Don't pretend to be someone
This happens when we are trying to achieve something and we pretend to be that guy who already gained that. Just be you not just someone else. Because they have different background, thoughts, circumstances, parents.
We all tend to do the things as somebody does. That's not how it works. Everyone has own destiny. If you're not doing what they do, that doesn't necessarily mean you won't achieve what you are trying. So be you
However there is only one person we all should be trying to be that man. He is our Prophet Muhammad (peace be upon him). If you don't know what to do, just do what he does. You're life is going to be so much better
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This happens when we are trying to achieve something and we pretend to be that guy who already gained that. Just be you not just someone else. Because they have different background, thoughts, circumstances, parents.
We all tend to do the things as somebody does. That's not how it works. Everyone has own destiny. If you're not doing what they do, that doesn't necessarily mean you won't achieve what you are trying. So be you
However there is only one person we all should be trying to be that man. He is our Prophet Muhammad (peace be upon him). If you don't know what to do, just do what he does. You're life is going to be so much better
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Life
"Life is a rollercoaster ride. Sometimes you're up, sometimes you're down, but the magic happens when you scream with excitement even in the face of uncertainty. Embrace the twists, turns, and loop-de-loops with a fearless spirit. Remember, it's not about the destination; it's about the adrenaline rush along the way. So, buckle up, throw your hands in the air, and let the thrill of the journey invigorate your soul. Life's too short to play it safe. Take risks, chase adventures, and make every twist count!
You've got this
"Life is a rollercoaster ride. Sometimes you're up, sometimes you're down, but the magic happens when you scream with excitement even in the face of uncertainty. Embrace the twists, turns, and loop-de-loops with a fearless spirit. Remember, it's not about the destination; it's about the adrenaline rush along the way. So, buckle up, throw your hands in the air, and let the thrill of the journey invigorate your soul. Life's too short to play it safe. Take risks, chase adventures, and make every twist count!
You've got this
It's going to worth
While it may seem tempting to join in the festivities and indulge in leisure activities, true success often requires sacrifice and dedication. While others are out partying, those who are determined to achieve their goals understand the value of hard work and persistence. Every hour spent studying, every task completed diligently, is a step closer to realizing your dreams.
Remember, success is not handed out freely; it's earned through consistent effort and perseverance. By prioritizing your responsibilities over momentary pleasures, you are investing in your future self. Embrace the challenges, embrace the late nights of study, for they are shaping you into a stronger, more capable individual.
While the path of hard work may seem daunting at times, it is ultimately the path that leads to lasting fulfillment and accomplishment. So, stay committed, stay focused, and keep pushing forward, even when it feels like everyone else is taking a break. Your dedication now will pave the way for a brighter tomorrow.
Peace
While it may seem tempting to join in the festivities and indulge in leisure activities, true success often requires sacrifice and dedication. While others are out partying, those who are determined to achieve their goals understand the value of hard work and persistence. Every hour spent studying, every task completed diligently, is a step closer to realizing your dreams.
Remember, success is not handed out freely; it's earned through consistent effort and perseverance. By prioritizing your responsibilities over momentary pleasures, you are investing in your future self. Embrace the challenges, embrace the late nights of study, for they are shaping you into a stronger, more capable individual.
While the path of hard work may seem daunting at times, it is ultimately the path that leads to lasting fulfillment and accomplishment. So, stay committed, stay focused, and keep pushing forward, even when it feels like everyone else is taking a break. Your dedication now will pave the way for a brighter tomorrow.
Peace
Everyone wants to see the outcome fast but ...
However nobody wants to do what is needed to get there. Namely, no one has a desire to do something to reach there. That's the problem. Most things really take time. You gotta understand this. There is no such a thing that "easy". If something is easy, then you're more likely to lose it. If so, most people can do that and that thing is no longer "great". Because everybody is able to do that.
Fast success builds ego, slow success builds character. When you gained something really hard, it's going to be hard to lose it.
Be patience
However nobody wants to do what is needed to get there. Namely, no one has a desire to do something to reach there. That's the problem. Most things really take time. You gotta understand this. There is no such a thing that "easy". If something is easy, then you're more likely to lose it. If so, most people can do that and that thing is no longer "great". Because everybody is able to do that.
Fast success builds ego, slow success builds character. When you gained something really hard, it's going to be hard to lose it.
Be patience
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Focus
That's the thing that everybody fails to do it. Whenever you try to do any task, you find yourself struggling with your concentration. That problem isn't only yours. That is everyone's problem. we live in a world we get distracted very easily. You know those triggers such as social media even listening to news.
We have to confess we have this problem but what can we do about it? The solution is just delete social media in the first place. Then there are some strategies to help us concentrate on a single task.
For example, cleaning up your environment. If your workplace is messy, you can't flow into that task well. Then remove all the triggers to get distracted. Maybe you leave your phone in another room. Because over phones encourage us to entertain not to focus on one thing
Other recommendations are expected to be the next time
Stay hard
That's the thing that everybody fails to do it. Whenever you try to do any task, you find yourself struggling with your concentration. That problem isn't only yours. That is everyone's problem. we live in a world we get distracted very easily. You know those triggers such as social media even listening to news.
We have to confess we have this problem but what can we do about it? The solution is just delete social media in the first place. Then there are some strategies to help us concentrate on a single task.
For example, cleaning up your environment. If your workplace is messy, you can't flow into that task well. Then remove all the triggers to get distracted. Maybe you leave your phone in another room. Because over phones encourage us to entertain not to focus on one thing
Other recommendations are expected to be the next time
Stay hard
Do you still watch media?
Have you ever realized when you reduce the screen time of your phone or watching TV, your behavior changes positively. You don't get aggressive much or you start to show yourself as a well-mannered person. Actually you have the best manner but media is killing it. As you watch the violent scenes more often, you start to think " violent is common and funny, if I do that, nothing is going to happen" . Or as you watch the dating or adult content videos, your urge drives you crazy and you watch pornography.
Those are the things are trigger to do bad things. They can make you think that those things are acceptable. Actually they don't. Don't deceive the "tricks" of media including movies or videos.
But I'm not saying that don't watch all the videos and movies. I'm saying cut down the use of them.
So don't let the other things control you
Have you ever realized when you reduce the screen time of your phone or watching TV, your behavior changes positively. You don't get aggressive much or you start to show yourself as a well-mannered person. Actually you have the best manner but media is killing it. As you watch the violent scenes more often, you start to think " violent is common and funny, if I do that, nothing is going to happen" . Or as you watch the dating or adult content videos, your urge drives you crazy and you watch pornography.
Those are the things are trigger to do bad things. They can make you think that those things are acceptable. Actually they don't. Don't deceive the "tricks" of media including movies or videos.
But I'm not saying that don't watch all the videos and movies. I'm saying cut down the use of them.
So don't let the other things control you
Hey, how's it going so far?
I never take a moment to ask you how your life is going until now. Because I'm just obsessed with my own problems. Let's get to know better ourselves.
Let's chat
I never take a moment to ask you how your life is going until now. Because I'm just obsessed with my own problems. Let's get to know better ourselves.
Let's chat
Many people struggle to take things seriously
because life can feel overwhelming at times, and it's easy to get caught up in the chaos. However, it's important to remember that every challenge we face is an opportunity for growth and self-discovery. By approaching life with a positive attitude and a willingness to learn, we can transform obstacles into stepping stones toward success. Let's encourage each other to embrace the journey, stay focused on our goals, and celebrate our progress along the way. Together, we can navigate life's ups and downs with resilience and determination.
because life can feel overwhelming at times, and it's easy to get caught up in the chaos. However, it's important to remember that every challenge we face is an opportunity for growth and self-discovery. By approaching life with a positive attitude and a willingness to learn, we can transform obstacles into stepping stones toward success. Let's encourage each other to embrace the journey, stay focused on our goals, and celebrate our progress along the way. Together, we can navigate life's ups and downs with resilience and determination.
Learn how to distinguish the criticism
You might heard those phrases such as " don't give a damn about how other people say about you" or "don't listen to anybody". But what if those people are telling the truth. You still have to not to listen to them. It's interesting, right? I'm going to make this clear now.
Firstly, just listen to what they say about you yo identify whether this statement is true or not. If it's not relevant, then don't give a shit what they say. But they're right, just work on those points. By doing this, you are getting the criticism in a correct way.
But how to know if it's relevant or not? To have that ability, you just have to be well-informed person who can make right decisions. So learn. Read that book or listen to that podcast. Expand your knowledge.
However, as long as you are headed right, then most of criticizes are incorrect. Because people hate when they see others are evolving. They try to find the mistakes you have instead of modifying their own mistakes. But you gotta be different.
Stay hard
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You might heard those phrases such as " don't give a damn about how other people say about you" or "don't listen to anybody". But what if those people are telling the truth. You still have to not to listen to them. It's interesting, right? I'm going to make this clear now.
Firstly, just listen to what they say about you yo identify whether this statement is true or not. If it's not relevant, then don't give a shit what they say. But they're right, just work on those points. By doing this, you are getting the criticism in a correct way.
But how to know if it's relevant or not? To have that ability, you just have to be well-informed person who can make right decisions. So learn. Read that book or listen to that podcast. Expand your knowledge.
However, as long as you are headed right, then most of criticizes are incorrect. Because people hate when they see others are evolving. They try to find the mistakes you have instead of modifying their own mistakes. But you gotta be different.
Stay hard
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It ain't easy
I know you're trying to do something, so that You're working or studying hard. But is it always hard to get something great done? Yeah, absolutely. Because what makes it great is that not all people can gain. But you're giving it a try to do it. So that has to be hard until you passed the level that most people give up.
Here's the thing. Every single achievement requires hard work, dedication. So there is no such a thing like " easy and quick path".
Be ready to go through all of this.
Stay hard
I know you're trying to do something, so that You're working or studying hard. But is it always hard to get something great done? Yeah, absolutely. Because what makes it great is that not all people can gain. But you're giving it a try to do it. So that has to be hard until you passed the level that most people give up.
Here's the thing. Every single achievement requires hard work, dedication. So there is no such a thing like " easy and quick path".
Be ready to go through all of this.
Stay hard
Why boredom is good for you?
Imagine, you get bored. Well, as soon as you feel boredom, you pull out your phone from your pocket and try to avoid being boredom. Is this actually such a bad thing?
In fact, the answer is NO.
As a human I can say somehow we have a fear of being bored. Boredom might brought about a great deal of benefits that we actually need in modern times.
First off, being bored means that the real world doesn't appeal to you and you want to immerse yourself with your own thoughts.
The outside world seems likely to be uninteresting or not charming, then it's when boredom comes from. At that point let your thoughts out there. Reflect on your decisions or future plans. After that you can make better and well-informed decisions.
Also boredom can create creativity. Because when you're bored, you try to make everything creative in order to prevent yourself being bored. Everytime you come up with new ideas.
Therefore, introverts tend to be more creative than extroverts. Contrastingly, extroverts don't have time to be bored. See?
So, give yourself 5 minutes to be bored and see what happens.
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Imagine, you get bored. Well, as soon as you feel boredom, you pull out your phone from your pocket and try to avoid being boredom. Is this actually such a bad thing?
In fact, the answer is NO.
As a human I can say somehow we have a fear of being bored. Boredom might brought about a great deal of benefits that we actually need in modern times.
First off, being bored means that the real world doesn't appeal to you and you want to immerse yourself with your own thoughts.
The outside world seems likely to be uninteresting or not charming, then it's when boredom comes from. At that point let your thoughts out there. Reflect on your decisions or future plans. After that you can make better and well-informed decisions.
Also boredom can create creativity. Because when you're bored, you try to make everything creative in order to prevent yourself being bored. Everytime you come up with new ideas.
Therefore, introverts tend to be more creative than extroverts. Contrastingly, extroverts don't have time to be bored. See?
So, give yourself 5 minutes to be bored and see what happens.
@thoughts_wave
Why you should keep your new habits record?
I'm talking about the habit tracker. Habit tracker can be an app or calendar where you mark whether you did that certain task or not. That thing really help us be organized and encourages us to do it more.
The core reason behind it is that you are able to see your improvement. If you see that you're growing, that motivates us to do more or more. It gives a sense of accomplishment which is the best thing. You feel like you're doing something and you're very proud.
If Keeping track is the best thing we can do while building a new habit, why doesn't everybody do it? The answer is that most people are reluctant to keep track of their habits. They regard this as a waste of time. But it's not what they think.
But you gotta give it a try to do
@thoughts_wave
I'm talking about the habit tracker. Habit tracker can be an app or calendar where you mark whether you did that certain task or not. That thing really help us be organized and encourages us to do it more.
The core reason behind it is that you are able to see your improvement. If you see that you're growing, that motivates us to do more or more. It gives a sense of accomplishment which is the best thing. You feel like you're doing something and you're very proud.
If Keeping track is the best thing we can do while building a new habit, why doesn't everybody do it? The answer is that most people are reluctant to keep track of their habits. They regard this as a waste of time. But it's not what they think.
But you gotta give it a try to do
@thoughts_wave
Hey!
When setting a new goal or deciding to do something, many of us have felt like “What if I can’t do it? Since other people are failing to do it, how can I manage to do that?” Listen, bro. First of all, you are totally different from them, you have something unique unlike everyone else’s. You might have the thing most people are missing. You never know. So don’t be afraid to give it a shot. It may work out for you.
Just because nobody is able to do it doesn’t necessarily mean you can’t do it either.
Peace
@thoughts_wave
When setting a new goal or deciding to do something, many of us have felt like “What if I can’t do it? Since other people are failing to do it, how can I manage to do that?” Listen, bro. First of all, you are totally different from them, you have something unique unlike everyone else’s. You might have the thing most people are missing. You never know. So don’t be afraid to give it a shot. It may work out for you.
Just because nobody is able to do it doesn’t necessarily mean you can’t do it either.
Peace
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Make the most out of it
If you have the little opportunity, just use that. You might complain what you don't have but at the same time you can let the little opportunity seize. What I mean by little opportunity is , for example, you struggle with financial side of you. But still you have that phone or you have that internet. You can make the most out it. even you have so many pressures from outside world, the God has already given that opportunity. there is no need for complain. i know some guys who works 24/7 but at the same time they manage to study.
Don't play the victim role. Everything happened to you is just sum of your past actions. You are the cause of all.
Stay hard
If you have the little opportunity, just use that. You might complain what you don't have but at the same time you can let the little opportunity seize. What I mean by little opportunity is , for example, you struggle with financial side of you. But still you have that phone or you have that internet. You can make the most out it. even you have so many pressures from outside world, the God has already given that opportunity. there is no need for complain. i know some guys who works 24/7 but at the same time they manage to study.
Don't play the victim role. Everything happened to you is just sum of your past actions. You are the cause of all.
Stay hard
Organize everything you can control
Remember the time when you don't know what to do? When you have time and you think to do something, there are so many things you can do. You can't pick the right one. Finally you chose something to do, but after 5 minutes you get bored and want to try another task. You repeat that 2-3 times and eventually you will get nothing done. This is why organizing is really essential. Because if you have organized that, you would use your time wisely and productively. Because you would know what to do and you wouldn't spend time choosing the right thing to do.
Here's how to organize. For example, you want to organize the whole day.
You have to write on the paper what you're going to do the next day. But please don't make straightforward not that complex. Then the tomorrow you will be the most productive ever.
Peace
Remember the time when you don't know what to do? When you have time and you think to do something, there are so many things you can do. You can't pick the right one. Finally you chose something to do, but after 5 minutes you get bored and want to try another task. You repeat that 2-3 times and eventually you will get nothing done. This is why organizing is really essential. Because if you have organized that, you would use your time wisely and productively. Because you would know what to do and you wouldn't spend time choosing the right thing to do.
Here's how to organize. For example, you want to organize the whole day.
You have to write on the paper what you're going to do the next day. But please don't make straightforward not that complex. Then the tomorrow you will be the most productive ever.
Peace
Avoid burnout
I know you gotta work hard or stay hard. You try to do without any breaks. But it's not possible. Cuz we are human beings. We always want different things. Our brains don't like the same pattern the same things. Cuz when we work hard, where's supposed to do on a daily basis. Otherwise you might lose our time which is invaluable for us . After that you will burn out and you get to really exhausted and you give up.
But we need breaks. Please think about having a rest. We're not talking about the people who always relax, we're talking about the people who always work hard without any respites.
I recommend to have a break once a week especially on Sunday. Make a habit to do your physical activities on Sunday. Don't think about anything about your work or study. Then our brains get what they need
Peace
I know you gotta work hard or stay hard. You try to do without any breaks. But it's not possible. Cuz we are human beings. We always want different things. Our brains don't like the same pattern the same things. Cuz when we work hard, where's supposed to do on a daily basis. Otherwise you might lose our time which is invaluable for us . After that you will burn out and you get to really exhausted and you give up.
But we need breaks. Please think about having a rest. We're not talking about the people who always relax, we're talking about the people who always work hard without any respites.
I recommend to have a break once a week especially on Sunday. Make a habit to do your physical activities on Sunday. Don't think about anything about your work or study. Then our brains get what they need
Peace
The art of storytelling
Have you noticed when you tell a story the others, they get bored or you can't tell properly. I mean if what you're saying isn't gaining other's attention, so there's no point of saying it. Therefore in every group there's the guy who always speaks, because he has charisma that keep everyone around him. Everyone listen to him, only he speaks. He is absolutely leader of that group. He can influence the other members of the group.
If you wanna be that guy, just be charismatic. Storytelling is the essential part of being charismatic. Since you need to keep everyone around you, you gotta tell them interesting, engaging stories. But if you don't have those kinda stories, there's nothing to worry about. You can still everything dramatic and interesting. Maybe you can add exaggerations.
What you should focus on is describing. You have to describe the things with your words or body language. But words matter more.
So if you want to talk about any event that you went through, just start with the setting the environment. Describe the time, place, people and so on. And you have to add your opinion. "What do you think about it? ". That's the best combination ever.
Then everyone starts to listen to you. Believe me . That's going to work.
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Have you noticed when you tell a story the others, they get bored or you can't tell properly. I mean if what you're saying isn't gaining other's attention, so there's no point of saying it. Therefore in every group there's the guy who always speaks, because he has charisma that keep everyone around him. Everyone listen to him, only he speaks. He is absolutely leader of that group. He can influence the other members of the group.
If you wanna be that guy, just be charismatic. Storytelling is the essential part of being charismatic. Since you need to keep everyone around you, you gotta tell them interesting, engaging stories. But if you don't have those kinda stories, there's nothing to worry about. You can still everything dramatic and interesting. Maybe you can add exaggerations.
What you should focus on is describing. You have to describe the things with your words or body language. But words matter more.
So if you want to talk about any event that you went through, just start with the setting the environment. Describe the time, place, people and so on. And you have to add your opinion. "What do you think about it? ". That's the best combination ever.
Then everyone starts to listen to you. Believe me . That's going to work.
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Don't be hater
There is saying that "apologize everyone then you feel so good". That's cliche. We know we are supposed to do good things to those who did bad things to us. But we never do it. Because that's hard.
However once you start not hating anyone, you get rid of stress or anxiety. According to scholars and my experience, enviness is the best source of anxiety and depression. So don't have enviness.
How to not hate anyone? Just don't find other's mistakes. Always look for your mistakes and work on it. If you focus on yourself extremely or if you're self- absorbed, you won't have time to look for other people's mistakes.
I got you
There is saying that "apologize everyone then you feel so good". That's cliche. We know we are supposed to do good things to those who did bad things to us. But we never do it. Because that's hard.
However once you start not hating anyone, you get rid of stress or anxiety. According to scholars and my experience, enviness is the best source of anxiety and depression. So don't have enviness.
How to not hate anyone? Just don't find other's mistakes. Always look for your mistakes and work on it. If you focus on yourself extremely or if you're self- absorbed, you won't have time to look for other people's mistakes.
I got you
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Time to reorganize everything
No let's take a moment to reflect on our life. How's it going so far? Did your decisions turn out good or bad decision? Or Did you try to correct your mistakes?
Just think about what to do down the line. Precisely make wise decisions. For example, you can change your friends circle. If your friends who you spend most time together are really wasting your time or helping you become better version of yourself?
Just go to dark room. Put the phone another room. Turn of the light and sit. Reflect on everything that you did and are going to do. That reflection really works. That helps you set your goals more precisely and clearly.
Stay tuned
@thoughts_wave
No let's take a moment to reflect on our life. How's it going so far? Did your decisions turn out good or bad decision? Or Did you try to correct your mistakes?
Just think about what to do down the line. Precisely make wise decisions. For example, you can change your friends circle. If your friends who you spend most time together are really wasting your time or helping you become better version of yourself?
Just go to dark room. Put the phone another room. Turn of the light and sit. Reflect on everything that you did and are going to do. That reflection really works. That helps you set your goals more precisely and clearly.
Stay tuned
@thoughts_wave
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People are what they think about
That saying isn't just motivational quote or cliche. It's the truth. If we look at successful people in life, they tend to say that when I was poor or was struggling, I used to think about my goals or used to have somehow hope to achieve my goals. It's obvious that you will eventually become what you always think of. The core reason is that you try to do the things which are needed to take from you to achieve it. That's the thing.
If you always think about creating a business or becoming financially freedom, you manage your time, read related to business or work, meet with successful person in this field, or work hard. You set your mindset towards your ultimate aim. Your all focus is dedicated to gain it.
Having the right mindset is the most significant factor to be successful.
But, if you just think about having fun, short pleasures, in short ,you don't have concise goal, then you just do those things and ultimately you won't achieve your goals. Because you don't have particular goals.
What's the thing that triggers to vet out of bed in the morning especially early in the morning. Just find the right and presice goal. Then go all the way.
My friend, you've got this
@thoughts_wave
That saying isn't just motivational quote or cliche. It's the truth. If we look at successful people in life, they tend to say that when I was poor or was struggling, I used to think about my goals or used to have somehow hope to achieve my goals. It's obvious that you will eventually become what you always think of. The core reason is that you try to do the things which are needed to take from you to achieve it. That's the thing.
If you always think about creating a business or becoming financially freedom, you manage your time, read related to business or work, meet with successful person in this field, or work hard. You set your mindset towards your ultimate aim. Your all focus is dedicated to gain it.
Having the right mindset is the most significant factor to be successful.
But, if you just think about having fun, short pleasures, in short ,you don't have concise goal, then you just do those things and ultimately you won't achieve your goals. Because you don't have particular goals.
What's the thing that triggers to vet out of bed in the morning especially early in the morning. Just find the right and presice goal. Then go all the way.
My friend, you've got this
@thoughts_wave
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Create an environment where doing the right thing is easy.
Let me clarify. We have to set our workspace or home to do our good habits easier as possible. How can we do that? So, You wanna build a particular habit. Then reduce the friction of this habit. Remember habits don't have to be hard to do, the more it is easy, the more you do it and the less effort it takes. Man, don't even try to build a good habit where your surroundings isn't the place to do that task. While your phone is getting notifications, you can't simply do your work. Because you will get distracted; While everyone is making noise, you don't have to sit in that room. Just leave it. Make it easier. Man!
So you wanna read a book ,right ? Then out your damn book in the place where it's obvious and easy to notice. Don't put it in top of your shelf where you never take. Just put it noticable and common places.
Ok? alrighty? Let's make your habits happen!!!
@thoughts_wave
Let me clarify. We have to set our workspace or home to do our good habits easier as possible. How can we do that? So, You wanna build a particular habit. Then reduce the friction of this habit. Remember habits don't have to be hard to do, the more it is easy, the more you do it and the less effort it takes. Man, don't even try to build a good habit where your surroundings isn't the place to do that task. While your phone is getting notifications, you can't simply do your work. Because you will get distracted; While everyone is making noise, you don't have to sit in that room. Just leave it. Make it easier. Man!
So you wanna read a book ,right ? Then out your damn book in the place where it's obvious and easy to notice. Don't put it in top of your shelf where you never take. Just put it noticable and common places.
Ok? alrighty? Let's make your habits happen!!!
@thoughts_wave
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