Making friends as an adult is just hard
https://www.wbur.org/hereandnow/2021/11/10/making-friends-adults
https://www.wbur.org/hereandnow/2021/11/10/making-friends-adults
WBUR
You're not uncool. Making friends as an adult is just hard
Forming new friendships as an adult can seem like an impossible feat. Psychologist Marisa G. Franco shares her top tips for making genuine connections.
The Neuroscience of Everybody's Favorite Topic
On average, people spend 60 percent of conversations talking about themselves—and this figure jumps to 80 percent when communicating via social media platforms
https://www.scientificamerican.com/article/the-neuroscience-of-everybody-favorite-topic-themselves/
On average, people spend 60 percent of conversations talking about themselves—and this figure jumps to 80 percent when communicating via social media platforms
https://www.scientificamerican.com/article/the-neuroscience-of-everybody-favorite-topic-themselves/
Scientific American
The Neuroscience of Everybody's Favorite Topic
Why do people spend so much time talking about themselves?
The D.E.N.N.I.S. system: Résumé tips for Senior Devs
https://jacobbartlett.substack.com/p/the-dennis-system-cvs-tips-for-senior
https://jacobbartlett.substack.com/p/the-dennis-system-cvs-tips-for-senior
Jacobstechtavern
The D.E.N.N.I.S. system: Résumé tips for Senior Devs
Swipe Right on Your Dream Job
Health advisory on social media use in adolescence
6. Adolescents should be routinely screened for signs of “problematic social media use” that can impair their ability to engage in daily roles and routines, and may present risk for more serious psychological harms over time.
Indicators of problematic social media use include
- a tendency to use social media even when adolescents want to stop, or realize it is interfering with necessary tasks
- spending excessive effort to ensure continuous access to social media
- strong cravings to use social media, or disruptions in other activities from missing social media use too much
- repeatedly spending more time on social media than intended
- lying or deceptive behavior to retain access to social media use
- loss or disruption of significant relationships or educational opportunities because of media use
https://www.apa.org/topics/social-media-internet/health-advisory-adolescent-social-media-use
6. Adolescents should be routinely screened for signs of “problematic social media use” that can impair their ability to engage in daily roles and routines, and may present risk for more serious psychological harms over time.
Indicators of problematic social media use include
- a tendency to use social media even when adolescents want to stop, or realize it is interfering with necessary tasks
- spending excessive effort to ensure continuous access to social media
- strong cravings to use social media, or disruptions in other activities from missing social media use too much
- repeatedly spending more time on social media than intended
- lying or deceptive behavior to retain access to social media use
- loss or disruption of significant relationships or educational opportunities because of media use
https://www.apa.org/topics/social-media-internet/health-advisory-adolescent-social-media-use
Taxonomy of procrastination
I claim that if you want to do a thing and
- you like doing it; and
- you’re sure it will work; and
- you’re sure it will be awesome; and
- you’ll get the benefits quickly;
then it will be easy. So if you’re procrastinating, look for the bottleneck.
https://dynomight.net/procrastination/
I claim that if you want to do a thing and
- you like doing it; and
- you’re sure it will work; and
- you’re sure it will be awesome; and
- you’ll get the benefits quickly;
then it will be easy. So if you’re procrastinating, look for the bottleneck.
https://dynomight.net/procrastination/
DYNOMIGHT
Taxonomy of procrastination
There’s a little accountant named Jim that lives in my head
People who die by suicide want to stop suffering, not to stop living
https://english.elpais.com/science-tech/2023-05-20/psychologist-enrique-echeburua-people-who-die-by-suicide-want-to-stop-suffering-not-to-stop-living.html
https://english.elpais.com/science-tech/2023-05-20/psychologist-enrique-echeburua-people-who-die-by-suicide-want-to-stop-suffering-not-to-stop-living.html
EL PAÍS English
Psychologist Enrique Echeburúa: ‘People who die by suicide want to stop suffering, not to stop living’
The psychologist just published his book ‘Death by Suicide’ in which he explains it as a public health problem, paying particular attention to the suffering of survivors
Writing summaries is more important than reading more books
https://www.andreasfragner.com/writing/writing-summaries
https://news.ycombinator.com/item?id=36011599
Finally all good books should be read twice or more. Good reading is rereading. A rereading helps you focus on details missed the first time around.
https://www.andreasfragner.com/writing/writing-summaries
https://news.ycombinator.com/item?id=36011599
Finally all good books should be read twice or more. Good reading is rereading. A rereading helps you focus on details missed the first time around.
Andreas Fragner
Writing summaries is more important than reading more books — Andreas Fragner
One thing I’ve learned over time is to read fewer books but to take the time to write summaries for the good ones. The ROI of spending 2h writing a synopsis is much higher than spending those 2h powering through the next book on your list. Reading is not…
Modern work requires attention. Constant alerts steal it
https://stackoverflow.blog/2023/05/22/modern-work-requires-attention-constant-alerts-steal-it/
https://stackoverflow.blog/2023/05/22/modern-work-requires-attention-constant-alerts-steal-it/
Stack Overflow Blog
Modern work requires attention. Constant alerts steal it
Attention—the time and freedom to focus—is your team’s most valuable resource.
How to Stare at Your Phone Without Losing Your Soul
https://simone.org/tracking-screen-time/
https://simone.org/tracking-screen-time/
Hacking my “smart” toothbrush
https://kuenzi.dev/toothbrush/
https://kuenzi.dev/toothbrush/
The Twenty Percent
Hacking my “smart” toothbrush
After buying a new Philips Sonicare toothbrush I was surprised to see that it reacts to the insertion of a brush head by blinking an LED. A quick online search reveals that the head communicates with the toothbrush handle to remind you when it’s time to…
Notes apps are where ideas go to die (2022)
We don’t write things down to remember them. We write them down to forget.
https://www.reproof.app/blog/notes-apps-help-us-forget
We don’t write things down to remember them. We write them down to forget.
https://www.reproof.app/blog/notes-apps-help-us-forget
www.reproof.app
Notes apps are where ideas go to die. And that’s good. · Reproof
Insurance for your mind.
How Your Circle of Friends Influence Who You Become
Want to be successful? Surround yourself with successful people. Want to be happy? Surround yourself with happy people. Want to be healthy? Surround yourself with healthy people. Want to become more confident? Surround yourself with confident people.
In essence, we become more like the people we hang out with.
Jim Rohn tells us: “You are the average of the five people you spend the most time with.”
https://www.simonalexanderong.com/2013/10/how-your-circle-of-friends-influence-who-you-become/
Want to be successful? Surround yourself with successful people. Want to be happy? Surround yourself with happy people. Want to be healthy? Surround yourself with healthy people. Want to become more confident? Surround yourself with confident people.
In essence, we become more like the people we hang out with.
Jim Rohn tells us: “You are the average of the five people you spend the most time with.”
https://www.simonalexanderong.com/2013/10/how-your-circle-of-friends-influence-who-you-become/
Simon Alexander Ong -
How Your Circle of Friends Influence Who You Become - Simon Alexander Ong
For many years, I lived by the belief that how smart and talented I was, would be the single, most important factor in determining my level of success in life. The grades I thought I had to achieve through sacrificing nights, weekends and holidays for. Having…
Talking to Strangers
If you want to talking to strangers and getting them deeply, therefore you should asking about themselves. Just assume that people already like you.
https://medium.com/@alfianchii/talking-to-strangers-fd9fb3971105
If you want to talking to strangers and getting them deeply, therefore you should asking about themselves. Just assume that people already like you.
https://medium.com/@alfianchii/talking-to-strangers-fd9fb3971105
Medium
Talking to Strangers
In early October of 2022, one of my friends, whom you can call Saugi, and I went to a book event which conducted in South Jakarta.
Why do railway tracks have crushed stones alongside them?
https://www.alpharail.co.nz/why-do-railway-tracks-have-crushed-stones-alongside-them/
https://www.alpharail.co.nz/why-do-railway-tracks-have-crushed-stones-alongside-them/
Alpha Rail
Why do railway tracks have crushed stones alongside them? - Alpha Rail
Track ballast is the name for the crushed stones next to railway tracks. They are used by Railway Track Designers for numerous reasons
High Prices Make Textbook ‘Piracy’ Acceptable to Most Students
50% Obtain Textbook Illegally
84% half admit to having used at least some ‘pirated’ copies.
70% admit to knowing that piracy is illegal.
https://torrentfreak.com/high-prices-make-textbook-piracy-acceptable-to-most-students-230604/
50% Obtain Textbook Illegally
84% half admit to having used at least some ‘pirated’ copies.
70% admit to knowing that piracy is illegal.
https://torrentfreak.com/high-prices-make-textbook-piracy-acceptable-to-most-students-230604/
Torrentfreak
High Prices Make Textbook 'Piracy' Acceptable to Most Students * TorrentFreak
New research published by the Rights Alliance shows that more than half of all students find it acceptable to use pirated books.
Indonesian Kids Don't Know How Stupid They Are
In alphabetical order, though it's easier to find Indonesia if you look at the ranked chart below, because you just have to go straight to the bottom.
But there's one chart which putting Indonesian kids over the top: the proportion who report being happy in school.
http://indonesiaetc.com/indonesian-kids-dont-know-how-stupid-they-are/
In alphabetical order, though it's easier to find Indonesia if you look at the ranked chart below, because you just have to go straight to the bottom.
But there's one chart which putting Indonesian kids over the top: the proportion who report being happy in school.
http://indonesiaetc.com/indonesian-kids-dont-know-how-stupid-they-are/
Why Software Patents are Bad, Period.
Suppose you invent a flying car. You invent it all by yourself — literally. You did all the work. You invented every last piece and built the car yourself. You unveil it to the world, and everyone loves it. Then, lawyers come and take all your money and tell you you can’t sell flying cars anymore because it turns out someone had already filed a patent on a flying car a few years beforehand.
That’s the reality of patents.
https://caseymuratori.com/blog_0027
Suppose you invent a flying car. You invent it all by yourself — literally. You did all the work. You invented every last piece and built the car yourself. You unveil it to the world, and everyone loves it. Then, lawyers come and take all your money and tell you you can’t sell flying cars anymore because it turns out someone had already filed a patent on a flying car a few years beforehand.
That’s the reality of patents.
https://caseymuratori.com/blog_0027
Why Software Patents are Bad, Period.
An e-mail I wrote to a Stanford Law student a long time ago who asked me why programmers thought software patents were bad.