I work with people who learned English to be more successful at work. Once they get the job, the promotion, or the team they wanted, they realize they don’t know how to BE around people when all they know is how to perform.


Once they learn how to report to the Board, they want to be heard as individuals, but they don’t know how.

There comes a moment when they don’t want to take more. They have so much to give, but once again…they don’t know how.
They want to offer their warmth, but people immediately stereotype them as “cold,” “unemotional,” “difficult,” “loud,” or label them as “Russian” or “Latino.”

One of my clients shared this: “I want to be ME, but all they see is a Spanish guy who’s trying to speak English”

How do you express your warmth in another language? Your truth? Your friendship?

I teach the level of freedom and fluency that allows you to be YOU in another language.

I work with advanced learners who feel stuck. They have learned everything there is to learn, yet they still sound and feel foreign. They’ve read every textbook but haven’t found a way to be themselves. They keep learning new words, but words still fail them. They try too hard when all they want is to be real. Most live in English-speaking countries and still don’t have real friends. They feel othered, unseen, and misunderstood. Many say, “I sound like a simplified version of myself in English.”

I know. I’ve been there—and I’ve built the bridge to the other side.

You need to practice VERY differently to reach a new level—and you’re ready. You don’t need to review grammar or repeat what you already know.

Now is the time to focus on you and how you learn, rather than just on the language itself.


A few more 1:1 coaching spots are open this summer. I offer intensive 4-week containers and transformational 6-month coaching programs. This is deep, very personal work.

If you know it’s time, DM me (@nataliatokar) or this channel and I’ll send you a link to my calendar. Let’s have a 20-minute discovery call—confidential, honest, and real.

My recent LIVE on different levels of CLARITY.

Do you use chatGPT for your social media posts? I swear to God, I hate LinkedIn today because my feed looks like a factory of chatGPT posts.

Everyone!!! writes the same copy. And no one stands out.

How many times did you say the truth and what you got in return was - you were called “cold”, “blunt”, “overly direct” and “criticizing”?

Maybe you thought to yourself:

- they’re unable to take the truth

- but this is THE TRUTH! Why should I pretend to be softer?

- a “real” man would be able to hold my emotions and my truth!

- they’re just emotionally immature

- I know better, but they refuse to admit that I’m right


I thought these thoughts many damn times!!!! Until I stopped because I leaned a better way.

People used to ask me “why do you criticize?”, and I honestly didn’t see how I blamed others for not living up to my unspoken expectations and standards.

Ladies, if you want to be able to express YOUR TRUTH in English and not feel misunderstood, brushed off, ignored, or judged as a “bitch” in response, I get it… I’ve been there.

You think it’s a language problem. You may say “We have different mentalities. I’m simply more direct by nature. I was born into a no-bullshit culture, and that’s how we talk!”

While it sounds convincing to your mind, it’s not entirely true. Because you scare away intimacy, and you know it. Because you crave meaningful connections, not heady arguments about who’s more right .

There’s a way to TELL YOUR TRUTH so that they hear it and respect it.

I’m inviting you to join this unique program with my colleague and teacher, Joni Christine, to explore the stories your mind is telling you.

Let’s get curious: how many of these narratives are actually true? And how many are holding you back from experiencing the connection that you desire?

Check this out: nataliatokar.me/expression

What do you practice religiously and daily?

- is it being kind?
- is it eating healthy?
- is it authenticity?
- is it better English?

Let’s chat in the comments

I’ve been practicing bridges and handstands religiously for years. The result - I achieved the level where the skill is permanent and it’s mine.

Watch the full video here https://youtu.be/ZVQU6ChKFpg

I listened to an episode with Sadhguru today.

Here is beautiful reminder from him to live fully:

I don’t remember the exact words, but here is the gist:

You don’t need to practice death. Practice what needs improvement. However the hell you live your life today, you can do better. You can improve it.

Life is very inefficient. Have you ever seen an inefficient death? Death doesn’t need to be practiced; it will happen perfectly. But living …can be more efficient.

Are you Fluent yet still MISunderstood?

If your English is polished but you find yourself repeating the same narratives or communicating from the same place of feeling attacked, wounded, or guarded, it’s not vocabulary that’s missing.

Your mind is taking you on toxic loops, and you keep translating what your mind eagerly generates as "truth".

Result? Your communication feels "incomplete", "misleading", "inauthentic", and something is perpetually missing...while you crave intimacy, depth, and connection.

In UNTANGLE + UNLEASH we pair somatic work with creative writing so your words flow from the body, and your mind feels safe to unleash everything on paper.

➡️ Women in the last cohort:

• cut rumination time by 50 % ✂️
• received 3× more “I feel closer to you” texts from partners 💌
• doubled their emotional vocabulary 📖💫

If you're ready to move from “I know how to say it in English” to "I know myself in English",

Apply Now before the 16 seats disappear.

nataliatokar.me/expression

The program is taught in partnership with amazing @jonichristinefraser

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A lot of people know what they want.

They have the desire to improve, speak better, eat better, look better, and be better.

Few can HOLD that desire.

That’s why we do practice routines. Without a routine that seriously challenges your norm and “default” state of being, you can persevere for a month or two, but you won’t be able to HOLD that new standard for years.

One man said it beautifully today:

“I simply can’t give or accept anything less than full effort”

I work with men and women who desire to speak soul-to-soul in English, not word-to-word.

Carefully translated words don’t create connection. Your presence does.

I make sure the words you say match the power of your presence.

Fluency is not about perfecting your grammar.
It’s about carrying your essence across languages — so that who you are is felt, even in silence.

This is what I teach.
And once you experience it… there’s no going back.