The only person who cares about you is your mom
When you're in a difficult situation or get in trouble, only your mom listens to you by all her ears. She likes you from bottom of her heart even you hurt her feelings. None helps you but your mom. So don't take for granted these kind of memories with your mom. Ahh man! How many times have you hurt her today? I bet at least more than one time. Just look at the people who their mom passed away. Their lives are meaningless without their mom.
So right now reach out her and say that you love her. Just don't be shy. This is not a situation for being shy.
Tell your mom you love her
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When you're in a difficult situation or get in trouble, only your mom listens to you by all her ears. She likes you from bottom of her heart even you hurt her feelings. None helps you but your mom. So don't take for granted these kind of memories with your mom. Ahh man! How many times have you hurt her today? I bet at least more than one time. Just look at the people who their mom passed away. Their lives are meaningless without their mom.
So right now reach out her and say that you love her. Just don't be shy. This is not a situation for being shy.
Tell your mom you love her
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Social skills
Everyone needs social skills such as communication skills, leadership skills. Whatever your job is eventually you gotta have that skills. There is a reason for that. Thounds of people graduate a university then jobs are competetive. So Hiring companies don't want simple workers, they need workers who are creative, leader, sociable. So be active. If there is an active worker who is on average and there is a worker who is genius, companies are more likely to choose first student. So you got that point
Just be an active person. Work on your social skills
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Everyone needs social skills such as communication skills, leadership skills. Whatever your job is eventually you gotta have that skills. There is a reason for that. Thounds of people graduate a university then jobs are competetive. So Hiring companies don't want simple workers, they need workers who are creative, leader, sociable. So be active. If there is an active worker who is on average and there is a worker who is genius, companies are more likely to choose first student. So you got that point
Just be an active person. Work on your social skills
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Admitting is way more hard to people
When you have done or have said something wrong, you don't want to admit that. Even though when you are pretty sure you're absolutely not right, you simply don't confess. Just stop that right there when you know that.
People don't want to be humiliated in public so they simply don't acknowledge that what they have done is wrong. So now what? they start lying about their actions or something. If you admit your action, you are gonna be fine and you don't have to justify over and over again unless it reveals. I know it sucks. But at that point you feel bad but then things are gonna be so much easier.
Be responsible for your actions
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When you have done or have said something wrong, you don't want to admit that. Even though when you are pretty sure you're absolutely not right, you simply don't confess. Just stop that right there when you know that.
People don't want to be humiliated in public so they simply don't acknowledge that what they have done is wrong. So now what? they start lying about their actions or something. If you admit your action, you are gonna be fine and you don't have to justify over and over again unless it reveals. I know it sucks. But at that point you feel bad but then things are gonna be so much easier.
Be responsible for your actions
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How to find the passion?
You've got something that you have been avoiding doing that for the past months or years now. You suck at that thing and You don't want to try to learn. That thing is your truly passion and is the reason why things are not going pretty well. So go get better at that thing right now at least try! Then that thing is going to become your passion. Because you are getting better over and over again and also you can benefit from that.
The passion is something that you are really good at in most cases. You obtain that level of knowledge it's just because of you love that thing
Do what you're reluctant to do most
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You've got something that you have been avoiding doing that for the past months or years now. You suck at that thing and You don't want to try to learn. That thing is your truly passion and is the reason why things are not going pretty well. So go get better at that thing right now at least try! Then that thing is going to become your passion. Because you are getting better over and over again and also you can benefit from that.
The passion is something that you are really good at in most cases. You obtain that level of knowledge it's just because of you love that thing
Do what you're reluctant to do most
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Do you want people to hear you?
First of all, ask some questions from yourself. Can you really express yourself or your ideas good enough? Why do people listen to someone who can't give the main point or something important? Well, do you really deserve that people listen to you? I mean would you listen to yourself if you were in their case? The answer to all of them is probably no.
So how we deal with it is that first you should learn to express yourself in a way people understand what you're pointing.
Now what? What you should do is just being a good listener . Now you should listen to them and you should not be interrupting while they're speaking or you just have to pay all your attention for them. Then people start to listen to you because of you listened to them first.
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First of all, ask some questions from yourself. Can you really express yourself or your ideas good enough? Why do people listen to someone who can't give the main point or something important? Well, do you really deserve that people listen to you? I mean would you listen to yourself if you were in their case? The answer to all of them is probably no.
So how we deal with it is that first you should learn to express yourself in a way people understand what you're pointing.
Now what? What you should do is just being a good listener . Now you should listen to them and you should not be interrupting while they're speaking or you just have to pay all your attention for them. Then people start to listen to you because of you listened to them first.
Stay tuned
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What's the key to make friends?
In order to make friends just start the conversation first by saying hello or hi or you can have small talk. Small talk could be about whether or depends on the situation.
For example, you are new in university. To make friends just reach out any student who you find it good to have a conversation with him or her. Then just say " Hello how are you? What's your major or what's your test score ? So he/she responds and everything is gonna be alright.
Then just listen to their stories even it's boring. I mean, you have to listen carefully what they say to you. Then in order to show you care, you just can ask some questions about them.
The important thing is that never ever talk about yourself. Even thought you feel that they care . They just actually pretend to care. Just don't talk about your life. Always ask questions about them and listen. By doing that you can prove that you are really a good listener and you could the best friend of them
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In order to make friends just start the conversation first by saying hello or hi or you can have small talk. Small talk could be about whether or depends on the situation.
For example, you are new in university. To make friends just reach out any student who you find it good to have a conversation with him or her. Then just say " Hello how are you? What's your major or what's your test score ? So he/she responds and everything is gonna be alright.
Then just listen to their stories even it's boring. I mean, you have to listen carefully what they say to you. Then in order to show you care, you just can ask some questions about them.
The important thing is that never ever talk about yourself. Even thought you feel that they care . They just actually pretend to care. Just don't talk about your life. Always ask questions about them and listen. By doing that you can prove that you are really a good listener and you could the best friend of them
Additional points is coming soon
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Expect nothing from nobody
You have a friend. He or she is your close friend. He always talk to you or say something secret to you. But this time he or she didn't do something that he always do and you get mad about him or her. So do you really need to end this relationship? If something like this happens to you, you don't only get mad about him or her, but also you feel worthless. This affect your mental health. In a nutshell this is bad for you.
So expect just nothing. And you're gonna be happy not disappointed.
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You have a friend. He or she is your close friend. He always talk to you or say something secret to you. But this time he or she didn't do something that he always do and you get mad about him or her. So do you really need to end this relationship? If something like this happens to you, you don't only get mad about him or her, but also you feel worthless. This affect your mental health. In a nutshell this is bad for you.
So expect just nothing. And you're gonna be happy not disappointed.
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Consistency is a key to success
The most challenging thing to achieve something is just doing that thing constantly. This is where everyone gives up.
So you have motivation or desire to do something that you were thinking of. Then you do that 2 or 3 days or 1 week and now what? it's over. Because you put so much effort in that in the initial period which is the 1st or the 2nd or even fourth time and you are now reluctant to it and you are unwilling to do that. What was your mistake that led to unwillingness? There is concept that 30-30 which you do that 30 minutes in 30 days . Not that much alright? Then you start gradually increase over time. Even it's less than a hour that's powerful and easy to do. In 30 days you can become master at some point.
For example, one salient example could be language learners. They struggle to memorize new words. The same method applies to memorizing words. If you learned words too much in one day . Eventually tomorrow you won't do this. To address this issue you can use space repetition method which is consistent studying. You don't have to memorize 100 words every day. You just do 30-40 but you gotta memorize and revise it each day.
So stay updated
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The most challenging thing to achieve something is just doing that thing constantly. This is where everyone gives up.
So you have motivation or desire to do something that you were thinking of. Then you do that 2 or 3 days or 1 week and now what? it's over. Because you put so much effort in that in the initial period which is the 1st or the 2nd or even fourth time and you are now reluctant to it and you are unwilling to do that. What was your mistake that led to unwillingness? There is concept that 30-30 which you do that 30 minutes in 30 days . Not that much alright? Then you start gradually increase over time. Even it's less than a hour that's powerful and easy to do. In 30 days you can become master at some point.
For example, one salient example could be language learners. They struggle to memorize new words. The same method applies to memorizing words. If you learned words too much in one day . Eventually tomorrow you won't do this. To address this issue you can use space repetition method which is consistent studying. You don't have to memorize 100 words every day. You just do 30-40 but you gotta memorize and revise it each day.
So stay updated
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When you promise, do it
Once you promised something to someone, you have to do this. Otherwise you lose people's trust which is not ok. If you blow off, nobody is going to take your sayings seriously. This can affect your life and social status. I've noticed something that most people are intended to not do what they said when they are promising. Consequently God make that difficult to do that promise. Because God says that's what you wanted. So always try to do what you promised whenever.
Be a real human-being
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Once you promised something to someone, you have to do this. Otherwise you lose people's trust which is not ok. If you blow off, nobody is going to take your sayings seriously. This can affect your life and social status. I've noticed something that most people are intended to not do what they said when they are promising. Consequently God make that difficult to do that promise. Because God says that's what you wanted. So always try to do what you promised whenever.
Be a real human-being
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We all have rejections
Recently the results are out that I applied the program. I got rejected by Selection Committee. Now I'm not angry. That happened that were supposed to happen. So I can't do nothing about it and I am going to move on. This thing can't change my mood. Because If I get angry and regret about past, anyway nothing changes. My advice is that don't take things so personal. And life is not over. You have still too much opportunities to success in life. That door is closed and now another is about to open. My friend, life is never easy. Everyone has to face downs of life.
Come one, That's not over
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Recently the results are out that I applied the program. I got rejected by Selection Committee. Now I'm not angry. That happened that were supposed to happen. So I can't do nothing about it and I am going to move on. This thing can't change my mood. Because If I get angry and regret about past, anyway nothing changes. My advice is that don't take things so personal. And life is not over. You have still too much opportunities to success in life. That door is closed and now another is about to open. My friend, life is never easy. Everyone has to face downs of life.
Come one, That's not over
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Just give a warning once, then leave him or her alone.
When you see that somebody whether you care or not is doing something that he or she is not supposed to do. Eventually you feel bad and give a warning in a way that is so friendly. After that he starts to do that thing again. At that point just don't care about this. That's not your problem now. You did what you should do. They just do whatever they want and they never think about consequences.
For example, there is one boy that you are friend. He tends to play video games and do other something useless all day long. You just said to stop this several times Just because you care. And now leave him alone. "He knows what he is doing " he thinks.
But don't forget to give a warning at least one time.
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When you see that somebody whether you care or not is doing something that he or she is not supposed to do. Eventually you feel bad and give a warning in a way that is so friendly. After that he starts to do that thing again. At that point just don't care about this. That's not your problem now. You did what you should do. They just do whatever they want and they never think about consequences.
For example, there is one boy that you are friend. He tends to play video games and do other something useless all day long. You just said to stop this several times Just because you care. And now leave him alone. "He knows what he is doing " he thinks.
But don't forget to give a warning at least one time.
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Why you can't express yourself?
Well there are not only solo reason for that. But the most obvious reason is that you tend to overthink. Basically it means you just express your thoughts that were thought 2 or 3 times. There are random thoughts going on your brain. After that you have to select the most appropriate one for that situation without think 2 times.
And you just hold your feeling inside you and you always wait for the right moment. There are no right moment, alright? If you keep doing this, no one really notices you even though you're a genius. So just let it go out and reliese, man!
You gotta speak in a way that there are no judgement. Doing this you might loose your friends or even they might attack you back. But this feeling is just on another level. You feel free. But you drop mask and you stop pretending.
Be yourself
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Well there are not only solo reason for that. But the most obvious reason is that you tend to overthink. Basically it means you just express your thoughts that were thought 2 or 3 times. There are random thoughts going on your brain. After that you have to select the most appropriate one for that situation without think 2 times.
And you just hold your feeling inside you and you always wait for the right moment. There are no right moment, alright? If you keep doing this, no one really notices you even though you're a genius. So just let it go out and reliese, man!
You gotta speak in a way that there are no judgement. Doing this you might loose your friends or even they might attack you back. But this feeling is just on another level. You feel free. But you drop mask and you stop pretending.
Be yourself
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How to change your life in 6 months?
Whether you are unemployed, employed, student or anybody else, you can make difference in just 6 months. In order to do this, you just have got to come with a great plan that is all the things considered. Great plan can be anything else. Maybe you might want to achieve something cool which is learning a new language, getting a job or acquiring skill for getting a job. After that you just disappear in 6 months. You just have to give yourself 6 months to get all done. You don't show up social media, you don't hang out with your friends, in other words you just have to be nerd and turn the " social everything" off. So before disappearing let your close ones know that you disappear. They understand you. At the same time you have the opportunity to get rid of people who you're not that important to them.
In 6 months any skill or job can be mastered at some point maybe the level for getting a job. You just can build tottaly new skill from zero. Therefore most courses are finished in 6 months. After that period, after turning a new chapter in your life, then you can get back to everything.
So just disappear
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Whether you are unemployed, employed, student or anybody else, you can make difference in just 6 months. In order to do this, you just have got to come with a great plan that is all the things considered. Great plan can be anything else. Maybe you might want to achieve something cool which is learning a new language, getting a job or acquiring skill for getting a job. After that you just disappear in 6 months. You just have to give yourself 6 months to get all done. You don't show up social media, you don't hang out with your friends, in other words you just have to be nerd and turn the " social everything" off. So before disappearing let your close ones know that you disappear. They understand you. At the same time you have the opportunity to get rid of people who you're not that important to them.
In 6 months any skill or job can be mastered at some point maybe the level for getting a job. You just can build tottaly new skill from zero. Therefore most courses are finished in 6 months. After that period, after turning a new chapter in your life, then you can get back to everything.
So just disappear
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Deep conversations will help
Now stop what you are doing right now and take a moment to think if you're on a right path or not. Just think deeply. What do you think is what you're doing is really useful? Or just something useless such playing video games or scrolling social media.
Just go to room which is dark and give yourself 10 minutes to think about everything, your actions, your past or your future. Don't look at your phone and be alone. Just sit and think. After that you feel better and get back on track again. Because you defined your goals again especially long-term goals.
I recommend to do this once in a 3 day. This really helps and keeps you in the right path whenever you're kind of lost.
Do this now
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Now stop what you are doing right now and take a moment to think if you're on a right path or not. Just think deeply. What do you think is what you're doing is really useful? Or just something useless such playing video games or scrolling social media.
Just go to room which is dark and give yourself 10 minutes to think about everything, your actions, your past or your future. Don't look at your phone and be alone. Just sit and think. After that you feel better and get back on track again. Because you defined your goals again especially long-term goals.
I recommend to do this once in a 3 day. This really helps and keeps you in the right path whenever you're kind of lost.
Do this now
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why don't you think in a positive way?
Imagine something bad happened to you and all you do is just regretting about your past actions and don't think in a right way. Thing are not supposed to be in that way. Every failure is an opportunity to growth. You made a mistake. now you realize you shouldn't be doing that anymore and should try another way. So That's not that bad . Because you are building your character based on mistakes.
For example you are looking for a job. You got rejected from interviews staggering 10 times and now what? You invented 10 ways which are not taking you to success. Positive thinking would be that "I just messed up this and I nailed that. Now I have to work on this and that. This was a new experiment for me which was so valuable. I actually did great. I just did something rather that doing nothing."
If success didn't come from failure , that's not success then
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Imagine something bad happened to you and all you do is just regretting about your past actions and don't think in a right way. Thing are not supposed to be in that way. Every failure is an opportunity to growth. You made a mistake. now you realize you shouldn't be doing that anymore and should try another way. So That's not that bad . Because you are building your character based on mistakes.
For example you are looking for a job. You got rejected from interviews staggering 10 times and now what? You invented 10 ways which are not taking you to success. Positive thinking would be that "I just messed up this and I nailed that. Now I have to work on this and that. This was a new experiment for me which was so valuable. I actually did great. I just did something rather that doing nothing."
If success didn't come from failure , that's not success then
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How to get rid of social anxiety?
I think nobody was born as extrovert or outgoing. It really comes from practice. But you don't perceive you are practicing or not. You just speak to someone whether who is stranger or not and you improve your social skills .
But the problem is your are shy. You feel awkward and embarrassing. The solution would be " put yourself out there". If you don't become sociable or you don't even have communication skills, you are less likely to become successful in life. It really affects our life. You don't have be active on a daily basis such as going to events or talking to anybody. Just overcome social anxiety
Be active, by the way
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I think nobody was born as extrovert or outgoing. It really comes from practice. But you don't perceive you are practicing or not. You just speak to someone whether who is stranger or not and you improve your social skills .
But the problem is your are shy. You feel awkward and embarrassing. The solution would be " put yourself out there". If you don't become sociable or you don't even have communication skills, you are less likely to become successful in life. It really affects our life. You don't have be active on a daily basis such as going to events or talking to anybody. Just overcome social anxiety
Be active, by the way
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How to be more focused?
In our face-paced world, there are so many things that can distract you anywhere, anytime more compared to the past. It's difficult to get concentrated while studying or working. Because the social media is just brainwashing us and preventing to be more focused.For example, You watch short videos. At that time your brain is focusing on that video but eventually you scroll down and change that video. At that point your brain just break down. So doing this hundred times cause so many serious cognitive problems.
How to actually to be focused? Just while you're working or studying, just turn your phone off. No more other questions. But if your phone is required to study or work. Remove all the distractions such as turning off the notifications which are from social media. Actually you have got to get rid of social media as well. So then like everybody knows, set the timer for 25-30 minutes and dive that thing so deeply. Don't think about nothing even breathing ( I'm kidding). The first you do is actually finding a peaceful and quiet room which is helpful to get concentrated. After 30 minutes deep work, just take a break for 5 minutes. In that break don't think about work or study. Just do whatever that can relax. Then repeat that.
Believe me this is really helpful. Just give it a try. Why I'm recommending this is that this actually worked for me.
Stay tuned
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In our face-paced world, there are so many things that can distract you anywhere, anytime more compared to the past. It's difficult to get concentrated while studying or working. Because the social media is just brainwashing us and preventing to be more focused.For example, You watch short videos. At that time your brain is focusing on that video but eventually you scroll down and change that video. At that point your brain just break down. So doing this hundred times cause so many serious cognitive problems.
How to actually to be focused? Just while you're working or studying, just turn your phone off. No more other questions. But if your phone is required to study or work. Remove all the distractions such as turning off the notifications which are from social media. Actually you have got to get rid of social media as well. So then like everybody knows, set the timer for 25-30 minutes and dive that thing so deeply. Don't think about nothing even breathing ( I'm kidding). The first you do is actually finding a peaceful and quiet room which is helpful to get concentrated. After 30 minutes deep work, just take a break for 5 minutes. In that break don't think about work or study. Just do whatever that can relax. Then repeat that.
Believe me this is really helpful. Just give it a try. Why I'm recommending this is that this actually worked for me.
Stay tuned
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How to not be socially awkward?
When you talk to strangers first time, you say " How are you? Or Where you from" and stuff like that. Those are the words that are so cliche. If you really want to make really good impression on somebody, prove that they are different by asking or responding something different. After you say these things, maybe they just lost interest in you. Because you are showing no interest in them. Then they respond just like everyone else. Avoid of treating like you're everybody else by treating them different.
This time let's say something unusual such as joke or compliment or just little extra details about. In addition to that, don't talk about yourself more. Always ask. Ok?
That's all today, I gotta sleep
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When you talk to strangers first time, you say " How are you? Or Where you from" and stuff like that. Those are the words that are so cliche. If you really want to make really good impression on somebody, prove that they are different by asking or responding something different. After you say these things, maybe they just lost interest in you. Because you are showing no interest in them. Then they respond just like everyone else. Avoid of treating like you're everybody else by treating them different.
This time let's say something unusual such as joke or compliment or just little extra details about. In addition to that, don't talk about yourself more. Always ask. Ok?
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Why nothing happens as you expected?
Life is interesting. You don't know what is going to happen 1 minute later even. You always are very surprised just because everything goes totally different. You anticipate everytime and hope for something. But eventually this is never occur as planned. This is something that never make life uninteresting. When you meet with new people and then you think " I am gonna with them like forever or something like this" . But you and they never get together again. Contrastingly you meet with people who you don't really like. At the end of the day you are going to friends with them forever.
So don't expect life a lot.
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Life is interesting. You don't know what is going to happen 1 minute later even. You always are very surprised just because everything goes totally different. You anticipate everytime and hope for something. But eventually this is never occur as planned. This is something that never make life uninteresting. When you meet with new people and then you think " I am gonna with them like forever or something like this" . But you and they never get together again. Contrastingly you meet with people who you don't really like. At the end of the day you are going to friends with them forever.
So don't expect life a lot.
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Take that responsibility
If you take responsibility for something serious that not everyone is willing to do, people start to take you seriously. That's the important thing ever. Because with that believe of people you are able to have higher social status. If you are being more in charge on your own or people just give the whole thing to you to do by yourself, what you're saying will be listened by people and you can influence peoplem Then you're most likely to become a good leader maybe. The thing that every leader has is just that they just take the all the responsibility and they are responsible. Again everything requires responsibility itself. By doing that , not only other people start to believe you, but also You start to believe what you can do on your own.
Don't be afraid of doing that. If you don't do that, eventually another person will do it. You are gonna miss your chance to gain people's trust.
Be responsible when you take responsibility as well!
Be in charge
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If you take responsibility for something serious that not everyone is willing to do, people start to take you seriously. That's the important thing ever. Because with that believe of people you are able to have higher social status. If you are being more in charge on your own or people just give the whole thing to you to do by yourself, what you're saying will be listened by people and you can influence peoplem Then you're most likely to become a good leader maybe. The thing that every leader has is just that they just take the all the responsibility and they are responsible. Again everything requires responsibility itself. By doing that , not only other people start to believe you, but also You start to believe what you can do on your own.
Don't be afraid of doing that. If you don't do that, eventually another person will do it. You are gonna miss your chance to gain people's trust.
Be responsible when you take responsibility as well!
Be in charge
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Give yourself a break
I know you're working or studying a lot and you don't even have time to do entertaining things. If you're doing things that leads to achieve your goal constantly. Believe me eventually your brain will burn out. You won't want to work or study. At that point take a short respite. Forget about everything and don't even think about your job or studies. Spend your time with your friends or your close friends . You might hang out or travel or do something that doesn't involve work. After that your brain will reset and gain its full capacity. Even this time you're willing to do your work. Cuz you're motivated and you have so much energy.
What I'm trying to say is that take a break sometimes especially when you're feeling lost or buring out.
Learn to have a break. Life isn't about only work
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I know you're working or studying a lot and you don't even have time to do entertaining things. If you're doing things that leads to achieve your goal constantly. Believe me eventually your brain will burn out. You won't want to work or study. At that point take a short respite. Forget about everything and don't even think about your job or studies. Spend your time with your friends or your close friends . You might hang out or travel or do something that doesn't involve work. After that your brain will reset and gain its full capacity. Even this time you're willing to do your work. Cuz you're motivated and you have so much energy.
What I'm trying to say is that take a break sometimes especially when you're feeling lost or buring out.
Learn to have a break. Life isn't about only work
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