non-monogamous relationships also have the potential to become toxic or abusive
Forwarded from Anarchy, Love and Memes
CN abuse (details left out)
https://medium.com/@inesrolo/i-was-in-a-polyamorous-and-abusive-relationship-for-7-years-heres-what-i-learned-5d87d6f57acd
https://medium.com/@inesrolo/i-was-in-a-polyamorous-and-abusive-relationship-for-7-years-heres-what-i-learned-5d87d6f57acd
Medium
I Was in an Abusive Polyamorous Relationship for 7 Years
What I learned about how abuse happens in non-monogamy
"Love is abundant, and every relationship is unique
Relationship anarchy questions the idea that love is a limited resource that can only be real if restricted to a couple. You have capacity to love more than one person, and one relationship and the love felt for that person does not diminish love felt for another. Donβt rank and compare people and relationships β cherish the individual and your connection to them. One person in your life does not need to be named primary for the relationship to be real. Each relationship is independent, and a relationship between autonomous individuals. "
β extract: "The short instructional manifesto for relationship anarchy" by Andie Nordgren
read more here
Relationship anarchy questions the idea that love is a limited resource that can only be real if restricted to a couple. You have capacity to love more than one person, and one relationship and the love felt for that person does not diminish love felt for another. Donβt rank and compare people and relationships β cherish the individual and your connection to them. One person in your life does not need to be named primary for the relationship to be real. Each relationship is independent, and a relationship between autonomous individuals. "
β extract: "The short instructional manifesto for relationship anarchy" by Andie Nordgren
read more here
The Anarchist Library
The short instructional manifesto for relationship anarchy
Andie Nordgren The short instructional manifesto for relationship anarchy 2006
boundaries vs. rules within (non-monogamous) relationships
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=XhkVin01LaE
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=XhkVin01LaE
YouTube
Boundaries Not Rules
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What is the difference between setting a rule and having a personal boundary? Learn how to use boundariesβ¦
What is the difference between setting a rule and having a personal boundary? Learn how to use boundariesβ¦
"Amatonormativity is the assumption that the traditional view of a romantic relationship, a monogamous relationship where the parties live together and have children, is the highest form of satisfaction one can achieve in life, and that all people strive for this type of relationship. This way of thinking can be harmful to polyamorous people who might not have a single person that they dedicate everything to, and to a-spec people, who might not want a relationship like that, or may have a strong, meaningful relationship that is different to the typical amatonormative view of relationships.
This way of thinking is also one that places certain relationships above others, such as romantic relationships being viewed as being 'above' or 'superior' to platonic relationships. If two people are dating are 'more than friends'. If they aren't dating then they're 'just friends'. This view is also the reason that queerplatonic relationships are viewed as 'more than friendships but less than romance'. When in reality it's impossible to rank different relationships because it's all relative. Someone may love their friends or queerplatonic partner just as much as someone else may love their romantic partner."
taken from lgbta wiki
This way of thinking is also one that places certain relationships above others, such as romantic relationships being viewed as being 'above' or 'superior' to platonic relationships. If two people are dating are 'more than friends'. If they aren't dating then they're 'just friends'. This view is also the reason that queerplatonic relationships are viewed as 'more than friendships but less than romance'. When in reality it's impossible to rank different relationships because it's all relative. Someone may love their friends or queerplatonic partner just as much as someone else may love their romantic partner."
taken from lgbta wiki
queer polyam anarchy π€β€οΈπ
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what are queer-platonic relationships?