romanticize your monthly bleed if you can. rest abundantly. drink teas like raspberry leaf tea, hibiscus tea. eat some dark chocolate. journal about what themes are coming out to be released. as women we are so blessed to be able to energetically purify ourselves every month.

get in girl, we’re going to increase our brain’s neuroplasticity and rewire it by meditating on love, praying from a place of love and practicing gratitude (oxytocin maxxing) every single day

Nobody talks about the angry stage of healing. The rage you feel when you realize how much and how long you were taken advantage of. The absolute disgust you feel towards those people that mislead you. It comes in waves. Sometimes youʼll feel healed and then it suddenly hits you.

nothing beats a night shower and settling into a fresh bed covered in lotions potions and salves all greasy and moisturized and putting on a youtube deep dive video about something u didn’t know existed

If you study human nature long enough, you begin to see that most people aren’t malicious, they’re simply inconsistent, impulsive, or ruled by emotions they refuse to understand; once you accept this, disappointment turns into clarity instead of bitterness.

To avoid disappointment, take people exactly as they are, instead of idealizing about what you wish they wouId be.

The people who seem "naturally disciplined" just have better defaults. They removed the decisions. The gym bag is packed. The phone is in another room. The morning is scripted. Discipline isn't willpower. It's design.

think a large part of healing is accepting that two things can be true at once.

No one warns you that choosing yourself will make you the villain in someone else's story. The people who benefited from your over-functioning will not applaud when you stop.

Do it anyway.

Spend a handful of hours a day going hard. Crush a gym session. Do deep work on a project you care about. Spend the rest of the day going easy. Take walks. Read books. Enjoy a long dinner with friends. Either way, avoid the anxious middle where you never truly relax or truly move forward.

Healing is realizing you also hurt people, even if it wasn’t intentional. It’s allowing yourself to say, “I didn’t mean to cause pain, but I see now that I did and I’m willing to grow from it.” This awareness makes you honest. And honesty is where real transformation begins.

Normalize lying to people who ask too much about your private life.

Associating a song with a person is a heavy risky move.

‘we romanticize the stars but forget the dark is what made them visible’

a woman’s silence is usually the result of being unheard too many times
silence is not peace.it is the sound of a woman

Trauma isn’t only about what happened. It’s also what should have happened, but didn’t.The comfort you didn’t receive. The safety you never felt. The support that was missing. This kind of childhood doesn’t leave visible wounds.But it leaves blueprints. For how you see yourself. For how you show up in relationships. For what you believe you’re allowed to feel.

“You handled it so well”

well actually … I spiralled, had panic attacks, cried everyday, isolated myself, lost friends, got angry, went to therapy, did the hard work, faced what generations weren’t able to, cried some more, lost myself along the way and somehow made it back home.

Do yourself a favor and write for yourself. Your Substack, your book, it should all be a deeply personal project. Forget anyone who says to write for an audience. The audience will come when you are so intimately in tune with yourself that you become impossible to ignore.

A girl on TikTok said “healing is so hard because itʼs a constant battle between your inner child who is scared and just wants safety, your inner teenager who is angry and just wants justice, and your current self; who is tired and just wants peace.” and it hits me hard.

My therapist was telling me today that there’s no disappointment when you accept things and people for what they are. But you don’t always have to cut people off when they don’t meet your expectations sometimes you just have to adjust the relationship and accept their capacity.