apparently, in life, you get what you ask for.
if you've gotten used to proving yourself through great work, you might expect that people are gonna notice and reward you accordingly. sure, your competence will get noticed sooner or later, but i think it's always better to learn to signal what exactly you want.
even at work, i used to put in extra effort, more than everyone else around me, but would feel uncomfortable asking about promotion possibilities (following certain rules applied to all working students). when i did mention it to my manager, she was more than happy to accommodate, be that financially or in terms of responsibilities.
and especially if you're a woman, you tend to search for excuses to avoid making the big step. in the fear of overstepping. makes sense ofc, considering things like women usually being seen as either likeable or competent but rarely both. but the thing is, no one else is gonna hand it to you.
you'll need to go, say what you want and aim for, claim it, and back it up with results.
@summernotes
if you've gotten used to proving yourself through great work, you might expect that people are gonna notice and reward you accordingly. sure, your competence will get noticed sooner or later, but i think it's always better to learn to signal what exactly you want.
even at work, i used to put in extra effort, more than everyone else around me, but would feel uncomfortable asking about promotion possibilities (following certain rules applied to all working students). when i did mention it to my manager, she was more than happy to accommodate, be that financially or in terms of responsibilities.
and especially if you're a woman, you tend to search for excuses to avoid making the big step. in the fear of overstepping. makes sense ofc, considering things like women usually being seen as either likeable or competent but rarely both. but the thing is, no one else is gonna hand it to you.
you'll need to go, say what you want and aim for, claim it, and back it up with results.
@summernotes
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“And this I believe: that the free, exploring mind of the individual human is the most valuable
thing in the world. And this I would fight for: the freedom of the mind to take any direction it wishes, undirected.”
— East of Eden, John Steinbeck, 1952
thing in the world. And this I would fight for: the freedom of the mind to take any direction it wishes, undirected.”
— East of Eden, John Steinbeck, 1952
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“And this I believe: that the free, exploring mind of the individual human is the most valuable thing in the world. And this I would fight for: the freedom of the mind to take any direction it wishes, undirected.” — East of Eden, John Steinbeck, 1952
interestingly, steinbeck wrote east of eden partly as a response to america’s transformation from a rural agrarian society into an industrialized nation. slow, traditional life colliding with rapid modernization.
a lot of the conversation at the time was about the ethical and emotional costs of such transformation.
of the need to reflect more and see what we’re gaining versus what we’re losing. of the importance of preserving human creativity and the “free, exploring mind.”
feels familiar to what’s happening today.
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a lot of the conversation at the time was about the ethical and emotional costs of such transformation.
of the need to reflect more and see what we’re gaining versus what we’re losing. of the importance of preserving human creativity and the “free, exploring mind.”
feels familiar to what’s happening today.
@summernotes
Nodira - 101 Ways to Stay Sane
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i used to have excel sheet once with programs, competitions, leadership summits, summer things with fancy names. all color-coded. my manager kept telling me to use every opportunity available, you never know.
i did it for a while. the applications weren't hard technically as most of them were just fill-in-the-box, write-your-story, list your achievements type of thing. but something about the whole process felt off. like i was trying to compress everything i'd done and everything i am into a clean little profile.
and then there's the linkedin thing. you know those posts, "thrilled to announce i've been selected for xyz program out of 10,000 applicants 🙏" and then a month later another one. and another. and im genuinely not here to judge people who do that, some of those programs are actually great. but i couldn't help looking at those posts and thinking, that's not me. that's not what i want to be doing.
(i was a UGRAD finalist, which sounds contradictory. i think that was just an exception, or maybe i just convinced myself of that lol)
what i want is pretty simple when said out loud: pick something real, give it real attention, and let it grow. a business, a project, a thing, you name it. and just stay with it long enough for it to become something instead of hopping from program to program collecting experiences like they're stamps.
dunno if that makes me less ambitious or more. probably neither.
@summernotes
i did it for a while. the applications weren't hard technically as most of them were just fill-in-the-box, write-your-story, list your achievements type of thing. but something about the whole process felt off. like i was trying to compress everything i'd done and everything i am into a clean little profile.
and then there's the linkedin thing. you know those posts, "thrilled to announce i've been selected for xyz program out of 10,000 applicants 🙏" and then a month later another one. and another. and im genuinely not here to judge people who do that, some of those programs are actually great. but i couldn't help looking at those posts and thinking, that's not me. that's not what i want to be doing.
(i was a UGRAD finalist, which sounds contradictory. i think that was just an exception, or maybe i just convinced myself of that lol)
what i want is pretty simple when said out loud: pick something real, give it real attention, and let it grow. a business, a project, a thing, you name it. and just stay with it long enough for it to become something instead of hopping from program to program collecting experiences like they're stamps.
dunno if that makes me less ambitious or more. probably neither.
@summernotes