Once you start loving and valuing yourself, people will no longer look good to you unless they are actually good for you. That’s growth..

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OVERTHINKERS, read this


1. That story ain't real.

None of it. That fear, insecurity, and that imaginary story you're obsessing about, it's all in your head. Every time you find yourself in that story, dragggggg yourself to the present.


2. You don't know

Accept it. You're going crazy jumping to conclusions about a thing that isn't even there. Sometimes it's okay to just accept and tell yourself "i don't know".


3. What if, what if

Overthinking is a longgggg chain of what ifs. What if that happens, what if it doesn't work, what if i fail, what if. Don't complicate it. Take a breath, you'll be fine.


4. Zoooom out

In the bigger frame of things, what you're obsessing about doesn't even matter. Try, fail, fall, learn and get back up again. That's life, live it.


5. Meditate / Workout

Thoughts ain't leaving you? Sit at a quiet place and take 10 long deep breaths. Meditate or Workout. It really helps.


6. Do one thing well

Make a to-do list. Write down two or three things that you need to do. Do them one by one. You don't have to do everything. Just do one thing well. Life is long. You'll make it.


7. Enjoy the ride

Life is full of ups and downs. Obsessing about every little thing won't fix it. When it's sunshine, have fun. When it's dark and stormy, let it pass. Life is change, keep moving and you'll be ok.


8. Be Disciplined

To heal yourself, fix your old toxic patterns and achieve what you choose to focus on


@TheLostDiary
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once you betray me, you lose that version you once had of me forever. whether i choose to forgive you or not, you'll never get that same me again and it's not even intentional.. my heart won’t view you the same, my soul won't tolerate you the same & my mind won't ever forget it.

@TheLostDiary
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That's the one thing
you have to understand.
If it was really meant to be.
Then it would have been.
Nothing more. Nothing less.
And nothing in-between.

I just hope it doesn't take you
a lifetime to understand this.

@TheLostDiary
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one thing about GOD. when he sees you trying your best he surely will handle the rest. have faith.

@TheLostDiary
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The most powerful way to heal someone is to listen. Don’t think or judge just listen. People start to heal the moment they feel heard. You can’t be a healer if you refuse to step outside of your own emotions and view things entirely from the perspective of the other person..

@TheLostDiary
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Always pray for alignment. To be at the right place, doing the right thing, at the right time, around the right people, which will eventually help you reach where you want to be.

@TheLostDiary
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If you have to consistently fight for someone to see your worth / treat you the way you deserve, it does not matter how much they claim to love you, don’t settle. There is always a love that will be ready. To honor, to cherish and to value you in the ways you’ve always dreamed. Be patient until you find it

@TheLostDiary
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Instead of feeling like you're behind, feel grateful for each setback you've had in your life and each lesson you have learned along the way. Be grateful for each relationship and what you were able to learn about yourself through falling in and out of love. Feel proud of how strong you have become from each time you were left to put the pieces of your broken heart back together. Be grateful that you learned that you will heal again no matter what you go through. Some people never find this strength. You should be proud that you learned how to recognize and move on from situations that are no longer good for you. You might feel like you are behind, but when you really think about it, everything you have been through has made you the person you are now. Your experience is your strength, and you shouldn't wish to change that for anything.

@TheLostDiary
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7️⃣ ways to improve your communication skills:

1. Body Language: Your body language communicates a lot about how you're feeling and can influence the way others perceive you


2. Be clear and concise: When you're communicating, make sure your message is clear and easy to understand.


3. Active Listening: Pay attention to the other person and really try to understand what they're saying.


4. Keep your posture open: Avoid crossing your arms or legs, which can make you appear defensive.


5. Make eye contact: When you're speaking to someone, make eye contact and hold it for a few seconds.


6. Be aware of your tone: The way you say something can be just as important as the words you use.


7. Keep an open mind: Be willing to see things from another perspective and be open to others' opinions.

@TheLostDiary
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Some ppl just aren't ready. No matter how much time passes. They'll never understand the type of sacrifices u made for them. They'll never understand how long u waited. & they'll never ever understand how badly u wanted to make things work & how hard it was for u to let them go. Stop wasting your time on them.

@TheLostDiary
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The most beautiful people we have known are those who have known defeat, known suffering, known struggle, known loss, and have found their way out of the depths. These persons have an appreciation, a sensitivity, and an understanding of life that fills them with compassion, gentleness, and a deep loving concern. Beautiful people do not just happen.

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The reason you overthink is because you're a people pleaser. You want to send the perfect text because you care about making the other person smile. You want to plan the perfect date because you care about making the other person happy. You overlove because you lack self-love. You might hate your overthinking for making you worry whether you are boring, whether you are annoying, whether you are not good enough. Part of your overthinking has to do with insecurity. It has to do with needing to love, respect, and accept yourself more.

You can't control how other people receive your energy. Anything you do or say gets filtered through the lens of whatever personal stuff they are going through at the moment. Which is not about you. Just keep doing your thing with as much integrity and Love as possible.

@TheLostDiary
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sometimes I wonder how i survived and then i look at my maa and I go "oh, i survive because I don't want to leave her yet" and it makes sense. life is so hard a lot of the time, but I want one more cup of tea made by her, I want one more night under the stars with her, i want to take her out on a long drive, far away to her favourite places, and probably make her see the whole world.

@TheLostDiary
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getting over someone is a process. and some day's you will be fine. while other days you will feel completely shattered. healing takes time. and sometimes it may take longer than expected. but you will pull through it. one day, you will learn how to move on from it. you will learn how to put it behind you. life can be scary after a major heartbreak. but you have to believe that everything will be okay in the end. you have to know how some endings are new beginnings. and how all beginnings must. start. somewhere.

@TheLostDiary
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with a heart like that, you deserve the world :)

@TheLostDiary
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The real flex is remembering why you started your healing journey and never going back to toxic people and situations no matter how lonely you feel.

@TheLostDiary
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15 things holding you back in life

• Fear
• Pride
• Alcohol
• Porn
• Self pity
• No goals
• Being lazy
• Bad habits
• Procrastination
• Unambitious
• Overthinking
• No discipline
• Lack of sleep
• Not exercising
• Negative mindset

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you were the rain i never carried an umbrella for

@thelostdiary
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it's never too late. there is always time to restart, and to give it another go. to try the same thing again, or to try something new. don't ruin your chances, by convincing yourself that you have passed your time, because you can begin now, you can begin tomorrow, and whenever you do, it will be the right time, it will not be too late.

@TheLostDiary
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if you decide to ghost me, it’s ultimately your choice. if you feel there’s nothing left to say, or i’m not worth a goodbye, i'm okay with that. but just know, i won’t ever look back no matter what. once I outgrow our connection our paths won't cross ever again.

@thelostdiary
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