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Language matters.
I experienced exactly what she’s talking about but:
1. I would have never found the words to explain my experience in English without her
2. No one talked to me like that about birth in my first language. Many of the things I experienced and lived through were brushed off as “weird”, “not logical”, or “emotional talk”. I felt crazy because my experience didn’t match any of the words I knew. Of course, I sounded irrational, not reasonable, and overly emotional.
This video is a perfect example of the content you want for the “internalization practice”.
When you know what you know but you don’t know how to say it - do this exercise.
Words matter. Language matters.
We use language to talk to ourselves in the first place. When you can explain things to yourself, you build unshakable confidence in your own truth.
Then you can share your truth with others in the most powerful way.
Ladies, if you have given birth to humans, comment below. How does this land for you?
I experienced exactly what she’s talking about but:
1. I would have never found the words to explain my experience in English without her
2. No one talked to me like that about birth in my first language. Many of the things I experienced and lived through were brushed off as “weird”, “not logical”, or “emotional talk”. I felt crazy because my experience didn’t match any of the words I knew. Of course, I sounded irrational, not reasonable, and overly emotional.
This video is a perfect example of the content you want for the “internalization practice”.
When you know what you know but you don’t know how to say it - do this exercise.
Words matter. Language matters.
We use language to talk to ourselves in the first place. When you can explain things to yourself, you build unshakable confidence in your own truth.
Then you can share your truth with others in the most powerful way.
Ladies, if you have given birth to humans, comment below. How does this land for you?
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I work with people who learned English to be more successful at work. Once they get the job, the promotion, or the team they wanted, they realize they don’t know how to BE around people when all they know is how to perform.
Once they learn how to report to the Board, they want to be heard as individuals, but they don’t know how.
There comes a moment when they don’t want to take more. They have so much to give, but once again…they don’t know how.
They want to offer their warmth, but people immediately stereotype them as “cold,” “unemotional,” “difficult,” “loud,” or label them as “Russian” or “Latino.”
One of my clients shared this: “I want to be ME, but all they see is a Spanish guy who’s trying to speak English”
How do you express your warmth in another language? Your truth? Your friendship?
I teach the level of freedom and fluency that allows you to be YOU in another language.
I work with advanced learners who feel stuck. They have learned everything there is to learn, yet they still sound and feel foreign. They’ve read every textbook but haven’t found a way to be themselves. They keep learning new words, but words still fail them. They try too hard when all they want is to be real. Most live in English-speaking countries and still don’t have real friends. They feel othered, unseen, and misunderstood. Many say, “I sound like a simplified version of myself in English.”
I know. I’ve been there—and I’ve built the bridge to the other side.
You need to practice VERY differently to reach a new level—and you’re ready. You don’t need to review grammar or repeat what you already know.
Now is the time to focus on you and how you learn, rather than just on the language itself.
A few more 1:1 coaching spots are open this summer. I offer intensive 4-week containers and transformational 6-month coaching programs. This is deep, very personal work.
If you know it’s time, DM me (@nataliatokar) or this channel and I’ll send you a link to my calendar. Let’s have a 20-minute discovery call—confidential, honest, and real.
Once they learn how to report to the Board, they want to be heard as individuals, but they don’t know how.
There comes a moment when they don’t want to take more. They have so much to give, but once again…they don’t know how.
They want to offer their warmth, but people immediately stereotype them as “cold,” “unemotional,” “difficult,” “loud,” or label them as “Russian” or “Latino.”
One of my clients shared this: “I want to be ME, but all they see is a Spanish guy who’s trying to speak English”
How do you express your warmth in another language? Your truth? Your friendship?
I teach the level of freedom and fluency that allows you to be YOU in another language.
I work with advanced learners who feel stuck. They have learned everything there is to learn, yet they still sound and feel foreign. They’ve read every textbook but haven’t found a way to be themselves. They keep learning new words, but words still fail them. They try too hard when all they want is to be real. Most live in English-speaking countries and still don’t have real friends. They feel othered, unseen, and misunderstood. Many say, “I sound like a simplified version of myself in English.”
I know. I’ve been there—and I’ve built the bridge to the other side.
You need to practice VERY differently to reach a new level—and you’re ready. You don’t need to review grammar or repeat what you already know.
Now is the time to focus on you and how you learn, rather than just on the language itself.
A few more 1:1 coaching spots are open this summer. I offer intensive 4-week containers and transformational 6-month coaching programs. This is deep, very personal work.
If you know it’s time, DM me (@nataliatokar) or this channel and I’ll send you a link to my calendar. Let’s have a 20-minute discovery call—confidential, honest, and real.
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My recent LIVE on different levels of CLARITY.
A message from a person I respect:
“If you want to use AI for all your content and photos, by all means do it. But- you’re trading in your authenticity and magnetism and essence for convenience.
Just something to consider.
Fast mass production versus soulful, artful writing that takes time and intention… I know which one I prefer.”
Do you use chatGPT for your social media posts? I swear to God, I hate LinkedIn today because my feed looks like a factory of chatGPT posts.
Everyone!!! writes the same copy. And no one stands out.
Everyone!!! writes the same copy. And no one stands out.
How many times did you say the truth and what you got in return was - you were called “cold”, “blunt”, “overly direct” and “criticizing”?
Maybe you thought to yourself:
- they’re unable to take the truth
- but this is THE TRUTH! Why should I pretend to be softer?
- a “real” man would be able to hold my emotions and my truth!
- they’re just emotionally immature
- I know better, but they refuse to admit that I’m right
I thought these thoughts many damn times!!!! Until I stopped because I leaned a better way.
People used to ask me “why do you criticize?”, and I honestly didn’t see how I blamed others for not living up to my unspoken expectations and standards.
Ladies, if you want to be able to express YOUR TRUTH in English and not feel misunderstood, brushed off, ignored, or judged as a “bitch” in response, I get it… I’ve been there.
You think it’s a language problem. You may say “We have different mentalities. I’m simply more direct by nature. I was born into a no-bullshit culture, and that’s how we talk!”
While it sounds convincing to your mind, it’s not entirely true. Because you scare away intimacy, and you know it. Because you crave meaningful connections, not heady arguments about who’s more right .
There’s a way to TELL YOUR TRUTH so that they hear it and respect it.
I’m inviting you to join this unique program with my colleague and teacher, Joni Christine, to explore the stories your mind is telling you.
Let’s get curious: how many of these narratives are actually true? And how many are holding you back from experiencing the connection that you desire?
Check this out: nataliatokar.me/expression
Maybe you thought to yourself:
- they’re unable to take the truth
- but this is THE TRUTH! Why should I pretend to be softer?
- a “real” man would be able to hold my emotions and my truth!
- they’re just emotionally immature
- I know better, but they refuse to admit that I’m right
I thought these thoughts many damn times!!!! Until I stopped because I leaned a better way.
People used to ask me “why do you criticize?”, and I honestly didn’t see how I blamed others for not living up to my unspoken expectations and standards.
Ladies, if you want to be able to express YOUR TRUTH in English and not feel misunderstood, brushed off, ignored, or judged as a “bitch” in response, I get it… I’ve been there.
You think it’s a language problem. You may say “We have different mentalities. I’m simply more direct by nature. I was born into a no-bullshit culture, and that’s how we talk!”
While it sounds convincing to your mind, it’s not entirely true. Because you scare away intimacy, and you know it. Because you crave meaningful connections, not heady arguments about who’s more right .
There’s a way to TELL YOUR TRUTH so that they hear it and respect it.
I’m inviting you to join this unique program with my colleague and teacher, Joni Christine, to explore the stories your mind is telling you.
Let’s get curious: how many of these narratives are actually true? And how many are holding you back from experiencing the connection that you desire?
Check this out: nataliatokar.me/expression