In December 2025 I hosted my first mini retreat for women.
The theme was: “Letting go”.
Who are you outside the people you meet with on a daily basis? Outside social roles, labels, opinions, and circumstances?
This retreat helped me see something clearly and cleanly. I’m not built for everyone and I should stop attempting to build my business for everyone.
I’m built for:
private, intimate, deep, high-trust, high-standard, and emotionally present work.
Not because it’s “better,” but because it’s true.
I’m not doing the “secret sauce / 20 years packaged into a course” thing.
My mastery is visible in how I live my every day. It’s in how I move, speak, parent, practice, and build my day
That’s why my work lands differently. People don’t come for “tips.” They come for a shift. And come for truth.
I’ve been building my method for 10 years. I started in 2015. The next chapter for me isn’t “more knowledge.” It’s deeper integration.
I’m ready for people who desire to learn by living the method, who welcome identity-level change, truth-telling, emotional precision, and intimacy (including in English).
And these people are ready for me.
The language mastery that I teach is identity work.
“You can speak English… but can you express your truth in English?”
If you are not there yet, your practice must be around mastering emotional presence in a foreign language, embodying vulnerability and clarity, learning intimacy, defining your values and setting boundaries. This requires knowing who you are and who you’re not. This level will demand that you learn to speak as a woman, a mother, a lover, a human — not a “professional English speaker”
My work isn’t for the masses because not everyone wants truth.
Some people want comfort, stories that keep them in pain, or performative progress.
My clients want mastery, excellence, depth, and most importantly— change.
My work, my events and my coaching is for the people who actually want to meet themselves.
If you’re interested in 1:1 work, I’m inviting you to start a conversation in DMs.
If you’re not sure what format could work for you, let’s start with a diagnostic call. It’s honest, confidential, and you’ll know how to apply the results to real life.
The theme was: “Letting go”.
Who are you outside the people you meet with on a daily basis? Outside social roles, labels, opinions, and circumstances?
This retreat helped me see something clearly and cleanly. I’m not built for everyone and I should stop attempting to build my business for everyone.
I’m built for:
private, intimate, deep, high-trust, high-standard, and emotionally present work.
Not because it’s “better,” but because it’s true.
I’m not doing the “secret sauce / 20 years packaged into a course” thing.
My mastery is visible in how I live my every day. It’s in how I move, speak, parent, practice, and build my day
That’s why my work lands differently. People don’t come for “tips.” They come for a shift. And come for truth.
I’ve been building my method for 10 years. I started in 2015. The next chapter for me isn’t “more knowledge.” It’s deeper integration.
I’m ready for people who desire to learn by living the method, who welcome identity-level change, truth-telling, emotional precision, and intimacy (including in English).
And these people are ready for me.
The language mastery that I teach is identity work.
“You can speak English… but can you express your truth in English?”
If you are not there yet, your practice must be around mastering emotional presence in a foreign language, embodying vulnerability and clarity, learning intimacy, defining your values and setting boundaries. This requires knowing who you are and who you’re not. This level will demand that you learn to speak as a woman, a mother, a lover, a human — not a “professional English speaker”
My work isn’t for the masses because not everyone wants truth.
Some people want comfort, stories that keep them in pain, or performative progress.
My clients want mastery, excellence, depth, and most importantly— change.
My work, my events and my coaching is for the people who actually want to meet themselves.
If you’re interested in 1:1 work, I’m inviting you to start a conversation in DMs.
If you’re not sure what format could work for you, let’s start with a diagnostic call. It’s honest, confidential, and you’ll know how to apply the results to real life.
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And there’s something else this retreat revealed.
Something you need to know about me.
I’m not the fucking expert.
I don’t have a good website. I’m working on it.
I don’t want to serve everyone.
I’m still learning. I don’t know everything. And yes, I don’t like the traditional approach to learning foreign languages.
In the professional circles, I’m the crazy one.
I am a woman who navigates life with the curiosity of a child.
I talk about changing patterns, and I myself am guilty of not changing them fast enough.
Every week I meet with my coach, bring the old patterns to the meeting….and hear them talk. I hate those conversations:) They beg me to stay 😁
In this season of life I am a stay-at-home mom.
I’m not a YouTube star. I don’t have time for posting carefully edited content.
I love everything real. So I show up as I am today - real. It’s not how I want to be forever. I’m going toward better, fuller, more expressed, more alive, but today it is what it is.
I’m an incredible teacher. This I know.
But I don’t necessarily match the criteria of what this should look like.
I think I’m becoming a great chef. I love cooking.
I live in a village and enjoy long walks far from the city noise.
I work from home because this is how I like it.
I am a mother who can bite.
I’m idealistic.
I am village girl.
I say the “f” word.
I don’t invest much in my social media even though I know I should.
I need an assistant to get more things done. I know this.
I take care of the most important: people. This includes myself, my son, and my people. If I work with you, you have my attention, my faith, my energy and my focus.
And everything else gets moved to the back burner.
If you’re looking for a teacher who will teach you correct English, that’s not me. It’s just not interesting for me anymore.
What’s interesting is expansion, identity work, more opportunities worldwide, more abundance, and truth.
I can’t and won’t define myself as an expert in anything. I love exploring the idea of becoming.
What else am I meant to become? What else can I learn? What other gifts do I have that I haven’t tapped into yet?
And if I’m not for you, that’s okay.
Oh and btw, I forgot to mention that I believe in the healing power of consciousness and I practice trance healing.
If this is too “woo woo” for you, that’s okay😁
And if you feel that we might get along, DM me because I love working with crazy, ambitious and even delusional people who know what they know and don’t settle for “what’s on the menu”. They choose what’s truly theirs, not what’s available.
Something you need to know about me.
I’m not the fucking expert.
I don’t have a good website. I’m working on it.
I don’t want to serve everyone.
I’m still learning. I don’t know everything. And yes, I don’t like the traditional approach to learning foreign languages.
In the professional circles, I’m the crazy one.
I am a woman who navigates life with the curiosity of a child.
I talk about changing patterns, and I myself am guilty of not changing them fast enough.
Every week I meet with my coach, bring the old patterns to the meeting….and hear them talk. I hate those conversations:) They beg me to stay 😁
In this season of life I am a stay-at-home mom.
I’m not a YouTube star. I don’t have time for posting carefully edited content.
I love everything real. So I show up as I am today - real. It’s not how I want to be forever. I’m going toward better, fuller, more expressed, more alive, but today it is what it is.
I’m an incredible teacher. This I know.
But I don’t necessarily match the criteria of what this should look like.
I think I’m becoming a great chef. I love cooking.
I live in a village and enjoy long walks far from the city noise.
I work from home because this is how I like it.
I am a mother who can bite.
I’m idealistic.
I am village girl.
I say the “f” word.
I don’t invest much in my social media even though I know I should.
I need an assistant to get more things done. I know this.
I take care of the most important: people. This includes myself, my son, and my people. If I work with you, you have my attention, my faith, my energy and my focus.
And everything else gets moved to the back burner.
If you’re looking for a teacher who will teach you correct English, that’s not me. It’s just not interesting for me anymore.
What’s interesting is expansion, identity work, more opportunities worldwide, more abundance, and truth.
I can’t and won’t define myself as an expert in anything. I love exploring the idea of becoming.
What else am I meant to become? What else can I learn? What other gifts do I have that I haven’t tapped into yet?
And if I’m not for you, that’s okay.
Oh and btw, I forgot to mention that I believe in the healing power of consciousness and I practice trance healing.
If this is too “woo woo” for you, that’s okay😁
And if you feel that we might get along, DM me because I love working with crazy, ambitious and even delusional people who know what they know and don’t settle for “what’s on the menu”. They choose what’s truly theirs, not what’s available.
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I work with people who ask for MORE.
They don't want more English. They want more influence, more authenticity, more real conversations, and more meaningful connections. Also, more opportunities.
I believe that our success in the world depends on the number of meaningful connections we can create, maintain, and nurture. Hiding in isolation, posting flawless scripts in English provided by ChatGPT and waiting for approval from digital strangers may be a solid strategy to create an online persona who speaks and thinks in English. But real-world demands are different.
Isolation that is required to create dead perfection is not helping us to create meaningful connections. And if it does, none of those connections can become relationships. Simply because we lack the skills to nurture and sustain connections. If we're preoccupied with our self-image ("is my English good enough?", "Look how great my English is"), we don't develop the capacity to hold space for another or to take in someone else's perspective.
My clients know this.
And yet, somewhere and somehow they learned that:
• asking for MORE makes them difficult
• needing more makes them needy
• expecting more makes them demanding
And instead of raising their standards for themselves, they learned to lower their voice.
("I speak good English, and that's kind of enough. I should be grateful!")
Every time they reject their own desire for MORE, they chip away at their self-trust.
The pattern is not about other people who say "You know enough" or "Why do you even bother learning more?" or "Can you stop investing in meaningless things?". The real pattern is you shrinking and cutting yourself off every time your desire speaks to you.
What do you really apologize for every time you say "I'm sorry, my English is not good enough"?
And what if you CAN honor your standards without apology. What if you CAN tolerate disappointment (because you will feel disappointed as you learn and will disappoint others who don't share your values) without collapsing?
What if you CAN speak your truth without simplifying it for anyone and without softening your message because "your English is not good enough yet"?
The truth is: people who want MORE shame their own desire for MORE. This is what keeps them stuck. They know everything about their patterns, but they circle around the truth, stuck in the INaction.
They explain one more time, "I'm sorry, I told you, my English is not good"
They stay one conversation too long, hoping that they will be able to explain, convince, understand or finally find the right words.
People who want you to want less? Let them.
You can respond by judjing yourself less. You can stop shaming your desire. Instead, you can trust it.
Because what you want exists.
If you want to lead yourself through your desire for more without negotiating your standards, you're not alone.
I'm inviting you into a room where excellence is normal, and the desire to create more real, authentic connections in English worldwide is welcomed. You need new skills to navigate the new worlds that you want to enter. And this is the work I do.
I bring a system, a method, and 20 years of teaching practice.
The people you want to connect with, the people you want to listen to your ideas, desires, and suggestions to improve the team, the process, or the world, do not respond to textbook English or carefully rehearsed monologues. They respond to TRUTH.
With me, you will be learning to express your truth in English. With clarity and precision. Authentically, as you.
Start with a paid diagnostic call ($300).
Pay in USD
Pay in RUB
I will show you your patterns and give practical recommendations to move forward.
The price of the call ($300) will be credited toward any private container if you choose to continue the work.
P.S. If you're new here and you're not sure you want a call with me, send me a voice message in a DM (@nataliatokar). I will respond and help you decide what you need.
They don't want more English. They want more influence, more authenticity, more real conversations, and more meaningful connections. Also, more opportunities.
I believe that our success in the world depends on the number of meaningful connections we can create, maintain, and nurture. Hiding in isolation, posting flawless scripts in English provided by ChatGPT and waiting for approval from digital strangers may be a solid strategy to create an online persona who speaks and thinks in English. But real-world demands are different.
Isolation that is required to create dead perfection is not helping us to create meaningful connections. And if it does, none of those connections can become relationships. Simply because we lack the skills to nurture and sustain connections. If we're preoccupied with our self-image ("is my English good enough?", "Look how great my English is"), we don't develop the capacity to hold space for another or to take in someone else's perspective.
My clients know this.
And yet, somewhere and somehow they learned that:
• asking for MORE makes them difficult
• needing more makes them needy
• expecting more makes them demanding
And instead of raising their standards for themselves, they learned to lower their voice.
("I speak good English, and that's kind of enough. I should be grateful!")
Every time they reject their own desire for MORE, they chip away at their self-trust.
The pattern is not about other people who say "You know enough" or "Why do you even bother learning more?" or "Can you stop investing in meaningless things?". The real pattern is you shrinking and cutting yourself off every time your desire speaks to you.
What do you really apologize for every time you say "I'm sorry, my English is not good enough"?
And what if you CAN honor your standards without apology. What if you CAN tolerate disappointment (because you will feel disappointed as you learn and will disappoint others who don't share your values) without collapsing?
What if you CAN speak your truth without simplifying it for anyone and without softening your message because "your English is not good enough yet"?
The truth is: people who want MORE shame their own desire for MORE. This is what keeps them stuck. They know everything about their patterns, but they circle around the truth, stuck in the INaction.
They explain one more time, "I'm sorry, I told you, my English is not good"
They stay one conversation too long, hoping that they will be able to explain, convince, understand or finally find the right words.
People who want you to want less? Let them.
You can respond by judjing yourself less. You can stop shaming your desire. Instead, you can trust it.
Because what you want exists.
If you want to lead yourself through your desire for more without negotiating your standards, you're not alone.
I'm inviting you into a room where excellence is normal, and the desire to create more real, authentic connections in English worldwide is welcomed. You need new skills to navigate the new worlds that you want to enter. And this is the work I do.
I bring a system, a method, and 20 years of teaching practice.
The people you want to connect with, the people you want to listen to your ideas, desires, and suggestions to improve the team, the process, or the world, do not respond to textbook English or carefully rehearsed monologues. They respond to TRUTH.
With me, you will be learning to express your truth in English. With clarity and precision. Authentically, as you.
Start with a paid diagnostic call ($300).
Pay in USD
Pay in RUB
I will show you your patterns and give practical recommendations to move forward.
The price of the call ($300) will be credited toward any private container if you choose to continue the work.
P.S. If you're new here and you're not sure you want a call with me, send me a voice message in a DM (@nataliatokar). I will respond and help you decide what you need.
What feels harder: speaking fast or speaking honestly in a foreign language (in my case it’s English?)
I know a lot of people who think that being fluent means speaking fast. I used to be there too. I’m a fast talker in my first language. So, I thought that increasing the pace would signal that I didn’t hesitate to speak, I.e. I was fluent. But as I speeded up, everything I said flattened. There was no music, no Melody, no rhythm any more.
And honesty, authenticity was lost too.
Slowing down develops your capacity to assess where you are in what you’re saying. Are you even there?
I know a lot of people who think that being fluent means speaking fast. I used to be there too. I’m a fast talker in my first language. So, I thought that increasing the pace would signal that I didn’t hesitate to speak, I.e. I was fluent. But as I speeded up, everything I said flattened. There was no music, no Melody, no rhythm any more.
And honesty, authenticity was lost too.
Slowing down develops your capacity to assess where you are in what you’re saying. Are you even there?
If your English doesn’t sound like you, start with the voice challenge.
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The people you want to work with, live with, fall in love with…are waiting for you to let go of the old patterns and summon the courage to finally learn new skills and use them in real life.
You can stop romanticizing your traumas and your reasons to repeat the old patterns today.
Take a step forward. A year from today you’ll be in a totally different place. Get ready now.
DM me if you want a coach who will take you to the new levels of fluency and expression through identity transformation
You can stop romanticizing your traumas and your reasons to repeat the old patterns today.
Take a step forward. A year from today you’ll be in a totally different place. Get ready now.
DM me if you want a coach who will take you to the new levels of fluency and expression through identity transformation
I offer two 1:1 coaching containers:
1. Monthly calibration ($888/mo)
A 6-month container
For independent doers who need clarity, guidance, feedback and don’t have time for weekly sessions.
Included:
- one monthly call
- ongoing feedback on your work (text/voice)
- individual practice plan for a week/month
2. Second Language identity rebirth and authentic expression
A 6-month container
($18k paid in full (or $3333/mo)
For advanced learners who already live in English and need a whole new set of skills to belong, express their truth and create meaningful connections.
We focus on spontaneous expression, clarity on all levels and your authentic voice.
Included:
- weekly video and audio sessions
- advanced accent assessment
- individual practice plan
- ongoing feedback (text and voice)
- clear before / after results
- access to all my products
- accountability and high standards
- self-regulation practices to remain your truth self when speaking under pressure
- preparation for any of your public talks (TEDx, conferences, interviews, launches, coaching, etc)
DM me to apply.
I know that whoever needs this is a capable, strong individual who wants to be seen in their fullness, even if the thought of being seen in English scares them today.
1. Monthly calibration ($888/mo)
A 6-month container
For independent doers who need clarity, guidance, feedback and don’t have time for weekly sessions.
Included:
- one monthly call
- ongoing feedback on your work (text/voice)
- individual practice plan for a week/month
2. Second Language identity rebirth and authentic expression
A 6-month container
($18k paid in full (or $3333/mo)
For advanced learners who already live in English and need a whole new set of skills to belong, express their truth and create meaningful connections.
We focus on spontaneous expression, clarity on all levels and your authentic voice.
Included:
- weekly video and audio sessions
- advanced accent assessment
- individual practice plan
- ongoing feedback (text and voice)
- clear before / after results
- access to all my products
- accountability and high standards
- self-regulation practices to remain your truth self when speaking under pressure
- preparation for any of your public talks (TEDx, conferences, interviews, launches, coaching, etc)
DM me to apply.
I know that whoever needs this is a capable, strong individual who wants to be seen in their fullness, even if the thought of being seen in English scares them today.
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There are 2 more seats in the American Accent Training Room. Level 1.
It's a 6-month LIVE program where you're going to master Vowels, Consonants, and the Foundations of Rhythm.
For fluent speakers who want to sound American and correct their pronunciation.
You get:
- Weekly Live Coaching
- Real-time corrections
- Real accountability
- Real progress
To participate:
- you must be already fluent in English
- be a community member
- Do the initial accent assessment
DM me to become a community member and check if you qualify for the Accent Training.
P.S. We have two groups: Level 1 and Level 2. If you're more advanced and need help in discovering your American voice, the advanced group might be for you!
Spots are limited! Only 6 people per group!
DM me and I'll send you details to apply.
It's a 6-month LIVE program where you're going to master Vowels, Consonants, and the Foundations of Rhythm.
For fluent speakers who want to sound American and correct their pronunciation.
You get:
- Weekly Live Coaching
- Real-time corrections
- Real accountability
- Real progress
To participate:
- you must be already fluent in English
- be a community member
- Do the initial accent assessment
DM me to become a community member and check if you qualify for the Accent Training.
P.S. We have two groups: Level 1 and Level 2. If you're more advanced and need help in discovering your American voice, the advanced group might be for you!
Spots are limited! Only 6 people per group!
DM me and I'll send you details to apply.
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First, work on the WHAT. You can't repeat what you didn't hear or understand. You absolutely can't repeat what you think you're hearing - correctly.
Don't rush to say 'I think I understand what this is about'. Anyone who says this is translating. They can translate the core of the message to their first language, and they think they got it. Maybe they did.
What's more dangerous is that they think they learned it, and if they understand it, there's nothing for them to learn here.
The reality is, they understand only as much as their autopilot allows. Autopilot translates, feels satisfied, and moves on.
Paying attention to the HOW requires your autopilot to stop.
P.S. If you struggle with the Synchronization Exercise, trying to catch, hear, and repeat every word, maybe you haven't done the 'WHAT" step.
Pause. Take a break. Understand WHAT you're seeing and hearing. Only then listen to HOW they do it.
Same applies to reading. First, read the passage to yourself. Feel what it's about. Let it go through your veins. FEEL the meaning. Only then attempt to read it out loud.
Don't rush to say 'I think I understand what this is about'. Anyone who says this is translating. They can translate the core of the message to their first language, and they think they got it. Maybe they did.
What's more dangerous is that they think they learned it, and if they understand it, there's nothing for them to learn here.
The reality is, they understand only as much as their autopilot allows. Autopilot translates, feels satisfied, and moves on.
Paying attention to the HOW requires your autopilot to stop.
P.S. If you struggle with the Synchronization Exercise, trying to catch, hear, and repeat every word, maybe you haven't done the 'WHAT" step.
Pause. Take a break. Understand WHAT you're seeing and hearing. Only then listen to HOW they do it.
Same applies to reading. First, read the passage to yourself. Feel what it's about. Let it go through your veins. FEEL the meaning. Only then attempt to read it out loud.
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How to learn better: Learn FROM the best.
Learn WITH likeminded people who are practicing the same skills.
Join this group to improve your American Accent.
- Basic Group (you are fluent but never worked on their accent with dedication and discipline. You will master ALL the sounds + the foundations of rhythm)
- Advanced Group (you are fluent and you have mastered most of the sounds. Now you want to figure out how to sound like YOU in American. We will work on melody, rhythm, vibe, and sounding authentic)
We hold our groups to HIGH standards, and we do so with care.
If you're not ready to commit for 6 months of focused practice, please don't apply. We're only interested in students who are not scared away by honest feedback, who want to see their patterns and are ready to change them.
In 6 months, your progress will be inevitable.
Only 6 seats per group.
You will get the attention that you deserve.
Start Date: end of March.
The details will be communicated with the confirmed participants.
- How to apply: send a DM or leave a comment "Accent"
Learn WITH likeminded people who are practicing the same skills.
Join this group to improve your American Accent.
- Basic Group (you are fluent but never worked on their accent with dedication and discipline. You will master ALL the sounds + the foundations of rhythm)
- Advanced Group (you are fluent and you have mastered most of the sounds. Now you want to figure out how to sound like YOU in American. We will work on melody, rhythm, vibe, and sounding authentic)
We hold our groups to HIGH standards, and we do so with care.
If you're not ready to commit for 6 months of focused practice, please don't apply. We're only interested in students who are not scared away by honest feedback, who want to see their patterns and are ready to change them.
In 6 months, your progress will be inevitable.
Only 6 seats per group.
You will get the attention that you deserve.
Start Date: end of March.
The details will be communicated with the confirmed participants.
- How to apply: send a DM or leave a comment "Accent"