Words of advice from Umar ibn Al-Khattāb رضي الله عنه ,to a man who was thinking of divorcing his wife...



Umar رضي الله عنه went to a man who was thinking of divorcing his wife:

"You men! When we marry, we give a serious promise to her. A woman gives birth to children and goes through hard times during her pregnancy. Then she suckles the baby and takes care all nights about her children, when they get sick or need anything.

She sacrifices her beauty and youth for being a mother. How fair is it, when her husband leaves her, when she is grown up?

If she would have never taken care of her home and family, instead taking care of her body and beauty, her husband would say: "What a bad mother she is." Where is integrity and loyalty? Fear Allah regarding your behaviour towards your wives."

[AI Bayan wa at Tabayeen 2/101 | Fara'id al Kalam Pg. 113]

Ahl al-Hadith Are the Saved Sect!

Shaykh Muḥammad Amān al-Jāmī رحمه الله said:

For this reason, Imām Ah‌mad - when he was asked about the saved group - said:

إِنْ لَمْ تَكُنْ الفِرْقَةُ النَّاجِيَةُ أَهْلَ الحَدِيثِ أَنَا لَا أَدْرِي مَنْ هُمْ

“If the saved group are not the Ahl al-H‌adīth, I do not know who they are.”

As the Ahl al-Ḥadīth are the people of Rusūlullāh ﷺ and his followers, they deserve this attribution as they are those who truly understood what he came with, and they acted by that, called to that, and they are patient upon adhering to the Sunnah, especially when tribulations spread, bidaʿ become common, and ahl al-bidaʿ are active and energetic, and the Ahl al-H‌adīth are oppressed, yet they cling to it and remain steadfast upon the Sunnah and acting by the Sunnah.

They are mocked; their clothes are mocked, their beards are mocked, their adherence is mocked, yet they persevere, and they say:

ِلَا يَضُّر السَّحَابَ نَبَحُ الكِلَاب

“The clouds are not harmed by the barking of dogs.”

So they walk on, and they do not care. These are the people of Allāh, the people of Rasūlullāh ﷺ.

Tr: Abū Hurayrah al-Birīṭānī

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Shaykh Sulayman ar-Ruhayli حفظه الله:

“Maintaining contact with the people is from the greatest and best of manners. At the head of this and the noblest of this is keeping contact with the parents.

This is for the person to keep contact with his parents through the various means of communication, as much as he is able.

Next in line is maintaining the ties of kinship with the relatives in accordance to their closeness with you. Next is maintaining contact with the scholars and your neighbours. The greatest for if contact is connect with those who cut you off.”

📖 Explanation of the concise advises of ibn Taymiyyah pg 95

عَنْ جَابِرِ بْنِ عَبْدِ اللَّهِ قَالَ قَالَ رَسُولُ اللَّهِ صَلَّى اللَّهُ عَلَيْهِ وَسَلَّمَ مَنْ كَانَ يُؤْمِنُ بِاللَّهِ وَالْيَوْمِ الْآخِرِ فَلَا يَخْلُوَنَّ بِامْرَأَةٍ لَيْسَ مَعَهَا ذُو مَحْرَمٍ مِنْهَا فَإِنَّ ثَالِثَهُمَا الشَّيْطَانُ

14651 مسند أحمد بن حنبل

180 المحدث الألباني خلاصة حكم المحدث صحيح في غاية المرام

Jabir ibn Abdullah reported: The Messenger of Allah, peace and blessings be upon him, said, “Whoever has faith in Allah and the Last Day, let him not be secluded with an unrelated woman without her guardian lest Satan be the third of them.”

Source: Musnad Aḥmad 14651

Grade: Sahih (authentic) according to Al-Albani

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It is narrated on the authority of Amirul Mu'minin, Abu Hafs 'Umar bin al-Khattab (ra) who said:
I heard the Messenger of Allah (ﷺ) say: "Actions are (judged) by motives (niyyah), so each man will have what he intended. Thus, he whose migration (hijrah) was to Allah and His Messenger, his migration is to Allah and His Messenger; but he whose migration was for some worldly thing he might gain, or for a wife he might marry, his migration is to that for which he migrated." [Bukhari & Muslim]

CONCERN: I have a 7 year old son who goes to a public school, but I’m looking to take him out due to the behaviour that he picks up from his non Muslim friends. He picks up swear words and inappropriate behaviour which really concerns me and my wife. We can't afford to enrol him at an Islamic school so we are currently looking at other options. Homeschooling seems a good option but my wife says it’s difficult for her because there are other children she has to look after (a 6 year old boy and 1 and half year old girl). What do you recommend?

ADVICES:

▪️I recommend you put your trust in Allah and help your wife as much as you can to initate homeschooling for your children and make du'a.

▪️Take action swiftly before things get worse. Your son could pick up even more bad habits, like swearing on other than Allāh and so many other evil ideologies in school.

▪️Yes, you and your wife will have less free time, but that's a small sacrifice in comparison to saving your child's Deen.

▪️Both husband and wife can assess their strengths and each can be responsible for teaching whatever they're good at. For example: wife may be stronger in literacy and language so she can take on that side of things whereas husband may be stronger in scientific knowledge or numeracy and he can take on that side of things. And just dedicate a small portion consistently each day to that subject. So long as the child is learning you're fulfilling your duty. Short but consistent lessons can lead to mountains of knowledge bi'idhnillah.

▪️Send your wife the sisters homeschooling group link so she can get advice, tips and encouragement from other sisters who are already homeschooling their kids. Sister's group:
https://t.me/Sistershomeschooling

▪️There are some good homeschooling support systems by way of co-operatives whereby mums get together and teach the children as a group. They rotate in the organising of lessons, work, resources etc. so the workload is shared.

▪️It's not as hard as you may think. Don't over complicate what home-schooling/home-educating has to look like. So many mums couldn’t see themselves homeschooling and by the grace of Allah they now are.

▪️Play lots, read lots, talk to them lots. Kids that age are like sponges and pick up so much just by these 3 things.

▪️There are also some great free online resources where qualified teachers give lessons and set work. This is great for parents who aren’t confident with teaching.

May Allah make things easy and protect our children.

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Abu Hurairah (May Allah be pleased with him) reported:
The Messenger of Allah (ﷺ) said, "The five (daily) Salat (prayers) and the Friday (prayer) to the Friday (prayer) expiate whatever (minor sins) may be committed in between, so long as major sins are avoided."[Muslim].

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The Horrors of the grave

بســـم اللــه الرحــمــن الـرحـــيــم

🌴 *Benefit from a Dream Interpretation on High Aspirations, Goals, Zeal, Burnout, and Steadfastness for Students of Knowledge* 🌴

This is the translation of a dream in English after it was asked and the Shaykh interpreted it in Arabic. I found the Shaykh’s advice beneficial for myself, and I’m sharing it in hopes that it will be of benefit to others as well, بإذن الله تعالى.

✉️ *Brother:*
Basically, I had this dream 5–6 years ago and I *saw one of the maraakiz of Yemen, al-Hami.* And I was sitting out on the ground and I had *a very big notebook and I was writing in it Tafseer of the Qur’aan.* I passed half-way, I was probably 3 quarters into the tafseer.

🎙️ *Ustaadh Abu Fajr’s Translation of the Dream حفظه الله:*

So the dream interpreter says:
> *Sitting in the company of the righteous raises the ambitions.*

🔍 What’s apparent is that:
It comes to you at times *high aspirations*, and then you are taken by a state of fatigue where you would lose the zeal. And this is what happens *every time you push to something with the zeal, you end up losing and burning out.*

So he says, upon you is:

▪️to make du‘ā,
▪️to accompany the *mujtahideen* (people who are hardworking),
▪️and to create al-hadaf like a goal, a plan.

And he mentions that:
> *The person that makes al-hadaf (goal/plan) produces.*

So he said, for example, give yourself a goal:

• to memorize the Qur’an,
• or to memorize the books of ḥadeeth: Riyaadh As-Saliheen, Buloogh Al-Maraam — the likes of these beneficial works, of these mutoon (texts).

And he also mentions that:
> *If you remain without a goal seeking knowledge, you would come out with a little attainment.*
Ya‘ani, your situation will be like someone who just attends a lecture to lecture. He says not to degrade listening to the lectures, but in terms of *students of knowledge he is trying to obtain a goal. So he plans something else,*
> *but if he doesn’t have al-hadaf (a plan) then his haseela (attainment) will be da'eefa, little.*

For example, you want to attain a goal or a particular science.
So you’re going to:
• take with a teacher and
• you’re going to review it after completing it, and
• then move onto another book until you have perfected it or perfected some of it.

And then the second year, the same thing, a new science, and he perfects.

And he also says:
▪️ to give time for acts of Ibaadah (worship), voluntary and supererogatory acts.
> *For verily a person reduces that [acts of Ibaadah], his fruits will be little.*
So it is upon the person to do supererogatory acts, Ibaadah, du‘ā.
> *It’ll aid him in acting upon his knowledge and it will show, bring out, in front of Allāh his truthfulness. And Allāh سبحانه وتعالى opens doors for you.*

And he says that:
🔍 *The symbol of the notebook* is *losing zeal and burning out.*
Ya‘ani, *every time you push forward in your aspirations, you end up losing the zeal.* And he says in particular when this happens you end up traveling.

▪️ *So it is upon you to return back to what you were up on, and being steadfast and firm and confident and continue upon on that. And you’ll see the khayr.*

End of the Dream Interpretation, ولله الحمد.
جزاهم الله خيرا
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🗒️ Summary and Action Points are highlighted at the end for those who want the practical takeaways, إن شاء الله.

🗓️ 28 Safar 1447H | 22 August 2025
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📁 *Additional Resource*

📼 *Practical Guide to Seeking Knowledge*

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🎙️ *Taught by:* Ustaadh Faisal Abu Sulaymaan حفظه الله

I felt this resource complements the Shaykh’s advice, as Ustaadh Faisal Abu Sulaymaan حفظه الله discusses:

▪️The principles and manners of students of knowledge

▪️The methodology a student of knowledge should have

▪️The curriculum to follow

▪️Pitfalls and mistakes

▪️3 levels of studying the deen

▪️Types of Islamic sciences

▪️Ways and levels of studying sciences and books