a woman is more than a mother, sister, daughter and wife. she is a superpower which carries the potential to do everything with calm and grace.

happy women's day 💗

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Calm your mind and ask yourself "what are my goals? What do I want?". Not what's popular, not what's easy, not what's trending on social media. BUT What YOU want. And then direct all your energy, emotions, thoughts and actions onto it. No matter what, let nothing or nobody distract you. And you'll attract it.

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a man can forgive all your mistakes as long the mistake is not another man.

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you are not a burden if you are taking time to heal yourself. you are not sensitive if you feel everything. you are not weak if you have a kind and soft heart. you are not selfish if you set boundaries to protect your peace. you are not cold hearted if you are often quiet. it's okay to feel certain things & grow at your own pace

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love is so much more than just romance. it is not just showing up when you are lonely, it is a connection meant to move freely. rethink a love that is constantly hurting you and trying to break you emotionally. it can never be love. love is meant to make you grow as a person. and make your life easier and peaceful.

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one day you will smile in tears and say
"God!! this is more than what I prayed for"

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emotional abuse isn't always yelling and cursing. it can be as simple as ignoring you and withholding affection. you deal with this for years and it'll change you

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7 tips to improve your communication skills:

1. Body Language: Your body language communicates a lot about how you're feeling and can influence the way others perceive you


2. Be clear and concise: When you're communicating, make sure your message is clear and easy to understand.


3. Active Listening: Pay attention to the other person and really try to understand what they're saying.


4. Keep your posture open: Avoid crossing your arms or legs, which can make you appear defensive.


5. Make eye contact: When you're speaking to someone, make eye contact and hold it for a few seconds.


6. Be aware of your tone: The way you say something can be just as important as the words you use.


7. Keep an open mind: Be willing to see things from another perspective and be open to others' opinions.


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if you have someone who found your heart in pieces & brought you to peace ! you're truly blessed <3

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i don’t ever want you to hide yourself and close the door behind you when you’re in pain, i find it very unfair how we laughed together but you cried alone

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Sometimes you need to focus on the small battles first. Like gathering enough courage and getting out of bed even if you don't want to. Like letting loose the tangled mess of your hair. Like going to the grocery store to grab some fruits and veggies. Like cooking for yourself. Like putting your clothes in the laundry and getting in the shower one day at a time. Sometimes you need to ignore other people's progress and focus on your own steps -like meeting up with a friend over coffee. Like applying to a new job that you, or booking that holiday. Like smiling at your reflection in the mirror and getting dressed even if you're not going to step out. Like stepping out anyway to get some fresh air, to browse around the aisles of shops and cafes that used to make you happy. Like moulding back into your old life, but as a new you. It's not about jumping head-first into your healing. It's about the tiny actions each day that bring you closer to feeling warm again. It's not about waking up one morning and feeling miraculously healed. It's about moving forward-step by step- as gently as you can. It's about letting your heart heal as softly as it can, and the way it should. That's what it's about.

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my heart is my home. everyday guests visit me. sometimes it's happiness, sometimes sadness, sometimes success & failures, sometimes fear & anxiety. sometimes disappointments & betrayals. but i always make sure that im a great host. afterall a guest is a guest. nobody is going to stay. imagine an ocean that's unfair towards its waves, doesn't let them pass by. could it call itself an ocean? NO! ocean stays calm & lets everything happen because what's happening in front of it doesn't define it.

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i realised. people never loved me for me. it was just the way i showed up for them everytime they needed me. the way i held them down & had their back. the way i was always the stable one. the way i never left them alone when they were anxious. the way my mindset stimulated theirs. the way i looked past their flaws & wanted the best for them without expecting anything in return. i'm this person because ive always wanted a person like me in my life.

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i believe in poems, as i do in haunted houses. we say someone must have died there

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Stop chasing the idea of a ‘perfect love’, instead - chase the self-love, chase the ability to become the best version of yourself. Chase your dreams, your hopes and wishes. Chase everything that will stay when love leaves, and hold on to it, for you must when it does.

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Happy World Poetry Day 🕊️

taking a break from qna & counselling sessions. will keep writing here tho !!

cause you never think that the last time could actually be the last time. you think there will be more. you think you have forever, but you don't.

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There's so much more to life than finding someone who would want you, or being sad over someone who wouldn't. There's a lot of wonderful time to be spent discovering yourself without hoping someone will fall in love with you along the way, and it doesn't need to be painful or empty. You need to fill yourself up with love. Not anyone else. Become a whole being on your own. Go on adventures, fall asleep in the woods with friends, wander around the city at night, sit in a coffee shop on your own, scribble your thoughts in a diary, cook your favourite dishes, dress up for yourself, build your career, make money, smile a lot, help others. Do all things with love, but don't romanticize life like you can't survive without anyone. Live for yourself and be happy on your own. It isn't any less beautiful.

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sometimes i wonder how life would've been if i had the chance to really live instead of healing from certain things that weren't my fault

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the number of hours we spent together was actually not enough. please linger near the door uncomfortably instead of leaving. please mistakenly leave your scarf in my room & come back later for it

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