"HIAF"
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Create Space for Connection

Feeling stuck in a conflict or just needing a safe space to be heard? I am currently offering one-on-one and couples empathy sessions.
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There is nothing we human beings love more than to contribute to each others well being.

Gratitude
Observation
feeling
Need
Request

2 choices in every moment

Make life wonderful
Or
Who is right

No more punishment and no more reward its the game of who's wrong and who's right.
It doesn't exist
We are so much more than that

https://youtu.be/DgaeHeIL39Y?si=nxJ1AElMn28eoVnG
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The solutions will find us.
When connection is there
Psyco analysis jackal wrong way.
What are the unmet needs.
Repeat them back
& Never put your "butt" in front of an angry person
Keep guessing
"you think xyz judgment."
Keep trying. Rephrase.

Sympathy first aid breaks.

https://youtu.be/qJT9xjKVwrk?si=WC65uUA-2Wmq9DvL
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https://youtu.be/bH9t1lAX2UQ?si=EtFdsOpsbenH61In

To observe without evaluating is the highest form of human intelligence.

Needs are our direct connection with life.
Say the need.

Learn a needs based conciousnes

Evaluate from the heart
Is it serving life or not.

We don't moralistically judge the person for what they're doing.

How do we do that?
What's alive in us right now about what happened.

Observation
Feeling
Need
request
123 at lightning speed

The skills I need I'm not finding
I'm frustrated
I have a need to connect with you
Can you you help me by telling me your needs?
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Its like Learning a new language.

Everytime there are these jackal judments as quickly as possible bring yourself back to life.

Or more specifically
Connect to needs
Needs are life.

Don't hear expectations
Don't HEAR it
Thats thoughts

Hear the need.
Empathize and be present
More likely to get what we want.

Change the word natural to habitual.

I think this process is natural.

More natural than the way you were trained to think.

Anger is a feeling created by unnatural thinking.

"It's very dangerous to mix up the words natural and habitual

We have been trained to communicate habitually, in ways that are unnatural."

Ghandi
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3 hours 30 mins in it gets into avoidance of conflict and how to offer connection/empathy/needs when someone only wants to carry on with "the jackal story" its brilliant.

& a bit before that
How to scream in giraffe.

This is the best workshop.
Loved it.

An example of pure real training rather than an explanation of the process and why.

A must watch for shanti sena to be innerstood.

https://www.bitchute.com/video/kwoNn5qmIJQ0/
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Synonymous.
"Jackal" left brain ~ winning and losing
"Giraffe" right brain ~ trusting in god Jew

We have been educated to work for extrinsic rewards to please authorities in domination systems that punishes us if we don't do what it wants.

Erase the following words from your conciousnes.
Right, wrong, good, bad, normal, abnormal, appropriate inappropriate etc etc....forever.

They destroy a beautiful game that comes out of our hearts and implys wrongness.
Almost guarantees that we will not get what we want.

Anything people hear that's sounding like a demand or a criticism destroys the beauty of giving.

These nvc techniques are designed to reestablish the focus on, is our behavior serving our needs and making life wonderful?

Feelings & needs then at the speed of light a request.

A fluent exchange of that information and nothing else. With nun of those compassion killers words mixed in.

everyone's needs can be met without any coercion or violence.
When we learn to maintain that FLOW.

Feel throught the internal beat up of your Jackal(thoughts).
Give your self emergency first aid empathy any time or find a local giraffe.

Try a search in your area if there are giraffe meet ups to build up reassurance & practice in challenging situations.
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Feelings and needs reference guide.
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