Can someone explain some Bengali wedding traditions to me please?
Background: I’m a foreigner, and my to-be husband is Bengali. We’ve recently started wedding planning. His parents shared with me the wedding rituals we will do, but due to the language barrier, they’ve been limited in how much they can explain these things to me. My partner himself isn’t really religious despite his Hindu background, so he doesn’t know much about these rituals himself. I’ve done some googling, and while there are a lot of resources about Indian wedding rituals in general, not much info is available regarding Bengali weddings specifically. I’d like to be able to explains these things to my parents and family and friends on my side so they know what to expect and the proper etiquette. If possible, can someone briefly explain a few of these wedding traditions for me? Here is what they said we’ll do:
Aiburobhat
Phool Sajya
Bride Welcoming (is it called Bodhu Boron?)
Meal with In-Laws (Bou Bhat?)
We’ll also do Mehndi, Sangeet, Haldi, and of course the do the actual Bengali Wedding rituals and Reception, but I think I already have a good understanding of them. The list above are the ones I’m unfamiliar with in Bengali culture aside from the little I found from google. What is done in these ceremonies? Which ones are open to all guests and which are reserved for only close family? What kind of attire should people wear? Or just any general tips, advice, or info regarding Bengali weddings.
I know I’m asking for a lot so thanks so so much to anyone who takes time to help me out 🙏
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Background: I’m a foreigner, and my to-be husband is Bengali. We’ve recently started wedding planning. His parents shared with me the wedding rituals we will do, but due to the language barrier, they’ve been limited in how much they can explain these things to me. My partner himself isn’t really religious despite his Hindu background, so he doesn’t know much about these rituals himself. I’ve done some googling, and while there are a lot of resources about Indian wedding rituals in general, not much info is available regarding Bengali weddings specifically. I’d like to be able to explains these things to my parents and family and friends on my side so they know what to expect and the proper etiquette. If possible, can someone briefly explain a few of these wedding traditions for me? Here is what they said we’ll do:
Aiburobhat
Phool Sajya
Bride Welcoming (is it called Bodhu Boron?)
Meal with In-Laws (Bou Bhat?)
We’ll also do Mehndi, Sangeet, Haldi, and of course the do the actual Bengali Wedding rituals and Reception, but I think I already have a good understanding of them. The list above are the ones I’m unfamiliar with in Bengali culture aside from the little I found from google. What is done in these ceremonies? Which ones are open to all guests and which are reserved for only close family? What kind of attire should people wear? Or just any general tips, advice, or info regarding Bengali weddings.
I know I’m asking for a lot so thanks so so much to anyone who takes time to help me out 🙏
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Any 17-19 yo guy around Kolkata here??
It's just my exams are finished and I am thinking about ending my 1 year streak of solitude and not going out... So if anyone, anyone wanna hang out with me... Please dm...
Before moving forward, we will confirm our identity, don't worry.. I am not a kidnapper planning to kidnap young guys..🐻🙏🏻🥲
It's just.. I don't have any friends now after this long time of solitude and even if I have, they are busy in their lives... And I want to hang out a bit...
I am mentioning specially guys... Because I know girls would not be comfortable to hang out with a stranger and I will not if I was a girl ..
But if you are a guy in a similar situation, then please reach out... I am desperate...
AND OTHER PEOPLE PLEASE UPVOTE.. I COULD REALLY USE A FRIEND..
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It's just my exams are finished and I am thinking about ending my 1 year streak of solitude and not going out... So if anyone, anyone wanna hang out with me... Please dm...
Before moving forward, we will confirm our identity, don't worry.. I am not a kidnapper planning to kidnap young guys..🐻🙏🏻🥲
It's just.. I don't have any friends now after this long time of solitude and even if I have, they are busy in their lives... And I want to hang out a bit...
I am mentioning specially guys... Because I know girls would not be comfortable to hang out with a stranger and I will not if I was a girl ..
But if you are a guy in a similar situation, then please reach out... I am desperate...
AND OTHER PEOPLE PLEASE UPVOTE.. I COULD REALLY USE A FRIEND..
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Dakshineswar giye puro mon kharap hoye gelo – eta boltei holo ekhane
Ei post ta likhte ichchhe chhilo na, but honestly, amar experience ta eto baje chhilo, je ekhane na bole thakte parchhi na.
Dakshineswar Kali Mandir e giyechilam onek bhabna niye — bhakti, shanti, ektu mental peace-er jonne. But je rokom behaviour, system aar overall vibe pelam, sheta ekdom unexpected.
12 ta Shivling ache, tar moddhe 11 ta te LOCK! Just ekta open chhilo, shetao pura control-e. Priester shamne boshe chhilo, ami bolam ektu puja korte chai, bollo “puja korabo?” — tarpor kichu korlo na. Bhaabtei parini.
Kali Mandir-e line chhilo massive, sheta bujhte pari. But management chhilo zero. Lokjon ke push kora hocchilo, especially meyeder — eta ki bhoktir jaiga naki kemon jinish?
Tarpore ekjon purohit literally bollo, "Tika lagate chaile taka din."
Mane seriously? Tikao ekhon paid service?
Bujhte parlam, aajkal mandir bollei business.
Bhagwan ke dekhar jonne taka dite hobe, darshan, tika, puja — shob kichu price list-e chole geche mone holo.
Ami kono disrespect korchi na maa Kali-ke — amar bhakti chhilo, ache. But experience ta amake mentally disturb kore diyechhe. Ei jinish gulo niye kotha bola uchit.
Kew jodi erokom experience diye thako, ba kono peaceful, bhabto ekta real mandir er suggestion thake Kolkata te — kindly bolbe.
Thanks jara porcho. Just ekta moner kotha chhilo.
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Ei post ta likhte ichchhe chhilo na, but honestly, amar experience ta eto baje chhilo, je ekhane na bole thakte parchhi na.
Dakshineswar Kali Mandir e giyechilam onek bhabna niye — bhakti, shanti, ektu mental peace-er jonne. But je rokom behaviour, system aar overall vibe pelam, sheta ekdom unexpected.
12 ta Shivling ache, tar moddhe 11 ta te LOCK! Just ekta open chhilo, shetao pura control-e. Priester shamne boshe chhilo, ami bolam ektu puja korte chai, bollo “puja korabo?” — tarpor kichu korlo na. Bhaabtei parini.
Kali Mandir-e line chhilo massive, sheta bujhte pari. But management chhilo zero. Lokjon ke push kora hocchilo, especially meyeder — eta ki bhoktir jaiga naki kemon jinish?
Tarpore ekjon purohit literally bollo, "Tika lagate chaile taka din."
Mane seriously? Tikao ekhon paid service?
Bujhte parlam, aajkal mandir bollei business.
Bhagwan ke dekhar jonne taka dite hobe, darshan, tika, puja — shob kichu price list-e chole geche mone holo.
Ami kono disrespect korchi na maa Kali-ke — amar bhakti chhilo, ache. But experience ta amake mentally disturb kore diyechhe. Ei jinish gulo niye kotha bola uchit.
Kew jodi erokom experience diye thako, ba kono peaceful, bhabto ekta real mandir er suggestion thake Kolkata te — kindly bolbe.
Thanks jara porcho. Just ekta moner kotha chhilo.
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