this is exactly why I think Lil Nas X is such a trailblazer in the music industry. It’s so refreshing to see people like him being confident in the expression of their sexuality.
Because when Harry styles was selling nail polish and getting praised and called original, a pioneer and etc (which they aren’t by the way), Lil Nas X was taking risks, taking the narrative into his own hands, unapologetically celebrating the sexuality of gay men, giving the devil a lap danse in his music video and making the average american church goer shit their pants.
This is part of the lyrics of “call me by your name (montero)”:
“I wanna feel on your ass in Hawaii
I want that jet lag from fuckin' and flyin'
Shoot a child in your mouth while I'm ridin'”
About this lyrics he said in an interview with genius(I paraphrased a bit for simplicity):
“When I said that (the lyrics) in the studio, everybody looked at me like 😦😦🤨🤨🤨
It was kind of a funny moment, … but it’s about time that I say something out of pocket in a song.
….let’s normalize having these fucking lines in songs; the same way somebody might talk about fucking a girl ot a guy (in a straight relationship).
I feel like that’s really important for representation in general and this is gonna open more doors.
One day when somebody says “oh that person said that” and not even think about it, you know?”
now THIS is what I call original not whatever the fuck Harry Styles and their team are up to.
for so long representation of gay men in media has been “tame” and censored so it could be easy on the eyes of the straight viewer and so they wouldn’t call gay men “gross” and call AIDS a gay disease.
It’s time to move forward.
People like Harry Styles hold us back. They paint a nonthreatening, unasuming image of queerness and choose pleasing straight audience over the queer people who helped build their carriers.
If the celebrity/brand can pick sides, the audience has the power to do that too.
There’s the issues of selling an exploitative and voyeruistic-almost pornographic-image of queer relationships and then there’s the issue of straightwashing queer relationships, keeping it “tender” (in the words of Styles themself). and it’s tricky to get all the nuances correctly and not become trapped in either of those when creating queer media. Harry Styles is clearly struggling at keeping his balance and walking that fine line (pun intended). I hope they grows from this.
#Q

من فکر کنم قبلا گفته بودم در زمینه‌ی جنسیت نداشتن لباس‌ها هم بیلی پورتر پیشگام بوده نسبت به هری استایلز ولی خب هم بلکه و هم کوییر. مردم از مرد وایت بیشتر خوششون میاد.

آنپاپیولار اپنین:
بیلی پورتر (با این‌که گریم و آرایش چشم‌هایش رو اکثرا دوست ندارم) و لیل ناز اکس‌ از هری استایلز بهتر جنسیت نداشتن لباس رو نشون می‌دن. 🚶🏻

There’s literally nothing Harry Styles has done in this regard that a black men before him hasn’t done already, many times better. Sorry not sorry.

I remember Billy Porter being pissed at the disproportionate praise Harry Styles was getting, and rightfully so. Then white people got pissed at Billy Porter for being pissed.
But I get where Porter is coming from.
تا حالا شده یه جکی رو بگید و هیچ واکنشی دریافت نکنید بعد یه نفر توی جمع بلندتر از شما همون جک رو بگه و همه بخندن؟
من داینامیک هری استایلز و مردای کوییر سیاه‌پوستی که پیش‌گام پوشش بدون جنسیت بودن رو همین‌شکلی می‌بینم.
صدای سفیدپوستا هم که از همه بلندتره.
خب معلومه ناراحت می‌شن وقتی کل زحمتشون می‌شه به نام یکی دیگه:/

من هرسری یادم میفته وقتی بیلی پورتر این موضوع رو مطرح کرد فن‌های هری جوری بهش حمله‌ور شدن که بنده‌ی خدا مجبور شد عذرخواهی کنه که دست از سرش بردارن یک دور از اول انگشت به دهان می‌مانم.

حالا یکی توی کامنت‌های این آرتیکلی که هری توش چرت و پرت گفته نوشته بود:

“harry is what straight women think gay men are.”

and it really made sense, i feel like he’s just gay to a point that makes straight people go “awe” and think of queerness as all butterflies and roses, and nothing “gross”, cause well, remember, gay sex bad, straight sex good. 🤨 like he appeals to the idea of being gay? idk if i’m making sense.

i think he’s kinda fuelling the whole phenomenon of straight women fetishising gay men.

یه بار گفتم مردم از کوییرا میخوان که به اندازه قابل تحمل کوییر باشن؟

Yup. This is it. Cishet people are like ok go ahead be queer but don’t be “too queer” and they are also the ones who get to define what is too queer and what is just the right amount of queer.

the whole “don’t shove it in my face” bs.

for some (most tbh) cishet “allies”, allyship ends where “love is love” ends and HS is appealing to them, if you know what i mean.

اگه دوروف توی آپدیت بعدی گزینه دی‌اکتیو کردن چنل نذاره گریه می‌کنم

یه عزیزی توی توییتر که نظرسنجی گذاشته بود که آیا به نظر شما افراد نان‌باینری ترنس هستند یا نه و احساس کردم موضوع خوبیه که اینجا خیلی کوتاه بهش بپردازم.

جواب کوتاه اینه که بله، تعریف کوتاه ترنس بودن اینه که هویت جنسیتی‌ انسان با جنسیتی که بدو تولد بهش نسبت داده شده (Assigned Gender At Birth) یکی نباشه*. امّا این جواب کوتاه لزوما درست نیست و اصلا موضوع چیزی نیست که بشه سرش حکم کلی داد، هرفرد نان‌باینری‌ با توجه به تجربه‌ی زیسته‌اش ممکنه خودش ترنس بدونه یا نه.

همچنین، به نظرم، افرادی که اصرار دارن افراد نان‌باینری نمی‌تونن ترنس باشن خیلی زیرپوستی تفکرات transmedicalist دارن و ترنس بودن رو در ترنزیشن می‌بینن، درحالی که افراد ترنس‌باینری‌ای وجود دارن که ترنزیشن نمی‌کنن و افراد نان‌باینری‌ای وجود دارن که ترنزیشن می‌کنن.

یه نکته‌ی دیگه هم اینه که بعضی‌ها فکر می‌کنند اگر افراد نان‌باینری خودشون رو ترنس بدونن جای افراد ترنس "واقعی" تنگ می‌شه. در این باره، توصیه می‌کنم این مطلب رو بخونید.

*به جز بعضی افراد نان‌باینری که خودشون رو هم‌زمان زن یا مرد *و* نان‌باینری می‌دونن.

این هم اینجا باشه حالا که حرفش شد.

this is such good advice, cause personally i feel like men liking themselves in a healthy, non-narcissistic way will improve the lives of non-men as well.

https://t.me/pieuler/11963
A solid half of my problems go back to men in my life dealing with self-hatred that poured into hatred of others territory and also since they hated themselves so much they were not receptive of love and ran away from it violently so honestly if they loved themselves I would’ve been much better off