queer polyam anarchy 🖤❤️🌈
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(self-)education, memes and experiences about queer non-monogamous relationships and sex advice (CN)

smash patriarchy
smash cishet-normativity
smash amatonormativity

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"Amatonormativity is the assumption that the traditional view of a romantic relationship, a monogamous relationship where the parties live together and have children, is the highest form of satisfaction one can achieve in life, and that all people strive for this type of relationship. This way of thinking can be harmful to polyamorous people who might not have a single person that they dedicate everything to, and to a-spec people, who might not want a relationship like that, or may have a strong, meaningful relationship that is different to the typical amatonormative view of relationships.

This way of thinking is also one that places certain relationships above others, such as romantic relationships being viewed as being 'above' or 'superior' to platonic relationships. If two people are dating are 'more than friends'. If they aren't dating then they're 'just friends'. This view is also the reason that queerplatonic relationships are viewed as 'more than friendships but less than romance'. When in reality it's impossible to rank different relationships because it's all relative. Someone may love their friends or queerplatonic partner just as much as someone else may love their romantic partner."

taken from lgbta wiki
a tool for discussion on relationships
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CN sexual activities

having a sex-talk about preferences, boundaries and anything important to mention before engaging in a sexual activity with someone (new) can be really helpful -- but also really hard to start and to keep track off.
this list "yes no maybe" provides a variety of sex-related questions, including contraception, STIs, preference of pronouns and use of words that can be answered with "yes", "no" or "maybe".
let each partner fill out one of these, print them, save them, add a date when it was filled-out -- preferences and boundaries can change!
talk about the results, ask questions, be kind and always make sure to recieve consent. talk about safe-words and hard-limits.
check-in with your partner(s) from time to time, is the list still the same? did things change?
make sure everyone is comfortable and has given their explicit consent to activities. ask questions if you are unsure about something, stand up for your own boundaries.
end CN sexual activities