I take peaks at the runway shows and then keep my eye out for what is trickling down to the Zara’s and Mangos of the world. I do a ton of “window shopping” on as many contemporary shopping sites as I can. I also follow stylists and personal shoppers on social media platforms.

Everything is a trend, especially if you’re trying to “keep up”. There’s just different tiers of trends. There’s long lasting ones like skinny jeans, and micro trends like platform Ugg slip ons. Virtually no one is exempt from a trend - cue the Miranda Priestly monologue about cerulean blue in Devil Wears Prada.

by pandaaf

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Ask any of my friends who the last person they’d expect to see wearing a gilet is, and they’ll say me. In fact, one of my favourite pastimes is teasing my brother-in-law for his city boy predilection for a sleeveless quilted vest. But it seems I’m going to have to eat my words this season, because the gilet has shed its corporate retreat associations to sneak its way into the wardrobes of some of the most stylish people I know. And dare I say it, it’s starting to grow on me.

by Joy Montgomery

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I take most of my inspo from social media but I don’t really follow people because I like the specific items they’re wearing, I follow for inspo on how to put things together in ways I wouldn’t think of. Of course there are times when I see someone I follow wearing an item I would never pick out and I obsess over it but mostly I get inspo from seeing how they create outfits! I have enough of a grasp on my own style that I can pick out items I like and identify holes in my wardrobe without being told what’s cool by influencers.

Here’s a couple YouTubers/influencers I really like: Laini Ozark, Naja Sierra, Chloe Felopulos, Susielola, Cup of Jordy, Drew Joiner, & Stealthespotlight

by magicplatypus2

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This might sound a bit... creepy? Idk. But I pay attention to my students. I teach at a university, so most of my students are right at the age where they are paying attention to trends and buying their own clothes. I also pay attention to IG and Pinterest, although those aren't huge drivers in my fashion decisions.

Although honestly, I don't follow a lot of trends. My style is somewhat minimal and classic, focusing on dark colors, very few patterns, shapes that flatter my body specifically, and key pieces. Then I'll add in an accessory or use my shoes to update the look. No, I don't always look "current," but I'm happy with my method because it looks good on me and it means I can hold on to my high quality basic pieces rather than cycling through fast fashion as the trends come and go.

by caffeinatemecaptain

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#friendship #friends

When I was in college, I had a ton of friends. Then life happened, no more free time to hang out and these friends became acquaintances. I'm 40 now and literally have only one friend who I talk to maybe once a month cause we both are really busy with work, families, etc. On the other hand I have one or two old work colleagues who I've known for 20 years and we kept in touch. It used to bother me a lot before. Now I realized it's just a part of adult life.

nonamebrik

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Friendship is a mutual affection shared between two people who care for and respect one another. Your closest friends are those you can rely on in times of need, who you can laugh with, whose company you enjoy and who you communicate with on a regular basis.

JULIE BASSET

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I don't have any friends. I find interacting with people draining, and I don't enjoy socializing. When I'm off work, I just want to relax and recharge.

I'll add that I'm autistic and apparently come off as "odd" to people, so I've found that getting friendly with people just seems to give them permission to point out that they think I'm weird, and demand explanations.

I like to keep to myself and not bother anyone. If people find this offensive, that's not my problem.

benefecial_step9088

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I have a few friends, most of them live a ways away, and most of what we do together happens via the internet. I consider myself lucky.

It is extremely common for adults to have few or no friends, now. There are some sociological studies on this, and many of them posit that we don't really have the social spaces that foster friendships anymore.

There's a term "third place," as in, a place you regularly go besides work and home. Church is one example, but a lot of us don't go to church anymore, and even when we do, it doesn't really serve the social role terribly well anymore.

Diabolical jazz

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#rest #relax 🌴🍍

Spending time with friends really helps me. Reading fiction, walks and hikes, going to anywhere where I can see a body of water, napping, sitting outside in a lounge chair and listening to the birds, playing with my kids, dancing or other fun active activities. I have to schedule it and try to stick to it, or I have the same problem. It’s hard to stop pushing and give in to it, but if you consistently rest you can keep moving forward longer. Keep fun in mind. You don’t have to be the best at resting.

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I'll go against the grain here but f*ck rest. If going hard for 6 months and burning out for 1 works for you but sucks, it's not the worst case. Some people don't need as much rest.

If you're dead set on it, break your rest down like you would any other plan. I have daily rest, weekly rest, and monthly/bimonthly rest depending on my schedule. Daily rest would be like reading or cooking or going for a walk. My personal weekly rest is spending a day drinking with friends over the weekend, and then monthly rest is getting away for a weekend to go camping/hunting alone or with a friend or two.

Plan a vacation for 4-6 days and unplug every couple months. I've noticed that if my phone is within reach, I'm not really resting so that's another rule I have.

by yutrahkill11

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Aside from the solo activities like walks, gym, reading fiction, tv, etc, I find I like to relax around my friends. When I'm by myself, even my leisure activities can start to take on a productive mindset so dinner with friends, board games, zoo, movies, out etc helps me unwind.

by shepardcommanderSR2

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Music and art are two things that put me into a flow state—but they are also skills that I can intentionally work on to improve. To me, engaging with those activities is both working on a skill (productive) and relaxing because I get the benefits of being so focused on something that I'm not thinking about stresses. If I'm worried about Iosing myself to time, I'll set a timer and let the alarm tell me when it's time to come back to earth.

I can pick up a guitar and play for 5 or 10 minutes, or sit down and doodle freely or work on an already started project for whatever amount of time I can.

Otherwise, I like to listen to things that feel like learning—podcasts, audio books, etc while I do dishes or laundry. It's partly to help me keep track of time though. If I listen to a 30 min podcast, then I have a built in timer for 30 minutes that I can use for whatever.

by waygono

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Few things are more satisfying than kicking back and relaxing in a sparkling space with dust-free surfaces, freshly made beds, and fingerprint-free...everything. But getting your home to that point might not be exactly how you want to spend your time.

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I used to have what I called "self care Saturdays". I would sleep in, drink coffee and then deep cleaned my apartment. I love cleaning so it never felt like a task. I would also make lunch for myself, my sister and my mom. It always felt super relaxing because I love doing both and it's also productive. Then I'd finish my day with showering, shaving, skin care etc. Took ~2h for myself and spent them in the bathroom. I work full time while being a full time college student and this helps me prevent burnout.

by pulicaaaa

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#pets #cats #dogs 🐈 🐩

Everyone I know has pets. Some of them clearly get a lot of joy from them and don't find them a hassle. Others struggle constantly with problematic pets that need a lot of money and time invested in them, yet they still get more. Why do they do that?

Personally, I have high standards for hygiene, I'm allergic and I don't want to invest the time and money.

by my_milliom_alt

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On my 10th birthday, I got a puppy. I was so shocked—I had wanted a dog for as long as I could remember—and so overwhelmed with happiness that I burst into tears. For the next 14 years, Happy, a beagle, charmed everyone he met. And when he passed, all of us who had known him mourned, as we would for any loved one. Two in three American households have a pet—that is, an animal kept primarily for companionship. And despite the fact that these housemates may bear scales, fur, fins or feathers, people often view their animals as family members. In 2017 we spent an estimated $69 billion on our animal companions and untold hours caring for them.

by ScientificAmerican

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Do you have a dog at home? If so, you know that special feeling you get when you arrive home after a long day of school to be greeted with a wagging tail and a few excited licks to the face. When you experience the unconditional love of a dog, you know why the dog is called “man's best friend."

Maybe you have a cat at home instead. When you're down in the dumps, your furry and purr-y friend is sure to be there to snuggle up beside you to let you know everything is going to be just fine. Cats make great cuddle buddies any time of the day.

by wonderopolis

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Animals have something to offer everyone. Whether it is company or protection. It is apparent though that many of the characteristics we see in domesticated animals are bred into them as a result of humans naturally selecting the features they desire. Some dogs are bread to be placid whilst others to herd sheep’s. Some horses are bread for speed whilst others for stamina. What does this tell you? Animals are kept because we can benefit from them, this innate human nature. To do what we can for ourselves.

by Keele

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