“You handled it so well”

well actually … I spiralled, had panic attacks, cried everyday, isolated myself, lost friends, got angry, went to therapy, did the hard work, faced what generations weren’t able to, cried some more, lost myself along the way and somehow made it back home.

Do yourself a favor and write for yourself. Your Substack, your book, it should all be a deeply personal project. Forget anyone who says to write for an audience. The audience will come when you are so intimately in tune with yourself that you become impossible to ignore.

A girl on TikTok said “healing is so hard because itʼs a constant battle between your inner child who is scared and just wants safety, your inner teenager who is angry and just wants justice, and your current self; who is tired and just wants peace.” and it hits me hard.

My therapist was telling me today that there’s no disappointment when you accept things and people for what they are. But you don’t always have to cut people off when they don’t meet your expectations sometimes you just have to adjust the relationship and accept their capacity.

If you pay attention to the patterns of your life, you’ll realize that everything always works out. You survived what once felt impossible, not by accident, but by design. There’s a divine rhythm behind the chaos, a wisdom guiding the unfolding. So breathe and trust where you are.

A single-parent home isn’t broken. What’s actually broken is a house where people stay together while spreading stress, anger, and toxicity to their kids.

What a blessing it is to be able to begin again, change your mind, find something better, work on making yourself better, what a blessing it is to have all this time to build a better, more beautiful life.

Reading more books, watching more movies, going on more walks, going to the gym more often, and writing more poetry have all made me fall in love with life again.

Fake idgafer, I saw you touching your necklace for comfort 🫵

i dont like to remind people to remember me

When I say I don't want kids I mean it because wdm I'll bring someone to this world and get committed to them yet I struggle commiting to myself..I love my personal space

omfort is a drug that weakens your spirit. To stay sharp you must practice voluntary hardship. Take a cold shower. Quit coffee. Fast for twenty four hours. Sleep on the floor once a month. You need to remind your body that it can survive without luxury. If you're not afraid of discomfort you're not afraid of anything. That's the path to a happy life.

i’ll cut somebody off over anything like why tf did you miss that job interview when you don’t have a job?????

You owe yourself at least one hour a day. Just one hour that’s only for you.

Read. Write. Dance. Paint. Lift weights. Go for a walk. Learn something new. Do anything that makes you feel alive.

In case you forgot, you’re still young. You’re not behind. You’re not late. You’re not failing at life because you don’t have a five-year plan color-coded in your notes app. Nobody actually knows what they’re doing some people are just better at pretending. You’re allowed to be confused. You’re allowed to change your mind. You’re allowed to outgrow the version of you that thought you had it all figured out at 20.

The fun you need in your life:

A project that excites you to wake up. Trips that change how you see the world. A special person who loves you as you are. Workouts that push you to your limits. Moments of silence that bring clarity. Wins that no one claps for but means the world to you.

I fell in love with this realization:

You can desire someone deeply and still decide they’re not aligned. Chemistry is powerful. But character decides longevity. Attachment whispers, “don’t lose them.” Discernment asks, “Is this sustainable?” Growth is choosing the second voice even when the first one is louder.

Take PRIDE in how you present yourself:

Your posture, looks, and body language say a lot about you. Stretch every morning, slow down when walking, look well put together, smell good, smile with your eyes, make eye contact, enter every room with confidence. This is a sign of good health.

The halo effect is very real.

You can learn anything in 2 weeks.

You can't master it, obviously, but if you obsess over it, you can become better at it than most people ever will. You'd be surprised how fast your life can change when you understand this.