sometimes you just need to take a step back and realize how far you’ve come instead of how far left you have to go. you are going to mess up, and you are going to make mistakes and you aren’t always going to get it right. but, you are human. it happens. it’s okay.

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I just keep can't decide what to do in this life

I wonder how do people fall out of love.

A thread.

How do people decide to unlove their partner overnight? It's obviously not an overnight decision. But don't you think, it's a bit too cruel?

Yesterday you were having a good talk. You were laughing with them, everything was just so normal. You even tell each other "I love you".

You believed in that.

But in the morning you wake up to this,

"I don't love you anymore, I'm sorry"

You're riddled with confusion. It's a mixture of feelings, and it's just so damn horrible. There's a lot of questions to begin with..when, why, how?

All this while you're doing the love alone and you're unaware.

You'll start to think that they were faking their love all this time. You'll think that everything was a lie. You'll start questioning your worth. That hurts more than anything else because when you think about it again, they don't even love you.

The worst case when they said they were confused. Damn! They don't even love you at the first place. Maybe they just use you to forget their past lover. And once they completely heal, they leave you like you mean nothing to them.

They might as well tell you that they don't wanna hurt you in the first place.

But what kind of bullshit is that?!

You know what hurt the most? Use "you deserve better" as an excuse to run from you. Why can't you be better for them? Don't you think they deserve love from you? Can't you try harder to fix? No! You never think that way. You know what? That's so stupid.. don't do that

Taking time to hurt your feelings doesn't make them a hero.

In the end you'll still have to suffer. In the end they still decide to leave so why don't they do it earlier?

You can't choose to fall in love but you can choose to stay.

But hun, head up.. don't beg for love, don't beg for them to stay. You can't keep on chasing someone who doesn't choose you. You deserve better! Even that means be better for yourself.

Don't make it hard for them. If they want to leave, open the door. Let them go, there's no point holding on to someone who doesn't match your energy.

I know this not gonna be easy. This gonna be hard. You'll feel like you're in hell, questioning about everything. You'll blame yourself but to let them go is the right thing to do. Parasite should be wiped off!! They'll make you lose more and more. Let them rot in hell.

You'll be better. Soon enough 🤍


— by Matnannx🥀19nov20

https://twitter.com/matnann/status/1329365368259809280?s=21

Someday, you're gonna be all alone so you need to figure out how to take care of yourself.

@undefinedword

How to Develop Self-Compassion

1. Acknowledge to yourself that you’re having a hard time.

2. Don’t beat yourself up for struggling.

3. Let go of any tendencies towards perfectionism.

4. Ask for support from those who truly care.

5. Make sure you enforce healthy boundaries with others.

6. Drop some commitments, and give yourself more space.

7. Take time to relax, and to do thingsnyou enjoy.

8. Learn to appreciate and value solitude.

@undefinedword

Sometimes it’s okay to just be. Just exist, without thinking about what you need to do next. This world is a microscopic dot floating in space. Your life purpose isn’t to tire yourself out every single day, doing things that stress you out or make you unhappy. Your life purpose isn’t to decipher the meaning of life. You deserve moments of peace, nothingness and rest amidst the absurd, stressful reality you’re living in. It’s okay to just be.

@undefinedword

Just let me know if i not important enough for you.

So i will know my place and not get attached with you anymore. I'm just tired.

Life advice: Always be the best person you can be. Be kind even when you’re tired. Be understanding even when you’re angry. Do more than you’re asked, and don’t ask for anything in return. Don’t silently expect anything either. Listen when someone talks, and really listen too, stop just thinking of how you’ll reply. Tell people that you love them and that you appreciate them. Go out of your way to do things for people. Be the greatest person you can possibly be and when you mess up, make up for it in the next moment or minute or day. One thing you should never do? Never spend your time trying to prove to anybody that you’re great, your actions will speak for themselves and we only have limited time on this earth,don’t waste it. If someone doesn’t see your light, don’t worry. Like moths, good people are attracted to flame and to light, and they will come.

@undefinedword

There comes a point when it all becomes too much. When we get too tired to fight anymore. So we give up. That’s when the real work begins. To find hope where there seems to be absolutely none at all.

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