think a large part of healing is accepting that two things can be true at once.

No one warns you that choosing yourself will make you the villain in someone else's story. The people who benefited from your over-functioning will not applaud when you stop.

Do it anyway.

Spend a handful of hours a day going hard. Crush a gym session. Do deep work on a project you care about. Spend the rest of the day going easy. Take walks. Read books. Enjoy a long dinner with friends. Either way, avoid the anxious middle where you never truly relax or truly move forward.

Healing is realizing you also hurt people, even if it wasn’t intentional. It’s allowing yourself to say, “I didn’t mean to cause pain, but I see now that I did and I’m willing to grow from it.” This awareness makes you honest. And honesty is where real transformation begins.

Normalize lying to people who ask too much about your private life.

Associating a song with a person is a heavy risky move.

‘we romanticize the stars but forget the dark is what made them visible’

a woman’s silence is usually the result of being unheard too many times
silence is not peace.it is the sound of a woman

Trauma isn’t only about what happened. It’s also what should have happened, but didn’t.The comfort you didn’t receive. The safety you never felt. The support that was missing. This kind of childhood doesn’t leave visible wounds.But it leaves blueprints. For how you see yourself. For how you show up in relationships. For what you believe you’re allowed to feel.

“You handled it so well”

well actually … I spiralled, had panic attacks, cried everyday, isolated myself, lost friends, got angry, went to therapy, did the hard work, faced what generations weren’t able to, cried some more, lost myself along the way and somehow made it back home.

Do yourself a favor and write for yourself. Your Substack, your book, it should all be a deeply personal project. Forget anyone who says to write for an audience. The audience will come when you are so intimately in tune with yourself that you become impossible to ignore.

A girl on TikTok said “healing is so hard because itʼs a constant battle between your inner child who is scared and just wants safety, your inner teenager who is angry and just wants justice, and your current self; who is tired and just wants peace.” and it hits me hard.

My therapist was telling me today that there’s no disappointment when you accept things and people for what they are. But you don’t always have to cut people off when they don’t meet your expectations sometimes you just have to adjust the relationship and accept their capacity.

If you pay attention to the patterns of your life, you’ll realize that everything always works out. You survived what once felt impossible, not by accident, but by design. There’s a divine rhythm behind the chaos, a wisdom guiding the unfolding. So breathe and trust where you are.

A single-parent home isn’t broken. What’s actually broken is a house where people stay together while spreading stress, anger, and toxicity to their kids.

What a blessing it is to be able to begin again, change your mind, find something better, work on making yourself better, what a blessing it is to have all this time to build a better, more beautiful life.

Reading more books, watching more movies, going on more walks, going to the gym more often, and writing more poetry have all made me fall in love with life again.

Fake idgafer, I saw you touching your necklace for comfort 🫵

i dont like to remind people to remember me

When I say I don't want kids I mean it because wdm I'll bring someone to this world and get committed to them yet I struggle commiting to myself..I love my personal space