Another good example of using “mental images” correctly 😂😂😂

The picture makes it obvious, doesn’t it?))

Practice what’s important to you EVERY DAY, and not on special days, not because the teacher is looking, not because you’re expected to, and not because you paid for that online course.
Vote for what’s important to you every day.

For example, you can practice clarity not only during our lessons, but in daily conversations with your family and friends, in any language.

We forget to practice making different choices every day. For example, to react or to take a moment and feel. To say what we always say or to find better words. To hold on to what was said or to take our words back and say what truly matters. We focus too much on learning “new” things before we UNlearned all the old patterns that make it so difficult for the new patterns to stick. #nataliatokar #nativelikefluency

Video by @ponomareva_nika

When people ask you to repeat what you just said, over and over again, this eats away at your confidence.

We have STARTED! The new training "American Accent. Level 1" is LIVE.

We meet on Wednesdays, 5pm or 7:30 pm CET.

A small group means you get as much attention to your accent as you deserve.

You can join group meetings LIVE or watch the replays and send your homework. You will receive feedback and corrections on your work in any scenario.

Living in a different Time Zone should not stop you.

Also, we have people in the new group who came back after quitting 6 months ago... and they say they regret losing 6 months.

If you really need better pronunciation and more confidence in English, you want to be in a group like this one today.

A year from now you will see the impact of sticking to the practice no matter what.

P.S. If you're not sure that you are ready for this training, we offer accent assessment. You will be asked to send a one-min recording following our instructions, and our accent coach will send you detailed feedback on every sound and on how you sound to an American ear.

P.P.S. You must be a community member to join this training.

We have few more seats available. Get yours 😉 apply here

DM me if you have more questions - @nataliatokar.

I read this today in Mark Manson’s newsletter. One of the readers shared his big AHA-moment.

It reminded me of the TWO things I keep talking about and put them in perspective again:

1) The most simple things take the longest to learn and implement: your practice routine is everything.

Showing up and doing the work is everything. Instead, many distract themselves with buying expensive gear, taking more online courses, or watching another episode from an “expert”, while being absent in their own life.

2) We have a conditional relationship with life, learning, and truth.

“I’ll be an artist, but only if I’m successful”

“I’ll do the exercise only if I do it better than everyone, only if I win”

“I’ll practice English daily only if everyone notices my effort and gives me credit”

What are your thoughts? Can you relate?

I want to be an illustrator and sell my art online, so I got it into my head that I needed a ‘winner’s’ mentality—that in order to be great, I had to believe it. And sure, believing in yourself is important, but I was using that as an excuse to ignore the actual work. I avoided the real work of sketching, learning perspective, and mastering the basics of art because, honestly, that stuff is boring and hard. Every day, you’re faced with the reality that you’re not as good as you want to be.

So instead, I distracted myself with manifesting—doing meditations to explore different dimensions and even dabbling in sex magic (look it up). But I’ve come to realize that being a great artist isn’t about sitting around imagining success. It’s about obsessing over my projects, doing exercises, meticulously analyzing my work, and constantly looking for ways to improve.

I finally understand that I don’t need to buy another book or attend some seminar. There’s no fame or fortune to chase, and I don’t need to hunt for confidence—those things are just a byproduct of showing up every day, doing the work, and committing to getting better.”

Why I never give my students “shoulds” or consume content that tells me how I “should” speak and express myself.


At the beginner’s level, there’s a “must”, not even a “should”.

E.g.

“You must have a verb in every sentence”

“You must use the second form of the verb when you talk about past events”

“You must use the articles, because English doesn’t work without them”


However, there’s no “should”.

When people get to more advanced levels, they start looking for “shoulds”.

What should I say in a business meeting with a German boss?

What should I say in this situation?

How should I respond to that?


Any should is always simplistic. Here is an example of “shoulds”. You can find plenty on the internet.

All of them are useless in real-life situations.

When I say “real-life situation”, I mean an interaction with another human being where you expect yourself to be spontaneous, authentic, and real. You expect yourself to say what you think or feel effortlessly and without much hesitation.

I teach spontaneous speech in English, and “shoulds” never work here.

People ask me to give them simple “shoulds” all the time, but it’s not what I do.

All the “shoulds” usually provide the techniques. These techniques give us false confidence. We assume we’ve learned the “how” and now we’re ready to Rock’n’Roll.

In reality, we end up performing some technique instead of being a real person who is interested in genuine connection with another person.

We focus on what we “can” say, and we might say the “right words” to win over a German boss, but we’ll miss a whole wealth of the insight that’s only available when we truly listen, when we are truly present, and when our goal is not to impress another with our language skills but to connect, understand, and be understood.

This is why I highly recommend these exercises:

1. The Synchronization exercise so you learn to listen to people instead of assuming that you understood what they said (you can’t see the big picture if you don’t see every detail of it. It’s an illusion that you can)

2. The intensive listening exercise, (link will open if you’re a community member) so you can learn from native speakers rather than your hallucinations about what’s “correct” or “should be clear to everyone”

3. The program “5 levels of Clarity” so you can say what you mean in English and don’t have to over-explain every time (available in the community, see the section “practice routines”on the right”

P.S. I demonstrate each of these exercises and more in my free course “9 essential skills”. If you haven’t taken it yet, start today.