Standing out is now easy

We live in the world that modern technology is reducing physical effort from people. With new technologies, individuals are getting lazy and lazy over and over again. The number of Obese people or people who are reluctant to do something are increasing right now. Teenagers get more lazy-bond or brainwashed day by day. They just play video games, overeat or something else instead of doing acquiring new stuff, knowledge or skill. The number people who are smart, leader or can actually get something done by their own are going down and down.

That's a pity. But you can take advantage of that. You can literally become unique by doing simple things that most people are reluctant to get it done. There are some things such as not being tired, doing exercises, gaining knowledge you can actually become unique by those thing. This is a great opportunity. Isn't it?

let the opportunity slip, my friend

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Don't argue whether you are right or wrong.

You might perceive that most people never admit that they have got wrong opinions. So arguing something with them don't make any sense. If you know 100 % of the topic or you are an expert at that, majority of people never accept. You don't have to give evidence or proof. Just agree with them. They everybody is happy. This might prevent you from losing your nerves. If you agree with them even thought they are wrong, nothing is going to change absolutely. So let stupid people win the argument .

In the case that you are incorrect learn to confess your mistake, man! You just accept the harsh truth and you correct your mistake. This all comes from admitting your mistake.

Just don't be stupid

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General knowledge is way more crucial

You are in the situation that You have to approach hard problem and then you approach based on your experience, knowledge in a nutshell what you know. If you see the problem from diverse range of perspectives, you might come up with the most practical solution. You think in different ways. For example you are the boss of a company. you have to make a decision which fits for everyone. So you got to think as a simple employee, manager, cleaner staff or CEO of that company. Then you will come up with a great solution. In order to think as any kind of people, you have to have at least basic knowledge of that field. You don't have to be an expert of that job or subject at least you should understand how things work in general.

I think you get the idea of why general knowledge is important. But others might say that you don't have to know other things and just focus on one subject. It's true that being best at certain career is also important. But remember being master at something leads to be great worker and being well-rounded leads to be more creative, leader and any kind of skill.

So just don't ignore other things, at least learn one thing

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"I'll just do that later"

Do you remember this? You say it literally everytime when you are about to do something. This is the greatest lie you have ever told yourself. When there are lots of stuff to do, but you put that off easily down the line. Then you never gonna do it later.

We think we are going to do all the stuff we should be doing right now in the future which is fake. And then now we have got "free time".

Let's face to reality . Don't anymore lie to yourself. Just get this done right now. Then you get satisfied with your work and then you are gonna be fine.

Another thing I need to say is that when you have to do tons of things, begin with the hardest one. Then Ultimately you finish you to-do-list first time ever. Additionally don't make to-do-list long. Just make it brief and prioritize.

Stay focused and disciplined

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Don't be stressed about your future

You get literally overwhelmed so easily. Because you always worry about your future. You just have concerns like " What if I fail" or " What if I can't do that". In 99% cases that's not gonna happen.

Just do the job you can possibly do. And other things that you can't influence just going to happen based on your effort. Because hard work always pays off. So when you are putting effort in that , you are gonna be successful but you don't know when it's going to happen. Just what you should do is just to show your whole potential. Your hard work never let you down, man!

There is no such a thing like luck. Success comes from hard work.

Stay tuned

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The only person who cares about you is your mom

When you're in a difficult situation or get in trouble, only your mom listens to you by all her ears. She likes you from bottom of her heart even you hurt her feelings. None helps you but your mom. So don't take for granted these kind of memories with your mom. Ahh man! How many times have you hurt her today? I bet at least more than one time. Just look at the people who their mom passed away. Their lives are meaningless without their mom.

So right now reach out her and say that you love her. Just don't be shy. This is not a situation for being shy.

Tell your mom you love her

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Social skills

Everyone needs social skills such as communication skills, leadership skills. Whatever your job is eventually you gotta have that skills. There is a reason for that. Thounds of people graduate a university then jobs are competetive. So Hiring companies don't want simple workers, they need workers who are creative, leader, sociable. So be active. If there is an active worker who is on average and there is a worker who is genius, companies are more likely to choose first student. So you got that point

Just be an active person. Work on your social skills

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Admitting is way more hard to people

When you have done or have said something wrong, you don't want to admit that. Even though when you are pretty sure you're absolutely not right, you simply don't confess. Just stop that right there when you know that.

People don't want to be humiliated in public so they simply don't acknowledge that what they have done is wrong. So now what? they start lying about their actions or something. If you admit your action, you are gonna be fine and you don't have to justify over and over again unless it reveals. I know it sucks. But at that point you feel bad but then things are gonna be so much easier.

Be responsible for your actions

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How to find the passion?

You've got something that you have been avoiding doing that for the past months or years now. You suck at that thing and You don't want to try to learn. That thing is your truly passion and is the reason why things are not going pretty well. So go get better at that thing right now at least try! Then that thing is going to become your passion. Because you are getting better over and over again and also you can benefit from that.
The passion is something that you are really good at in most cases. You obtain that level of knowledge it's just because of you love that thing

Do what you're reluctant to do most

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Do you want people to hear you?

First of all, ask some questions from yourself. Can you really express yourself or your ideas good enough? Why do people listen to someone who can't give the main point or something important? Well, do you really deserve that people listen to you? I mean would you listen to yourself if you were in their case? The answer to all of them is probably no.

So how we deal with it is that first you should learn to express yourself in a way people understand what you're pointing.

Now what? What you should do is just being a good listener . Now you should listen to them and you should not be interrupting while they're speaking or you just have to pay all your attention for them. Then people start to listen to you because of you listened to them first.

Stay tuned

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What's the key to make friends?

In order to make friends just start the conversation first by saying hello or hi or you can have small talk. Small talk could be about whether or depends on the situation.

For example, you are new in university. To make friends just reach out any student who you find it good to have a conversation with him or her. Then just say " Hello how are you? What's your major or what's your test score ? So he/she responds and everything is gonna be alright.

Then just listen to their stories even it's boring. I mean, you have to listen carefully what they say to you. Then in order to show you care, you just can ask some questions about them.

The important thing is that never ever talk about yourself. Even thought you feel that they care . They just actually pretend to care. Just don't talk about your life. Always ask questions about them and listen. By doing that you can prove that you are really a good listener and you could the best friend of them

Additional points is coming soon

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Expect nothing from nobody

You have a friend. He or she is your close friend. He always talk to you or say something secret to you. But this time he or she didn't do something that he always do and you get mad about him or her. So do you really need to end this relationship? If something like this happens to you, you don't only get mad about him or her, but also you feel worthless. This affect your mental health. In a nutshell this is bad for you.

So expect just nothing. And you're gonna be happy not disappointed.

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Consistency is a key to success

The most challenging thing to achieve something is just doing that thing constantly. This is where everyone gives up.
So you have motivation or desire to do something that you were thinking of. Then you do that 2 or 3 days or 1 week and now what? it's over. Because you put so much effort in that in the initial period which is the 1st or the 2nd or even fourth time and you are now reluctant to it and you are unwilling to do that. What was your mistake that led to unwillingness? There is concept that 30-30 which you do that 30 minutes in 30 days . Not that much alright? Then you start gradually increase over time. Even it's less than a hour that's powerful and easy to do. In 30 days you can become master at some point.

For example, one salient example could be language learners. They struggle to memorize new words. The same method applies to memorizing words. If you learned words too much in one day . Eventually tomorrow you won't do this. To address this issue you can use space repetition method which is consistent studying. You don't have to memorize 100 words every day. You just do 30-40 but you gotta memorize and revise it each day.

So stay updated

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When you promise, do it

Once you promised something to someone, you have to do this. Otherwise you lose people's trust which is not ok. If you blow off, nobody is going to take your sayings seriously. This can affect your life and social status. I've noticed something that most people are intended to not do what they said when they are promising. Consequently God make that difficult to do that promise. Because God says that's what you wanted. So always try to do what you promised whenever.

Be a real human-being

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We all have rejections

Recently the results are out that I applied the program. I got rejected by Selection Committee. Now I'm not angry. That happened that were supposed to happen. So I can't do nothing about it and I am going to move on. This thing can't change my mood. Because If I get angry and regret about past, anyway nothing changes. My advice is that don't take things so personal. And life is not over. You have still too much opportunities to success in life. That door is closed and now another is about to open. My friend, life is never easy. Everyone has to face downs of life.

Come one, That's not over

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Just give a warning once, then leave him or her alone.

When you see that somebody whether you care or not is doing something that he or she is not supposed to do. Eventually you feel bad and give a warning in a way that is so friendly. After that he starts to do that thing again. At that point just don't care about this. That's not your problem now. You did what you should do. They just do whatever they want and they never think about consequences.
For example, there is one boy that you are friend. He tends to play video games and do other something useless all day long. You just said to stop this several times Just because you care. And now leave him alone. "He knows what he is doing " he thinks.

But don't forget to give a warning at least one time.

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Why you can't express yourself?

Well there are not only solo reason for that. But the most obvious reason is that you tend to overthink. Basically it means you just express your thoughts that were thought 2 or 3 times. There are random thoughts going on your brain. After that you have to select the most appropriate one for that situation without think 2 times.
And you just hold your feeling inside you and you always wait for the right moment. There are no right moment, alright? If you keep doing this, no one really notices you even though you're a genius. So just let it go out and reliese, man!
You gotta speak in a way that there are no judgement. Doing this you might loose your friends or even they might attack you back. But this feeling is just on another level. You feel free. But you drop mask and you stop pretending.

Be yourself

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How to change your life in 6 months?

Whether you are unemployed, employed, student or anybody else, you can make difference in just 6 months. In order to do this, you just have got to come with a great plan that is all the things considered. Great plan can be anything else. Maybe you might want to achieve something cool which is learning a new language, getting a job or acquiring skill for getting a job. After that you just disappear in 6 months. You just have to give yourself 6 months to get all done. You don't show up social media, you don't hang out with your friends, in other words you just have to be nerd and turn the " social everything" off. So before disappearing let your close ones know that you disappear. They understand you. At the same time you have the opportunity to get rid of people who you're not that important to them.

In 6 months any skill or job can be mastered at some point maybe the level for getting a job. You just can build tottaly new skill from zero. Therefore most courses are finished in 6 months. After that period, after turning a new chapter in your life, then you can get back to everything.

So just disappear

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Deep conversations will help

Now stop what you are doing right now and take a moment to think if you're on a right path or not. Just think deeply. What do you think is what you're doing is really useful? Or just something useless such playing video games or scrolling social media.

Just go to room which is dark and give yourself 10 minutes to think about everything, your actions, your past or your future. Don't look at your phone and be alone. Just sit and think. After that you feel better and get back on track again. Because you defined your goals again especially long-term goals.

I recommend to do this once in a 3 day. This really helps and keeps you in the right path whenever you're kind of lost.

Do this now

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why don't you think in a positive way?

Imagine something bad happened to you and all you do is just regretting about your past actions and don't think in a right way. Thing are not supposed to be in that way. Every failure is an opportunity to growth. You made a mistake. now you realize you shouldn't be doing that anymore and should try another way. So That's not that bad . Because you are building your character based on mistakes.

For example you are looking for a job. You got rejected from interviews staggering 10 times and now what? You invented 10 ways which are not taking you to success. Positive thinking would be that "I just messed up this and I nailed that. Now I have to work on this and that. This was a new experiment for me which was so valuable. I actually did great. I just did something rather that doing nothing."

If success didn't come from failure , that's not success then

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How to get rid of social anxiety?

I think nobody was born as extrovert or outgoing. It really comes from practice. But you don't perceive you are practicing or not. You just speak to someone whether who is stranger or not and you improve your social skills .

But the problem is your are shy. You feel awkward and embarrassing. The solution would be " put yourself out there". If you don't become sociable or you don't even have communication skills, you are less likely to become successful in life. It really affects our life. You don't have be active on a daily basis such as going to events or talking to anybody. Just overcome social anxiety

Be active, by the way

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