Healing doesn't mean you'll always feel joy. It means that when you face tough times or sadness, you have the skills and understanding to manage your emotions and get back to a balanced state. It's about coping and adapting, not constant happiness.

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losing respect for someone is always such a weird thing because you don't hate the person, you just don't feel the need to ever speak to them again or even think about them in the same way. you're just done

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I never abandon anyone. But I also do not hold the hands of someone who wishes to leave.

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so you dated the wrong person and learned a hard lesson. you cherished a friend who backstabbed you. you crossed oceans for someone who didn't even cross a river for you. it sucks, but it's also going to work out. that's life you learn, hurt, love, cry, laugh, and keep going. you experience setbacks and you grow and it's all okay

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the universe changes caterpillars into butterflies, sand into pearls, and coal into diamonds using time, pressure and patience. It's working on you too :)

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never make a mistake of being so kind, understanding and forgiving that you overlook the fact that you are being disrespected, used and taken for granted.

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It ends or it doesn't. That's what you say. That's how you get through it. The tunnel, the night, the pain, the love. It ends or it doesn't. If the sun never comes up, you find a way to live without it. If they don't come back, you sleep in the middle of the bed, learn how to make enough coffee for yourself alone.

Accept. Adapt. Adjust. Move on. It ends or it doesn't. We do not perish.

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The reason you overthink is because you're a people pleaser. You want to send the perfect text because you care about making the other person smile. You want to plan the perfect date because you care about making the other person happy. You overlove because you lack self-love. You might hate your overthinking for making you worry whether you are boring, whether you are annoying, whether you are not good enough. Part of your overthinking has to do with insecurity. It has to do with needing to love, respect, and accept yourself more.You can't control how other people receive your energy. Anything you do or say gets filtered through the lens of whatever personal stuff they are going through at the moment. Which is not about you. Just keep doing your thing with as much integrity and Love as possible.

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don't allow someone to come back into your life because you have history together. if your relationship went from something beautiful to toxic, let those memories go. accept that the past will never be the future. stop going back to what your heart is trying to heal from

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depression isn’t always looking and feeling sad. sometimes it’s lack of motivation, excessive sleeping, poor eating habits, unexplainable anger/easily annoyed, low self-esteem, no strive to do things you normally do.

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idk who needs to hear this. but don't be scared of losing people who aren't scared of losing you.

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One of the worst things is being made to feel like you're taken for granted. Where, you check up on them constantly, you're there for them during their lows without expecting anything in return, you're readily available to them and you change your plans to suit their needs and then they become too comfortable. They think it's okay to give you less time because you won't mind. They think it's fine if they take hours to reply because you're going to reply straightaway anyway. They think that you're always going to be available to them, so they don't need to change their plans especially for you. We're partly to blame for this because we give so much of ourselves to the other person that they start to think it's okay to take more, want more and be given more from us. But we need to take this control back if we are to protect ourselves. You can't keep giving and giving without complaining about not being given anything in return. Yes, love and friendship are not relationships that are based on a 'give and take system. But if you're the one who constantly puts your all into this and gets nothing in return, then the other person clearly doesn't love or value you enough to invest just as much into you. One of the worst things is being made to feel like you're not going anywhere' so they can do whatever they want. Because that is wrong. Fight for what you deserve and tell them when you feel like you're not being treated right. And stop putting your all into others, just remember — you deserve just as much love, care and time as you - give to others.

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I cannot make
the darkness disappear.
But I can hold your hand,
so we do not get lost in it.

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..and with every unanswered behaviour, you will lose a piece of me.

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it's disheartening to see how your trauma is not your fault but you have to take full responsibility for your healing. sending love to everyone who is carrying their burdens in silence and to everyone who wants to be heard but is too afraid to speak. trust me when I say that you'll be okay :)

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I'd rather be disappointed by the truth than satisfied with a lie. Respect me, not because I respect you but because I deserve your respect. How pleased would you be if you found out that I respected you only because I wanted you to respect me back or because I wanted something in return? I respect you because you deserve it. Don't listen to me just because I listen to you. I listen to you because you deserve to be heard. Don't be nice to me just because I'm nice to you. I'm nice to you because you deserve to be treated right. Don't show me that you care just because you know I care. I care for you because your heart needs care. If your thoughts and feelings are not genuine, point them in a direction other than mine. If I only give you what you deserve, at least be genuine with your feelings & keep me away from what I don't deserve.

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The ultimate form of preparation is not planning for a specific scenario, but a mindset that can handle uncertainty

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we really have people out here who are not dealing with multiple people, whose phone doesn’t ring unless it’s for work, studies or close friends & family. whose aim in life isn't to stick around, impress and look for attention from the opposite gender. they work hard every day to take care of themselves and their family, mind their own business, stay out of drama & gossips. if you the one I'm proud of you

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My biggest flex is that nobody ever knows what's really going on in my life. Where I am, who I'm with, or my next move, unless I make it known. Therefore anything anyone says is just an assumption. Privacy is my luxury. Privacy is my peace

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