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Told my surgeon that I did NOT consent to any pelvic exams while under anesthesia, and her response really rubs me the wrong way.
!ATTENTION!
THIS PRACTICE IS LEGAL IN 29 STATES. CHECK IF IT'S LEGAL IN YOURS.
A few days ago, I had to get a colostomy bag put in. The entire process was basically speedran--my colorectal surgeon took a look at the situation while I was under anesthesia and promptly scheduled me for a bag. I probably would be dead if I had to wait too long (she was pale in the face and astounded I hadn't collapsed weeks ago). In no time, I was admitted to a hospital as an emergency case the day after the examination. No one was more ready for this surgery than me.
So I'm in the final waiting room before the OR, waiting for everything to get ready so I can be wheeled back and put under. My colorectal surgeon walks in, along with a younger woman in scrubs who doesn't say a thing. My surgeon introduces her as a med student who's going to watch. And instantly, I freak out.
If you don't know, in the USA, women can and often will be subjected to nonconsensual pelvic examinations during procedures where they're knocked out. You don't have to be doing a vaginal surgery, either. Without telling you, doctors can use you as a guinea pig for med students to practice exams on. This happens more than you think, is legal in more states than you think, and is completely abhorrent and inhumane. Luckily, I checked if they can do that in the state where I was having surgery, and it's been illegal as of 2019. And this is a very blue state. But seeing the med student put me into a panic, so I immediately clarified that this colostomy procedure was the only one I consented to, no pelvic exams, nothing but what I came here for.
My surgeon gave me a baffled look like I was an idiot and said in a manner that'd make you think she followed it up with a hearty "Duh, dumbass!":
"But how else are they going to learn?"
I'd understand if she was like, "You're too anxious. We don't do that here." Or better yet, just a "We won't do it." But instead, I have the audacity to request people don't stick their fingers into my genitalia when there's nothing wrong and I wasn't there for it. I shouldn't have to ask NOT to have something done to me that wasn't discussed.
In the same tone, I just replied, "But I don't consent."
I will fucking die on this hill. What the hell do you mean, practice? You don't normally perform pelvic exams on unconscious people. How the hell are you supposed to know you're truly doing it properly if your patient can't tell you if that hurts, and if they're not even aware of it!
I had to go to an OBGYN semi recently, and they told me I very likely had a rectovaginal fistula, AKA basically a hole between the rectum and vagina. Granted, the doctors suspect it's fairly far up--could actually be in my uterus--so maybe a med student might not accidentally come across it. But can you imagine if I got injured because of carelessness? How am I even supposed to know what went wrong and that it really is an injury if no one told me they were sticking their fingers in there?
And yes, I know med students aren't incompetent, but what if they were too rough or careless? What if they tore me? I've been manhandled by medical professionals before. People aren't careful 100% of the time, especially when the patient can't provide feedback. Also, I was sexually abused as a child.
Even if someone gave me a flawless, beautiful pelvic exam and I'd never know about it, I SHOULD NOT AS AN ADULT RECEIVE MEDICAL TREATMENT WITHOUT MY CONSENT AND KNOWLEDGE. I am not a fucking medical cadaver! I'm not a test dummy! I'm not a guinea pig, and I am most certainly NOT just a walking vagina who can be prodded and poked by medical equipment, my own feelings be damned!
Women are treated like shit in the states. We have a long way to go ... source
!ATTENTION!
THIS PRACTICE IS LEGAL IN 29 STATES. CHECK IF IT'S LEGAL IN YOURS.
A few days ago, I had to get a colostomy bag put in. The entire process was basically speedran--my colorectal surgeon took a look at the situation while I was under anesthesia and promptly scheduled me for a bag. I probably would be dead if I had to wait too long (she was pale in the face and astounded I hadn't collapsed weeks ago). In no time, I was admitted to a hospital as an emergency case the day after the examination. No one was more ready for this surgery than me.
So I'm in the final waiting room before the OR, waiting for everything to get ready so I can be wheeled back and put under. My colorectal surgeon walks in, along with a younger woman in scrubs who doesn't say a thing. My surgeon introduces her as a med student who's going to watch. And instantly, I freak out.
If you don't know, in the USA, women can and often will be subjected to nonconsensual pelvic examinations during procedures where they're knocked out. You don't have to be doing a vaginal surgery, either. Without telling you, doctors can use you as a guinea pig for med students to practice exams on. This happens more than you think, is legal in more states than you think, and is completely abhorrent and inhumane. Luckily, I checked if they can do that in the state where I was having surgery, and it's been illegal as of 2019. And this is a very blue state. But seeing the med student put me into a panic, so I immediately clarified that this colostomy procedure was the only one I consented to, no pelvic exams, nothing but what I came here for.
My surgeon gave me a baffled look like I was an idiot and said in a manner that'd make you think she followed it up with a hearty "Duh, dumbass!":
"But how else are they going to learn?"
I'd understand if she was like, "You're too anxious. We don't do that here." Or better yet, just a "We won't do it." But instead, I have the audacity to request people don't stick their fingers into my genitalia when there's nothing wrong and I wasn't there for it. I shouldn't have to ask NOT to have something done to me that wasn't discussed.
In the same tone, I just replied, "But I don't consent."
I will fucking die on this hill. What the hell do you mean, practice? You don't normally perform pelvic exams on unconscious people. How the hell are you supposed to know you're truly doing it properly if your patient can't tell you if that hurts, and if they're not even aware of it!
I had to go to an OBGYN semi recently, and they told me I very likely had a rectovaginal fistula, AKA basically a hole between the rectum and vagina. Granted, the doctors suspect it's fairly far up--could actually be in my uterus--so maybe a med student might not accidentally come across it. But can you imagine if I got injured because of carelessness? How am I even supposed to know what went wrong and that it really is an injury if no one told me they were sticking their fingers in there?
And yes, I know med students aren't incompetent, but what if they were too rough or careless? What if they tore me? I've been manhandled by medical professionals before. People aren't careful 100% of the time, especially when the patient can't provide feedback. Also, I was sexually abused as a child.
Even if someone gave me a flawless, beautiful pelvic exam and I'd never know about it, I SHOULD NOT AS AN ADULT RECEIVE MEDICAL TREATMENT WITHOUT MY CONSENT AND KNOWLEDGE. I am not a fucking medical cadaver! I'm not a test dummy! I'm not a guinea pig, and I am most certainly NOT just a walking vagina who can be prodded and poked by medical equipment, my own feelings be damned!
Women are treated like shit in the states. We have a long way to go ... source
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GOP lawmaker ‘very sad’ Utah parent used his law to request ‘sex-ridden’ Bible be removed from school
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GOP lawmaker ‘very sad’ Utah parent used his law to request ‘sex-ridden’ Bible be removed from school
Responding to a new law allowing for "pornographic" books to be removed from school libraries, a Utah parent has moved to have "one of the most sex-ridden books around" removed as well, namely, the Bible. The Salt Lake Tribune reports that the parent, who…
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