I’ve learned that when someone is grieving, there’s absolutely nothing anyone can do to make them feel better. All you can do is sit there and listen to them talk. A grieving person doesn’t want to hear “you need to think positive…

A grieving person just wants their person back and they’ll never be able to get that. So let your grieving friend/family talk about the memories, let them cry, let them laugh, and let them feel. It’s the only thing they can do.

Girl, only choose a man if he ADDS VALUE to your life. I'm not talking about the bare minimum things like calling you beautiful or buying you 1 dinner. I'm talking about emotional safety, nervous system regulation, softness not stress, support in your dreams not distraction.

when life starts to feel lighter, don’t go looking for the weight you’ve already set down. when joy comes easily, don’t question if you deserve it. and when your manifestations arrive, don’t call it a coincidence. you did the work. you changed your mindset. you became the person who could recieve it. so let it in.

Life is learning, unlearning, and relearning.

Mastering the art of being silent, even when there is a lot to be said is top tier.

Being in love with your self is such a super power.

As an adult, youʼre going to get the urge to return to hobbies, like reading, that you used to enjoy as a kid... it is very important that you do so, and start doing things that bring you joy again.

romanticize your monthly bleed if you can. rest abundantly. drink teas like raspberry leaf tea, hibiscus tea. eat some dark chocolate. journal about what themes are coming out to be released. as women we are so blessed to be able to energetically purify ourselves every month.

get in girl, we’re going to increase our brain’s neuroplasticity and rewire it by meditating on love, praying from a place of love and practicing gratitude (oxytocin maxxing) every single day

Nobody talks about the angry stage of healing. The rage you feel when you realize how much and how long you were taken advantage of. The absolute disgust you feel towards those people that mislead you. It comes in waves. Sometimes youʼll feel healed and then it suddenly hits you.

nothing beats a night shower and settling into a fresh bed covered in lotions potions and salves all greasy and moisturized and putting on a youtube deep dive video about something u didn’t know existed

If you study human nature long enough, you begin to see that most people aren’t malicious, they’re simply inconsistent, impulsive, or ruled by emotions they refuse to understand; once you accept this, disappointment turns into clarity instead of bitterness.

To avoid disappointment, take people exactly as they are, instead of idealizing about what you wish they wouId be.

The people who seem "naturally disciplined" just have better defaults. They removed the decisions. The gym bag is packed. The phone is in another room. The morning is scripted. Discipline isn't willpower. It's design.

think a large part of healing is accepting that two things can be true at once.

No one warns you that choosing yourself will make you the villain in someone else's story. The people who benefited from your over-functioning will not applaud when you stop.

Do it anyway.

Spend a handful of hours a day going hard. Crush a gym session. Do deep work on a project you care about. Spend the rest of the day going easy. Take walks. Read books. Enjoy a long dinner with friends. Either way, avoid the anxious middle where you never truly relax or truly move forward.