How to find the passion?
You've got something that you have been avoiding doing that for the past months or years now. You suck at that thing and You don't want to try to learn. That thing is your truly passion and is the reason why things are not going pretty well. So go get better at that thing right now at least try! Then that thing is going to become your passion. Because you are getting better over and over again and also you can benefit from that.
The passion is something that you are really good at in most cases. You obtain that level of knowledge it's just because of you love that thing
Do what you're reluctant to do most
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You've got something that you have been avoiding doing that for the past months or years now. You suck at that thing and You don't want to try to learn. That thing is your truly passion and is the reason why things are not going pretty well. So go get better at that thing right now at least try! Then that thing is going to become your passion. Because you are getting better over and over again and also you can benefit from that.
The passion is something that you are really good at in most cases. You obtain that level of knowledge it's just because of you love that thing
Do what you're reluctant to do most
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Do you want people to hear you?
First of all, ask some questions from yourself. Can you really express yourself or your ideas good enough? Why do people listen to someone who can't give the main point or something important? Well, do you really deserve that people listen to you? I mean would you listen to yourself if you were in their case? The answer to all of them is probably no.
So how we deal with it is that first you should learn to express yourself in a way people understand what you're pointing.
Now what? What you should do is just being a good listener . Now you should listen to them and you should not be interrupting while they're speaking or you just have to pay all your attention for them. Then people start to listen to you because of you listened to them first.
Stay tuned
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First of all, ask some questions from yourself. Can you really express yourself or your ideas good enough? Why do people listen to someone who can't give the main point or something important? Well, do you really deserve that people listen to you? I mean would you listen to yourself if you were in their case? The answer to all of them is probably no.
So how we deal with it is that first you should learn to express yourself in a way people understand what you're pointing.
Now what? What you should do is just being a good listener . Now you should listen to them and you should not be interrupting while they're speaking or you just have to pay all your attention for them. Then people start to listen to you because of you listened to them first.
Stay tuned
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What's the key to make friends?
In order to make friends just start the conversation first by saying hello or hi or you can have small talk. Small talk could be about whether or depends on the situation.
For example, you are new in university. To make friends just reach out any student who you find it good to have a conversation with him or her. Then just say " Hello how are you? What's your major or what's your test score ? So he/she responds and everything is gonna be alright.
Then just listen to their stories even it's boring. I mean, you have to listen carefully what they say to you. Then in order to show you care, you just can ask some questions about them.
The important thing is that never ever talk about yourself. Even thought you feel that they care . They just actually pretend to care. Just don't talk about your life. Always ask questions about them and listen. By doing that you can prove that you are really a good listener and you could the best friend of them
Additional points is coming soon
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In order to make friends just start the conversation first by saying hello or hi or you can have small talk. Small talk could be about whether or depends on the situation.
For example, you are new in university. To make friends just reach out any student who you find it good to have a conversation with him or her. Then just say " Hello how are you? What's your major or what's your test score ? So he/she responds and everything is gonna be alright.
Then just listen to their stories even it's boring. I mean, you have to listen carefully what they say to you. Then in order to show you care, you just can ask some questions about them.
The important thing is that never ever talk about yourself. Even thought you feel that they care . They just actually pretend to care. Just don't talk about your life. Always ask questions about them and listen. By doing that you can prove that you are really a good listener and you could the best friend of them
Additional points is coming soon
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Expect nothing from nobody
You have a friend. He or she is your close friend. He always talk to you or say something secret to you. But this time he or she didn't do something that he always do and you get mad about him or her. So do you really need to end this relationship? If something like this happens to you, you don't only get mad about him or her, but also you feel worthless. This affect your mental health. In a nutshell this is bad for you.
So expect just nothing. And you're gonna be happy not disappointed.
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You have a friend. He or she is your close friend. He always talk to you or say something secret to you. But this time he or she didn't do something that he always do and you get mad about him or her. So do you really need to end this relationship? If something like this happens to you, you don't only get mad about him or her, but also you feel worthless. This affect your mental health. In a nutshell this is bad for you.
So expect just nothing. And you're gonna be happy not disappointed.
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Consistency is a key to success
The most challenging thing to achieve something is just doing that thing constantly. This is where everyone gives up.
So you have motivation or desire to do something that you were thinking of. Then you do that 2 or 3 days or 1 week and now what? it's over. Because you put so much effort in that in the initial period which is the 1st or the 2nd or even fourth time and you are now reluctant to it and you are unwilling to do that. What was your mistake that led to unwillingness? There is concept that 30-30 which you do that 30 minutes in 30 days . Not that much alright? Then you start gradually increase over time. Even it's less than a hour that's powerful and easy to do. In 30 days you can become master at some point.
For example, one salient example could be language learners. They struggle to memorize new words. The same method applies to memorizing words. If you learned words too much in one day . Eventually tomorrow you won't do this. To address this issue you can use space repetition method which is consistent studying. You don't have to memorize 100 words every day. You just do 30-40 but you gotta memorize and revise it each day.
So stay updated
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The most challenging thing to achieve something is just doing that thing constantly. This is where everyone gives up.
So you have motivation or desire to do something that you were thinking of. Then you do that 2 or 3 days or 1 week and now what? it's over. Because you put so much effort in that in the initial period which is the 1st or the 2nd or even fourth time and you are now reluctant to it and you are unwilling to do that. What was your mistake that led to unwillingness? There is concept that 30-30 which you do that 30 minutes in 30 days . Not that much alright? Then you start gradually increase over time. Even it's less than a hour that's powerful and easy to do. In 30 days you can become master at some point.
For example, one salient example could be language learners. They struggle to memorize new words. The same method applies to memorizing words. If you learned words too much in one day . Eventually tomorrow you won't do this. To address this issue you can use space repetition method which is consistent studying. You don't have to memorize 100 words every day. You just do 30-40 but you gotta memorize and revise it each day.
So stay updated
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When you promise, do it
Once you promised something to someone, you have to do this. Otherwise you lose people's trust which is not ok. If you blow off, nobody is going to take your sayings seriously. This can affect your life and social status. I've noticed something that most people are intended to not do what they said when they are promising. Consequently God make that difficult to do that promise. Because God says that's what you wanted. So always try to do what you promised whenever.
Be a real human-being
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Once you promised something to someone, you have to do this. Otherwise you lose people's trust which is not ok. If you blow off, nobody is going to take your sayings seriously. This can affect your life and social status. I've noticed something that most people are intended to not do what they said when they are promising. Consequently God make that difficult to do that promise. Because God says that's what you wanted. So always try to do what you promised whenever.
Be a real human-being
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We all have rejections
Recently the results are out that I applied the program. I got rejected by Selection Committee. Now I'm not angry. That happened that were supposed to happen. So I can't do nothing about it and I am going to move on. This thing can't change my mood. Because If I get angry and regret about past, anyway nothing changes. My advice is that don't take things so personal. And life is not over. You have still too much opportunities to success in life. That door is closed and now another is about to open. My friend, life is never easy. Everyone has to face downs of life.
Come one, That's not over
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Recently the results are out that I applied the program. I got rejected by Selection Committee. Now I'm not angry. That happened that were supposed to happen. So I can't do nothing about it and I am going to move on. This thing can't change my mood. Because If I get angry and regret about past, anyway nothing changes. My advice is that don't take things so personal. And life is not over. You have still too much opportunities to success in life. That door is closed and now another is about to open. My friend, life is never easy. Everyone has to face downs of life.
Come one, That's not over
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Just give a warning once, then leave him or her alone.
When you see that somebody whether you care or not is doing something that he or she is not supposed to do. Eventually you feel bad and give a warning in a way that is so friendly. After that he starts to do that thing again. At that point just don't care about this. That's not your problem now. You did what you should do. They just do whatever they want and they never think about consequences.
For example, there is one boy that you are friend. He tends to play video games and do other something useless all day long. You just said to stop this several times Just because you care. And now leave him alone. "He knows what he is doing " he thinks.
But don't forget to give a warning at least one time.
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When you see that somebody whether you care or not is doing something that he or she is not supposed to do. Eventually you feel bad and give a warning in a way that is so friendly. After that he starts to do that thing again. At that point just don't care about this. That's not your problem now. You did what you should do. They just do whatever they want and they never think about consequences.
For example, there is one boy that you are friend. He tends to play video games and do other something useless all day long. You just said to stop this several times Just because you care. And now leave him alone. "He knows what he is doing " he thinks.
But don't forget to give a warning at least one time.
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Why you can't express yourself?
Well there are not only solo reason for that. But the most obvious reason is that you tend to overthink. Basically it means you just express your thoughts that were thought 2 or 3 times. There are random thoughts going on your brain. After that you have to select the most appropriate one for that situation without think 2 times.
And you just hold your feeling inside you and you always wait for the right moment. There are no right moment, alright? If you keep doing this, no one really notices you even though you're a genius. So just let it go out and reliese, man!
You gotta speak in a way that there are no judgement. Doing this you might loose your friends or even they might attack you back. But this feeling is just on another level. You feel free. But you drop mask and you stop pretending.
Be yourself
@thoughts_wave
Well there are not only solo reason for that. But the most obvious reason is that you tend to overthink. Basically it means you just express your thoughts that were thought 2 or 3 times. There are random thoughts going on your brain. After that you have to select the most appropriate one for that situation without think 2 times.
And you just hold your feeling inside you and you always wait for the right moment. There are no right moment, alright? If you keep doing this, no one really notices you even though you're a genius. So just let it go out and reliese, man!
You gotta speak in a way that there are no judgement. Doing this you might loose your friends or even they might attack you back. But this feeling is just on another level. You feel free. But you drop mask and you stop pretending.
Be yourself
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How to change your life in 6 months?
Whether you are unemployed, employed, student or anybody else, you can make difference in just 6 months. In order to do this, you just have got to come with a great plan that is all the things considered. Great plan can be anything else. Maybe you might want to achieve something cool which is learning a new language, getting a job or acquiring skill for getting a job. After that you just disappear in 6 months. You just have to give yourself 6 months to get all done. You don't show up social media, you don't hang out with your friends, in other words you just have to be nerd and turn the " social everything" off. So before disappearing let your close ones know that you disappear. They understand you. At the same time you have the opportunity to get rid of people who you're not that important to them.
In 6 months any skill or job can be mastered at some point maybe the level for getting a job. You just can build tottaly new skill from zero. Therefore most courses are finished in 6 months. After that period, after turning a new chapter in your life, then you can get back to everything.
So just disappear
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Whether you are unemployed, employed, student or anybody else, you can make difference in just 6 months. In order to do this, you just have got to come with a great plan that is all the things considered. Great plan can be anything else. Maybe you might want to achieve something cool which is learning a new language, getting a job or acquiring skill for getting a job. After that you just disappear in 6 months. You just have to give yourself 6 months to get all done. You don't show up social media, you don't hang out with your friends, in other words you just have to be nerd and turn the " social everything" off. So before disappearing let your close ones know that you disappear. They understand you. At the same time you have the opportunity to get rid of people who you're not that important to them.
In 6 months any skill or job can be mastered at some point maybe the level for getting a job. You just can build tottaly new skill from zero. Therefore most courses are finished in 6 months. After that period, after turning a new chapter in your life, then you can get back to everything.
So just disappear
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Deep conversations will help
Now stop what you are doing right now and take a moment to think if you're on a right path or not. Just think deeply. What do you think is what you're doing is really useful? Or just something useless such playing video games or scrolling social media.
Just go to room which is dark and give yourself 10 minutes to think about everything, your actions, your past or your future. Don't look at your phone and be alone. Just sit and think. After that you feel better and get back on track again. Because you defined your goals again especially long-term goals.
I recommend to do this once in a 3 day. This really helps and keeps you in the right path whenever you're kind of lost.
Do this now
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Now stop what you are doing right now and take a moment to think if you're on a right path or not. Just think deeply. What do you think is what you're doing is really useful? Or just something useless such playing video games or scrolling social media.
Just go to room which is dark and give yourself 10 minutes to think about everything, your actions, your past or your future. Don't look at your phone and be alone. Just sit and think. After that you feel better and get back on track again. Because you defined your goals again especially long-term goals.
I recommend to do this once in a 3 day. This really helps and keeps you in the right path whenever you're kind of lost.
Do this now
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why don't you think in a positive way?
Imagine something bad happened to you and all you do is just regretting about your past actions and don't think in a right way. Thing are not supposed to be in that way. Every failure is an opportunity to growth. You made a mistake. now you realize you shouldn't be doing that anymore and should try another way. So That's not that bad . Because you are building your character based on mistakes.
For example you are looking for a job. You got rejected from interviews staggering 10 times and now what? You invented 10 ways which are not taking you to success. Positive thinking would be that "I just messed up this and I nailed that. Now I have to work on this and that. This was a new experiment for me which was so valuable. I actually did great. I just did something rather that doing nothing."
If success didn't come from failure , that's not success then
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Imagine something bad happened to you and all you do is just regretting about your past actions and don't think in a right way. Thing are not supposed to be in that way. Every failure is an opportunity to growth. You made a mistake. now you realize you shouldn't be doing that anymore and should try another way. So That's not that bad . Because you are building your character based on mistakes.
For example you are looking for a job. You got rejected from interviews staggering 10 times and now what? You invented 10 ways which are not taking you to success. Positive thinking would be that "I just messed up this and I nailed that. Now I have to work on this and that. This was a new experiment for me which was so valuable. I actually did great. I just did something rather that doing nothing."
If success didn't come from failure , that's not success then
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How to get rid of social anxiety?
I think nobody was born as extrovert or outgoing. It really comes from practice. But you don't perceive you are practicing or not. You just speak to someone whether who is stranger or not and you improve your social skills .
But the problem is your are shy. You feel awkward and embarrassing. The solution would be " put yourself out there". If you don't become sociable or you don't even have communication skills, you are less likely to become successful in life. It really affects our life. You don't have be active on a daily basis such as going to events or talking to anybody. Just overcome social anxiety
Be active, by the way
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I think nobody was born as extrovert or outgoing. It really comes from practice. But you don't perceive you are practicing or not. You just speak to someone whether who is stranger or not and you improve your social skills .
But the problem is your are shy. You feel awkward and embarrassing. The solution would be " put yourself out there". If you don't become sociable or you don't even have communication skills, you are less likely to become successful in life. It really affects our life. You don't have be active on a daily basis such as going to events or talking to anybody. Just overcome social anxiety
Be active, by the way
@thoughts_wave
How to be more focused?
In our face-paced world, there are so many things that can distract you anywhere, anytime more compared to the past. It's difficult to get concentrated while studying or working. Because the social media is just brainwashing us and preventing to be more focused.For example, You watch short videos. At that time your brain is focusing on that video but eventually you scroll down and change that video. At that point your brain just break down. So doing this hundred times cause so many serious cognitive problems.
How to actually to be focused? Just while you're working or studying, just turn your phone off. No more other questions. But if your phone is required to study or work. Remove all the distractions such as turning off the notifications which are from social media. Actually you have got to get rid of social media as well. So then like everybody knows, set the timer for 25-30 minutes and dive that thing so deeply. Don't think about nothing even breathing ( I'm kidding). The first you do is actually finding a peaceful and quiet room which is helpful to get concentrated. After 30 minutes deep work, just take a break for 5 minutes. In that break don't think about work or study. Just do whatever that can relax. Then repeat that.
Believe me this is really helpful. Just give it a try. Why I'm recommending this is that this actually worked for me.
Stay tuned
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In our face-paced world, there are so many things that can distract you anywhere, anytime more compared to the past. It's difficult to get concentrated while studying or working. Because the social media is just brainwashing us and preventing to be more focused.For example, You watch short videos. At that time your brain is focusing on that video but eventually you scroll down and change that video. At that point your brain just break down. So doing this hundred times cause so many serious cognitive problems.
How to actually to be focused? Just while you're working or studying, just turn your phone off. No more other questions. But if your phone is required to study or work. Remove all the distractions such as turning off the notifications which are from social media. Actually you have got to get rid of social media as well. So then like everybody knows, set the timer for 25-30 minutes and dive that thing so deeply. Don't think about nothing even breathing ( I'm kidding). The first you do is actually finding a peaceful and quiet room which is helpful to get concentrated. After 30 minutes deep work, just take a break for 5 minutes. In that break don't think about work or study. Just do whatever that can relax. Then repeat that.
Believe me this is really helpful. Just give it a try. Why I'm recommending this is that this actually worked for me.
Stay tuned
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How to not be socially awkward?
When you talk to strangers first time, you say " How are you? Or Where you from" and stuff like that. Those are the words that are so cliche. If you really want to make really good impression on somebody, prove that they are different by asking or responding something different. After you say these things, maybe they just lost interest in you. Because you are showing no interest in them. Then they respond just like everyone else. Avoid of treating like you're everybody else by treating them different.
This time let's say something unusual such as joke or compliment or just little extra details about. In addition to that, don't talk about yourself more. Always ask. Ok?
That's all today, I gotta sleep
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When you talk to strangers first time, you say " How are you? Or Where you from" and stuff like that. Those are the words that are so cliche. If you really want to make really good impression on somebody, prove that they are different by asking or responding something different. After you say these things, maybe they just lost interest in you. Because you are showing no interest in them. Then they respond just like everyone else. Avoid of treating like you're everybody else by treating them different.
This time let's say something unusual such as joke or compliment or just little extra details about. In addition to that, don't talk about yourself more. Always ask. Ok?
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Why nothing happens as you expected?
Life is interesting. You don't know what is going to happen 1 minute later even. You always are very surprised just because everything goes totally different. You anticipate everytime and hope for something. But eventually this is never occur as planned. This is something that never make life uninteresting. When you meet with new people and then you think " I am gonna with them like forever or something like this" . But you and they never get together again. Contrastingly you meet with people who you don't really like. At the end of the day you are going to friends with them forever.
So don't expect life a lot.
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Life is interesting. You don't know what is going to happen 1 minute later even. You always are very surprised just because everything goes totally different. You anticipate everytime and hope for something. But eventually this is never occur as planned. This is something that never make life uninteresting. When you meet with new people and then you think " I am gonna with them like forever or something like this" . But you and they never get together again. Contrastingly you meet with people who you don't really like. At the end of the day you are going to friends with them forever.
So don't expect life a lot.
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Take that responsibility
If you take responsibility for something serious that not everyone is willing to do, people start to take you seriously. That's the important thing ever. Because with that believe of people you are able to have higher social status. If you are being more in charge on your own or people just give the whole thing to you to do by yourself, what you're saying will be listened by people and you can influence peoplem Then you're most likely to become a good leader maybe. The thing that every leader has is just that they just take the all the responsibility and they are responsible. Again everything requires responsibility itself. By doing that , not only other people start to believe you, but also You start to believe what you can do on your own.
Don't be afraid of doing that. If you don't do that, eventually another person will do it. You are gonna miss your chance to gain people's trust.
Be responsible when you take responsibility as well!
Be in charge
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If you take responsibility for something serious that not everyone is willing to do, people start to take you seriously. That's the important thing ever. Because with that believe of people you are able to have higher social status. If you are being more in charge on your own or people just give the whole thing to you to do by yourself, what you're saying will be listened by people and you can influence peoplem Then you're most likely to become a good leader maybe. The thing that every leader has is just that they just take the all the responsibility and they are responsible. Again everything requires responsibility itself. By doing that , not only other people start to believe you, but also You start to believe what you can do on your own.
Don't be afraid of doing that. If you don't do that, eventually another person will do it. You are gonna miss your chance to gain people's trust.
Be responsible when you take responsibility as well!
Be in charge
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Give yourself a break
I know you're working or studying a lot and you don't even have time to do entertaining things. If you're doing things that leads to achieve your goal constantly. Believe me eventually your brain will burn out. You won't want to work or study. At that point take a short respite. Forget about everything and don't even think about your job or studies. Spend your time with your friends or your close friends . You might hang out or travel or do something that doesn't involve work. After that your brain will reset and gain its full capacity. Even this time you're willing to do your work. Cuz you're motivated and you have so much energy.
What I'm trying to say is that take a break sometimes especially when you're feeling lost or buring out.
Learn to have a break. Life isn't about only work
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I know you're working or studying a lot and you don't even have time to do entertaining things. If you're doing things that leads to achieve your goal constantly. Believe me eventually your brain will burn out. You won't want to work or study. At that point take a short respite. Forget about everything and don't even think about your job or studies. Spend your time with your friends or your close friends . You might hang out or travel or do something that doesn't involve work. After that your brain will reset and gain its full capacity. Even this time you're willing to do your work. Cuz you're motivated and you have so much energy.
What I'm trying to say is that take a break sometimes especially when you're feeling lost or buring out.
Learn to have a break. Life isn't about only work
@thoughts_wave
I know you don't want to work or study
In my recent post I talked why giving break is important. But this time we're running why people are getting to much "breaks". Let me say this clearly. When I said "breaks", I meant dopamine hit which basically means doing whatever you wants. This can be everything such food, social media, maybe chocolate, hanging out.
Well the problem is that people are obsessed with hitting their dopamine. They spent their whole time doing that entertaining things. There are a lot of downstream issues that it leads to. Now I'm going to talk just social media. Because this is the problem that we can't deal with easily.
The first of all is focus. I think the best way to entertain is just watching social media or doing things associated with the phone. So by just doing that, you don't not only waste your time, at the same time you might lose your concentration which is the key to everything. Therefore nowadays youngsters even can't study just for 5 minutes with deep focus. So the solution could be deleting social media. You just make some excuses not to remove that apps. But believe me this is causing so much issues that is helping.
The second of all could be depression. You might have perceived when you watched social media , afterwards some thoughts just comes to your mind like I'm not doing nothing, I'm not becoming successful or I'm totally useless. So if you want to be happy, just go get rid of that.
The third of all is that you're becoming more stupid. Because you're letting yourself to watch any social media platform algorithms. Videos or photos in that could be satisfying or not. But in the most cases the posts are really useless. It doesn't have any useful information related to your work or studies either. In a nutshell you're becoming really stupid. Because only stupid people let them other control them. Just don't be that person.
No wait, I have some more words for ya. You think social media is the problem that you're not succeeding. Nah bro you're using it in a wrong way. You might make money from it. It is all in your hands and it's all up to you. I think you can use social media in 2 ways: making money or helping someone make money. Which one would you choose. The conclusion would be don't let the things control you, just gain that control.
Stay updated,brother
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In my recent post I talked why giving break is important. But this time we're running why people are getting to much "breaks". Let me say this clearly. When I said "breaks", I meant dopamine hit which basically means doing whatever you wants. This can be everything such food, social media, maybe chocolate, hanging out.
Well the problem is that people are obsessed with hitting their dopamine. They spent their whole time doing that entertaining things. There are a lot of downstream issues that it leads to. Now I'm going to talk just social media. Because this is the problem that we can't deal with easily.
The first of all is focus. I think the best way to entertain is just watching social media or doing things associated with the phone. So by just doing that, you don't not only waste your time, at the same time you might lose your concentration which is the key to everything. Therefore nowadays youngsters even can't study just for 5 minutes with deep focus. So the solution could be deleting social media. You just make some excuses not to remove that apps. But believe me this is causing so much issues that is helping.
The second of all could be depression. You might have perceived when you watched social media , afterwards some thoughts just comes to your mind like I'm not doing nothing, I'm not becoming successful or I'm totally useless. So if you want to be happy, just go get rid of that.
The third of all is that you're becoming more stupid. Because you're letting yourself to watch any social media platform algorithms. Videos or photos in that could be satisfying or not. But in the most cases the posts are really useless. It doesn't have any useful information related to your work or studies either. In a nutshell you're becoming really stupid. Because only stupid people let them other control them. Just don't be that person.
No wait, I have some more words for ya. You think social media is the problem that you're not succeeding. Nah bro you're using it in a wrong way. You might make money from it. It is all in your hands and it's all up to you. I think you can use social media in 2 ways: making money or helping someone make money. Which one would you choose. The conclusion would be don't let the things control you, just gain that control.
Stay updated,
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Try to be useful as possible
Well, you want more money, people's attention, social status or everyone to respect you. How to achieve all of that at the same time? In the first place being useful and helpful for others might provide everything you want from life. Let me explain why.
Even If you are best at something, but you're not giving some value to society or not using it to contribute to the society, then ask yourself why should people care about what you do if you don't help them? So let people use your skill. For example if you're so good at singing, but you never showed people your talent and not allowed people to entertain or relax. Then you better give that up.
If that's the case, you want people to know you , then show you can help out people like so many times. Then people call you remembering your helps. But that's important that what you do should be that not everyone can do that. Then your status start to increase considerably.
So contribute by doing cool stuff
@thoughts_wave
Well, you want more money, people's attention, social status or everyone to respect you. How to achieve all of that at the same time? In the first place being useful and helpful for others might provide everything you want from life. Let me explain why.
Even If you are best at something, but you're not giving some value to society or not using it to contribute to the society, then ask yourself why should people care about what you do if you don't help them? So let people use your skill. For example if you're so good at singing, but you never showed people your talent and not allowed people to entertain or relax. Then you better give that up.
If that's the case, you want people to know you , then show you can help out people like so many times. Then people call you remembering your helps. But that's important that what you do should be that not everyone can do that. Then your status start to increase considerably.
So contribute by doing cool stuff
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Set your expectations low
Well you've heard of that when you are planning to do something, be optimistic and everybody knows that. But you really take consider that you have to set your expectations about that thing so low. if you are going to fail that thing then you're not going to lose nothing mentally and it's not going to hurt so badly. In a nutshell you're not going to be disappointed. For example, you want to reach out to somebody who you think is going to welcome you. But he really didn't treat as you think. Then eventually it hurts and you're going to be weak emotionally and mentally. But if you wouldn't expect that so much from that person and eventually you would be fine.
Always think about that drawbacks and downside of that thing. Expect downsides then you never get disappointed. That's how I approach every single circumstance. If you once fail at certain thing, you're more likely to keep that up.
Don't expect a lot
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Well you've heard of that when you are planning to do something, be optimistic and everybody knows that. But you really take consider that you have to set your expectations about that thing so low. if you are going to fail that thing then you're not going to lose nothing mentally and it's not going to hurt so badly. In a nutshell you're not going to be disappointed. For example, you want to reach out to somebody who you think is going to welcome you. But he really didn't treat as you think. Then eventually it hurts and you're going to be weak emotionally and mentally. But if you wouldn't expect that so much from that person and eventually you would be fine.
Always think about that drawbacks and downside of that thing. Expect downsides then you never get disappointed. That's how I approach every single circumstance. If you once fail at certain thing, you're more likely to keep that up.
Don't expect a lot
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