First things first - everyone has needs!
Having needs does not make you needy. It makes you a person 😃
In fact, we tend to get needy when our needs are not met.
Kind of like when you're really hungry, all you can think about is food, when our emotional and spiritual needs are not being met, we tend to become preoccupied with them.
*** When I say spiritual, I don't mean religious. Your spiritual needs are the things that make YOU feel alive and like life is meaningful and worth living.
Having needs does not make you needy. It makes you a person 😃
In fact, we tend to get needy when our needs are not met.
Kind of like when you're really hungry, all you can think about is food, when our emotional and spiritual needs are not being met, we tend to become preoccupied with them.
*** When I say spiritual, I don't mean religious. Your spiritual needs are the things that make YOU feel alive and like life is meaningful and worth living.
There is a huge variety of human needs, so I won't list them all here. A quick Google search will bring up more than enough examples 😃
But all that variety can be whittled down to 6 basic human needs.
✅ Certainty
🤹♀️ Uncertainty/Variety
💞 Love & Connection
🌱 Growth
🌟 Significance
🎁 Contribution
But all that variety can be whittled down to 6 basic human needs.
✅ Certainty
🤹♀️ Uncertainty/Variety
💞 Love & Connection
🌱 Growth
🌟 Significance
🎁 Contribution
✅ Certainty – The need for security, comfort, and stability. We seek predictability to feel safe and avoid pain.
🤹♀️ Uncertainty/Variety – The need for change, novelty, and excitement. Too much certainty can lead to boredom, so we seek out new experiences.
🌟 Significance – The need to feel important, unique, or special. We often fulfill this through achievement, recognition, and sometimes even creating problems to stand out.
Significance is also the need to feel that life has meaning - that the Universe is not just empty and pointless. We may meet this aspect of this need through religion, spirituality, art or a sense of purpose.
💞 Love & Connection – The need for deep relationships, belonging, and emotional bonds. Most people seek this through intimacy, friendships, or community.
🌱 Growth – The need to develop, expand, and improve oneself. If we aren’t growing, we often feel stagnant or unfulfilled.
🎁 Contribution – The need to give beyond oneself, to positively impact the lives of others and to make a difference in the world. We often meet this need through helping, teaching, giving to others or through volunteering, activism or charity work.
🤹♀️ Uncertainty/Variety – The need for change, novelty, and excitement. Too much certainty can lead to boredom, so we seek out new experiences.
🌟 Significance – The need to feel important, unique, or special. We often fulfill this through achievement, recognition, and sometimes even creating problems to stand out.
Significance is also the need to feel that life has meaning - that the Universe is not just empty and pointless. We may meet this aspect of this need through religion, spirituality, art or a sense of purpose.
💞 Love & Connection – The need for deep relationships, belonging, and emotional bonds. Most people seek this through intimacy, friendships, or community.
🌱 Growth – The need to develop, expand, and improve oneself. If we aren’t growing, we often feel stagnant or unfulfilled.
🎁 Contribution – The need to give beyond oneself, to positively impact the lives of others and to make a difference in the world. We often meet this need through helping, teaching, giving to others or through volunteering, activism or charity work.
Everyone has these 6 basic needs. We may prioritize them differently based on our personality, upbringing or life circumstances. But these needs are the main drivers of human behavior.
So, now that you know the 6 basic needs, I have a fun little self-awareness exercise for you 😁
1. Reflect on each of these needs and how they show up in your life. Which ones drive you the most? Which ones feel less essential? Then, rank them from most to least important.
This will help you get an idea of what is more and less important to you as a person - and where most of your energy and attention tends to go.
1. Reflect on each of these needs and how they show up in your life. Which ones drive you the most? Which ones feel less essential? Then, rank them from most to least important.
This will help you get an idea of what is more and less important to you as a person - and where most of your energy and attention tends to go.
Once you've done that, consider these questions:
What did you discover about yourself through this exercise?
How easy or challenging was it for you to rank your needs and why?
Did anything stand out to you?
Did anything surprise you?
Were you not surprised at all?
If you really want to go deeper, you can try moving through your day by noticing which needs are motivating your thoughts and actions. This will help you train your self-attunement muscle. 💪
Enjoy this exercise and have a great weekend, guys 💛
Love,
Noemi
What did you discover about yourself through this exercise?
How easy or challenging was it for you to rank your needs and why?
Did anything stand out to you?
Did anything surprise you?
Were you not surprised at all?
If you really want to go deeper, you can try moving through your day by noticing which needs are motivating your thoughts and actions. This will help you train your self-attunement muscle. 💪
Enjoy this exercise and have a great weekend, guys 💛
Love,
Noemi
Coaching is a conversation that evokes transformation. Its purpose is to help you get more of what you want and less of what you don’t want in your life and relationships. Its core elements are learning, change and growth.
As a process, coaching is active and co-creative. It's key premise is that you know in your heart what you truly need to feel whole, alive and fulfilled - even if that knowing is obscured by fear, self-doubt or challenging circumstances.
As your coach, my role in the dialogue is to cut through the noise of fear, doubt and disempowerment and guide you back to your inherent power, resourcefulness and creativity.
Where useful, I may offer relevant knowledge, tools and skills to help you take aligned action. But you are the one who decides what to do at the end of the day.
Just remember that coaching is not consulting or talk therapy. It is not about processing the past, providing all the answers or solving problems on your behalf. It’s about creating space for deep exploration and discovery and finding the courage to transform.
My goal is to help you build self-trust and become the version of you who is capable of learning, growing, expanding, succeeding and moving through challenges with deep inner confidence.
Coaching is for you if you are ready and willing to take responsibility for yourself and make a meaningful change in your life or relationships with guidance, support and accountability as you become a version of yourself you have not yet been.
Hi, I'm Noemi. My coaching focuses on self-development and conscious relationships. I want to contribute to a world where people feel safe and free to be who they truly are, follow the path that lights them up and have beautiful, life-giving relationships.
And I want those relationships to be a place of deepening, vitality, growth and joy for us - not suffering and self-abandonment.
My work is based on a certification in Integrated Attachment Theory, ongoing study and training in coaching and healing modalities, my own experience navigating this path and 1:1 work with clients.
If this resonates with you, reach out.
Sessions are conducted online via Google Meet and cost 12000 AMD.
As a process, coaching is active and co-creative. It's key premise is that you know in your heart what you truly need to feel whole, alive and fulfilled - even if that knowing is obscured by fear, self-doubt or challenging circumstances.
As your coach, my role in the dialogue is to cut through the noise of fear, doubt and disempowerment and guide you back to your inherent power, resourcefulness and creativity.
Where useful, I may offer relevant knowledge, tools and skills to help you take aligned action. But you are the one who decides what to do at the end of the day.
Just remember that coaching is not consulting or talk therapy. It is not about processing the past, providing all the answers or solving problems on your behalf. It’s about creating space for deep exploration and discovery and finding the courage to transform.
My goal is to help you build self-trust and become the version of you who is capable of learning, growing, expanding, succeeding and moving through challenges with deep inner confidence.
Coaching is for you if you are ready and willing to take responsibility for yourself and make a meaningful change in your life or relationships with guidance, support and accountability as you become a version of yourself you have not yet been.
Hi, I'm Noemi. My coaching focuses on self-development and conscious relationships. I want to contribute to a world where people feel safe and free to be who they truly are, follow the path that lights them up and have beautiful, life-giving relationships.
And I want those relationships to be a place of deepening, vitality, growth and joy for us - not suffering and self-abandonment.
My work is based on a certification in Integrated Attachment Theory, ongoing study and training in coaching and healing modalities, my own experience navigating this path and 1:1 work with clients.
If this resonates with you, reach out.
Sessions are conducted online via Google Meet and cost 12000 AMD.
If you're looking to go all in on your transformation, this one-on-one coaching packing may be for you.
☀️Release old patterns
☀️Learn new skills
☀️Deepen relationships
These sessions will help you build the confidence and self-trust you need to show up in the world as your most authentic self and follow the path that lights you up.
Whether you want to focus on yourself or love and relationships, you'll be met with curiosity, compassion and guidance on your path.
My work is based on a certification in Integrated Attachment Theory, ongoing study and training in coaching and healing modalities, my own experience navigating this path and 1:1 work with clients.
✅ This coaching package includes 4 weekly online sessions per month, paid monthly, subscription style.
✅ The price is 45 000 AMD for those who are based in Armenia and $220 USD for those who are based abroad.
✅ The coaching calls are conducted via Google Meet.
✍️ If this sounds like what you are looking for, send me a message to learn more.
☀️Release old patterns
☀️Learn new skills
☀️Deepen relationships
These sessions will help you build the confidence and self-trust you need to show up in the world as your most authentic self and follow the path that lights you up.
Whether you want to focus on yourself or love and relationships, you'll be met with curiosity, compassion and guidance on your path.
My work is based on a certification in Integrated Attachment Theory, ongoing study and training in coaching and healing modalities, my own experience navigating this path and 1:1 work with clients.
✅ This coaching package includes 4 weekly online sessions per month, paid monthly, subscription style.
✅ The price is 45 000 AMD for those who are based in Armenia and $220 USD for those who are based abroad.
✅ The coaching calls are conducted via Google Meet.
✍️ If this sounds like what you are looking for, send me a message to learn more.
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Curious to learn more? Check out my page for more information about my work.
Or if you're ready to get started, send me a message to book a coaching session.
☀️ What my clients are saying:
"The coaching session with Noemi was really helpful, as she created a peaceful and friendly atmosphere where I could easily express my thoughts and articulate my emotions. Noemi's comments and advice were also super helpful. I absolutely recommend Noemi's sessions to anyone who wants to start a difficult but deeply rewarding journey to oneself.” Elena
“I worked with Noemi for more than 4 months and can confidently recommend her as a mentor in the journey of self-love and care. She is professional and highly educated in her areas of expertise. Noemi helped me understand myself, identify my core wounds and beliefs, and clarify my values. She provided step-by-step guidance, helping me delve into the layers of my problems to find solutions. In my sessions with Noemi, there was no place for judgment, forcing opinions, or misleading situations. I am very thankful to Noemi for the emotional place I am currently in.” Mery
“Noemi skillfully holds space for every participant, creating an environment where everyone feels fully seen and heard.” Gohar
Reach out to see if we're a good fit to work together.
Or if you're ready to get started, send me a message to book a coaching session.
☀️ What my clients are saying:
"The coaching session with Noemi was really helpful, as she created a peaceful and friendly atmosphere where I could easily express my thoughts and articulate my emotions. Noemi's comments and advice were also super helpful. I absolutely recommend Noemi's sessions to anyone who wants to start a difficult but deeply rewarding journey to oneself.” Elena
“I worked with Noemi for more than 4 months and can confidently recommend her as a mentor in the journey of self-love and care. She is professional and highly educated in her areas of expertise. Noemi helped me understand myself, identify my core wounds and beliefs, and clarify my values. She provided step-by-step guidance, helping me delve into the layers of my problems to find solutions. In my sessions with Noemi, there was no place for judgment, forcing opinions, or misleading situations. I am very thankful to Noemi for the emotional place I am currently in.” Mery
“Noemi skillfully holds space for every participant, creating an environment where everyone feels fully seen and heard.” Gohar
Reach out to see if we're a good fit to work together.
❤1
Hi there.
While I was working on a post today, I started thinking about the human 'shadow' and how it's often misrepresented in pop psychology.
We tend to think of our 'shadow' as the negative parts of our personality - things we don't like about ourselves and want to hide from the world.
And while that's not not-true, it doesn't paint the full picture.
Our shadow contains the parts of us that are also hidden from ourselves. The parts we are not aware of (but that other people can see - yikes 😬). It also hold the parts of us that we had rejected and essentially kicked out of our conscious awareness at an early age because they were not welcome in our environment. It didn't feel safe enough to fully express them, so we cast them aside.
In that way, our shadow is our big, uncomfortable blind spot.
Now, these can be our negative traits but also our extremely positive traits (often knowns as our golden shadow). And that's where things get interesting.
In my contemplations, I decided to record this super casual video where I go a bit deeper into this topic and share an exercise I love to do with my coaching clients to help them tap into their golden shadow.
Check it out if you'd like to learn more. 😊
While I was working on a post today, I started thinking about the human 'shadow' and how it's often misrepresented in pop psychology.
We tend to think of our 'shadow' as the negative parts of our personality - things we don't like about ourselves and want to hide from the world.
And while that's not not-true, it doesn't paint the full picture.
Our shadow contains the parts of us that are also hidden from ourselves. The parts we are not aware of (but that other people can see - yikes 😬). It also hold the parts of us that we had rejected and essentially kicked out of our conscious awareness at an early age because they were not welcome in our environment. It didn't feel safe enough to fully express them, so we cast them aside.
In that way, our shadow is our big, uncomfortable blind spot.
Now, these can be our negative traits but also our extremely positive traits (often knowns as our golden shadow). And that's where things get interesting.
In my contemplations, I decided to record this super casual video where I go a bit deeper into this topic and share an exercise I love to do with my coaching clients to help them tap into their golden shadow.
Check it out if you'd like to learn more. 😊
❤4
✨ What is coaching?
Coaching is a conversation that evokes transformation. Its purpose is to help you get more of what you want and less of what you don’t want in your life and relationships. Its core elements are learning, change and growth.
Coaching is for you if you are ready and willing to take responsibility for yourself and make a meaningful change in your life or relationships with guidance, support and accountability as you become a version of yourself you have not yet been.
✨ Important
Coaching is NOT therapy, and I am NOT a licensed therapist. If you are seeking therapy, please seek out a qualified mental health professional.
✨ About this one-time session
This private session is conducted online via Google Mert and costs 12000 AMD if you are based in Armenia.
Language: English or Bilingual (English + Armenian/English + Russian)
Open to adults who value personal growth and relationships regardless of gender, sexual orientation or current relationship status.
✨ Meet your coach
Hi, I'm Noemi. My coaching focuses on self-development and conscious relationships. I support people in finding and shifting the relationship patterns that keep them from the love and connection they really want.
I want to contribute to a world where people feel safe and free to be who they truly are, follow the path that lights them up and have beautiful, life-giving relationships.
And I want those relationships to be a place of deepening, vitality, growth and joy for us - not suffering and self-abandonment.
As your coach, my role in our dialogue is to cut through the noise of fear, doubt and disempowerment and guide you back to your inherent power, resourcefulness and creativity.
My goal is to help you build self-trust and become the version of you who is capable of learning, growing, expanding, succeeding and moving through challenges in love and relationships with deep inner confidence.
My work is based on a certification in Integrated Attachment Theory, ongoing study and training in coaching and healing modalities, my own experience navigating this path and 1:1 work with clients.
✉️ If this resonates with you, send me a message to book your session.
Coaching is a conversation that evokes transformation. Its purpose is to help you get more of what you want and less of what you don’t want in your life and relationships. Its core elements are learning, change and growth.
Coaching is for you if you are ready and willing to take responsibility for yourself and make a meaningful change in your life or relationships with guidance, support and accountability as you become a version of yourself you have not yet been.
✨ Important
Coaching is NOT therapy, and I am NOT a licensed therapist. If you are seeking therapy, please seek out a qualified mental health professional.
✨ About this one-time session
This private session is conducted online via Google Mert and costs 12000 AMD if you are based in Armenia.
Language: English or Bilingual (English + Armenian/English + Russian)
Open to adults who value personal growth and relationships regardless of gender, sexual orientation or current relationship status.
✨ Meet your coach
Hi, I'm Noemi. My coaching focuses on self-development and conscious relationships. I support people in finding and shifting the relationship patterns that keep them from the love and connection they really want.
I want to contribute to a world where people feel safe and free to be who they truly are, follow the path that lights them up and have beautiful, life-giving relationships.
And I want those relationships to be a place of deepening, vitality, growth and joy for us - not suffering and self-abandonment.
As your coach, my role in our dialogue is to cut through the noise of fear, doubt and disempowerment and guide you back to your inherent power, resourcefulness and creativity.
My goal is to help you build self-trust and become the version of you who is capable of learning, growing, expanding, succeeding and moving through challenges in love and relationships with deep inner confidence.
My work is based on a certification in Integrated Attachment Theory, ongoing study and training in coaching and healing modalities, my own experience navigating this path and 1:1 work with clients.
✉️ If this resonates with you, send me a message to book your session.