When it comes to finding the righteous spouse, looking and searching for them comes secondary, the primary way is to make your self righteous and constant supplications to Allah سبحانه وتعالى because all affairs depends on his كن and he has a predetermined time for everything.

"ثم جئت على قدر يٰموسى"
"Then you came at the predetermined time oh Musa"

‏{ وَاتَّقُوا اللَّهَ وَيُعَلِّمُكُمُ اللَّهُ وَاللَّهُ بِكُلِّ شَيْءٍ عَلِيمٌ }
" And fear Allah, and Allah will teach you. And Allah is Knowing of all things."

وعد من الله تعالى بأن من اتقاه عَلَّمه
أي: يجعل في قلبه نورًا
يفهم به ما يُلقى إليه
[ القرطبي ]
A promise from Allah, the Exalted, that whoever fears Allah, He will teach him.
This means: He will place light in his heart, through which he will understand what is conveyed to him.
[Al-Qurtubi]


يعني أن الله ينير بصائر أهل التقوى فيفقهون في الدين، "من يرد الله به خيرا يفقهه في الدين" فبالتقوى يهيأ الله للإنسان حسن الفهم وحسن الإدراك فيفهم معاني القرآن ومعاني السنة طبعا يرجع إلى السنة يوفقه الله تبارك وتعالى، ومن توفيق الله له وتعليمه له أن يوفقه للأخذ بالسنة والفقه فيها وتدبر القرآن

This means that Allah enlightens the hearts of the people of taqwa (Allah-consciousness) so they understand the religion. As the Prophet said, "Whoever Allah wants good for, He gives him understanding of the religion."

Through taqwa, Allah grants the person good understanding and perception, allowing them to comprehend the meanings of the Quran and the Sunnah. Of course, they refer to the Sunnah, and Allah will guide them in doing so.
Part of Allah's guidance and teaching to them is granting them success in adhering to the Sunnah, understanding it, and reflecting on the Quran.

( أفلا يتدبرون القرآن أم على قلوب أقفالها )
“Do they not reflect upon the Quran, or are there locks upon their hearts?"

انما يوفى الصابرون أجرهم بغير حساب..

لا يوجد فرص ضائعة كل ما فاتك لم يكن لك

there are no missed opportunities everything you missed was not yours...

'lyad bin Himar (May Allah be pleased with him) reported:

The Messenger of Allah صلى الله عليه وسلم said,

"Allah has revealed to me that you should humble yourselves to one another. One should neither hold himself above another nor transgress against another."

[Muslim].

فَاسْتَجَابَ لَهُمْ رَبُّهُمْ أَنِّي لَا أضِيعُ عَمَلَ عَامِلٍ مِنْكُمْ مِنْ ذَكَرٍ أَوْ أُنثَى أي أجابهم
"So their Lord responded to them, 'I do not waste the work of any worker among you, whether male or female.'
This means He answered them.

قال الحسن : ما زالوا يقولون ربنا ربنا حتى استجاب لهم .
Al-Hasan said: They continued calling upon their lord saying, 'Our Lord, our Lord,' until He responded to them.

- Tafsir al qurtubi

اللهم سلمنا لرمضان وسلم رمضان لنا وتسلمه منا متقبلا يارب العالمين.

‏"يُخشى على الإنسان إذا عود نفسه التأخر في العبادة؛ أن يُبتلى بأن يؤخره الله عز وجل في جميع مواطن الخير".
"It is feared for a person that if he makes a habit of delaying his acts of worship, Allāh will put him to trial by delaying all that which is khair for him.."
- ابن عثيمين

Return back to the Qur'an.

‏﴿وقال الرسول يا رب إن قومي اتخذوا هذا القرآن مهجورا﴾ [الفرقان]
"And the Messenger said, 'O my Lord, indeed, my people have abandoned this Qur'an."
[Al-Furqan]


‏احذر أن تكون ممن اشتكى منه النبي ﷺ لربه
Beware of being among those whom the Prophet ﷺ complained about to his Lord."

"And indeed, the Book of Allah is the most trustworthy intercessor,
And the most enriching, a generous giver and benefactor.
And the best companion whose speech never tires,
And its repetition increases in its charm.
And when a person is in fear in his darkness,
He encounters from the grave a radiant light.
There, he will find comfort and a garden,
And because of it, he will be exalted at the summit of glory.
He calls for his beloved to please him,
And it is indeed fitting that his request is fulfilled, connected to him.
So, O reader, hold fast to it,
Revering/respecting it in every circumstance and honoring it.
May your parents be blessed with it,
Dressed in the light of crowns and adornments.
What do you think of the child when he is rewarded?
Those are the people of Allah and the best of the assembly.
Those of righteousness, kindness, patience, and piety,
Their beauty is described in the Qur'an in detail."

- Imaam Shatibi

The greatest affliction that has a high ability to destroy the ambitions and hopes of anyone in the world is procrastination. If you gather a hundred people and ask them why they haven't achieved many of the things they wished to accomplish, you will find that more than ninety of them will answer: "Because I kept postponing starting to achieve them." Even those who actually began, you will find they stopped, and then delayed trying again. So you will find procrastination in all situations. The same thing can be found in the Quran!

Although Allah says in the Quran says:
“And when you have decided, then rely upon Allah. Indeed, Allah loves those who rely [upon Him].”
[Al-Imran: 159]

meaning if you have the intention to do something, proceed with it, relying on Allah!

Many of us delay beginning the step of memorizing the Quran for reasons that are mostly, if not entirely, like the web of a spider!

- كتاب الحِفاظ على الحُفَّاظ

والله تعالى يُحِبُّ من عباده أن يعامِلُوه سرا بينهم وبينه،
"By Allah, the Almighty loves that His servants deal with Him privately, between them and Him.

وأهل محبته يحبون أن يُعاملوه سرا بينهم وبينه، بحيث لا يطلع على معاملتهم إياه سواه،
The people of His love also love to deal with Him privately, in such a way that no one else knows about their dealings/matters with Him.

حتى كان بعضهم يود لو تمكن من عبادة لا تشعر بها الملائكة الحفظة .
Some of them even wished that they could perform an act of worship that the guardian angels would not be aware of.

وقال بعضهم لما أطلع على بعض سرائره : إنما كانت تطيب الحياة لما كانت المعاملة بيني وبينه سرا، ثم دعا لنفسه بالموت فمات.
One of them, when some of his secrets were revealed, said: 'Life was sweet as long as the dealings/matters between me and Him were private.' Then he prayed for death and passed away.

المحبون يغارون من اطلاع الأغيار على الأسرار التي بينهم وبين من يحبهم ويحبونه.
The lovers are jealous of others knowing the secrets between them, the one they love and who loves them."

- لطائف المعارف

نصيحة من قلب مشفق .
A piece of advice from a compassionate heart:

لا تنتظر أن يبدأ رمضان لتجاهد في العبادة، لا بد أن تتدرج من الآن القلب يحتاج وقت ليتفرغ ويلين، والعقل يحتاج وقت ليصفى .
Don’t wait for Ramadan to start striving in worship. You need to gradually prepare from now. The heart needs time to focus and soften, and the mind needs time to clear.

ستخسر رمضان لو بدأت ۱ رمضان !
You will lose Ramadan if you wait until the 1st of Ramadan!

لذلك عود نفسك من الآن، ضم اثنين وخميس، قم الليل ولو بركعة اقرأ صفحات من القرآن، تصدق على مسكين، أكثر من ذكر الله ....
Therefore, train yourself from now—fast on Mondays and Thursdays, pray at night even if it's just one unit of prayer, read pages from the Quran, give charity to the needy, and increase your remembrance of Allah...

وقبل كل شي تخفف من دنياك
ليدخل رمضان وأنت مستعد بإذن الله .
And before everything, lighten the burdens of this world, so that when Ramadan arrives, you are prepared, with Allah’s permission.