FTM I was forced to (almost) debate against trans people/listen to transphobic arguments for an English lesson
now to clarify this was not a debate club or anything like that just a normal English lesson So this was not something I signed up for.
hi so I’m a trans man (only out to friends and family) and recently my school did this debate activity in english to help us Practice persuasive language/debates/public speaking. they had a few different topics like “cats or dogs”, ”is social media bad or good” and you know mostly just stuff where having an opinion one way or the other doesn’t really matter and it is just genuinely waying out what is good or bad about certain things. For this we would also be automatically put into teams and could not decide what side we argued for.
Now the final topic they decided on was going to be based on recent events and news so they said “should transgender individuals be allowed to compete in sports” and I ended up on the against side. I ended up avoiding participating as it was more of like a back and forth than where you HAD to present the view they gave you. You just generally had to contribute to a sheet on the table then they would use what everyone wrote to argue against the other side. I had to listen to the people around me basically invalidating something about me and a community I am in when they came up with arguments.
Not only is that hard to sit through but it is absolutely ridiculous that trans people participating in a normal activity should even be debated about, especially as a little “it could go either way” debate in an English lesson. I am so annoyed right now at not only the teacher but my classmates for even tolerating this. I would have said something but then I’d have to explain why I care and I’d probably get bullied for it.
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now to clarify this was not a debate club or anything like that just a normal English lesson So this was not something I signed up for.
hi so I’m a trans man (only out to friends and family) and recently my school did this debate activity in english to help us Practice persuasive language/debates/public speaking. they had a few different topics like “cats or dogs”, ”is social media bad or good” and you know mostly just stuff where having an opinion one way or the other doesn’t really matter and it is just genuinely waying out what is good or bad about certain things. For this we would also be automatically put into teams and could not decide what side we argued for.
Now the final topic they decided on was going to be based on recent events and news so they said “should transgender individuals be allowed to compete in sports” and I ended up on the against side. I ended up avoiding participating as it was more of like a back and forth than where you HAD to present the view they gave you. You just generally had to contribute to a sheet on the table then they would use what everyone wrote to argue against the other side. I had to listen to the people around me basically invalidating something about me and a community I am in when they came up with arguments.
Not only is that hard to sit through but it is absolutely ridiculous that trans people participating in a normal activity should even be debated about, especially as a little “it could go either way” debate in an English lesson. I am so annoyed right now at not only the teacher but my classmates for even tolerating this. I would have said something but then I’d have to explain why I care and I’d probably get bullied for it.
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I FUMBLED A GAS STATION BADDIE AND I WANT TO DIE!!😭😭😭😭😭
So for context i live a state away from my dad and i visit him from time to time. I usually take a train but this time he was already visiting the city im in so we decided he just drive me back with him when he decided to go back home
20 or so minutes into the drive, i have to pee really bad so we take an exit and stop at this random gas station in the middle of nowhere. So i go in. Do my thing. Come out. Realize i hadn’t eaten all day. Grab a frozen breakfast burrito. Get in line. I look up, and there she was. Behind the counter. Staring right at me. She was tall, kinda buff with lots of tattoos and glasses. Soooo fucking hoooottt like omgggggggg😭😭😭. And shes just giving me this “i would ruin you” grin and im just frozen in place because first of all, i was still coming to terms with my identity. Second of all MY DAD WAS RIGHT THERE NEXT TO ME. Third of all it really caught me off guard and she was so hot i didnt know what to dooooo😭
Anyways so i finally make it to the front of the line to check out. She wasnt the one on the register, she was just like chilling behind the counter. STILL STARING AT ME MIND YOU. Im pretty much a puddle at that point and im stumbling over my words with the cashier and i press the wrong button on the card reader so i have to start over again. Like bro she had me tweaking😭😭!!
So long story short i just walked out with my dad without saying a word to her. No numbers exchanged, nothing. I couldnt even bring myself to warm up my burrito. like i had to get the hell out of there lol. What’s worse is i dont even remember what gas station it was. Like my dad probably remembers but how tf do i ask him without letting him know why??
I think about her aalllllll the time. I imagine her taking me in the bathroom or the janitor’s closet or even right there on the counter. Like i dont care i just want her so baaaaadd😭😩. And im a lot more comfortable in my identity now so i’d be ready for her. I think thats what hurts the most like girl you caught me at a bad time i wasnt readyyyyy🤦🏿♀️
Anyway thats my story. Im gonna go daydream about her some more🩷
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So for context i live a state away from my dad and i visit him from time to time. I usually take a train but this time he was already visiting the city im in so we decided he just drive me back with him when he decided to go back home
20 or so minutes into the drive, i have to pee really bad so we take an exit and stop at this random gas station in the middle of nowhere. So i go in. Do my thing. Come out. Realize i hadn’t eaten all day. Grab a frozen breakfast burrito. Get in line. I look up, and there she was. Behind the counter. Staring right at me. She was tall, kinda buff with lots of tattoos and glasses. Soooo fucking hoooottt like omgggggggg😭😭😭. And shes just giving me this “i would ruin you” grin and im just frozen in place because first of all, i was still coming to terms with my identity. Second of all MY DAD WAS RIGHT THERE NEXT TO ME. Third of all it really caught me off guard and she was so hot i didnt know what to dooooo😭
Anyways so i finally make it to the front of the line to check out. She wasnt the one on the register, she was just like chilling behind the counter. STILL STARING AT ME MIND YOU. Im pretty much a puddle at that point and im stumbling over my words with the cashier and i press the wrong button on the card reader so i have to start over again. Like bro she had me tweaking😭😭!!
So long story short i just walked out with my dad without saying a word to her. No numbers exchanged, nothing. I couldnt even bring myself to warm up my burrito. like i had to get the hell out of there lol. What’s worse is i dont even remember what gas station it was. Like my dad probably remembers but how tf do i ask him without letting him know why??
I think about her aalllllll the time. I imagine her taking me in the bathroom or the janitor’s closet or even right there on the counter. Like i dont care i just want her so baaaaadd😭😩. And im a lot more comfortable in my identity now so i’d be ready for her. I think thats what hurts the most like girl you caught me at a bad time i wasnt readyyyyy🤦🏿♀️
Anyway thats my story. Im gonna go daydream about her some more🩷
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Kinda Sick of People in Aro/Ace Spaces Being Rude to Allos
Exactly as the title says
As an aroace enby, i love when people are happy and in love. Its so cute and it warms my heart seeing others experience joy.
Im sick of being in spaces where people are anti love, anti sex, sex negative, etc. and badmouth allos for simply existing. It doesn't feel good when we experience aphobia and arophobia*, so why should we flip it back on them? Two wrongs don't make a right. I understand that a select few allos are unhinged, but that doesn't represent them as a whole.
What happened to being happy for others? Just because aros(and aces for that matter) don't enjoy/experience some romantic, sexual, sensual, etc. forms of attraction and sometimes love, doesn't mean we can't be happy for those who do.(And for those who argue that they don't have to be happy for them, well, just leave them be!)
I love weddings, I love sappiness, I think (some) love songs are awesome, I love when people are comfortable and safe with their partners.
I used to hate it, it felt so gross, but its like: why should i care how strangers express their feelings? It doesn't make us superior or anything? I dont get it
I think more people should be respectful of allosexuals and alloromantics sometimes, they cant help that they're allo, just like aroaces cant help that they're aroace. Of course we should hold them accountable when they breach our boundaries, but we shouldn't yuck their yum.
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Exactly as the title says
As an aroace enby, i love when people are happy and in love. Its so cute and it warms my heart seeing others experience joy.
Im sick of being in spaces where people are anti love, anti sex, sex negative, etc. and badmouth allos for simply existing. It doesn't feel good when we experience aphobia and arophobia*, so why should we flip it back on them? Two wrongs don't make a right. I understand that a select few allos are unhinged, but that doesn't represent them as a whole.
What happened to being happy for others? Just because aros(and aces for that matter) don't enjoy/experience some romantic, sexual, sensual, etc. forms of attraction and sometimes love, doesn't mean we can't be happy for those who do.(And for those who argue that they don't have to be happy for them, well, just leave them be!)
I love weddings, I love sappiness, I think (some) love songs are awesome, I love when people are comfortable and safe with their partners.
I used to hate it, it felt so gross, but its like: why should i care how strangers express their feelings? It doesn't make us superior or anything? I dont get it
I think more people should be respectful of allosexuals and alloromantics sometimes, they cant help that they're allo, just like aroaces cant help that they're aroace. Of course we should hold them accountable when they breach our boundaries, but we shouldn't yuck their yum.
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I told my boyfriend I wan trans
So me 19(MTF transiting for a couple years) told my boyfriend of 2 years I was trans right before we were about to get intimate. I know I should’ve told him sooner but I was scared since he’s kind of really Christian.
When I told him he got up from my bed hugged me and said I’ll see u later. That was 2 weeks ago, he won’t awnser my call or texts. I don’t know y he’s doing any of this. I don’t know y he’s ghosting me it’s not like I’m a different person or anything. I feel likes he’s being a baby about this, but I also feel like I should’ve told him sooner.
I’m honestly not sure why he’s doing this. We’ve been together for two years and it’s not like that changes anything. We’ve had sex before(grand saved. I’ve told him that I’m saving most of myself for marriage and I never let him see me from the front) kissed, gone on dates. Ain’t no big deal
Does this make me a bad person? And any advice on what I should do?
UPDATE: So he hmu saying he’s sorry he ghosted me said his mom has died like 2 days after he left when he wanted me to tell me he wanted to talk. I didn’t believe him until I called his sister who confirmed it.
He ended up breaking up with be, he said he loved me still and supported me but he couldn’t date someone was male at one point and someone who he couldn’t have biological children with. We talked for about an hour. He apologized for everything said he was sorry, he said he felt a surge of emotions running through him that he couldn’t process, and I need to tell yall I never once felt danger or was scared of him.
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So me 19(MTF transiting for a couple years) told my boyfriend of 2 years I was trans right before we were about to get intimate. I know I should’ve told him sooner but I was scared since he’s kind of really Christian.
When I told him he got up from my bed hugged me and said I’ll see u later. That was 2 weeks ago, he won’t awnser my call or texts. I don’t know y he’s doing any of this. I don’t know y he’s ghosting me it’s not like I’m a different person or anything. I feel likes he’s being a baby about this, but I also feel like I should’ve told him sooner.
I’m honestly not sure why he’s doing this. We’ve been together for two years and it’s not like that changes anything. We’ve had sex before(grand saved. I’ve told him that I’m saving most of myself for marriage and I never let him see me from the front) kissed, gone on dates. Ain’t no big deal
Does this make me a bad person? And any advice on what I should do?
UPDATE: So he hmu saying he’s sorry he ghosted me said his mom has died like 2 days after he left when he wanted me to tell me he wanted to talk. I didn’t believe him until I called his sister who confirmed it.
He ended up breaking up with be, he said he loved me still and supported me but he couldn’t date someone was male at one point and someone who he couldn’t have biological children with. We talked for about an hour. He apologized for everything said he was sorry, he said he felt a surge of emotions running through him that he couldn’t process, and I need to tell yall I never once felt danger or was scared of him.
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Remember how Solid Snake is an LGBT Ally, and let Peach and Zelda know that girls could date and have sex with other girls? Look at how surprised Peach and Zelda were!
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The idea, especially the psychology behind it, is absolutely fascinating, but i dont actually care to do it. Anyone else relate?
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A grounding truth for my fellow bi men
If a woman is threatened by the idea that you’ve desired men before, she will eventually be threatened by:
your emotional depth
your friendships
your independence
and your sexuality in general.
Bisexuality just makes that visible sooner.
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If a woman is threatened by the idea that you’ve desired men before, she will eventually be threatened by:
your emotional depth
your friendships
your independence
and your sexuality in general.
Bisexuality just makes that visible sooner.
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Why aren't lesbian relationships taken seriously?
It's so annoying and upsetting when your own family and even friend doesn't take your relationship of almost 10 years serious. Like oh "name" is living with a friend, she's single and my daughter is actually a virgin since she didn't have a P inside of her. Love between 2 women isn't Serious since there isn't a peen involved. She is just disappointed in men, but one day she will meet "the one" and will have a Relationship, Real feelings, and get married.
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It's so annoying and upsetting when your own family and even friend doesn't take your relationship of almost 10 years serious. Like oh "name" is living with a friend, she's single and my daughter is actually a virgin since she didn't have a P inside of her. Love between 2 women isn't Serious since there isn't a peen involved. She is just disappointed in men, but one day she will meet "the one" and will have a Relationship, Real feelings, and get married.
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This is what it’s like to bottom (receive anal) from another man
I often get asked on this app when posting about my experiences “what does anal feel like, what’s it feel like to get fucked by a man?” So I’m going to do my best to describe it. Disclaimer: not all fucks are equal some suck but when done right it’s an amazing feeling. I’m going to describe what it feels like when done right.
The key to pleasurable anal is to be relaxed. And you won’t be relaxed if you do not clean out your hole properly. That way no accidents happen and you feel comfortable. So that’s #1. #2 is your prostate and colon/rectum can be stimulated. It can be done by getting fucked, fingered, dildo’d/toyed with, licked. When stimulated this adds extra pleasure. When your prostate is pushed on it creates a feeling like you need to pee and you feel it at the tip of your cock. It can create a “buzzing” feeling right inside your ass and/or at the base of your cock and sometimes even a tickle feeling inside. #3 your hole needs to be worked in before with fingers or small toys. This will ensure you aren’t in pain when the cock pushes thru the sphincter. These are keys to feeling pleasure not pain or just feeling stretched. When the rectum/colon is stimulated you will feel more of the man’s cock when it’s moving back and forth. Imagine you arm is numb and you tickle it with a feather. As your circulation returns to your arm the more intense the tickle gets. That’s what it’s like when your colon/rectum is stimulated.
When a man’s cock first pushes thru my sphincter it can be painful at first depending on how big. The pain eventually subsides and is replaced by the feeling of like when you take a real nice #2 on the toilet. Everyone here has probably taken a poop before and had that “ahhh” feeling. My hole and rectum feels stretched. At first it’s hard not to clench as the cock begins to move back and forth. It’s like a massage in my hole, but it’s not exactly pleasurable at this point yet, my hole just feels full. It takes some time for my body to adjust, pressure can start in the abdomen. Air can get pumped in and be uncomfortable. As the abdomen settles and air is released this is when comfort starts to set in. The clench of the sphincter goes away and relaxes creating the classic “gape” which is when I know things are going to start getting good.
The longer I’m getting fucked the more and more the pressure/stretched feelings subside until it goes away completely and gets to a point the man can pull his cock out and my hole stays open/gaped and he can easily put it back in, take it out again and easily put it back in, over and over as many times as he wants and there is no pain or stretch feeling at all. My hole has now adjusted to his cock girth as it comfortably grips around it like a warm slick sleeve.
As I’m getting fucked my colon starts to get stimulated. I’m able to feel more and more the skin/head of his cock moving along it back and forth like this “grainy” feeling inside. My mind to hole connection builds and builds as I focus more and more on what I’m feeling while his cock fucks me. At this point the anal starts to feel pleasurable and not just like pressure and being stretched.
As my colon gets stimulated so does my prostate. My prostate starts to swell so with every thrust and impact I begin to feel like I need to pee (even tho I don’t). A tickle feeling begins to develop about 3-4 inches in. My cock which has been soft this entire time goes hard. The tickle feeling spreads to the base of my cock and throughout my abdomen. I would describe the tickle feeling almost like when your leg falls asleep and starts to tickle a lot when you move it. I have had the tickle feeling spread to the point of being at my fingertips and toes before. (I’m beginning to have an anal/prostate orgasm). My once relaxed/gaped hole starts to pulsate around his cock as pleasure intensifies. If he were to pull out now my hole would be “blinking” at him over and over. My sphincter is no longer in my control. It tightens and releases around his cock over and
I often get asked on this app when posting about my experiences “what does anal feel like, what’s it feel like to get fucked by a man?” So I’m going to do my best to describe it. Disclaimer: not all fucks are equal some suck but when done right it’s an amazing feeling. I’m going to describe what it feels like when done right.
The key to pleasurable anal is to be relaxed. And you won’t be relaxed if you do not clean out your hole properly. That way no accidents happen and you feel comfortable. So that’s #1. #2 is your prostate and colon/rectum can be stimulated. It can be done by getting fucked, fingered, dildo’d/toyed with, licked. When stimulated this adds extra pleasure. When your prostate is pushed on it creates a feeling like you need to pee and you feel it at the tip of your cock. It can create a “buzzing” feeling right inside your ass and/or at the base of your cock and sometimes even a tickle feeling inside. #3 your hole needs to be worked in before with fingers or small toys. This will ensure you aren’t in pain when the cock pushes thru the sphincter. These are keys to feeling pleasure not pain or just feeling stretched. When the rectum/colon is stimulated you will feel more of the man’s cock when it’s moving back and forth. Imagine you arm is numb and you tickle it with a feather. As your circulation returns to your arm the more intense the tickle gets. That’s what it’s like when your colon/rectum is stimulated.
When a man’s cock first pushes thru my sphincter it can be painful at first depending on how big. The pain eventually subsides and is replaced by the feeling of like when you take a real nice #2 on the toilet. Everyone here has probably taken a poop before and had that “ahhh” feeling. My hole and rectum feels stretched. At first it’s hard not to clench as the cock begins to move back and forth. It’s like a massage in my hole, but it’s not exactly pleasurable at this point yet, my hole just feels full. It takes some time for my body to adjust, pressure can start in the abdomen. Air can get pumped in and be uncomfortable. As the abdomen settles and air is released this is when comfort starts to set in. The clench of the sphincter goes away and relaxes creating the classic “gape” which is when I know things are going to start getting good.
The longer I’m getting fucked the more and more the pressure/stretched feelings subside until it goes away completely and gets to a point the man can pull his cock out and my hole stays open/gaped and he can easily put it back in, take it out again and easily put it back in, over and over as many times as he wants and there is no pain or stretch feeling at all. My hole has now adjusted to his cock girth as it comfortably grips around it like a warm slick sleeve.
As I’m getting fucked my colon starts to get stimulated. I’m able to feel more and more the skin/head of his cock moving along it back and forth like this “grainy” feeling inside. My mind to hole connection builds and builds as I focus more and more on what I’m feeling while his cock fucks me. At this point the anal starts to feel pleasurable and not just like pressure and being stretched.
As my colon gets stimulated so does my prostate. My prostate starts to swell so with every thrust and impact I begin to feel like I need to pee (even tho I don’t). A tickle feeling begins to develop about 3-4 inches in. My cock which has been soft this entire time goes hard. The tickle feeling spreads to the base of my cock and throughout my abdomen. I would describe the tickle feeling almost like when your leg falls asleep and starts to tickle a lot when you move it. I have had the tickle feeling spread to the point of being at my fingertips and toes before. (I’m beginning to have an anal/prostate orgasm). My once relaxed/gaped hole starts to pulsate around his cock as pleasure intensifies. If he were to pull out now my hole would be “blinking” at him over and over. My sphincter is no longer in my control. It tightens and releases around his cock over and
over nonstop.
At this point I’m having a full blown anal/prostate orgasm. Which can come in waves. It’s possible it will feel like it’s going away only to come back again. If you are someone that doesn’t like to moan or anything, at this point you can throw that out the window, you cannot help but moan from the pleasure. Blood rushes to my colon making it feel like it’s swelling. My cock begins to leak strands of cum (I’ve also leaked pee as well). The last thing in the WORLD I want right now is for him to stop or slow down, if anything I want him to fuck me even harder.
At this point there is ZERO feelings of pressure in my hole or it being stretched. It is completely wide open able to take anything he throws at me. The pleasure will last as long as he fucks varying in intensity. I’ve had ass orgasms more intense and pleasurable than penis orgasms. The fun part is they last much longer too. When you aren’t stimulated the feeling is quite simple, you just feel an object in your ass just moving around back and forth and if it’s a big cock the stretched feeling can be overwhelming and intense to the point you are laying there wincing the entire time and moaning not from pleasure but as a response to being stretched so much. But when done correctly it’s an incredible feeling.
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At this point I’m having a full blown anal/prostate orgasm. Which can come in waves. It’s possible it will feel like it’s going away only to come back again. If you are someone that doesn’t like to moan or anything, at this point you can throw that out the window, you cannot help but moan from the pleasure. Blood rushes to my colon making it feel like it’s swelling. My cock begins to leak strands of cum (I’ve also leaked pee as well). The last thing in the WORLD I want right now is for him to stop or slow down, if anything I want him to fuck me even harder.
At this point there is ZERO feelings of pressure in my hole or it being stretched. It is completely wide open able to take anything he throws at me. The pleasure will last as long as he fucks varying in intensity. I’ve had ass orgasms more intense and pleasurable than penis orgasms. The fun part is they last much longer too. When you aren’t stimulated the feeling is quite simple, you just feel an object in your ass just moving around back and forth and if it’s a big cock the stretched feeling can be overwhelming and intense to the point you are laying there wincing the entire time and moaning not from pleasure but as a response to being stretched so much. But when done correctly it’s an incredible feeling.
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