fight. So take a look at your lifestyle and see what you can drop. You may be doing too much, and don’t have time to relax.4.
Make the time and effort to enjoy yourself: Doing things that we enjoy helps to improve the way we feel. So build in little things like having coffee with a friend, or going to a game, or taking time to watch some sports.5. Choose a healthy life style: Pay attention to your diet and how much you exercise; try to limit alcohol, and don’t deprive yourself of sleep.
6. Develop good relationships: Do your friends make you happy? Do you enjoy their company? Are they kind of people with your best interests at heart? Do they treat you with respect and help to boost your self-esteem? If not, then work on finding new relationships!
I’ve found that luck is quite predictable. If you want more luck, take more chances, be more active, show up more often.
It’s okay to change your yes to a no. Yeses aren’t permanent. They’re something we choose again and again, each and every day. Something we have the right to recall and reconsider as soon as saying yes no longer feels conducive to our wellbeing and happiness. It doesn’t matter whether you said yes to a job, a date, a relationship, sex, a favor to a friend, a social endeavor, or a vow of silence — you don’t ever have to commit to something that forces you to compromise who you are and what feels right; especially if it’s something you agreed to under pressure, intimidation, or force. Changing your yes to a no might make people angry. It might hurt their feelings, cause them to see you as a flake, and result in lost connections. But if saying no means staying true to yourself, honoring your feelings, and making self-care a priority, it’s worth it. You are worth it. Don’t let anyone convince you otherwise.
Life is about balance. Be kind, but don’t let people abuse you. Trust, but don’t be deceived. Be content, but never stop improving yourself.
Too many people are trying to find the right person instead of being the right person.
"Bila lelah lebih baik mengalah. Bila ragu lebih baik menunggu. Sebab hati yang lapang hanya bisa dipahami oleh pemiliknya sendiri."
--ibnufir
--ibnufir
Do yourself a favor and learn how to walk away. When a connection starts to fade, Learn how to let it go. When a person starts to mistreat you, learn how to move on..to something and someone better. Don’t waste your energy trying to force something that isn’t meant to be.. Because the truth is.. for every one person who doesn’t value you - there are tons more waiting to love you better. Do better.
We are all a people in need. We are not perfect. We are not machines. We make mistakes. We need grace. We need compassion. We need help at times. We need other people. And that’s okay.
Tidak ada yang bisa diubah jika kamu terus-terusan kembali ke masa lalu. Disana hanya ada luka lama yang seharusnya tidak kamu korek-korek lagi.
Often, I think when someone tells you that they need to rant, they are letting you know that they want to complain, and will feel better just by having complained. They do not want you to help them fix the problem. They do not want you to come up with a solution.
Terkenang masa lalu itu kadang bisa bikin berdarah juga ya?
Walau sudah lama, hingga kini pedihnya masih terasa.
Walau sudah lama, hingga kini pedihnya masih terasa.
Bukan mahu menghilang diri,
tapi masih di fasa pemulih,
Mencari kekuatan untuk diri yang dulu.
tapi masih di fasa pemulih,
Mencari kekuatan untuk diri yang dulu.
Obliviate
Bukan mahu menghilang diri, tapi masih di fasa pemulih, Mencari kekuatan untuk diri yang dulu.
Tapi pulih nya tiada tarikh pasti,
Mungkin aku tidak bisa seperti dahulu.
Mungkin ini semua hal hal manusia dewasa.
Dan tanda aku tidak boleh laku seperti anak kecil.
Seperti kalian yang dewasa;
Walau masih sakit tapi betah tersenyum.
Tidak seperti aku.
Mungkin aku tidak bisa seperti dahulu.
Mungkin ini semua hal hal manusia dewasa.
Dan tanda aku tidak boleh laku seperti anak kecil.
Seperti kalian yang dewasa;
Walau masih sakit tapi betah tersenyum.
Tidak seperti aku.
I think it’s very healthy to spend time alone. You need to know how to be alone and not be defined by another person.
I know it's a hard lesson to learn, but the truth is you can't love yourself and love someone who hurts you at the same time. Choose you